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THE SPIRITUAL STATE

Marc Gellman

Choosing Outside the Chosen

Through intermarriage, the U.S. Jewish population is rapidly shrinking.

 
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  • Posted By: hs81 @ 02/11/2008 4:08:09 PM

    Comment: although Rabbi Gellman expresses concern about the intermarriage issue and how it affects the Jewish population, he is wise not to utilize the scare tactics that so many parents and community leaders use when they push for marriage within the faith. threats and warnings are not going to increase rates of Jewish endogamy, and any sort of Jewish programming that has even the slightest hint of "hooking up single Jews with one another" can make people uncomfortable, even those who want to marry within the faith. they want to find someone on their own terms. Judaism has become less about rituals and more about concern with bloodlines and marriage. every religion teaches its preference for in-marriage, yet Judaism seems to take it far beyond the others. yes, marriage between Jews is preferable and wonderful. but using guilt and scare tactics to ensure marriage within the faith is inappropriate. it is more beneficial to highlight the positives of endogamy than the negatives of intermarriage. i agree with Rabbi Gellman when he says that Judaism isn't simply about food and humor. but i also think that Judaism isn't simply about who we marry either. a Jew is still a Jew regardless of who they marry and should not be treated as some sort of failure because they didn't meet a nice Jewish boy or girl.

    and while we may not believe it, Orthodox Judaism is not immune to the influence of the outside world as demonstrated by a 3% intermarriage rate. it's small compared to the intermarriage rate among non-Orthodox Jews, but it shows that they are not as insulated as we assume (look at Harvard Law professor Noah Feldman. he grew up Orthodox and married a non-Jewish woman, yet he's still steadfast in his observance and his wife has been welcomed by several in the community even though she has chosen not to convert but instead to raise their children as Jews). every denomination is finding ways to deal with the intermarriage issue. although Orthodox Jews commonly admonish those who intermarry, there are some who are trying to work with the intermarried rather than against them. and given the decline in population and affiliation, that is probably a wise and bold move on their part.

  • Posted By: politically incorrect @ 02/11/2008 2:23:46 PM

    Comment: With regards to intermarriage between The Chosen People and (by default) The Non-Chosen People, all I can say is this: My stepfamily is Jewish. I am not. I find no problem with different cultures blending and becoming stronger through love and intermarriage. I'm sorry if Mr. Gellman is worried that my stepfamily has become degenerated in some way because they have stooped down to my level. But I'll be glad when crusty old racists like him fade into the sunset.

    And please...quit using the Holocaust Card to peddle your racism. It's demeaning to Jews and non-Jews alike.

  • Posted By: kcarizona @ 02/11/2008 3:09:16 AM

    Comment: The Jews were are and will always be Gods favorite people and they will never disappear no matter what you throw at em - i am just going with what the bible says as clear as day. Mess with Israel and you mess with God. Good luck with that.

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