How to Train a Husband

I don't know what type of men this chick has been dating, or what planet or era she is from, but what the f__k? Times have changed sweetheart!! "Don't nag about the flithy laundry piled on the floor, but reward him when he picks up one dirty sock"?? what?? First of all, I never have a pile of dirty laundry, what era did this author grow up in? This is a disgusting form of sexism and it takes me back to that stupid Carl's Jr. commercial when that guy is shopping and can't figure out how to cook a damn sloppy joe! If a guy can'tgo to the market and fix a home made meal then he's either got down sydrome or has been dropped on his head 100 times. This author is living in a closet and needs to get out more. If I am an anomaly, which I doubt I am in today's society, then there are plenty of guys out there just like me. I cook, I clean, wash dishes, vacuum, dust, take out the trash, do my own laundry. If these are the chores women has been complaining about and say break their backs if these are the excuses to gain control and used against men in many a argument (which I am unfamiliar with since I take care of myself) then I am laughing in womens faces! These chores take little effort and hardly any time. Even after some of these daily chores I still have the energy to go to the gym 4 to 5 days a week to look and feel good. That's an extra bonus to that special woman to enjoy. I'm guessing that there are a lot more men like this in this new millenium for women to stop there bitching and open their eyes! No more excuses and what is it with women letting themselves go after they are married, and secretly fantasizing about other men when their asses aren't even in shape. Sad thing is, the tell tale sign of when a women is thinking of cheating or already is cheating, is when they do finally get their lazy butts in the gym and work on their self esteem. Like Katt Williams said, "he didn't do anything to your self esteem!" "It's called self esteem ***, tha's esteem of YOURSELF!!" Work on yourselves and I am guessing this kind of talk never comes up, and who, man or woman wants to control someone??? How is that going to benefit the goodness of your soul? Using someone and treating them like they are nothing? Sad, but I've seen it so many times and I always wonder, "why are these people putting up with this and sacrificing their well being" - take control of yourself and treat you and others with respect and you'll live life better and be happier!! I hope that this author goes broke and if I am in a discussion with or date any woman who has read this book and believes in the concept, I will feel deep sorrow for that poor sole!

I remember talking to a man who had been married for well over 60 years, to the same woman, and when asked what his secret to a long marriage was, he said, "know when to shut up". The only people who say that they are perfectly compatible with their mates are not married yet. No two people are perfectly compatible and must learn to live together. It's called compromising. Learning to live together, not Pavlovian science.

Ok we really dont need the trash talk all your doing is reenforcing the idea that we as men are stupid and need training. Here is the sad truth, men must be willing to understand that when they take on a spouse they no longer live alone and need to learn to share; ie: space, tv, bed, food, bathroom,time.
Women need to realise.....WE ARE MEN!

Plagiarism is an intentional act, so that's a pretty harsh accusation to make. Just because two people have the same idea doesn't make it plagiarism.
Regardless of the origin of the idea, I approve of it. While it certainly not a novel concept, it echos how many people do or should treat one another. Everyone knows how much better it feels when you know that your efforts are appreciated. Whether that effort is simply picking laundry up off the floor or completeing some huge project at your job, the positive acknowledgment carries a lot of weight. Parents reward children for good report cards, waitresses are tipped for good service, my dog gets a treat when she sits when asked, and I for one always thank my other half for help around the house. Positive reinforcement has gotten me a lot farther than nagging, that's for sure. How many people would continue to perform minor courtesies, such as holding the door open for someone else, if no one ever said a simple "thank you"? There's nothing degrading about showing someone the proper appreciation, whether its a spouse, child, dog, or stranger. Offering kind words for desired behavior is no more than common courtesy, plain and simple.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!!???? That's it. This is where I draw the line. The Estrogen stops here. In a time that women already dominate men more than they ever have in our history, some jackass(pundt intended) comes out with a new way to emasculate men even more. I don't know who I'm more disgusted with Amy Sutherland or her husband the human seal. I'm all for women's rights, but what about men's rights? The right to me a man. I mean when did this become a bad thing. I know, we burp out loud, we pass gas occasionally, we forget to open the door, etc, etc...All those little wonderful little idiosyncrasies that drive the opposite sex insane. Ivan Pavlov never mentioned whether the dog he trained to prove his theory of
negative reinforcement was male or female or did he? If he did shame on him as well. Men are suppose to be men. We already go along with the idea that our women are constantly trying to change us into some idea concept of the "perfect male specimen". I'm going to say what most men won't; Try as you may you are not going to change us. It's the beauty and well, the holy grale of what being a man is all about. We don't mind following the rules and being, much as I despise the word "obediant" to our loved ones, but enough is enough. Maybe I will write a book on why women out live men. H-m-m-m. Hey, we already concede to the notion that we will do what it takes (within reason, of course) to make her happy. As the golf commentator author David Feherty so eloquently puts it; "The One Who Must Be Obeyed". Ever over hear a guy, say,"yeah, guess I'm still in training", which translated means; You can't teach an old dog new tricks or better yet you can't teach an old enzyme new tricks. On this Valentine's Day just look at your slovenly husband with the shirt not quite tucked in correectly and his proverbial unzipped zipper and say; " I love you just the way you are and I wouldn't change a thing."
tricks. It's just the way we are designed. Don't mess with the "X's and "y's. Mars will always be Mars and Venus will always be Venus.

I agree with you, bluqq. This also plagiarizes Dont Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor (1985), among others.

Yeah, the most endangered species in the world is the young to middle age man in our increasingly femenan dominated society. Question: When will the book be out about how to "train" you wife to be a lady, spedn enough time with the kids that they don't think the nanny is their mother, and cook well enough to entice the whole family to sit down around the family table at least once a day? But no, you have turned manipulating hubby into the next olympic sport. Congrats, you are contributing to the downfall of our culture.

We are all so selfish....not one of us has stopped to think about how Shamu feels about all of this. BTW....isn't Shamu a FEMALE whale?

Wow hope you discus my book when it comes out. How to train a female to replace the toilet paper roll when used up and How to put the toilet seat back up when done when at a single mans house

jazzyjenny02, you are a close minded idiot, I bet you think Liberal Billary will get the nomination.

jazzyjenny02, you are a close minded idiot, I bet you think Liberal Billary will get the nomination.

jazzyjenny02, you are a close minded idiot, I bet you think Liberal Billary will get the nomination.

jazzyjenny02, you are a close minded idiot, I bet you think Liberal Billary will get the nomination.

I knew I had seen this concept before. Check out the movie from 1962 If a Man Answers starring Sandra Dee. Nice plagiarism.