The Incredible Shrinking Bride

This is all normal Bride behavior. You have to have been a bride to understand it. It all goes away (sort off) after the nuptials.

Wow. I totally agree with mkogun on this one. What is beautiful? A quick trip to "dictionary.com" answered that question. According to that site, beauty is "wonderful; very pleasing or satisfying. Wonderful; fantastic: extraordinary; incredible." if that's the case, then aren't we ALL beautiful, in a sense? The word "beautiful" is an opinion term, much like "hot" and "cold" or even "sexy" and "good-looking". No matter what the situation, people should not go to extremes that push anorexia and bulimia. Having been anorexic before, I can tell you one thing: it's not worth it. If you're sick with an eating disorder on your wedding day, or even underweight to unhealthy measures, then your wedding is anything but perfect.

Wow. I totally agree with mkogun on this one. What is beautiful? A quick trip to "dictionary.com" answered that question. According to that site, beauty is "wonderful; very pleasing or satisfying. Wonderful; fantastic: extraordinary; incredible." if that's the case, then aren't we ALL beautiful, in a sense? The word "beautiful" is an opinion term, much like "hot" and "cold" or even "sexy" and "good-looking". No matter what the situation, people should not go to extremes that push anorexia and bulimia. Having been anorexic before, I can tell you one thing: it's not worth it. If you're sick with an eating disorder on your wedding day, or even underweight to unhealthy measures, then your wedding is anything but perfect.

wut is beautiful anyways? does it mean one isn't beautiful if they aren't a size 5 and sucked up... beauty is in the eye of the beholder ... Ask a group of men wut beautiful is in a woman and 90 percent of them will say beauty lies within no matter how u look on the out side... society has poisened our way of thinking when it comes to wut is beautiful and wut is not , it just ludicriss people need to start seeing with there hearts and not there eyes...

Wuts a peice of paper anyways, i mean really my (spouse ) and i have been tgether for going on13 years ... and we have no paper to say it, nor di we do a geat big wedding in a church, and who says u have to be skinny to be beautiful... You can be full figured and still be beautiful i just dun understand some of the ways people think these days honestly ask most men these days and they would say a fuller woman is much more attractive than a skinny sukked up woman any day... It;s all preffrence i guess but society has poisoned everyones way of thinking on wut is beautiful and wut isn't now days... its crazy!!! : /

Oh my god, that's why most of the marriages nowdays ended in divorce, they focus in banal things such as dress that you're never gonna wear again. I'm not saying that girls shouldn't look beautiful on their wedding days, after all, we're girls, we always wanna look beautiful but man killing yourself trying ..that's stupid!.In my country the bride's father pay for everything, i was the youngest and my father wanted to give me a big great wedding but i told him that i didnt need a big party and that i wasn't gonna let him spent his saving on that, instead he could help us out with the down payment for our first house, and that is what he did. The party all planned, decorated, catering by my sisters, ( i have 6) was perfect, beautiful and we loved it. I wasn't into "lose-20lbs-perfect dress-perfect cake-acne free-kind of thing, to me the idea of getting married was the thing that kept me awake all night, is this the right thing to do? am i too young? ( i was 18) should we wait a little more? is this for he for real or is he going to change after all this? and the pressure of everybody saying that i was probably pregnant or that we were not going to last a year and so many things , and i'm being honest, i love my husband but thinking on spending you life together with a person you just meet last year is something that you should think HARD and that was what gave a big Pimple in my cheek that day !agrr...the party was a celebration for me and my husband and my family, the union of two families, a kind of saying good byes to all our friends and family because we were going to live in another city , we had fun and everyone else did too. Now, 11 years ago , I looked at our wedding photos, even the one with the damn shiny red pimple,and I just said what a great day! We have two beautiful angels, one 7 the other one 9 months, we have a great family , great house house, and great things that we achieve together, we are not perfect but nobody is, and everytime we go back to our country we celebrate our aniversary with all our friends and family mainly because is close to christmas but the real reason is to show them that is posible,..you know, "we're still together after 11 years SUCKERS" kind of thing..

There is nothing wrong with teeth whitening and facials before your big day. However a red flag should be thrown when you are vomiting, going on insane diets, or taking laxatives to lose the weight. I'm getting married this June and when I tried on my dress in September, a size 8 fit me perfectly. At the time I was 158 pounds and I'm 5'3". I wanted a little cusion so what did I do? The right thing.... I stopped buying and eating the tons of Doritos, Oreos, and stopped drinking insane amounts of Coca-Cola. I replaced that with water, water, water, and more water, fruit, and healthy snacks. I stopped eating out of boredom and I picked up on exercise. Nothing big, just taking a 15 minute walk everyday. I still eat what I want to for the most part, I just eat slower and take smaller portions. I've lost 12 pounds since then and those are very small changes. I'm perfectly happy with where I am and I'm seeing a little more muscle too!!

By the way I'm also a registered nurse and have never heard of a BMI of 20 being "adult failure to thrive". Normal BMI is 18.5-24.9-- just as children, adults can be naturally petite too. It's not like she went from a BMI of 24 to a BMI of 20. However I'm not a hospice nurse, so that may be the protocol for that area of patient care.

There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself with facials and teeth whitening for you big day. However a red flag should be thrown if you are going so far as to vomit, go on insane diets (or not eat at all), and take laxatives to lose the weight. I'm getting married June of this year and my size 8 dress fit perfectly the day I picked it out. At that time, I was a 158 pounds and I'm 5'3". I wanted a little cushion room, so what did I do? The right thing...I stopped buying (and eating) Doritos, oreos and Coca-Colas and things of that sort. Replaced it with water, water, water, more water, fruit, and similar healthy snacks. I'm a HUGE snacker. I still eat mostly what I want to, but I eat much slower and in smaller portions. I don't eat out of boredom. I also picked up the exercise. You don't have to do hour long aerobics, do something simple like take a 15 minute walk everyday. Since September I've lost 12 pounds and am seeing a little muscle now! Those were VERY small changes, I'm sure if I had REALLY gotten into it, I'd be rail thin (not that I want to be). I'm very happy with where I am now, but even AFTER the wedding I'm going to continue my regimen. It's just sad that society puts so much pressure on women to be forever young and "beautifully thin". I got curves and LOVE them!

I'm also a registered nurse and I've NEVER heard of a BMI of 20 considered "adult failure to thrive". Normal BMI is 18.5-24.9.... just as children, adults can be naturally petite too. It's not like she went FROM a BMI of 24 to a BMI of 20. However I'm not a hospice nurse and that may just be the protocol of that area of patient care.

I had the big perfect wedding. I wore the perfect dress, had my hair and nails done. Showed off the perfect tan. What would I change? EVERYTHING except the groom! After 21 years of marriage, I only remember those people attending my wedding that were important to me and meant the world to me. I don't remember this distant cousin or that one. Keep your wedding intimate and managable because the day goes by too quickly to even bother getting that stressed out about it. Focus on your husband-to-be, your honeymoon and building your life together. The people who attend your wedding are only going to talk about how beautiful you look until the next wedding they attend anyway. So be happy with yourself and focus on you and your groom!

I had the big wedding. The dress was perfect, hair done, nails done, the perfect cake, tons of people. What would I change? Everything but the groom! I'd keep him and ditch everyone and everything else. Weddings have become way too much of a production. My advice to people getting married - keep it small and intimate. Invite only those people who are close to you and mean everything to you. Trust me, after 21 years of marriage, you will only remember those people who mean the world to you as being at your wedding. The others fade away. Keep it small and manageable as the day goes by too quickly. You will be the "perfect" bridge no matter what happens around you. Focus on the honeymoon and your life together.

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A wedding is only the ceremony signifying that a man and woman have pledged to spend their lives together. The marriage begins on the honeymoon. Instead of spending thousands on a wedding, which is fun but not crucial, spend time and money planning a great honeymoon that will set you up for a lifetime of fond memories. My husband and I were married in my sister's living room with 20 guests present; my dress was $80 from an after prom sale rack, a neighbor baked our wedding cake and my mother and I prepared food for a buffet dinner. I was a nervous wreck, enjoyed the day for the most part but felt relieved when it was over. Our honeymoon was FABULOUS! We spent ten days in London, enjoyed every minute of it, wallowed in each other's company, walked all over the city (because we were not exhausted from a blow out wedding!) and came home happy, refreshed, feeling married and ready to return to the real world of jobs, bills and car tune-ups. My beloved husband has passed on after 17 very happy years together, and those bright honeymoon memories are more precious to me than ever -- I am so glad we had that wonderful start to our marriage.

Just seems like one more reason not to get married.

Just one more reason to not want to get married.

I can relate to this article and I can kind of understand why brides are wanting to loose weight so fast.... I just got married in October; I basically had 5 months to plan my wedding (we were engaged at the end of May) and things were SO hectic with planning everything I didn't even really think about my looks or weight until about a month or so before the wedding so once I did it was like "Oh no.... I only have this much time....!" It ended up being where I lost 7lbs. any way just because all the stress....! It was very unhealthy and now that I look at the pics I notice in some of them that I have a lolly pop shape body (where my head is bigger than the rest of my body). I have to admit though at the time.... I felt good about myself and especially being only 18 and having the pressure of what my friends thought of my looks and all.... I think if it happened all over again there would be nothing I'd change just because the pressure and stress; something you feel like you can't really help.

This is true and awesome. Wish all women could read this. I can't wait for my wedding date and will look as pretty as I can be in my beautiful and modest wedding dress. I picked modest from the book Secret Keepers; MODESTY DRIVES A MAN WILD!!!!

Your wedding is not about your vows. Its a celebration of you two with the rest of your family. Your vows are done when he proposed to you, when you said yes. The vows are done when you have showed him your love, your respect and the day that he decided to spend the rest of his life with you. I'm not saying to go crazy on spending because very good many of you here have spend less than $10,000 for your weddings. I'm saying that i disagree with few comments here. My wedding day is ONLY MINE and that day i will be THE PRINCESS because my husband to be and my-self are celebrating the day when we become one.

There is nothing wrong on wanting to look good on your wedding day. The problem is to be sure that is what you want and keep it as a goal, not as an obsession. The person that proposed to you the way you are today will love you just like that in the days to come as well. I read some of the comments and i didn't like the fact that few people here made offensive comments about girls that try to change their life by wanting to change and look different. Be realistic not haters. Educate yourself, stop being ignorant. There is nothing wrong on trying to change. Taking care of your-self is very important. The question is: Are you doing it because it makes you feel better or because of the pressure that people put in you?