How to Train a Husband

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  • Posted By: cbdave @ 02/14/2008 3:03:39 PM

    As a husband and father of three for 23 years my wife and I do alot of things together, such as shopping and cleaning our house. God said that when two marry that they should become one and not one of the couple dominating the other. I have faults that my wife will help me overcome and I do the same with her. We talk about almost everything. Communication is the key to every marriage. If you don't have communication your marriage will be strained and eventually it will end. It takes training and alot of time on both the husband and the wife to talk to each other in a way that both of the couple can understand. God Bless

  • Posted By: $mart@$$ @ 02/14/2008 2:57:01 PM

    If a woman has enough time to read this article, then she has enought time to get in the kitchen and fix supper!

  • Posted By: NASCARGAL20 @ 02/14/2008 2:48:45 PM

    YOU MORON. DO YOU REALLY THINK WOMEN ARE THE ONLY ONES WHOSE PHYSICAL APPEARANCE CHANGES AFTER MARRIAGE?? I SUPPOSE YOU WERE ALWAYS A FAT, POT BELLIED, BALDING AND BUTTLESS HUH?? AND DO YOU REALLY THINK THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN GET TO SIT HOME AND PLAY THE PEG BUNDY ROLE AND EAT BON-BONS ALL FRIGGIN' DAY??? HERE'S A NEWS FLASH PAL, WOMEN WORK TOO. WE TOO DRAG OURSELVES OUT OF BED MONDAY THROUGH FRIDAY AND SIT IN TRAFFIC. YOU SIR ARE A MALE CHAUVENIST.....SHAMU. AND PERSONALLY, I LOVE MEN WHO HAVE THOSE POT BELLIES AND LOVE HANDLES.

    • Posted By: mjlasota @ 02/14/2008 3:01:30 PM

      Let's be realistic Nascargal. You love men with potbellies and love handles. But let's also include that those man have huge bank accounts and represent security. And no, I don't want to be with a woman with a big a-- and a stomach. Sorry, but I am a personal trainer and prefer a fit woman. And no, there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing shallow about that. If there is then women who are attracted to doctors or a man with ambitiion who represents potential security are very wrong. Let's not put down women who maitain their figures just because you can't maintain yours. That is the equivalent of a woman with small breasts putting down a woman with big breasts saying that those are going to sag so much when she is older. No, the reality is that the woman is just jealous because she has small breasts and the other woman has big breasts. Plus, all breasts look horrible and sag when a woman gets older whether small or big.

  • Posted By: candyam @ 02/14/2008 12:47:35 PM

    If men could just be honest about it - ala, they won't respond to a woman treating them like another man would - this kind of thing wouldn't be necessary. But men won't have it that way. They want women to interact differently with them than men do with each other. I love men, the good ones are adorable and sweet and wonderful. But men are like puppies, you have to teach them to pee on the paper, or they'll do it on your leg.

    • Posted By: democratic @ 02/14/2008 3:01:05 PM

      If your man is like that then remember, you picked him. Maybe your into golden showers.

  • Posted By: SMS0055 @ 02/14/2008 3:00:21 PM

    Moncaido, you are implying that we want the sam boring piece over and over again. There are millions of women out there. You don't have anything no other woman doesn't have. We can get plenty of A@@ and not have to deal with women like you. We don't have waste time buying you jewelry, or deal with you the next morning.

  • Posted By: dedee @ 02/14/2008 2:57:03 PM

    I have not read but a few comments and the article, or coarse, but I have something to say about the whole issue. Rewarding positives and ignoring negatives is not a bad way to live your life. I don't mean to go around with blinders. In the safety of your own home, this additude will keep yourself happier and encourage spouse, children, parents, and friends to be happier and kinder to each other. I like peace at home.

  • Posted By: She Dun @ 02/14/2008 2:55:07 PM

    I don't know...I thought love was unconditional not manipulative. If the small things bother a person that much are they really with the person they really were looking for? They should respect the person they are with enough that they would not try to manipulate and control them. If there's no respect, how can there be love?
    The small stuff, I do agree should not be blown out of proportion. Everyone does small annoying things.

  • Posted By: ct0214 @ 02/14/2008 2:36:38 PM

    Until men can go through the pains that comes with giving birth to children and the monthly periods, all the men who wrote negative comments here should be quiet. Enough said.

    • Posted By: democratic @ 02/14/2008 2:54:49 PM

      If you believe in creationism, you got pains in labor and all sorts of hardships because you disobeyed and were sneaky. If you are an evolutionist then fate dubbed women the prototype for losers. Just be nice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Posted By: bjhool @ 02/14/2008 2:53:28 PM

      This does not entitle women to be evil.

    • Posted By: Pheonixlighter @ 02/14/2008 2:48:36 PM

      What a pointless statement, and a show of peculiar and inactive brain use. Birth and periods have nothing to do with this article, and the functions of Biology and life giving purpose is the role that woman play, that's what they do, they give birth because there bodies can do so, to throw it mens face as a means to completely shut down the argument is behaviorly simplistic of you.

    • Posted By: SMS0055 @ 02/14/2008 2:41:33 PM

      And until women have to deal with the mood swings, and hormones that you all seem to suffer from on a daily basis, you all should be quiet. You womena re no picnic.

  • Posted By: cbdave @ 02/14/2008 2:54:33 PM

    As a husband and father for 23 years my wife and I help each other doing things such as shopping, cleaning the house. I feel that a marriage should be an equal arrangement and not one partner overshadowing the other. I have many faults that my wife helps me overcome and she has faults that I help her overcome. God said that when you marry that the couple becomes one, not just one of the couple dominating the other.

  • Posted By: tritanium1 @ 02/14/2008 2:54:28 PM

    If the author feels like she needs to train her husband like a zoo animal, it sounds like there is something fundamentally wrong with her marriage. Marriage is about mutual respect and that respect should be earned. Maybe the author should address this rather than advocating the use of "tricks".

    Thank god, I have a marriage which doesn't involve gimmics or manipulation. She really shouldn't share her twisted ideals with others.

  • Posted By: phiomalibumalibu @ 02/14/2008 2:52:44 PM

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  • Posted By: frank1962 @ 02/14/2008 2:52:39 PM

    GUYS THINK ABOUT IT. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE EVER! ! ! Sure it comes across as sexist at first blush. If you want to be a little wennie, go ahead and complain about that. But, consider the message, here is a woman who is telling other women not to nag on us, let us throw tantrums and generally do our own thing. Yabroff is instructing women to reward us for picking up our laundry and advocates giving us a little appetizer while cooking us dinner.

    Think about that world, one where your wife does not nag on you, ???rewards??? you for picking up your socks and serves you up an appetizer while making you a nice little dinner. Throw in a couple beers and that???s a pretty good night. If anything the feminists should be considering tarring and feathering Yabroff for setting them back 50 years.

  • Posted By: snowshoe @ 02/14/2008 2:52:06 PM

    If women can "train" their husbands, can men "train" their wives? If so, I'll pay out some PRIMO dividends if my wife will have sex more often.

  • Posted By: frank1962 @ 02/14/2008 2:50:50 PM

    GUYS THINK ABOUT IT. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE EVER! ! ! Sure it comes across as sexist at first blush. If you want to be a little wennie, go ahead and complain about that. But, consider the message, here is a woman who is telling other women not to nag on us, let us throw tantrums and generally do our own thing. Yabroff is instructing women to reward us for picking up our laundry and advocates giving us a little appetizer while cooking us dinner.

    Think about that world, one where your wife does not nag on you, ???rewards??? you for picking up your socks and serves you up an appetizer while making you a nice little dinner. Throw in a couple beers and that???s a pretty good night. If anything the feminists should be considering tarring and feathering Yabroff for setting them back 50 years.

  • Posted By: Parapluie @ 02/14/2008 2:49:26 PM

    If the real title of this book were, "Quit Being a Nag" Men would jump all over it and buy it for their nagging significant others. On the other hand, if it were named that, no woman would read it. As it is, it basically tells women, if you nag and b*tch, no one is going to pay attention to you. Be nice and ignore the bad habits rather than getting into a p*ssing contest. So what's the big deal? I wish my significant other would do the same for me. Rather than getting fed up and flying off the handle when I'm running behind, or constantly nagging me about things I do or don't do. Think of all the love and pampering our pets get. Wouldn't it be great if we treated each other as well as we treat our pets?

  • Posted By: SMS0055 @ 02/14/2008 2:49:19 PM

    CHick86, it's not ok for men to be control freaks, but ok for women? That's what this article is suggesting. You seem to be ok with that. You seem to call men who don't see your point losers and chauvinist, but is in fact being the ignorant one here? Who's being the chauvinist. CFeminst can be pigs and losers too, and you seem to be in that class, congratulations.

  • Posted By: NormL33 @ 02/14/2008 2:28:25 PM

    During the past 41 years, I have had to endure sour, dour, contentious and usually unmarried females confronting me and correcting me about remarks they felt demeaned women. Their rational was that these remarks were "sexist", "chauvinistic" and "misogynistic". They did not accept claims that the remarks were in jest, or so much as tongue-in-cheek in content. Their modern-day successors , particularly in places like Manhattan, periodically spew sexist, chauvanistic and misandrist invective at males...and then immediately try to write it off as,"Can't you take a joke"?" They try and get away with the very behaviors their predecessors worked so hard to make illegal. These 'feministas' are so clinically inflated, they constantly take individual relationships and immediately globalize them into examples of universal truth. In short, they are megalomaniiac misandrists.

    • Posted By: NormL33 @ 02/14/2008 2:48:59 PM

      You brought up another thing I forgot to mention, feninistas (or feminazis) divert the issue, ignore the point and give a reflex rankout response in retaliation. You also proved my point about globalizing individual interactions into universal generalizations..

  • Posted By: momoftwobugs @ 02/14/2008 2:47:38 PM

    Wow Marly629, norml33 and reality hurts, I don't know what horrid relationships you've either endured or ended just recently, but as a single mother of two I can assure you that men are not the only ones "driving the highways" to work everyday to support their families. I get Starbucks maybe once a month, when I can afford it, I've never played tennis in my life, and I don't drive nor could even afford a mercedes. So step off your soap boxes, especially trying to impress us with your big words there Mr. NormL33, it makes you sound pompous, not intelligent, and take the article for what it is. You don't have to buy it, most women don't either. It's just a nice little steam releaser for us that have a lot of stress every day.....just like you men.

  • Posted By: SMS0055 @ 02/14/2008 2:46:52 PM

    CTO214, and until women face the mood swings, and hormones they torture their husnads with on a daily basis, then they need to shut up too. You are all no picnic.

  • Posted By: SMS0055 @ 02/14/2008 2:46:41 PM

    CTO214, and until women face the mood swings, and hormones they torture their husnads with on a daily basis, then they need to shut up too. You are all no picnic.

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