The Incredible Shrinking Bride

And meanwhile the men are just scratching their heads wondering what happened to that wonderful girl they asked to marry them. . . .

the reason that all women just get posessed by threir weddings is thats probably the last time their gonna have to look good so they just obsess to no end . by the way ive been in 2 of my own weddings.its is also the most photographed event in their life, go figure on the obsessing. and then theres the old question and answer, why do women where makeup and perfume? because their ugly and they stink. haha

I think women are way too obsessed with their wedding plans and even more so how they look....they should realize that the guys proposed to them cuz they loved them and thought they were perfect in the first place. isnt that all that really matters? even if the colour of the dress is blue and the cake didnt appear on the wedding day ...the point is that ur tying a bond for the rest of ur life. i think girls are way too carried away with the "fairytale" story. they believe that they get married and live happily ever after. nothing's a fairytale and happily ever afters comes with hard work and starting a marriage being unhealthy will only frustrate the woman and frustrate the man....it will definitely create problems. i think a man will believe their woman is more sexy and attractive if they resisted all the crappy wedding day plans...if they paid more attention to him during the planning of a wedding...giving it the chance to get closer...remember the sabrina teenage witch show where cinderella said that all that mattered was the wedding n the dress and the bride is in control...well thats CRAP...a wedding is about two ppl not one...and women should realize that. and the celebrity red carpet nonsense....women should open their eyes and realize celebrity marriages dont last long...do they wish their marriage to do b like that....?????? come on....the wedding is important, we must enjoy it....but does it make any sense planning something that only makes us overly self concious and frustrated?....he definitely doesnt care about size 0, he cares abt wats in ur heart...n women should wake up to that....

Im getting married next year... and yes, I'd love to look my best.... but moreover I'd love to feel right about my commitment , and that I can make him happy... and also be sure that I want to stay with my man for rest of my life. That's more important to me than the wedding dress and all that stuff... Secondly, I can understand why women want to look great.. I always had a problem with being too skinny and I'm trying to put on weight...but it's hard (I suppose it's genetic as my mum is also slim....). I like my body but it's hard to hear people saying that you don't look perfect. I blame the society who dictates the 'perfect beauty'! No one is perfect.. Cause everyone is UNIQUE. We have been exposed to these perfect pictures of beautiful people...and forgetting about real values of human beings.. You're crazy women thinking that you need to be slim...Why? because that's the trend? What's wrong with being a bit chunky???? It looks so natural and sexy! If you feel FIT why does SIZE matter? We dont have to look all like models on our wedding day. Remember the main reason WHY you are getting married.. and all this crazy stuff wont matter anymore...And finally, a test for you: What would you like to hear on your wedding day : "Look what a BEAUTIFUL couple!" or "Look what a HAPPY couple!"

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That weddings are an "industry" is a testimony to what utter uslessness they represent. It's like a prom for grownups, with a much higher pricetag and greater tedium. A marriage is a level of commitment. It seems that the standard for marriage has become: three month salary engagement for the bride and a $20,000 to several hundred thousand dollars of expenses for a single day, that is representative of the foundation of the marriage. When money and status represtentations are the foundation for a marriage, it is no wonder most of them end in divorce. For the right person, exchanging twist ties and a sincere level of commitment should be more than enough for the foundation on which to build the rest of your lives together. Not a costly dog and pony show. I've never had a wedding, nor will I ever. However, though I've never married, I would gladly do that with the right man. I just don't have any desire to muck it up with extended family and God. Making that level of commitment is between me and my man . . . not my family, not my God, not my friends. It's none of any of their business. Just between me and my man.

this article is a joke---i think that anyone who will give up who they are to look like someone they arent on their wedding day is just a lost cause

well its her problem to giving in to all that need to look like a star on your wedding day---she said she thought she wasnt going to do some of those crazy things but she did them anywayz---she had problems to begin with. Im getting married soon and i do want to look amazing but im not about to turn into a person that im not--and that need to spend over 30,000$ for a wedding is just ******* stupid!--get a life people! if you can afford a wedding like that and not go into debt then good for you go for it! but half of the couples now spend the rest of their lives paying off the wedding! i plan on spending no more than 700$ on my dress! expensive doesnt mean better quality. I think this article is stupid and just showing other brides that its the norm. Of course im going to get my hair done--mybe get some facils and whiten my teeth but thats because i want too! for me---and well i need to go it anywayz so y not do it then. If your husband cant see that your beautiful on your wedding day in a cheaper dress and having a few pounds then hes obviously not the one for you!

I find it interesting that people go to such lengths and costs are often resistant to a few short visits with a pastor before the event. They are occasionally treated like another accessory, preferably inexpensive and generally unnecessary and inconvenient afterward. And amid all this extreme expense they are often compensated no more than a couple tanks of gas.
Yes, I am the other man up front with the bride. I am the pastor and I do wonder about their future together. I truly do want to see some value for the investment of both their time and mine in this event. How about occasionally coming to church afterward, not only to keep in touch but to work on that "happily ever after"?

What ever happened to liking yourself the way you are? In this day and age, i guess it is not true love when you marry.
except yourself the way you are then you will not end up sick and with health problems. Yes not eating correctly is just as bad for you as being over weight..
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I find it interesting that people go to such lengths and costs are often resistant to a few short visits with a pastor before the event. I often feel I am another accessory, preferably inexpensive and generally unwelcome after doing my part. Desired before the wedding, but generally unnecessary and inconvenient afterward. And compensated? Often no more than a couple tanks of gas.
Yes, I am the other guy who stands up front with the couple - the pastor. The gig is at my place.

The whole wedding industry from perfect brides, to the ultimate in receptions is completely over the top. It's all about putting on a show. People even hire wedding planners to "direct their shows" because they are so over the top complex! As little girls we dreamed of fairy tales, but it's time to grow up. Your fairy tale wedding has a 50% chance of not having a happy ending so why go through all the pressue and cost. If you really have a love that will last, you will be the perfect bride day after day, and year after for the person that matters the most, your husband.....he'll love you when you are fat, old, and wrinkled....don't waste the time, money or effort....it's one 24 hour period that will pass just like every other 24 hour period.

As one who is getting married in 8 days, I totally relate to this article. I am not a young bride. I'm 46 and this is my second marriage but my first wedding. I wanted to have a "real" wedding this time and I want to look great on the day of my wedding. I purchased my dress more than 6 months ago. It fit perfectly at the time, but I tried it on about 8 weeks ago and discovered it was a little tight. I usually eat very healthy and exercise regularly but with a busy nursing schedule and 12 hour shifts at the hospital it is very difficult to maintain that lifestyle. I decided I could tighten up my diet a little and exercise a little more with a goal of losing 1 pound per week. Well, I've only lost 4 pounds and every day I obsess about my dress and how its going to look and if its going to fit right. In fact, I have been losing sleep over it. Yesterday I woke up at 3:00 am and by 4:00 am I decided I had to get up and try on the darn thing! Yes, it fits but there is still the stress of the next week to come and the temptation to restrict my food intake and increase my exercise even further.
By the way, Cybertine, I disagree with your comment. It has nothing to do with ego. It is insecurity. You are right in that a wedding should be about the desire to spend the rest of your life with the one you are so hopelessly in love with, but there is the constant bombardment by advertisers, Hollywood and today's society that equates thinness and youth with beauty. Every bride wants to be beautiful when all eyes are on her as she walks down the aisle and stands at the alter with her groom.

Well, as one who is getting married in 8 days I can totally relate to this article. I bought my wedding dress more than 6 months ago at which time it fit absolutely perfectly. I try to eat healthy most of the time and exercise regularly, but with my busy nursing schedule and long shifts it has been really difficult. I tried my dress on a couple of months ago and it was a little tight and so the panic set in. I was determined to lose at least a pound per week for a total of 8 pounds. I became more regimented with my diet and exercise but only netted a 4 pound weight loss. I have dreams/nightmares about my dress and frequently wake up hours before my alarm in the morning. Yesterday I got up at 3:30 am and tried on the dress...Yes, it fits but I have 8 days to go and more stress everyday for things to be perfect. It's a lot of pressure knowing that all eyes will be on me on my wedding day. I'm not a young bride (I'm 46). So you see, even the more mature can become obsessed with their appearance on their wedding day.
Hey Cybertine! I disagree with your comment about it being an egotistic attitude. It's more of a feeling of insecurity and the emphasis on "thinness" and its relationship to beauty in today's society.

I'm glad I eloped!