How to Train a Husband

The men on here seem to be getting awfully defensive, (from the get go), why is that if you all are sooo confindent that you know you are MAN HEAR YOU ROAR, king of the castle ,leader, and woman is your "help mate" isn't that what God called Eve? So why are you so worried about all the feminists? If it isn't hurting you then dont worry about it!

We are a very sensitive bunch, aren't we? The concept of positive reinforcement and ignoring less-than-desireable behavior is part of dog obedience as much as it is part of raising children and I can see its application to a marriage. Hooray for the people who have perfect communication and equal partnerships. I don't have that so I'm willing to try what I learned in obedience class on my husband if it brings peace to our home. And despite my current domestic frustration, I thought the article was a hoot.

Gee I guess its time for me to publish my new book--How to train a woman to put the toilet seat back up when done using it while at a single mans house other than her saying I guess your Mother or Ex didn't train you to put the toilet seat down

well, i have always told my two daughters as they were growing up that men are animals, they want one thing..............treat them accordingly and you will be fine. good to know that my advice is validated by other sources, lol.
and why do you think there is such a market for victoria secret lingerie ? heck yes, train me please !
everyone enjoys being appreciated.............so what is the problem with showing appreciation and reinforcing behavior that is appropriate ?
i look forward to reading the book.

It's the same technique used to raise children too. You focus on the positives and ignore the negatives. If they whine, ignore them. If they ask politely, respond politely. It's not demeaning to men, it's teaching women how to communicate their wants in a non-degrading way. Calling it manipulation is putting a negative spin on what's really just simple common courtesies that we offer to our friends and co-workers and neglect to use on those who live with us.

The issue isn't really about manipulation. It does in fact echo a manner in which many people do or should be treating one another. Who doesn't like to hear a kind word when they have completed a task, whether its simply picking up the laundry or something more demanding? Rewards for good/desired behaviors happen all the time, so I fail to see how the idea is so appauling. Waitresses are tipped for a job well done for example. While it's a monetary reward, it's still a matter of rewarding the desired behavior. Many parents reward children for a good report card also. I think that Sutherland's idea should be applied universally, not just within a marriage. How often have you ever bothered to contact a salesperson's manager because the sales associate was so helpful? Or do you reserve such contact for when you need to make a complaint? The point is that all desired behavior should be shown the proper appreciation. My husband doesn't often help with cleaning the house, but when he does I am sure to show my sincere appreciation. A person is more likely to perform and repeat a desired action, be it a husband picking up the laundry or a child cleaning his or her room without argument, if that person is shown some sort of positive reinforcment for the effort they put forth. Many wives and mothers, myself included at times, feel unappreciated for all they do as a home maker, parent, and breadwinner; yet we all keep toiling away in the interest of our families. The effort is worth while in and of itself, but it somehow seems a bit easier when you recieve praise for all the hardwork. Everyone knows how much better it feels to know the things you do are truly appreciated, and I see know reaon not to extend that same appreciation to others, male or female, child or adult, human or animal. There is nothing degrading about offering a kind word for a job well done.

Wow. The fact that the author was able to find a correlation involving her husband while attending an animal training class speaks volumes as to who she chose to spend the rest of her life with. My husband has idiosyncrasies that get under my skin at times, and vice versa, but I would never insult his intelligence by using Pavlovian methods to train him. Thank God I married someone who is not so simple-minded.

What amazes me is not this book's content, or even the adverse reactions to it, but how many misogynists are still out there, and are so very vocal about it. This is one book, by one author, and by the way it is NOT titled "How to Train A Husband," that is Newsweek's own editorial spin..the actual title is "What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers," so all the comments about the title are completely facetious. It IS about spouses, husbands or wives, of course, since the author is a woman, she is talking about her experiences with her husband, but it is not a man-bashing book at all.

However, it seems that so many bitter women-hating men are just looking for a reason, any reason to spew their sexist hatred and pitiable insecurities without bothering to really find out what the entire story is, or to even find out the actual title of the book, let alone read it. It really is a pretty harmless book, and hardly worth getting your BVDs in a bunch over.

What's truly disturbing is not the idea of using animal-training techniques on your spouse (be it male or female)...no, what is truly disturbing is the amount of hateful vitriol and demonization of women in general. One has to pity such bleak souls so consumed and filled with hatred and bitterness

Wow chicks86(Aka chicks on chicks 69) since you like to use nasty words--the only one I see making an A** out of themself on here is you.Now maybe your toilet is nasty like you, but I wipe mine down after each use and clean the bowl daily. Do You??? probably not as having to sit,you probably think you dont spray the sides and bottom of the seat. with your fluids.I'd go as far to bet My house is cleaner than yours.I've have just expressed my opinion on here earlier,which is what these sites are for and you try to come on like man busters and put every mans comments down.You want to see someone with no class,just look in the mirror at the over opinionated male hater that you are.,maybe you'll wake up before it eats you up.

Just another male bashing book, it should make it to Oprah's "must read" list very quickly (Steadman should have dumped that whale a longtime ago) . It will be a hit with all those dried up, overweight, angry women who think their lives should be a Harlequin book yet wonder why they are so lonely. If I was married to her (thank God I'm not) she would have divorce papers served on her the day after it went to publication so that I could be rid of her, but still get something for the suffering I endured having been married to this manipulative shrew. When men realize the power of the p---y is over rated in 99% of women, we will be liberated. Lastly, if American women think they have it so bad they should talk to their sisters in other cultures to see how good they have it here. Maybe Muslim men have the right idea. Take women off the pedestal and treat them like farm animals (I think I have an idea for a book).

Chick it's bad for me to be control freaks, but it's ok for women to be control freaks? That's exactly what this article is suggesting, and your ok with that. Sounds like your the loser.

One last thing, you know it is funny here because it seems all the comments listed are probably from pig headed loser men, who in fact are control freaks. Wake up guys feminism is NOT a bad thing. BTW most women work these days and get into traffic with the men, what time period are you living in realityhurts? And men let themselves go as much as women, but you know there are some men and woman who dont do this, so please stop speaking for all of the women in the world! It is sad to see men like you still exsist. You are either divroced and obliviously bitter, because your ex took you to the cleaners, or a loser and forever single!

Wow Marly629, norml33 and reality hurts, I don't know what horrid relationships you've either endured or ended just recently, but as a single mother of two I can assure you that men are not the only ones "driving the highways" to work everyday to support their families. I get Starbucks maybe once a month, when I can afford it, I've never played tennis in my life, and I don't drive nor could even afford a mercedes. So step off your soap boxes, especially trying to impress us with your big words there Mr. NormL33, it makes you sound pompous, not intelligent, and take the article for what it is. You don't have to buy it, most women don't either. It's just a nice little steam releaser for us that have a lot of stress every day.....just like you men.

It is so simple, just *** your man! I mean *** him till he doesnt want it anymore. *** him everyday till he says stop. I dont mean just spred your legs. I mean go to town on his dick. then you will have not only a trained man, but a loyal and happy one. Oh, yeah take it in the ass at least once a month. It's the icing on the cake!

What is the way to a man's heart. Animal training? How bout great food and sex, and a laker game. =)
Go to la-tickets.net get a pair of game tickets (close to the cheerleaders) Order some dogs and brewskys, get him buzzed a little, then take him home and give him what he wants. Learned this from my life coach....hehehe thought I share a little with you...
Check out healthyvibesuk.com and be sure to get those game tickets....ps once we didn't make it out of the parking lot!

Please......everyone knows that men are simple. It's not like it's a new concept. I have been happily married for 22 years and have used positive reinforcement for years. My husband acknowledges that I do this and he gives it right back to me and we laugh about it. Lighten up and your relationships will flourish.

WOW Marly629, you need to loosen up and relax, how about taking the womans shoes off and rubbing HER feet, after all "it wont kill you", but let me guess this would make you feel un-masculine right? This article is not about being bitter, but then again you seem to be a pig, a what do you call it , a male chauvinist, which refers not so much to the belief that males are superior to females. So you get some respect you control freak.