How to Train a Husband

Trust, is this a foreign word to Sutherland or the rest? When you "shamu" someone, doesn't that mean there is little or no trust/faith between you. I would rather someone tell me what is going on and work through the situation with me, not treat me like an animal with little or no cognitive abilities

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The problem is that she put this book with a flashy title that got people to look at it(controversy sells). Everyone knows positive reignforcement yields positive results. Not just shamu, the dog or the husband, but also the wife, when she asks you how something looks in a stupid it outfit you give her the "meh they all look good" but when she dresses in someting from victoria's secret your jaw drops for them, that's the same principle. After you two are intimate does he roll over and go to sleep? Does he turn on the tv? Or does he give you a back massage until you fall asleep, or take you out to a nice dinner after? Make you breakfast in the morning? Those are positive reignforcements that mean you did something right. Everyone does it, I think the book is just making some people pissy because it's relating men to animals, that's all men and women are anyway. Just my opinion though

Sounds like an article by a feminist, can't take life for what it is, have to change everything around her. I agree with luck22, lame, lame, lame, sounds like rants from an insecure woman who just can't take life as it is. get over it. your life may be happier if you didnt' try and change him. good men should unite and take back our manhood, and the pants in the house. i am not against feminism, i have respect for women, but I as well have respect for our male brotherhood. Sounds like a person who can't take life at face value.

rdotosta3 - please, don't take information you read so personal, it is not written for you specifically. This is an excellent article and i agree with drae133401, the same principle is true to teach children. Thanks Newsweek!!

i treat my man with alot of respect but you men should know how to do it

Typical women always trying to change men. Her husband is probably metrosexual and their kids wil grow up confused and need psychiatry. This book is precisely what is wrong with our country. It took women how many years of de-sexualizing men, now men are getting mani-pedi's for crying out loud. This type of crap is what leads to holding back the truth, fighting and eventually divorce. Lame idea, lame book, Lame author. Lame all around

The hardest part of training a dog or any animal is to train yourself to respond or not respond in a way that will enjourage the desired behavior. What Sutherland had described is self training to encourage a better relationship with another human. So who is really being trained? Don't be offended gentlemen if the females around you are willing to develop the people skills and train themselfs to use them in order to get along better with you. You should be really flattered at the effort we will go to, in order to get along with you. Is it dog traning, Shamu training, or better skills in human relationships? Personally I love it!

How about Treat your man with respect and he'll reciprocate. If he doesn't, than he's not worth having around anyway.

There are people who also train their dogs with shock collars - would this be a better method for a man? Don't be so offended by rewards being encouraged.

well if men would know how to act they would not have to publish this stuff men think it is always a womans job to do everything. even though we work and they stay home all day and do nothing we still have to come home and take care of the stuff in the house but guess what it takes two so deal with it

Oh, relax. This was obviously meant to be a lighthearted male version of Taming of the Shrew, as below...not all of us women are so manipulative in reality! I, for one, have pretty open exchange with my husband about expectations in our marriage and I make my gripes quite clear to him without beating around the bush. However, I can certainly see where, in relationships, principles of Psych 101 (i.e., positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, ignoring behaviors) can work for all, more indirectly. Whether one uses these in conjunction with direct 'training' is your own perogative...

How about treat you r man with respect and he'll do the same for you. If he doesn't than he's not worth having around anyway.

The hardest part of training a dog or any animal is to train yourself to respond or not respond in a way that will enjourage the desired behavior. What Sutherland had described is self training to encourage a better relationship with another human. So who is really being trained? Don't be offended gentlemen if the females around you are willing to develop the people skills and train themselfs to use them in order to get along better with you. You should be really flattered at the effort we will go to, in order to get along with you. Is it dog traning, Shamu training, or human relationship skills?

I never have to ask my husband to take out the trash- right from the start, I would give him a big smooch and a hug every time he did it! You should see what he gets when he cooks dinner...

I guess in a Utopia world nobody would have a hidden agenda about how to make their significant other easier to deal with. Everything would be equal and you wouldn't have to remind them that's it's Valentines'Day. But we are talking real life here. When arguing and criticizing doesn't work, some of this stuff does. I am the Queen Bee is a household full of Men ( Husband & 2 sons) and if they had it their way I would be their indentured servant. But I ain't goin out like that. As the Queen-in-charge of the household things work like a well oiled cog when you dole out compliments and favorite meals to get them to see things your way.

All girls must read: "Why men love ***" by Sherry Argov. A lot of good trainning tips there...:)) And men really love *** but don't know about it....

This is halarious... unfortunately, this retarted and unintelligent woman will make a good amount off of that book. I hope she gets sued. I just can't believe what I'm reading; whoever wrote that book is retarted. For example... if she wrote that it could go both ways, to improve a marriage... then that is one thing. I used to be a youth counselor....and what she is talking about is one way that people train their dogs. We used the same techniques to help the kids behvaior, and train them in a way to fit society and learn how to be able to interact with others. Unfortunately, there are men out there that this would work on. But... sad to say... 8 out of 10 men will probably catch on... because you're dealing with humans... not animals. I can't stand people who think they're intelligent because they stole somebody else's idea, and because they themselves are so intelligent, they are trying to get rich off of it. What a joke.

All girls must read: "Why men love bitches" by Sherry Argov. A lot of good trainning tips there...:)) And men really love bitches but don't know about it....