How to Train a Husband

WOW, If I wrote a book on that advocated training women like animals I'd have the National Organization for Woman picketing me. You can't say anything wrong of women but men are the constant buffoons. Watch any sitcom. and dont think she really advocates this for both genders.

Loved the comment from Tiwoods. Can't tell you how may of my male friends say the same thing; soon after the wedding ceremony, the wife starts the maniupulation game. We decided that woman keep a secret list of all the things that annoy with the thought in mind they will eliminate the beastly habits and, thereby, have the perfect pet around the house. It doesn't work; the man figures it out; the relationship ends.

Hi Amy, If you want to live with your husband and pretend he is a dog that's up to you. However, this leads me to think perhaps you may have a beastiality issue? I for one would like help finding my keys and would hope my husband would help me find them. (Unless I won't help him...) I feel you'r e removing the partnership aspects of the marriage and the true concept of being in a relationship. Ever thought about talking to your husband and politely saying, "honey, I need some room to get dinner ready?" Instead of "C'mon boy! (whistle) "here's the salsa, go get it!" This is too weird for me.

Thanks for the enlightening viewpoint you share of your husband. I found it intriguing and may try some of those simple tactics on my wife. After all what's good for the goose must be good for the gander. I personally think you would be much more effectively recieved if you didn't use the Man as the only problem in a marriage. Although good advice; it would work better if you treated us as equals and not Pets. I personally don't wear a leash and won't be waylaid by such mental trickery. I Love My Wife and we have been married for a long time but she has her quirks and I have mine! Acceptance and reasonable discussion seem to be an effective tool for us when there is something amiss! Besides I like Milkbonnes and she doesn't!

Training-- that would make for a "Pavlovian" response!!!! But seriously, the concept of "training" your partner, husband or wife, simply results in the enabling of dysfunctional passivity if you yourself are not emotionally centered, or have a reactionary and hysterical personality -- as most women do. Emasculation of husbands results in objectification of wives...and women in general.

Shame on Newsweek for this approach and shame on the auther. Does anyone give a damn about the collective effect this kind of male bashing is having on our young boy sin particular? Is that what is most important, getting your own way all the time?
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This book is just great...<sarcasim, meter just blew up>

My guess is my ex-wife must have been Amy Sutherlands tecnical advisor when she wrote this book, this is why I call her my ex-wife. Treating anyone like you do a dog does not make for a healthy relationship for very long.

After the divorce 15 years ago, I started dating again, about the time "The Rules" book was published giving advise on how the get a man to marry you within a year through manipulation. After figuring out how to spot those women who followed the stupidity that book and dealing with them <just told them to get some professional help and left>, I finally meet a woman that regards our relationship as equals and communicates as such, as I do likewise.

I have called this woman my wife for the last 10 years and at 51 & 53 years old, we still hold hands while walking down a side walk and dance in the living room to our music.

Obviously these people are not psychology majors. The title "How to Train a Husband" is wholly misleading. I am glad the article at least touched on Skinner's work, but to paint behavior modification as a one-sided tool for husbands is ridiculous. The tactics outlined in this article--and I presume the books mentioned--are not anything surprising. To psychologists, they even approach banal. Are people really this ignorant? Positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, etc., these are old news! Useful, but still nothing noteworthy. All I can say is that making books about this is like Disney coming out with their Xth edition of Sleeping Beauty--same old story with perhaps one more added "special feature."
Amy Sutherland spent a year at an animal trainer school to learn about this stuff....she should have ditched Shamu and sat a week in a freshman psychology class. Gimme' a break!

Wommin training men? Where will it all end? Pretty soon women will want the vote, and drivers licences.
I think I'll go back to the gameroom and have my honet bring me another beer.

This book is just great...<sarcasim, meter just blew up>

My guess is my ex-wife must have been Amy Sutherlands tecnical advisor when she wrote this book, this is why I call her my ex-wife. Treating anyone like you do a dog does not make for a healthy relationship for very long.

After the divorce 15 years ago, I started dating again, about the time "The Rules" book was published giving advise on how the get a man to marry you within a year through manipulation. After figuring out how to spot those women who followed the stupidity that book and dealing with them <just told them to get some professional help and left>, I finally meet a woman that regards our relationship as equals and communicates as such, as I do likewise.

I have called this woman my wife for the last 10 years and at 51 & 53 years old, we still hold hands while walking down a side walk and dance in the living room to our music.

Ah, yes, and for your next book, copy the text word for word and rename it, "How to turn your husband into Scott Peterson". There are a lot of men out there that if you try to "Shamu", they'll divorce you and/or shoot you in the face. "S and M" isn't exactly a new concept either, I can guarantee if you ask any successful woman how she got to where she did, and she were to answer honestly, she would say "Seduction and manipulation". I don't necessarily have a problem being seduced, but I can tell when I am being manipulated and it will produce the opposite of the desired effect.

Aside from the fact that thinking you can train anyone is just weird (and wrong) there is one main point I would like to draw attention to that I think many women (and men) should pay attention to. praise for doing someting right. How many of us tend to take our loved ones for granted and forget to say the thank yous and pleases. I also like the part about ignoring the negatives and not taking it personally. Come on isn't this all kind of sounding like the workings of a strong relationship. Training is the wrong word. This doesn't sound like training. these are the basic prenciples that both men and women should be applying to their relationships anyways.

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