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How to Train a Husband

Want an obedient spouse? A new book says you should coach them like animals.

By Jennie Yabroff | NEWSWEEK
Updated: 1:32  p.m. ET Feb 9, 2008
From the magazine issue dated Feb 18, 2008

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  • Posted By: nance50 @ 08/28/2008 11:14:19 AM

    Comment: I just wanted to say that I think this article is a disgrace. I am a woman and I agree that woman have gone way too far in the equal rights quest. It is time we sat back and reevaluated what we really want out of life. For instance, my husband and I have a good relationship. He's the boss and I'm his helper. (I can hear the feminists screaming already, including my mother.) Why is that so terrible. Why is it that the men need to be trained, how about the woman getting some training in treating a man with respect and honor instead of constantly degrading them.

  • Posted By: harperc @ 07/23/2008 6:21:37 PM

    Comment: The only reason I think this article is so offensive is because of the way it's presented. If Yarbroff left out the comparisons of men to animals and women to trainers, it would simply be an article about communication. I think the point she's trying to make is, "the key to marital bliss is to ignore negative habits and reward positive ones." Is that such a bad thing? I could see that working for men too.

  • Posted By: RAS1 @ 07/17/2008 9:38:22 AM

    Comment: This is full of crap and the regular foolishness from American women. This is why they wanted Hillary to win so abdly to further stomp men and boys out. You all aren't looking for equal rights. You want to destroy men and boys. Get a dog instead of getting married. This is a disgrace that this stupidity is allowed and it hurts as a young male to have to live in a country where women are allowed to bash men all the time and get away with it always screaming about you all wanting womens rights sounding like immature little babies. This is why I will never get married in America to these foolish women who are a bunch of idiots. Yes I extremely angry at this. I try my best to be a good respectful person for myself and not for some female. We all have issues that annoy the opposite sexes. Women aren't perfect. I'm sure if you asked hudbands what annoying things that their wives do I'm sure they could write pages of things that their annoying wives do. I bet if some guy came out with a book that teaches men how train their wives, women would say he was sexist and you will hear all kinds of womens groups complaining about it. Since this is bashing men no one cares. I rather get an animal than to be married to todays american woman. Atleast an animal isn't sexist and is much less annoying than women. You can train it to be quiet and it will not whine 24/7 like a little baby. If you want men to be better then start paying attention to mens issues like you all do with womens issues. Start by helping mens health and help boys instead of setting all these girly programs that only help women and girls. If you don't want to help men and boys like you help women and girls then be quiet and leave men bashing out your mouths. Don't even mention anything about men. If you don't have anything nice to say about men then shut up.

    • Posted By: Brujo_X @ 07/17/2008 6:42:04 PM

      Comment: Amen to that, Ras...Women's Rights has so far been the biggest hypocrisy in America to this day; the majority of women want to be treated equally, yet whine and run their mouth about us "not being gentlemen." They want us to open the door for them, pull up the chair, and offer them our coat when it's cold, yet they do little to nothing for us!! I thought women wanted equal rights, not supremacy rights; they act as if they have some sense of entitlement--they want the perks coming to them, yet they don't work for it or do anything to deserve it!! And it's true about what you said, if we men came up with a book on how to fix our wives, all the feminist loser broads will go "hands across America" to boycott the publisher of the book!! Unfortunately, we now live in a world where women are revered as queens while men are pathetic peasants unworthy of them under the influence of Oprah-nomics and Dr. Phil-osophy!! Women complain about practically anything trivial...such as how come we don't pull the toilet-seat down once we're done with our business...or how come we don't take the trash when they say so!! Ladies, if you keep doing things that annoy and antagonize us, don't be surprised when we come home at 1 am when we should be home seven hours earlier. You may still say that I'm a "homosexual" or a "male-chauvinist pig;" but if you cannot respect us the way you want to be respected, don't expect us to marry you in return!! If you label me as a "pig" like the typical hypocritical woman that you are, I'd rather be a "pig" than to be a "p..ssy." I'd rather say "Oink, Oink," than to say "Meow, Meow!"
      Let the male-bashing by the hypocrites begin...again!!

  • Posted By: jschmo18226 @ 06/10/2008 9:31:21 PM

    Comment: Bravo Brujo! They don't seem to realize that we are finally waking up.

  • Posted By: Brujo_X @ 06/07/2008 3:43:05 PM

    Comment: Jelissa, I am more straight than you think, baby. And I'd be glad to show you, but then again, if you're not in my league, I wouldn't waste my time on you anyway! Dumb broads are the ones that think us REAL men are "homosexuals" because we don't succumb to a woman's every whim and want. I know more about women than you think, darling...and if you think that is what makes me a "homosexual," then by all means keep telling your-deluded-self that. You're one of the reasons we men don't want some loud-mouth, nagging broad like you to tie ourselves down with. You see, you're living in a fantasy world where the woman's rightful place is on a pedestal by the very men that women criticize and step all over. Let me tell you something, baby...the only time I wanna put a woman on a pedestal is for me to look up her dress, nothing more. And if you think that I HATE women, nothing if further from the truth; I like women. In fact, I love women--just not to your standards, meaning "settling down" and tying ourselves to just you. Marriage is no longer what it seems anymore. A marriage is not based on "love" but convenience; you women don't marry "Mr. Right" anymore, you marry "Mr. Goodenough." Women now see us as three things: A human-wallet, a sperm-donor, and a baby-sitter now. If you think I'm wrong, Jelissa, don't go asking men that line up to go see Oprah or the moron Dr. Phil shows, ask the REAL men that are divorcing day after day from women that just balloon up, cut their hair short, limit the sex to them because they "have a headache" or are "too tired" or "not in the mood," and they nag for one trivial thing after another and just can't keep their mouth shut for one minute! That is the reason we can't stick around in a marriage--because of women like YOU. So again, darling--I'm more straight than you think I am...and I can see that in your eyes, I already am a male-chauvinist pig; so let me tell you two words in reply:
    OINK, OINK!!
    Good luck with whomever you're married to, or the poor sucker you'll be thinking of marrying.

  • Posted By: JelissaMone @ 06/07/2008 2:45:11 PM

    Comment: brujo, u must be a homosexual

  • Posted By: Brujo_X @ 06/07/2008 6:02:04 AM

    Comment: As the joke says: "What is worse than a male-chauvinist pig? A woman who won't do as she's told!"
    Truth be told, when women use this kind of mentality on us, that is more than motivation for us to get what we really want--somewhere else!! If a woman really wants to train us, there are eight simple words that will make us stick around a bit longer--and if you women are even smart enough to follow them thoroughly.
    The eight words that will really make a marriage work for women is:
    STAY FIT
    LONG HAIR
    SEX ANYTIME
    SHUT UP
    Now maybe if you can follow these simple words, you don't even need to train your husband--he'll happily stick around without you worrying where he is or who he's with, because he'd come home to you right after work. But if you think you can "train" us like animals, then that's exactly how we'll behave--like dogs, actually...simply by looking for another female dog to satisfy us whereas you fail! Keep in mind, ladies, that we are doing YOU a favor in staying by your side--not the other way around. The majority of you do not age as the majority of us do; men age like wine, and women age like MILK. So you might wanna think about that the next time you try to influence us with preposterous crap like this!

  • Posted By: jschmo18226 @ 06/06/2008 6:19:31 PM

    Comment: The author Jennie Yabroff is a SEXIST. Newsweek stop publishing such misandric slop.

  • Posted By: fourthwire @ 06/05/2008 7:04:11 PM

    Comment: Can you imagine the politically-correct uproar if Newsweek had printed an article concerning how men should "train" women?

    And in the face of femi-centric stupidity such as this article indicates, is anyone with an IQ above double digits SURPRISED that fewer and fewer men are opting to marry American women?

  • Posted By: minuteman2 @ 05/30/2008 7:03:42 PM

    Comment: Hey guys,want to know how to train women?Quit talking to them, a female that lacks conversation is like a fish without water.After about a week with no conversation let's see who is really in charge.

  • Posted By: minuteman2 @ 05/28/2008 9:00:53 PM

    Comment: Maybe someone needs to write a book on how to train women since they are the ones who are out of control.We need to condition females to spend less money,quit asking for credit cards,quit asking us to marry them,and learn how get a job.No wonder men prefer internet porn,if I had to deal with this so would I.

  • Posted By: TSin3D @ 05/02/2008 6:05:49 PM

    Comment: Disappointing and disgusting. You women are cutting your own throats over this. There are women in different countries that appreciate and honor their man, and they show it. Continue with this frivolous attitude and eventually you will be replaced.

  • Posted By: DragonD @ 04/08/2008 11:07:05 AM

    Comment: The WAR is on!!! Let "Pump 'em and dump "em" be our battle cry!!! Marriage and serious relationships are for losers!!! If we allow this treatment of men continue, the survival of the the species should not allowed to continue. Marriage and monogamy have no benefits for men. Deny all women of their "Dream Wedding." If you life with a women, kick them out or move out. "Let slip the dogs of war!!!" Wreak havoc!!!

    • Posted By: DipnthaBeans @ 04/23/2008 2:21:32 PM

      Comment: You play a LOT of video games don't you?

  • Posted By: FDR12 @ 03/12/2008 8:08:39 PM

    Comment: What? This sexist pig is allowed the time and space in Newsweek? I guess it???s a new low. How could this man hating, male bashing misanderer (the opposite of misogyny) be so arrogant? Then again, this is another idiot from New York (I guess) trying her best to sell books by bashing men. What troubles me the most is the fact that women are now on the promoting end of infidelity, lies, hatred and violence etc. I see the appalling attitudes of female scum bags constantly begging men to respect them while they don't have a clue as to how respect is earned. Its time for men to say it like it is and let the chips fall where it may. Why be nice to these losers. Don't let any woman act like she's doing you a favor. They can be replaced with someone better especially if they play this game (trying to treat you like an animal) with you. We should never respect women until they earn their respect. Fathers, husbands, sons and men should stop this nonsense from the start. We are to blame for not having the guts to stop this nonsense in the national media. What we hear read and see effect the way we act. Women are losing respect by the second as they make asses out of themselves. This is a product of Feminism and I can't stand the utter hatred spouted out by these losers.

  • Posted By: FDR12 @ 03/12/2008 7:31:28 PM

    Comment: I think this Male bashing pig is a classic example of what's wrong with women. I am tired of women acting as if they need to fix men. If a man wrote a book treating women like animals (yes I know she mentions that it can work on women) we'd have the Feminists in outrage. First, who are women to criticize men as they are worse in most situations? This idea that men need instructions implies that women don't. The idea that it's the men who need structure and discipline is utter sexist misnaderistic nonsense. Women need to live what they preach and get a life. Second, I can't stand women who treat men like children. They act as if they know everything and try to be condescending. If I found out that my wife was ding this it wouldn???t be a joke. I???d show her the door. Men should be tired of the games women play. Most women act like babies and it shows how weak they are. It???s not a surprise that most men don???t respect women as they???ve lost touch with reality. These psychopaths are a good example of what we see in marriages and the dating world. It???s time to treat women like animals as they leave their dirty laundry all over the place (I mean tampons and crap)!

  • Posted By: Elzbss @ 03/04/2008 2:12:53 PM

    Comment: Male or female, we could all appreciate more and criticize less. It's unfortunate that this advice has been packaged in such a deliberately provocative and probably offensive way in order to boost sales. (I say "probably" only because I haven't read the book, and so it's unclear to what extent the book itself says offensive things or whether it's the Newsweek review of the book that does.) Feminism is not to blame, however. I can't think of a single genuine feminist who wouldn't HATE this book, because, as Newsweek notes, it reinforces sexist stereotypes about men and women, suggests that women should HAVE to train their husbands to pick up their own socks, and serves to further divide women from men. . . . A mission accomplished, judging from many of the comments here. Feminists want to end the war of the sexes, not "win" it. (No one can win it--women and men mean too much to each other--a loss on one side is a loss on both.)
    I'm sorry that mean and just really stupid things have been said about men in this review (the BBC reality show sounds DISGUSTING), but please, please, do not think that feminism is responsible. The book instead seems incredibly reactionary--it recalls a time before anyone claimed to believe that women and men are EQUALS.

  • Posted By: eaferguson @ 02/27/2008 3:15:20 PM

    Comment: Regarding "How to train a husband"...excuse me! As a husband that works a full time job 50+ hrs a week, takes care of all the house, lawn, and vehicle maintenance and helps around the house with cooking, cleaning, picking up after kids and spouse aaand doing laundry!, take offense to the concept of being coached like an animal or easily manipulated and consider this entire Shamuing idea insulting. The thought of a spouse, wife or husband, actually thinking this way toward their life partner is disturbing and they should be seeking counseling or separating right away if this is happening in their relationship.

    Eric A. Ferguson
    Elizabeth City, North Carolina

  • Posted By: momsopinion @ 02/26/2008 1:13:50 PM

    Comment: PHONE MESSAGE and WHY MEN SHOULDN'T BE ALLOWED TO TAKE PHONE MESSAGES:

    MESSAGE: Hon, the gyna colleges called while you were out and said that your Pabst Beer was OK. I didn't know you liked beer.

  • Posted By: teelac @ 02/25/2008 6:56:12 PM

    Comment: men, we've let it get this way, can't blame the women for taking over if we've handed it to them on a silver platter.

    TAKE BACK WHAT'S OURS!!

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/24/2008 3:30:08 PM

    Comment: As she tastes my seed, I withdraw and spread her taut, ivory buttocks, entering her pink sex. She moans in pain/pleasure as I being to thrust, pulling on the silken cord that binds her wrists. Her squeals of pleasure would fill the room, but for the ball gag tightly clamped to her mouth. When I am finished, she again takes me in her mouth, tasting my seed mingled with her sweet juices...

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/24/2008 1:40:26 PM

    Comment: I enter her slowly and she moans with pain/pleasure. "Thank you, Master," she says, lowering her eyes.

    "Silence!". She knows she will receive a spanking for her transgression, and a small smile creeps across her lips. Later, as her warm mouth envelops me, she shivers in anticipation of the lash kissing her sweet bottom....

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/23/2008 3:09:21 AM

    Comment: Down! Beg! Roll over!

    Submit.....

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/23/2008 3:06:35 AM

    Comment: She bends over, her hands buod to the Punishment Post. It's time for her training. The cat o'nine tails brushes her soft bottom, preparing her for a night of pain/pleasure.....

  • Posted By: Atir @ 02/22/2008 10:59:10 AM

    Comment: Comment: Laundry is not just laundry and everything we choose to do or not do is a direct indication of the value we place on everyone and everything, to believe otherwise is dellusional. When our expectations aren't being met doesn't mean it's time to resort to munipulation. Like priorites, values can and will change. When people aren't equally yoked it's time to re-evalute our choices not theirs.

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/22/2008 10:37:57 AM

    Comment: My wife responds well when I train her. She begs for her "treats" and services me properly after brief punishment if she misbehaves. Ahhhhhhhhhh.

  • Posted By: randle @ 02/21/2008 10:32:00 PM

    Comment: This article is outrageous and would not be tolerated if women were being trained like dogs. This article is sexist and this type of writing should not be tolerated by Newsweek.

  • Posted By: SuzP @ 02/21/2008 2:55:56 PM

    Comment: This premise is the SAME as a 1960s movie called "If a Man Answers" starring Bobby Darin and Sandra Dee. Sandra Dee's mom gives her a dog training book after she marries Bobby Darin and tells her to do what it says, as if Bobby is the dog. I think the writer saw the movie and then "came up" with the idea.

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/20/2008 11:09:14 PM

    Comment: I pick up the socks and use them to bind her wrists tightly to the bedpost. She cries out, but the ball gag stifles her moans as I thrust into her again and again.

    She sleeps still tightly bound, awakened from her slumber intermittently throughout the night...

  • Posted By: STONEGAL @ 02/19/2008 10:26:24 PM

    Comment: Since i don't know what bothers another unles I am told atleast once all of this is absurd!
    If the socks bother you on the floor pick th edam socks up!
    My GOD with all it takes to live with someone and be happy after the long search SOCKS are a issue???
    How about pick up the socks and wah them with the rest of the wash and try being happy you have any mans socks to even pick up! Ask someone that lost their husband to death if the socks would bother her now? If you both work than both should find time to do wht needs to be done. If someone isn't upset that drops the socks (unless they say hey I have no clean socks to where- and they must be suicidal at that point to mentions this) than what do you want socks in the hamper or a man in your arms?
    Dottie

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/19/2008 1:56:49 AM

    Comment: She moans softly, as the whip kisses her bottom.

    Trained well, she kneels in front of me after a hot shower, pleasuring me with her moist lips....

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/19/2008 1:53:05 AM

    Comment: My wife is a feminist, a feminist when she is on her knees, servicing me with her moist, full lips. After a spanking, she pours me a martini and asks permission to sit at my feet. When I am done with my drink, she arches her back, buttocks taut with anticipation, as I part them and enter her slowly.

    "Thank you, Master". she says later that night, as I blindfold her in preparation for bed.

  • Posted By: tdskuecks @ 02/19/2008 12:14:21 AM

    Comment: From a feminist point of view, I'm appalled. Women that think this way, and men that accept that their gender should have to accept the manipulative tactics outlined by this author deserve one another. I ask for respect from my fiance. I ask to be treated like a goddess. And I definately respect and appreciate the man that can fulfill both these needs while simultaneously remaining every bit of the masculine figure I am attracted to. Maybe I'm lucky to have a man as amazing as this, but I've earned it-- by respecting him as my equal (but different) partner in life, honoring his masculinity, and by appreciating all that he embodies as my ideal of what a man with honor, loyalty, trust, honesty, integrity, and yup, sex appeal-- I've earned my place as his goddess, not by manipulating him, but by placing him on my pedastal as my king. This book is written by and for people that are not as lucky as I am and never took the time to find their true match.

    • Posted By: FDR12 @ 03/12/2008 7:43:21 PM

      Comment: Give me a break! You need to be traded like a what? You are the problem. I am so tired of the entitled attitude of Feminists who think women deserve to be treated like Deity! You are a misanderistic pig! Also, any man who tolerates this advice or your arrogance needs to wake up and kick your butt to the curb! Women molest children, kill, lie, cheat and do everything they blame men for so why the hell do we need to act like women are any better? Get a life and grow up. You are another sexist pig trying to sound like you are so fair. Women are no better and in most cases are far worse!

  • Posted By: daplane @ 02/18/2008 11:17:42 PM

    Comment: I train my wife this way. Punishment, reward, punishment, reward. If she pleases me, she gets to feel the lash on her hot, pink ass before licking me clean. Every night, I blindfold her and restrain her to her post, like a pet. She exists only to serve me, and that service brings her pleasure.

    All wives should be trained this way.

  • Posted By: havanese23 @ 02/18/2008 5:28:35 PM

    Comment: Hello, the article is meant to be funny! And it is true that a woman with a good body can get a man to do anything...trust me, I know!

  • Posted By: havanese23 @ 02/18/2008 5:27:12 PM

    Comment: Hello...it's meant to be funny! And by the way, a woman with a good body can get a man to do anything...trust me, I know!

  • Posted By: phiomalibumalibu @ 02/18/2008 4:00:24 PM

    Comment: Actually Breast Enhancements were the turning point in my marraige. I can't believe how much it changed me self-esteem. After the kids were old enough, I really wanted to get back to my normal size, plus a little bit bigger for my husband. He is so much more responsive now, and as we all know, guys are visual creatures. I have to thank my husband for his help and the great doctors at finestimplants.com

  • Posted By: teelac @ 02/18/2008 2:47:03 PM

    Comment: A professional approach to nagging and manipulation, very refreshing :-)

    I really doubt if the scenarios described reflect the modern family. Most of the men I know have big jobs and most of the real responsibility at home.

  • Posted By: teelac @ 02/18/2008 2:44:21 PM

    Comment: a

  • Posted By: grayforest @ 02/18/2008 1:25:02 PM

    Comment: I, too, am tired of the bashing of men, and do not like men being compared to animals. I think her mistake was in comparing her spouse to an animal, which is indeed offensive to anyone. And yes, if a man had written it, there would have been a huge outcry.

    For my relationships, I prefer Gay Hendricks' "Conscious Loving" approach, which emphasizes feeling all your feelings, clear communication, honesty, keeping your agreements, and taking responsibility for what you are doing in any particular situation. Hendricks, with very few exceptions, does not emphasize gender differences, but instead talks about the heart of relationships common to all. (The one exception I've heard in any of his work is a short and insightful audio bit on some typical - not hard and fast - differences in what men prefer in compliments versus women.)

    But I have to say that from the brief summary I read about this book (in a less controversial piece elsewhere), had the author dropped the animal training angle, what she had to say might have been far more acceptable. It seems to come down to: instead of nagging about behavior you don't like, keep your mouth shut and ignore it. Then thank your spouse when he/she does something you like; recognize and notice any progress toward the goal; and if all else fails, see if there is something else for them to do than the behavior that is bothering you. Absent the whole "manipulation" aspect, most of us would prefer not to be nagged, to be thanked and noticed when we do something, and so forth. The author evidently did therapy, and admits these were employed with minor behaviors - not major marital issues, but minor things - dirty clothes on the floor, upset when hunting for keys.

    THe issue, though, for many men is that we don't like "manipulation". We'd rather communicate clearly. Women complain that men don't listen; men complain women nag; I'm curious to know where the breakdown in communication is.

  • Posted By: RyanPeters @ 02/18/2008 12:57:14 PM

    Comment: If the genders were reversed, no way would Newsweek publish this article. It's OK to male bash? Guess what -- as shown by the comments -- men are on to you. The message about postive reinforcemnt, etc. isn't what's the problem, it's the little "hook" to use men as the animals to be trained. Try using women as the "hook" and Newsweek would be apologizing to NOW by now. Well men are finally waking up and smelling the misandry, and gradually are telling you all we're not going to take it any longer.

  • Posted By: RyanPeters @ 02/18/2008 12:57:00 PM

    Comment: If the genders were reversed, no way would Newsweek publish this article. It's OK to male bash? Guess what -- as shown by the comments -- men are on to you. The message about postive reinforcemnt, etc. isn't what's the problem, it's the little "hook" to use men as the animals to be trained. Try using women as the "hook" and Newsweek would be apologizing to NOW by now. Well men are finally waking up and smelling the misandry, and gradually are telling you all we're not going to take it any longer.

  • Posted By: kautie @ 02/18/2008 12:55:45 PM

    Comment: Go ahead! Treat your husband like a dod, and he will be entitled to smell the butts of other *** like you.

  • Posted By: kautie @ 02/18/2008 12:54:31 PM

    Comment: If this is a joke, it is one of really bad taste. I am a woman, and I would never want to treat my husband like a dog. With this type of advice, you are ignoring the basis of a good relationship; which is love and respect. Anyone who believes in this advice should be ashame of herself.

  • Posted By: Llantha @ 02/18/2008 12:09:05 PM

    Comment: Anyone who still wants to think that men an d women are alike is simply ignoring all of the recent science on the issues- as well as simply Not Paying Attention. Probably a guy thing... [<j/k> people! Sheesh! ]

    • Posted By: FDR12 @ 03/12/2008 7:49:02 PM

      Comment: We know men and women are not the same moron! It's the offensive attitude this woman and many like her show toward men that we have a problem with. I'm sure you would have a huge problem if a man told guys to treat women like BIT@#s (the female version of a dog).

  • Posted By: Llantha @ 02/18/2008 12:07:42 PM

    Comment: Anyone who thinks that men and women are alike is out of touch with the latest science on the issue- as well as just Not Paying Attention. I figure it's a man thing..... [ <j/k> Get a life, folks! ]

  • Posted By: Beckibear22 @ 02/18/2008 11:37:51 AM

    Comment: This book has really brilliant ideas that do actually work with the right spouse and a lot of patience, however it has already been written with the title "Whale Done" by the ACTUAL trainers of Shamu who run the training department at Sea World. If you are going to take advice from trainers then do so, not from someone who merely observed student trainers for a year. (PS, men can train their wives as well, this is not a sexist approach to getting along with people, however women are more likely to give it a try. Most animal trainers these days are women....Whale Done offers the same techniques and was written by men.)

  • Posted By: robhaerr @ 02/18/2008 10:23:40 AM

    Comment: It really bugs me in this day and age when people are set on pitting wives vs husbands, men vs women, whites vs blacks, etc.

    This book screams sexism, arrogance, and intolerance. When people like this author go back and revisit The Golden Rule, maybe they will get a clue on how to live a happier life. No need to treat your husband like a dog or a dolphin...treat him like you want to be treated yourself. Quit the game-playing and act like an adult...sheesh.


  • Posted By: Coryww @ 02/18/2008 10:13:54 AM

    Comment: How anyone in there right mind could even have the gull to say this is ok is just insane. Any woman who read this article and said "hm. Good idea. Beg Steven!" are an insult to the human race, and if any man isn't insulted you need help. The fact that people are accepting enough to let this become a book let alone a movie is wrong. Equality does not just apply to men treating woman like there goddess???s and men bowing before them. It means that men have the same and equal rights as every woman on the planet. Shame on Amy Sutherland for not only portraying men as animals but for representing woman in such a way.

  • Posted By: Sunflower4 @ 02/18/2008 8:20:50 AM

    Comment: This is a pathetic article.

  • Posted By: Sunflower4 @ 02/18/2008 8:20:17 AM

    Comment: This is a pathetic article.

  • Posted By: Rufus @ 02/18/2008 7:06:24 AM

    Comment: Newsweek ought to be ashamed of itself. If the genders were reversed, you'd be apologizing to some high priestess at NOW. "Double standards" are only forbidden when they apply to women, not men, in your twisted politically correct world. You owe every husband an apology for this. Take a look at the comments on this board. Men are finally waking up to how they're ridiculed and taken for granted in our society. You really ought to be ashamed.

  • Posted By: phiomalibumalibu @ 02/18/2008 5:27:09 AM

    Comment: Well my breast enhancements did change my life, my husband used to ignore me after the kids were born, and ever since I got implants from FinestImplants.com life has changed. He pays alot more attention to me now. I just think guys are visual creatures, that's all.

  • Posted By: b.pak @ 02/18/2008 5:23:29 AM

    Comment: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA WELL PUT CHOPSTICK. I liked the comment oldman made, we're all human, we have the gift of choice. Everyone is responsible for making their own choices. So I hope that the Yahoo staff/editorial or whoever is in charge of uploading stories, that they also realize the choice they made when they actually publicized this garbage on their website. I also enjoyed the posts by most women who also agree, it just goes to show you, in fact, men and women can communicate well together after all.

  • Posted By: ChopstickNINJ4 @ 02/18/2008 3:16:03 AM

    Comment: Gotta love the double standards. The response to this book should be titled "How to Get Her Back in the Kitchen", of course it'd be met by outrage by any feminist group, because ya know, only men are sexist. Sexist women? Inconceivable.

  • Posted By: ChopstickNINJ4 @ 02/18/2008 3:13:34 AM

    Comment: Sweeeet, I love American society, you can only be racist if you're white, and sexist if you're male.

  • Posted By: SWeiss @ 02/18/2008 2:09:42 AM

    Comment: I will start off by saying that I am a woman, married, and I am extremely offended by this and the double standard. I can already hear the cries of "Sexist!, Neanderthal!, Backwards!, Just Plain Mean!" had the book said something like, "If you're wife happens to cook dinner one night without being asked, reward her with lots of praise, or a tasty fish", or "Don't nag if your wife doesn't have your laundry clean and folded. Trainers call this Least Reinforcing Scenario". This has nothing to do with "lightening up" and has everything to do with "who it is okay to 'pick on'" in today's society, and that would be "white males", who this is obviously targetting, as they are the only males who would even considering "taking" this kind of treatment.

  • Posted By: Ziiv @ 02/18/2008 1:58:53 AM

    Comment: sarafiagn, would you be so complacent if this were a book on how to train one's wife to be a more obedient housewife and accept her subservient role without complaining? The book is a reasonable idea, but it's written so as to be as blatantly sexist as possible, which is why it offends people.

  • Posted By: sarafiagn @ 02/18/2008 1:49:44 AM

    Comment: I think that it is really interesting that so many men have posted such negative comments! Lighten up! After all, the article admits that: "In fact, she was the one who wound up being retrained, as she taught herself not to take her husband's actions personally, and not to react when he did things that annoyed her".

  • Posted By: Ziiv @ 02/18/2008 1:25:35 AM

    Comment: I really don't mind the methods described here at all, It's the intent that I don't like. For example, it's perfectly fine that she's considerate of the other person's ego when she complements them on their original idea and asks for others. The problem is that she does it with the intent to manipulate them. It shows she doesn't consider them as an equal. Frankly I can't see any difference between her view that men are animals that one should train, and the view that women are frail incompetents fit only to stay at home doing menial chores. The entire book is vulgarly sexist, and the fact that it hasn't been panned as such speaks volumes about how women are immune to accusations of sexism in our society.

  • Posted By: Ziiv @ 02/18/2008 1:24:32 AM

    Comment: I really don't mind the methods described here at all, It's the intent that I don't like. For example, it's perfectly fine that she's considerate of the other person's ego when she complements them on their original idea and asks for others. The problem is that she does it with the intent to manipulate them. It shows she doesn't consider them as an equal. Frankly I can't see any difference between her view that men are animals that one should train, and the view that women are frail incompetents fit only to stay at home doing menial chores. The entire book is vulgarly sexist, and the fact that it hasn't been panned as such speaks volumes about how women are immune to accusations of sexism in our society.

  • Posted By: oldmanoftc @ 02/17/2008 11:42:40 PM

    Comment: If you have a trick for men, just keep it to yourself. If my wife sees this and trys this on me I would be very angry. pay attn. to your own relationship and leave everyone else OUT!. Dont spread your opinion on other people. Life is about making choices, both male and female need to make their own choices, NOT YOUR CHOICE. SO GO RATTLE YOUR POTS AND PANS< or do whatever you do and leave the rest of us alone!!!!

  • Posted By: b.pak @ 02/17/2008 11:34:53 PM

    Comment: Train your husband? I didn't even bother reading this junk, judging from the title I knew exactly where I stand on this subject. Men are not animals, we're human beings, and we're all different. Coach as much as you want, at the end of the day, you can't change jack about someone...and really if you had to go through this whole process to coach someone to change their habits, why bother wasting your time with them in the first place? Why should you go through the process of changing someone for who they aren't when they can't even change themselves? For the author of this book and waste of a time study, i'd have to say, seriously get a real job. At least something logical and humanitary that people can relate to in a positive manner, instead of promoting more conniving manipulating behavior. Just garbage.

  • Posted By: carlyzmom @ 02/17/2008 11:26:26 PM

    Comment: If you lived with my husband, you would know how useful this "reinforcement" could be. Nothing else works. This way seems like a good idea and even makes sense. I'm off to buy the book. Everyone else, have fun with the debate!

    • Posted By: ahill @ 06/10/2008 9:45:07 AM

      Comment: carlyzmom, I am writing a story about this book and would love to talk to you. I am with a broadcasting company and I will let you know all of the information if you are interested. I need to talk to someone that thinks this technique is a good thing. I would really appreciate it if you could e-mail me so we can talk. ahill12@luc.edu. Thanks so much.

  • Posted By: freefromwomen @ 02/17/2008 11:22:02 PM

    Comment: You femmies just keep your manipulation tricks going. It won't be on this dude, though. I am single and happy for it. I don't need any woman conditioning my house habits. As a man, I am proud of who I am and what I stand for. I am perfectly content to make my own meals, clean my own home, etc. And, as far as sex goes, well, i'd rather be sex-free than hounded about picking up socks and all those other stupid idiotic excuses that this *** of a woman makes about men. Is sex really that important, guys? I mean you have a species who can't do anything for one week out of the month. Then, you have to put up with manipulating bullshit. Wake up and get some testicles. BTW, somebody needs to take that "man" of hers, and kick the
    living *** out of him for being a roll-over to a dominant *** that can't handle her own place/sexual orientation in life. Now, you little femmies can train your guns on this post, and call me all you want. I don't give a ***, because I won't be back on to read your mindless bullshit. I am going to make me some popcorn. It's better to be asexual than to live with a manipulative ***. . Just don't get involved with 'em, guys. Once you find that sex is nothing but a form of control that they use on you, then you'll realize that you are being conned. Now to you femmie shamus: Let those insults fly!! BTW, goodbye. LOL

    • Posted By: carlyzmom @ 02/17/2008 11:30:37 PM

      Comment: Have fun with that!

  • Posted By: Cadderly @ 02/17/2008 11:18:36 PM

    Comment: Hmmm Well this is not my idea how anyone should be treating anyone else. I hate being patronized and I pick up on it very quickly. If a woman tries to give me a compliment for a very menial task I become suspicious of her reasons. I read a book by Gary Chapman titled "The Five Love Languages". Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch are listed as the five love languages. I can see that those of the Words of Affirmation language will accept this method of encouragement. I doubt that any of the others will accept it. I dated a girl who was Words of Affirmation for two years and in the end were not compatible. I could not bring myself to give her empty praise. I felt like I would have been patronizing her.
    If you love the person you are with, love them for who they are. People don't change much and if they do it won't be enough by this method of treats. If you use this method of treats behind their back and they find out you've been trying to manipulate them, you may just lose someone you love forever.
    If you can't live with a certain behavior I would suggest that you set aside a time for a serious discussion. Don't wait until you get angry enough to start yelling because that won't let him know that you are serious. He may think that you are angry at something else and just venting over something he considers trivial. Give him the truth. Either change or get of my life. It the problem isn't worth dumping him over, tell him that it's annoying and let him decide whether to continue annoying you or change. Or you could always bribe him with his favorite dinner, or whatever works but don't try to change him behind his back. You will lose his respect.

  • Posted By: r_shaw @ 02/17/2008 11:18:01 PM

    Comment: For anyone interested in positive reinforced behavior techniques that can be used daily in our lives from our children, bosses, husbands, wives, or as written for, "our pets"... A must read wonderful book not mentioned here is "Don't Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor??? she also based allot of her training applications by her studies of B.F. Skinner???s work.

    Oh, one more amazing book for understanding animal behavior I have found interesting, entertaining and helpful would be ???Think Dog by John Fisher???.
    There are numerous wonderful books written on positive reinforcement behavioral techniques, but over the twenty plus years I have been training animals, these two have been by far my favorites.

    And for anyone serious about learning; one of the leading authorities on Dog Behavior and positive reinforced training is Dr. Ian Dunbar. Veterinarian and animal behaviorist, Dr. Ian Dunbar is Director of the Center for Applied Animal Behavior, Founder of the Association of Pet Dog Trainers and host of the popular British TV series Dogs with Dunbar. Ian is the author of numerous books and videos including Dog Behavior, Sirius Puppy Training and Dog Training For Children.

    I hope this information proves helpful to someone looking for answers.
    I believe that while we can make an impact using positive reinforced methods for daily interactions in our lives with animals and people; there are behavioral issues that can not be fixed with these methods. For anyone suffering in an abusive relationship, or if you have animals with temperament issues, good positive reinforced strategies may help manage these issues, but not fix them. I do strongly recommend seeking out advice from professional sources in instances such as these.
    For more information on abuse please visit: http://www.ndvh.org/educate/abuse_quiz.html

  • Posted By: r_shaw @ 02/17/2008 11:16:10 PM

    Comment: For anyone interested in positive reinforced behavior techniques that can be used daily in our lives from our children, bosses, husbands, wives, or as written for, "our pets"... A must read wonderful book not mentioned here is "Don't Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor??? she also based allot of her training applications by her studies of B.F. Skinner???s work.
    Oh, one more amazing book for understanding animal behavior I have found interesting, entertaining and helpful would be ???Think Dog by John Fisher???.
    There are numerous wonderful books written on positive reinforcement behavioral techniques, but over the thirty plus years I have been training animals, these two have been by far my favorites.
    And for anyone serious about learning; one of the leading authorities on Dog Behavior and positive reinforced training is Dr. Ian Dunbar. Veterinarian and animal behaviorist, Dr. Ian Dunbar is Director of the Center for Applied Animal Behavior, Founder of the Association of Pet Dog Trainers and host of the popular British TV series Dogs with Dunbar. Ian is the author of numerous books and videos including Dog Behavior, Sirius Puppy Training and Dog Training For Children.

    I hope this information proves helpful to someone looking for answers.
    I believe that while we can make an impact using positive reinforced methods for daily interactions in our lives with animals and people; there are behavioral issues that can not be fixed with these methods. For anyone suffering in an abusive relationship, or if you have animals with temperament issues, good positive reinforced strategies may help to " manage" these issues, but not fix them. I do strongly recommend seeking out advice from professional sources in instances such as these.
    For more information on abuse please visit: http://www.ndvh.org/educate/abuse_quiz.html

  • Posted By: Alacic Olrac @ 02/17/2008 11:16:08 PM

    Comment: I'm sorry to say it but a large quantity of American women -like the writer of this book- aren't happy and are frustrated. But as we know, the more S... arrives to a publisher that makes news the better it is: brings money in. It's us that shouldn't give a D... about it. But... God bless the women that have brain and are sincere: they deserve all the best from life and from men. As we say in Italian: Viva la donna intelligente! I'm only sorry that tomorrow the news will travel the World and as we know the World once more will think that the Americans are lost...

  • Posted By: alda @ 02/17/2008 11:15:08 PM

    Comment: Wow...and I do mean WOW. This theory has been around for a long time. Treat a spouse like a dog, give them a treat for a trick well done and they will love you forever. My husband and I rescue dogs so obviously that theory does not work. There are women out there that do the same for men treated like a house pet. My husband and I have been married 30 years. No leashes, dog treats, or games in this house and guess what, it works. It takes caring, loving and a heck of a lot of patience but two people should not toss a treat to each other for a "job well done." We are from the 70's, so we are not necessarily of the "old school" of beliefs. We have come through alot and taught our children to work through their life problems, own them, fix them, and move forward. This approach pretty much says "If you want something, find a way to get it without actually being honest." I am aware this author is selling her writing on the fact that some people will hate it. Problem is some people will try to actually apply it. So, we shall rescue dogs that run from such insults and find new homes for them as will the women out there that have the self respect to say "pick up the socks." PERIOD. No "pick up the socks and come to a nice dinner"or "thank you for picking up the socks so here is sex." Simply. "Pick up your darn socks and by the way if you leave razor hair in the sink again you get to clean the bathroom next time." Sorry, but honesty works, at least in this house and has for 30 years. For the record, Sex is great and I don't trade it for housecleaning, laundry or "baby you look great in that outfit." Have a super time selling your book. By the way, what is your husbands name so I know what to call him when we rescue him from the shelter?

  • Posted By: junfanjohn @ 02/17/2008 11:14:07 PM

    Comment: I took an hour to read all of the reactions and I came to this conclusion: We all agree that positive reinforcement is a good thing, so what has us mad? It looks like the only thing offending us ladies is her wording. "How to train a husband." and "Want an obedient spouse? A new book says you should coach them like animals." We want to be equal, not inferior... I think it's as simple as this.

  • Posted By: napst10 @ 02/17/2008 11:13:53 PM

    Comment: Shameful. News media outlets and publications go out of their way to publish inane, crap like this sexist BS to get reactions and perhaps ratings of some sort. I am not blaming this crazy, feminist author for her skewed views on relationships, I am blaming Newsweek for publishing crap like this, knowing its offensive and plain rediculous. Newsweeks desperation for readership is very apparent when one gives attention to someone or something as rediculous as this. Well, I guess some publication has to pick up the slack left by the now defunct Weekly World News!!!

  • Posted By: idv713 @ 02/17/2008 11:12:28 PM

    Comment: prblem with american women is that the idea of marrige is far more important than the shmuck they accept. the ones to blame is those men that tuck their tails between thier legs and get locked out of HIS house. those type of men lose the value of manhood and desrve it.american women need to take notes from thier european counterparts and understand that men dont want to be with a nagging mean grandma.women killed shillvery and breadwinning alpha males need to make a comeback! dont get discourage men, theres women to spoil in europe,asia and most of all the balkins.bring all these golddigging spoiled american women to the middle east and try to treat men there like an animal and observe what becomes the outcome.so to the ladies believe in this silly yahoo article just be a lot more appriecatted to the suckers paying your bills and dont corrupt the last of quality women left in america.

  • Posted By: Rufus @ 02/17/2008 11:09:54 PM

    Comment: Blatant misandry. Ask yourself how the feminists would react if the genders were reversed. They'd be picketing outside Newsweek and Newsweek would be apologizing. I got news for you: men are startinng to wake-up to the rampant male bashing. And you ain't gonna like the boycotss and anrgy letters.

    • Posted By: Northof49 @ 02/17/2008 11:18:16 PM

      Comment: Yup...Just like in Animal Farm..some animals are more equal than others....
      men cant picket because we are too busy earning a living to support kids and home and x'es .

      • Posted By: Rufus @ 02/17/2008 11:35:13 PM

        Comment: Amen, brother. Men don't have much time to bellyache about being victims, but let's face it -- we are not treated well in popular culture. But I'll bet the damn feminists liked us a lot better before we got the Internet and realized how badly we're mistreated! Finally men are awakening to the male bashing.

  • Posted By: Mattm6913 @ 02/17/2008 11:07:11 PM

    Comment: This sounds fantastic! I have always wished I could somehow train my mate to stop with those annoying outbursts, or to stop hovering over me while I am trying to get work done. A normal day for me is comming home from a hard day at work to constant hissy fits, nagging and general annoyance. Now I can try to impliment these techniques to try to train my mate into an animalistic rutine of pleasing my every want...Oh, and by the way Sutherland, this theory applies to women as well right? Because that would be great if I could just ignore my wife when she goes on one of her tirades, or train her like a dog to please me constantly. I am so sick of her annoying habits, and I finally found a way to cure her from her from all that for my benefit. Thank you so much for your painstaking research on the matter!

    By the way, this is completely sarcastic. I love my wife beyond measure, and i would gladly put up with her "tirades" for an eternity...It seems that you, Sutherland, do not feel the same way about your husband.

  • Posted By: psych101 @ 02/17/2008 11:04:58 PM

    Comment: The training techniques listed in the article (rewarding desired behavior, ignoring the undesirable ones) are based on proven science. You can't argue that. Read another book Whale Done, and I think most of you will find that operant conditioning IS something we could use more of...I know I would rather be recognized for the things I do right than the things I do wrong. If the reinforcement is good enough I will be more inclined to repeat the rewarded behavior. That's the sum of it. That technique is neither demeaning or sexist.
    I think it's interesting that so many people are offended at being compared to animals. Newsflash, you ARE an animal too.

  • Posted By: OKcopacetic @ 02/17/2008 11:04:43 PM

    Comment: Yes yes-- men are so simple: The Shakespeares, the Chopins, the Hemmingways, the Picassos, the Brandos. Aren't these simpletons so pathetic? You know I think that males born after the, pardon the pun, last major thrust of the feminist movement (the 70's) have mixed feelings about feminism. Sure, women should have equal opportunities in virtually all aspects of their lives as men do. But, these post 70's men (myself included) also feel that there is an unfair double standard in that we were born into a society that had made substantial gains in equality for women yet we are still being preached to about the feminist's ideals. So, if we point out any hypocrisy about the opposite gender we get slammed. For example, this article is sexist as ***! (You must hate women you bastard!) Sure men are so simple???really ladies? If you are a female and you believe this stereotype its because you have difficulty assessing men???their personalities, habits, etc???and find it much more comforting to YOURSELF to draw a proverbial box around men and put the label ???simple??? on it. Just look at the five names mentioned above???and I could have added So many more, Johnny Depp???and it???s clear that men possess much depth and complexity as compared to women. This article is blatantly sexist and I don???t thinks that it is productive in healing the gender inequity that exists. Shame on Amy Sutherland for putty forth this red herring just to make a buck!

  • Posted By: morrisr5 @ 02/17/2008 11:01:07 PM

    Comment: I posted below, but still upset.

    I am a very happily married man (not a pet) for 21 years and have a wonderful loving and respectful wife, I also have three children (all boys) who are going to have to put up with stupid ideas from misguided people like Amy Sutherland. I am very angry about this whole article.

    Please everyone who is upset, direct all of your (not happy) comments towards Newsweek and Yahoo, they are the ones that ran this article, so therefore they are the ones encouraging the sexism against Men.

    If you don't post they won't listen to us.

  • Posted By: suppy_sup @ 02/17/2008 10:55:24 PM

    Comment: This is ridiculous! Literally bringing husbands down to the level of an untrained and wild animal? Your spouse is an idiotic dog that needs to be trained? What a sickening, horrible abomination of an article! Do you enjoy making people suffer by writing this crap and releasing it on the world? What kind of a sadistic monster are you? It feels like I've had acid poured in my eyes! Please, spare the world of your misery and either stop writing this feministic crap or eat a gallon of lye. Preferably the latter.

    Most Sickening Article of the Year. Y/Y?

    I love how if a man wrote this article about training wives then it would've been considered sexist. I see a huge contradiction, but I doubt you could understand such a painfully simple flaw.

  • Posted By: psych101 @ 02/17/2008 10:51:46 PM

    Comment: To those offended at being compared to animals: You ARE an animals, you CAN be trained in the same ways listed in this article. Sorry you had to discover it this way. Operant conditioning is based on science. Go back to psychology class. In fact, think of how most of us try to modify behavior...it's usually by nagging, yelling, getting angry. I know I would prefer to learn by having my desired behavior reinforced with something I like such as praise, money, chocolate... if something is reinforced, it is going to happen again. Punishment is no fun. So stop watching Cesar Millan and start using positve reinforcement on your kids! Based on the temper tantrums I have seen in the grocery store, they could use a little training!

    • Posted By: Mattm6913 @ 02/17/2008 11:25:52 PM

      Comment: Wow. You, my friend, are so smart. I love the way that you put it... "We ARE animals..." it just sends shivers down my spine. I could read it over and over again, just to get that exhileration!!! Man, thank you for posting that comment, I love it!

      Do you feel empowered? Have i stroked your fragile ego? I employed some positive reinforcement to make you feel so good about yourself, and I hope it worked. Now you are probably angry, am I right? Interesting how emotions play such a key role in understanding one another. We are much more than animals, for we are able to show such powerfull emotions (such as anger). I'm guessing you are a pschology major/graduate/teacher, and I am sure you know much more than I about psychology. As such, I cannot argue with you on a level field. But, we as humans have something that separates us from animals, which is a soul. Even the most learned pschologists agree that the human psyche is much too complex to be compartmentalized in a physical entity. I think YOU should do some research.

    • Posted By: junfanjohn @ 02/17/2008 11:05:19 PM

      Comment: We ARE NOT animals! We are mammals and we "as humans" (Men and Women) are neurologically superior to the "animals" that are being suggested. It's insulting!

    • Posted By: tedario.edmond @ 02/17/2008 10:58:24 PM

      Comment: I do not know what Psych class you took, but I do not remember someone telling me when I toss meat, or a ball to go fetch it. You may do that, but us humans do not. My Minor is in psychology, talking about animals and humans is similar, but different in many ways.

  • Posted By: carlyzmom @ 02/17/2008 10:51:19 PM

    Comment: There sure are a lot of angry people out there. And for what? Some people could actually benefit from the book, so let them buy it. It's not a big deal.

    • Posted By: DipnthaBeans @ 04/23/2008 2:20:14 PM

      Comment: That's funny. I think that most women believe and TRUST that they are involved with an adult male. Not a little boy. That trust is automatically broken when that 'adult' male refuses to clean up after himself. What are you suppose to do? Become a subservient being because your husband won't put up a dish? Scream and nag for the rest or your life or try a new technique? I believe that whatever it takes to keep a marriage happy is worth it. ps...how many times have you men used white lies or trickery to get your women into bed? Just throwing that out there....

  • Posted By: CJS007 @ 02/17/2008 10:50:53 PM

    Comment: Anyone who takes this silly little book seriously is a MOST dreadful creature themselves. Just another attempt in today's society to further emasculate men. You have them waxing now, Ken dolls.. they are thisclose to being women now, who wants that? I've been married for 16 years and my husband is my best friend.. the only "training" either one of us needs is self restraint when we come across loons such as yourself. Our sympathies to your pet.. hubby. Poor guy.. You know NOTHING about men.

  • Posted By: junfanjohn @ 02/17/2008 10:48:24 PM

    Comment: Ok, for those of you that don't "get" why we are offended, let me explain... We may be animals, that's fine... we may be lazy, that's ok too, you can even call us a dog, but when you start treating us like an animal that crosses the line. Basically you're calling us stupid and insulting our intelligence. If you think we're all stupid then perhaps you need to join a feminists group somewhere and get a divorce anyway.

    • Posted By: carlyzmom @ 02/17/2008 10:56:02 PM

      Comment: The point is...you wouldn't even know you were "being treated like an animal". Positive reinforcement could really be helpful for a lot of marriages today.

      • Posted By: jaydebeme @ 02/17/2008 11:15:35 PM

        Comment: It's not a matter of whether or not you know what she is trying to do to you, the point is that we have put our trust in somebody just to have it shattered without any hint of remorse.

      • Posted By: junfanjohn @ 02/17/2008 11:07:30 PM

        Comment: I love the idea of positive reinforcement, but the wording should be better huh? perhaps just chaging her wording would get more positive results

        • Posted By: carlyzmom @ 02/17/2008 11:18:12 PM

          Comment: Yes. Maybe so...I think it's more meant for a comical effect. It is kind of funny, but I guess only for people who have a good sense of humor. I don't understand all this outrage and anger over a silly little book.

          • Posted By: Offended Dad @ 02/18/2008 11:09:30 AM

            Comment: People (men, anyway) are offended by the double standard. If the book were by a man on how to manipulate his wife by treating her like a dog and rewarding her with treats, there would be lawsuits, picketing, etc.

            Popular culture has villified men with impunity for a long time. How many ads do you see in a day where men are portrayed as incompetant children, buffoons, with some saintly spouse tolerating his ineptitude and saving the day?

            Generally, we're sick of it. If you have to think that you're 'managing' or 'training' your husband, you hold him in contempt. Why should any man consider joining, or remaining in, any relationship that he's not considered to be a peer, partner, etc?

            No feminist would put up with it. Neither should any man.

  • Posted By: Rozgirl @ 02/17/2008 10:47:07 PM

    Comment: Hi Amy, If you want to train you husband as if he were a dog it is most likely you have perhaps a beastiality issue? I for one would like help finding my keys (unless I don't help my husband find his) if you have a normal relationship (which I feel you don't) you can politely ask your husband to clear the kitchen or help out. As for the chips and salsa, are you thinking "c'mon boy! (whistle) come and get it?
    I prefer the concept of a normal communicating relationship... this is too weird!

  • Posted By: Kingarthur365 @ 02/17/2008 10:46:13 PM

    Comment: And if this kind of garbage was directed towards women there would be outrage and cries of sexism. When societys allow women to beat down men like this, that society will collapse. So miss Yorbraff enjoy your brief day in the sun, because you are insuring that your grandaughters and other women of this society will become slaves to countries that want our destruction. If the men in this country are continually beaten down and feminized, this society will not survive.

  • Posted By: mdsnyder @ 02/17/2008 10:46:05 PM

    Comment: All I have to say is, with thinking like this, it's no freaking wonder that marriages are at an all time low percentage wise, and the number of them that fail is at an all time high.

    Men are told from day one that they need to be "sensitive" and "caring", at the same time they're told to be "competative" and "cut-throat" in the business world. Women (and society) tell men one thing, and then complain and point fingers when they don't get the other. Men are just as much to blame, because we fall for it all. Add this to the fact that in our instant-gratification world no one is willing to work on ANYTHING long term, and expects fixes for every problem, immediately, (or at least in the time it takes to take a pill or push a button), and you get the current situation. Women go out dating looking for a man that is already "perfection" (and then want to change him), and men are confused as to which role they're supposed to be in. Hrm... God I hate politically correctness.

  • Posted By: morrisr5 @ 02/17/2008 10:45:54 PM

    Comment: This is totally stupid. Man bashing again.

    Did you not hate how women were treated in the fifties as dumb airheads?

    Why are you trying to breed sexism, what happened to equal rights, isn't this a petty revenge book for all those decades, equal means equal so stop it grow up and try not to be sexist.

    I believe we should picket you.

    Who approved this? I have sat by and seen men portrayed as fools on comercials, tv shows book and now newsweek, and yahoo, well I'm done just watching, this is stupid, and I bet you that author spent our tax money with some off the wall grant to fund that stupid book.

    If I have to write you 57,000 emails I will.

    Men and Women need to say enough is enough and we need to treat each other with respect.

    • Posted By: junfanjohn @ 02/17/2008 10:52:03 PM

      Comment: I agree... Equal rights are slowly being balanced towards women... prepare for a hostile take over, OMG I just had hilary clinton pop in my