How to Train a Husband

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  • Posted By: orionsfaith @ 02/14/2008 1:33:36 PM

    this reminds me of that episode of pushing daisies, where the poligimist was killed by one of his wives and the dog trainer basically seduced and trained a main character guy at the same time. I thought it was funny and while a voice in the back of my head thought this may be offensive I decided to take it at face value. The author's not saying this is an approach that every one should take, if it works fine, if it doesn't fine, tweek it to fit your lifestyle or just leave it alone. If you find it offensive then don't look for a woman who thinks it's the best idea since electricity.
    Real men wouldn't let some silly lady offend them so easily with just her opinion :-P

  • Posted By: orionsfaith @ 02/14/2008 1:33:19 PM

    this reminds me of that episode of pushing daisies, where the poligimist was killed by one of his wives and the dog trainer basically seduced and trained a main character guy at the same time. I thought it was funny and while a voice in the back of my head thought this may be offensive I decided to take it at face value. The author's not saying this is an approach that every one should take, if it works fine, if it doesn't fine, tweek it to fit your lifestyle or just leave it alone. If you find it offensive then don't look for a woman who thinks it's the best idea since electricity.
    Real men wouldn't let some silly lady offend them so easily with just her opinion :-P

  • Posted By: mjlasota @ 02/14/2008 1:07:21 PM

    The bottom line is women want their cake and eat it too. This country is going in a direction where the men are wearing the skirt in the house and the women want to wear the pants. Except. of course, when they want protection and feel scared at night. Then, they don't want the wimp anymore for that moment. If a guy is a bad boy and changes his behavior to become more sensitive because his woman wanted it, then she will get bored and want the bad boy again. Women love men who can work on cars, open the door like a gentleman, offer to pay for most of things, cut the grass, be the protector, etc.... Spoiled American women love the old fashioned stuff and tradition when it benefits them. But when a man wants a meal cooked then look out here cames feminism in his face. Women in this country love tradition when it benefits them and when it doesn't they cry and whine. What makes it worse is the media pushes this. That the male who is head of the house is wrong for thinking that way and there should be two heads. The reality is that many American women are spolied and lazy and lack old-fashioned values that are very important. These women talk about all the qualities they have to have in a man. We might as well put Einstein's brain, The Rock's muscles, Donald Trump's money, Martin Lawrence's humor, etc.... all in one person so the women will be satisfied. But they won't be after a while and get bored and want a new exciting challenge. Woman want to be these big leaders now, but when it comes down to it they want to be treated like little princesses. They are trapped in a fantasy world. One more thing. I admit men are shallow with looks more than woman. And men are castrated for it by Oprah having shows it is ok to be fat. Be proud of it. Gimmie a break! Now, women are shallow with security and money. But that is ok. Good for her, right. It is great that woman when women date doctors or rich business men. Good for them, right. But when a man wants his woman to retain her figure and look good in a pair of jeans he is a devil. But if that same man takes a job making less money he is a loser and needs to be more ambitious. There is so much wrong with the perception of men and women right now. And to read this article about women training their men. This makes me want to throw up.

    • Posted By: Dave24yrsold @ 02/14/2008 1:32:55 PM

      Could not have possibly said it any better, right on!

    • Posted By: Dave24yrsold @ 02/14/2008 1:32:10 PM

      I could not have possible said what you said any better, right on!

  • Posted By: 78677867 @ 02/14/2008 1:32:20 PM

    I have the easiest fix of all.........................WOMEN *** your man, just that simple. *** him till he doesnt want to *** anymore. *** him as often as possible, I promise you will have a trained man........Oh, and take it in the ass every once a month!

  • Posted By: engrdave @ 02/14/2008 1:30:54 PM

    Anybody watch 'Supper Nanny'? The same techniques are being used. Positive reinforcement has been around for years. It's commonly taught in leadership training.

    You give out a positive reinforcement anytime a desirable task is done. Whether people realize it or not, they learn that if they do that task they get a reward. When my kids clear the table after dinner, I serve dessert. I never have to announce that they'll get desert if they clear the table. I just started out that any instance that they just happend to clear the table, I give them dessert. They learned this and started clearing the table more and more.

    As time goes on, the task becomes habit. Once a good habit is developed, the reward can be phased out. My kids are now in the habit of clearing the table every night and because it's a habit, they don't expect the reward.

    For those of you who think it's manipulation, here's something to think about: Positive reinforcement is happening all around you every day of your life. What happens when you flip a light switch? The light goes on or off. You receive a reward for a desired task. I'll bet you're now in the habit of searching for a light switch when you enter a dark room.

  • Posted By: drettinger @ 02/14/2008 12:56:11 PM

    Despite the comments from the two knuckle-draggers who obviously have no respect for women, this advise is actually good. If my wife would try motivating me with kind words, considerate actions and maybe a little more action in the boudoir, (that's bedroom for you neanderthals in the previous posts) then I would be a happy camper. It doesn't always work in reverse because a man's needs are usually simple. Give me good food, lots of sex, mother my children well and don't nag. Do this and I'll be your workhorse. I'll give till my heart bursts. How simple is that? Macho and dumb, you need help.

    • Posted By: booboo @ 02/14/2008 1:03:46 PM

      drettinger , this is a very simple solution, but I have the feeling, if men get "that", than they want more....maybe the other woman...

      • Posted By: Hired.Geek @ 02/14/2008 1:26:44 PM

        I agree with you here. I honestly feel that the more I do to help out and support my wife the more she expects. If you give a mouse a chocolate chip cookie, they will come back looking for milk.

        I do not mind helping out. I cook, I do laundry, I bought two iRobots to help with vacuuming and cleaning the floors. But I have noticed that over time that helping out with cooking two meals a week has now changed into cooking five meals a week. And when I bought robots to help with cleaning the floor then she felt that I now had more time to do more loads of laundry.

        If the article had been entitled "How to help you cope with your spouses irritating quirks." that would be different. But this is the equivalent to writing an article "How to teach your wife to drive". The titles envoke age old stereotypes, that really do not belong in this day an age.

  • Posted By: freedomlover @ 02/14/2008 1:23:45 PM

    Please read "Whale Done" written by Ken Blanchard. The book is about positive reinforcement in all life situations. This is not directed to any one in particular, but to achieve positive results at home, work, social settings, rearing your children etc.

  • Posted By: tanvalen @ 02/14/2008 1:22:53 PM

    I am a man. So what animal am I: a whale, monkey, snake or dog?
    If I were a monkey, what would I do if I were trained to swim like a whale?
    If I were a dog, in Ceasar Millan's "The Dog Whisperer", it is the human who was being trained and dog being rehabilitated.
    I am utterly confused ........ From Jennie's point of view, this monkey is "not trainable" or from the lion's point of view, that was why I mauled Roy Horn of Siegfried and Roy -- bad joke I know : P

  • Posted By: freedomlover @ 02/14/2008 1:20:28 PM

    Read the book, "Whale Done" by Ken Blanchard. It is

  • Posted By: salaam1975 @ 02/14/2008 1:20:00 PM

    I never liked this idea of "training" a husband or a wife. We're not golden retrievers. It has a condescending tone. You can teach your woman or your man ways they can enhance your love for each other, that's cool!Now I know if we were to say we "train" our women by saying we "train" women on how to cook our food the way we want, stop nagging the us about simple things, we "train" women on how to give us oral pleasure, we're male chauvenist pigs. If women feel they can train men, don't complain about men training women.

  • Posted By: men are people too @ 02/14/2008 1:19:50 PM

    I agree with mjlasota HERE, HERE, bravo

  • Posted By: Anir @ 02/14/2008 1:17:35 PM

    Remember, dogs have keen sense, better than human beings.

    So your trained dog will definitely be able to differentiate between a dog trainer and a loving partner. Today's women are great dog trainers but not loving partners.

  • Posted By: boredatwork @ 02/14/2008 1:16:02 PM

    Um, phigmeta? You spelled sentence wrong.

  • Posted By: bjhool @ 02/14/2008 1:15:50 PM

    We have come so far to obtain equal rights for everyone and now you want to go and do the very thing women loathed back to men. Two wrongs do not make a right, we are equal partners in life so women unless you want to go back to the dark ages knock off your crap!!

  • Posted By: Lsking2 @ 02/14/2008 1:14:50 PM

    Wow, Phigmeta. For an "equal," you sure have bad grammar and a ridiculous outlook. It's interesting that you married a self-centered emotional child. Actually, it's interesting that anyone in their right mind would actually marry you. That in itself is a miricle. Guess you have HER trained, huh! Good boy...

  • Posted By: lifisgood @ 02/14/2008 1:14:15 PM

    People please....
    It's a title to attract female readers. The article does use men as the example but from the beginning of time, positive behavior has been rewarded and negative behavior ignored. Whether this is enforced towards a man, woman, child, cat, dog, rat, etc. Simply, we are human and understand if we do this, we are rewarded with that. There is no reason for any of us to frustrate the people we love on purpose. So, we tap into our innate senses. Weren't you all rewarded for going potty? Or, put in timeout for doing something considered wrong? Come on, just take it for what it is.

  • Posted By: Hired.Geek @ 02/14/2008 1:13:30 PM

    phigmeta, I think hits the nail on the head from a male perspective.

    This article really emphasizes the age old concept that Men get married because they are happy with what they have. Women enter marriage with the idea of changing their men, they almost look at us as fixer up homes. And if women truly want Marital bliss they should find a man that they are happy with as they are not what they think they can change us into.

  • Posted By: Hired.Geek @ 02/14/2008 1:12:39 PM

    phigmeta, I think hits the nail on the head from a male perspective.

    This article really emphasizes the age old concept that Men get married because they are happy with what they have. Women enter marriage with the idea of changing their men, they almost look at us as fixer up homes. And if women truly want Marital bliss they should find a man that they are happy with as they are not what they think they can change us into.

  • Posted By: Dave24yrsold @ 02/14/2008 1:12:11 PM

    lol love phigmeta's post right on!!

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