How to Train a Husband

Hello, the article is meant to be funny! And it is true that a woman with a good body can get a man to do anything...trust me, I know!

Hello...it's meant to be funny! And by the way, a woman with a good body can get a man to do anything...trust me, I know!

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A professional approach to nagging and manipulation, very refreshing :-)

I really doubt if the scenarios described reflect the modern family. Most of the men I know have big jobs and most of the real responsibility at home.

I, too, am tired of the bashing of men, and do not like men being compared to animals. I think her mistake was in comparing her spouse to an animal, which is indeed offensive to anyone. And yes, if a man had written it, there would have been a huge outcry.

For my relationships, I prefer Gay Hendricks' "Conscious Loving" approach, which emphasizes feeling all your feelings, clear communication, honesty, keeping your agreements, and taking responsibility for what you are doing in any particular situation. Hendricks, with very few exceptions, does not emphasize gender differences, but instead talks about the heart of relationships common to all. (The one exception I've heard in any of his work is a short and insightful audio bit on some typical - not hard and fast - differences in what men prefer in compliments versus women.)

But I have to say that from the brief summary I read about this book (in a less controversial piece elsewhere), had the author dropped the animal training angle, what she had to say might have been far more acceptable. It seems to come down to: instead of nagging about behavior you don't like, keep your mouth shut and ignore it. Then thank your spouse when he/she does something you like; recognize and notice any progress toward the goal; and if all else fails, see if there is something else for them to do than the behavior that is bothering you. Absent the whole "manipulation" aspect, most of us would prefer not to be nagged, to be thanked and noticed when we do something, and so forth. The author evidently did therapy, and admits these were employed with minor behaviors - not major marital issues, but minor things - dirty clothes on the floor, upset when hunting for keys.

THe issue, though, for many men is that we don't like "manipulation". We'd rather communicate clearly. Women complain that men don't listen; men complain women nag; I'm curious to know where the breakdown in communication is.

If the genders were reversed, no way would Newsweek publish this article. It's OK to male bash? Guess what -- as shown by the comments -- men are on to you. The message about postive reinforcemnt, etc. isn't what's the problem, it's the little "hook" to use men as the animals to be trained. Try using women as the "hook" and Newsweek would be apologizing to NOW by now. Well men are finally waking up and smelling the misandry, and gradually are telling you all we're not going to take it any longer.

If the genders were reversed, no way would Newsweek publish this article. It's OK to male bash? Guess what -- as shown by the comments -- men are on to you. The message about postive reinforcemnt, etc. isn't what's the problem, it's the little "hook" to use men as the animals to be trained. Try using women as the "hook" and Newsweek would be apologizing to NOW by now. Well men are finally waking up and smelling the misandry, and gradually are telling you all we're not going to take it any longer.

Go ahead! Treat your husband like a dod, and he will be entitled to smell the butts of other *** like you.

If this is a joke, it is one of really bad taste. I am a woman, and I would never want to treat my husband like a dog. With this type of advice, you are ignoring the basis of a good relationship; which is love and respect. Anyone who believes in this advice should be ashame of herself.

Anyone who thinks that men and women are alike is out of touch with the latest science on the issue- as well as just Not Paying Attention. I figure it's a man thing..... [ <j/k> Get a life, folks! ]

This book has really brilliant ideas that do actually work with the right spouse and a lot of patience, however it has already been written with the title "Whale Done" by the ACTUAL trainers of Shamu who run the training department at Sea World. If you are going to take advice from trainers then do so, not from someone who merely observed student trainers for a year. (PS, men can train their wives as well, this is not a sexist approach to getting along with people, however women are more likely to give it a try. Most animal trainers these days are women....Whale Done offers the same techniques and was written by men.)

It really bugs me in this day and age when people are set on pitting wives vs husbands, men vs women, whites vs blacks, etc.

This book screams sexism, arrogance, and intolerance. When people like this author go back and revisit The Golden Rule, maybe they will get a clue on how to live a happier life. No need to treat your husband like a dog or a dolphin...treat him like you want to be treated yourself. Quit the game-playing and act like an adult...sheesh.

How anyone in there right mind could even have the gull to say this is ok is just insane. Any woman who read this article and said "hm. Good idea. Beg Steven!" are an insult to the human race, and if any man isn't insulted you need help. The fact that people are accepting enough to let this become a book let alone a movie is wrong. Equality does not just apply to men treating woman like there goddess???s and men bowing before them. It means that men have the same and equal rights as every woman on the planet. Shame on Amy Sutherland for not only portraying men as animals but for representing woman in such a way.

This is a pathetic article.

This is a pathetic article.

Newsweek ought to be ashamed of itself. If the genders were reversed, you'd be apologizing to some high priestess at NOW. "Double standards" are only forbidden when they apply to women, not men, in your twisted politically correct world. You owe every husband an apology for this. Take a look at the comments on this board. Men are finally waking up to how they're ridiculed and taken for granted in our society. You really ought to be ashamed.

Well my breast enhancements did change my life, my husband used to ignore me after the kids were born, and ever since I got implants from FinestImplants.com life has changed. He pays alot more attention to me now. I just think guys are visual creatures, that's all.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA WELL PUT CHOPSTICK. I liked the comment oldman made, we're all human, we have the gift of choice. Everyone is responsible for making their own choices. So I hope that the Yahoo staff/editorial or whoever is in charge of uploading stories, that they also realize the choice they made when they actually publicized this garbage on their website. I also enjoyed the posts by most women who also agree, it just goes to show you, in fact, men and women can communicate well together after all.