Valentine’s Day and Porn

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  • Posted By: EE7011 @ 02/13/2008 4:48:01 PM

    I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who were told by their significant other that "they loved them" while having sex, only to find out their significant other was having an affair or fooling around with somebody else. So did their significant other really love them? Point being Mr. Gellman, you may love your partner, but that doesn't mean they really love you too. Loving someone isn't enough, there has to be trust involved and the two don't always go hand in hand either.

  • Posted By: jondoe888 @ 02/13/2008 1:31:41 PM

    I was a male child of the 60's. In bands, often very popular, sleeping with the women who wanted to be with you because you were a fun and engaging guy. Eventually, it all left me depressed!
    My son???s stories of sex in the 90's was an eye opener. The young ages, the drinking, the utter randomness... (I can't explain how I thought my time was more organized)
    A few years ago I read the first chapter of a book called 'girls gone mild' and was revolted with the current 'dating' scene. OK, I'm older now, and my views have changed, but the drinking/sex scene in collage was hard to fathom. How were women putting up with this system of anonymous (or blackout) sex? How were guys getting away with it??? It is just like the 'don't snitch' movement in black neighborhoods - designed by the baser elements against the societal good.

  • Posted By: zaftig amazon @ 02/13/2008 11:22:20 AM

    Hypersexualization and casual sex may be hiding another taboo in our society: aging and dying.

  • Posted By: zaftig amazon @ 02/13/2008 11:20:02 AM

    Porn addictions and hypersexualization in our society may be more than scratching an itch or being on the cutting edge. Obsession with sex and pushing sexual boundaries may be due as much to a fear of dying (according to Rollo May). In our society, aging and dying is the ultimate taboo.

  • Posted By: C. MacLean @ 02/13/2008 9:58:03 AM

    This is a little simplistic. Porn is clearly not harmless, but sexual addiction is not limited only to people who are compelled to view porn. Plenty of women have sexual addictions, and have never viewed a piece of porn in their lives - pornography is a visual medium, and is rooted in essentially male sexuality with it's need for visual stimulation.

    As a counselor who treats addiction - obsessive thoughts of use, compulsive behaviors surrounding a substance or action in even in the face of negative consequences, and denial that there is a problem - porn is only a small component of a much larger problem; a spiritual malaise that has been endemic in the American psyche for generations.

    Each generation has manifested it differently - alcohol for the first 100+ years, then drugs in the 60's and 70's, stock market gambling in the 80's, overeating in the 90's, and now internet addictions. All of it designed to fill a spiritual hole that isn't fillable with material things or compulsive behaviors.

    To just talk about men and women only having sex with those they love doesn't begin to address the larger issues. (Not to mention that not all men love women - some love men, etc.)

  • Posted By: Chaotician @ 02/12/2008 9:33:03 PM

    I'd rather you railed against the porn of the Jewish actions in Palestine! I believe this might actually lead to an outbreak of peace, the removal of the American Fascists, and a serious reduction in the growing antipathy to Jews in general and Zionists in particular!

    • Posted By: mike1964 @ 02/13/2008 7:29:40 AM

      I think you missed the point of the article.

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