How to Train a Husband

This doesn't surprise me in the least. This is the third time I've seen this misandry filth on Newsweek. The first article I saw was on the double standards of divorce several years back. And I'm sure there were more. Attention Newsweek: STOP POSTING THESE MISANDRIC ARTICLES OR I WILL BOYCOTT YOUR NEWSPAPER AND TELL OTHERS TO DO THE SAME!

I have been using these methods for years with my husband and then with my son. I feel that there is nothing wrong with maintaining a happy healthy household and this is effective and subtle. Besides, I wasn't going to send my son out into the world expecting to be waited on by a wife, just because my husband's mother did. And as to origin, I am fairly certain that it has been in use forever...i mean, really!

Imagine if the book had been written by a man about how he had trained his wife to be obedient through the techniques of animal training.

First, it would never see print. But if it did, it would roundly decried as misogynistic, no argument necessary.

Does this make it a bad book? IIt's probably no worse than all the other books out there that feed on women's and men's false hopes/fantasies.

It is insulting to men, especially the writer's husband, who should change his name and disappear in shame.

If women want to carry on like this, they should consider how it will effect how much people want to have a woman as a president, CEO, professor, priest, etc.

Women suck balls. Most of them need to get over themselves.

This book is insulting and condescending beyond belief to men. I agree with jazzyjenny02: relationships are about respect and understanding. Amy Sutherland has been reading to much Dr. Laura Schlessenger, who believes men are "simple creatures". ( See The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, etc. and other diatribes) I guess Amy just wants a weak man who will roll over or catch the fish she throws him for whatever sporadic benefits she can offer. This is likely because she can't get a real man with any kind of spine who won't put up with her b.s. This book is disgusting. Any woman who reads it and believes what it has to say is living in a American woman fantasy land, and likely has read " The Rules" and believes that b.s. too. Stick to tossing fish to Shamu at Seaworld, and the men of America will thank you. Signed, a real man.

What amazes me is not this book's content, or even the adverse reactions to it, but how many misogynists are still out there, and are so very vocal about it. This is one book, by one author, and by the way it is NOT titled "How to Train A Husband," that is Newsweek's own editorial spin..the actual title is "What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers," so all the comments about the title are completely facetious. It IS about spouses, husbands or wives, of course, since the author is a woman, she is talking about her experiences with her husband, but it is not a man-bashing book at all.

However, it seems that so many bitter women-hating men are just looking for a reason, any reason to spew their sexist hatred and pitiable insecurities without bothering to really find out what the entire story is, or to even find out the actual title of the book, let alone read it. It really is a pretty harmless book, and hardly worth getting your BVDs in a bunch over.

What's truly disturbing is not the idea of using animal-training techniques on your spouse (be it male or female)...no, what is truly disturbing is the amount of hateful vitriol and demonization of women in general. One has to pity such bleak souls so consumed and filled with hatred and bitterness.

The book seems to have an openly misandrist sentiment and would be greeted with howls of condemnation if the genders were reversed. This book now is greeted with similar sentiments here--men are not to be demeaned or insulted. There's honest and forthright advising and assisting others to help themselves and the group, but the idea of attempting Pavlovian-like conditioning and manipulative behaviors lacks moral character, honest respect, and reinforces further dishonesty and moral corruption. Dissimulation and manipulation are dishonest means to a selfish end, anyone attempting such behavior are similarly dishonest and selfish and have no place in any integrity-based relationship. The idea that a husband is an assistant, employee, pet, slave, or subordinate to be trained like an animal is demeaning and repugnant to human dignity and rights. Anymore, many men will reject this attitude and if it persists, will eventually divorce such a wife or leave a girlfriend with such a disrespectful mentality.

Gee I guess its time to publish my new book--How to train a female to put the toilet lid back up when done at a single mans house other than saying I guess your Mother or Ex wife didn't train you to put the seat down

Good technique! That is the way men have been treated by wise women for centuries! And we have been losing the idea. It is not degrating or disrespectful to men. This technique works on anyone!

Comment: What amazes me is not this book's content, or even the adverse reactions to it, but how many misogynists are still out there, and are so very vocal about it. This is one book, by one author, and by the way it is NOT titled "How to Train A Husband," that is Newsweek's own editorial spin..the actual title is "What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers," so all the comments about the title are completely facetious. It IS about spouses, husbands or wives, of course, since the author is a woman, she is talking about her experiences with her husband, but it is not a man-bashing book at all.

However, it seems that so many bitter women-hating men are just looking for a reason, any reason to spew their sexist hatred and pitiable insecurities without bothering to really find out what the entire story is, or to even find out the actual title of the book, let alone read it. It really is a pretty harmless book, and hardly worth getting your BVDs in a bunch over.

What's truly disturbing is not the idea of using animal-training techniques on your spouse (be it male or female)...no, what is truly disturbing is the amount of hateful vitriol and demonization of women in general. One has to pity such bleak souls so consumed and filled with hatred and bitterness

Offhand I have not read the book, but the way it is being presented by Newsweek, I could see how it would turn into a game of finger pointing and who is right and who is wrong. Personally I'm a little tired of having men generalized. We all are individuals. How one man behaves isn't the way all men behave. So we don't do exactly what a woman wants. Do all women out there do exactly what a man wants? That's what fuels comedians takes on male and female behaviour. That's what endears one with the other. If both accept each others faults, and not force them into something that only one person is going to be happy with, then maybe there wouldn't be so many divorces out in the world. It's called mutual respect. I'm a perfectly capale male that can wipe myself and do my own chores. Maybe more men should show that they can take care of themselves. It's in our DNA to be what we are. That's the reason why women have more complex emotion than men. I'm fine with having simple thoughts. I know it keeps me from going too crazy in an already crazy world. Men, let the women have their entitlement to act like women. Women, let the men have theri entitlement to act like men. Would you love someone more if there was no challenge. I think that's what drives both seses anyway.

Ever heard of Applied Behavior Analysis (i.e. the application of behavior analytic techniques to humans and other applied settings). Please do not give this woman credit for stealing other people's work in a field that has a long history of real research. Stop giving her attention. If she did any research, she would realize that she is merely using the most basic techniques of a field that is well established (not to mention using incorrect terminology). Dog training is merely an extension of behavior analysis. At least she gives Skinner some credit, yet she seems to take way to much credit of her own. I cannot believe this woman is getting a movie deal.

excuse me, what about wife training, train them to not rattle on incessantly when you are out for a walk, to not take 2 hours to "get ready" to go somewhere, to not fiddle with their purse, bags, or whatever else they have in their hands, to not nag, to not expect the husband to "make plans" to go somewhere, to quit acting like a child who needs constant care.

As a man, I resent the fact that I should be "trained like Shamu." I understand that I have responsibilities to my wife and home, and I don't need her to dangle a fish in front of me do get me to do it. Women want to be in charge and in control, and as men we are letting this happen. Marriage is to be a partnership, not a wife tricking her husband to pick up his socks. Men are supposed to be the leaders of the household as well as serve and prtoect our family. We have given up our masculinity because Dr. Phil or Oprah tell women that's how it should be. Boys grow up afraid to act like men because it may offend someone. How sad has American culture become. We have become wimpy men and overbearing women. And yes, I think women want to have their cake and eat it too. They want the manly man when it's convenient for them, then tuck him away and get back the submissive sucker that lets them rule the world.

There is no double standard - it would work the same way for men to apply the methods. Are the males incapable of using the ideas just because of the title? Draw from it what your intelligence allows...
If you do want your "woman to wear sexier clothes and make you breakfast every day" try rewarding her behavior by, (giving her a fish) picking up your clothes off the floor.