The Curious Lives of Surrogates

What an uninspired article. You have completely missed the beautiful joy that surrogacy can be.

sorry for the multiple posts but it kept telling me it couldn't add my comment so I kept clicking. oops!

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

And let me add, I am offended by your insinuation that I am not a "stable" candidate and that I need psychological counseling. However syrupy you make yourself sound, you are still insulting me. The fact is this child is my child biologically and spiritually, no contract will change that nor will anyone's biased opinions. I suspect your opinion comes from the idea that you need to choose a side in this surrogacy battle but let me tell you it is not so black and white. There are many IP's that choose to have continued contact with their surrogate and you had a poll, many surrogates woulsd not even agree to work with a couple that wanted no contact afterwords. People deceive eachother all the time and it is never ok. It is never ok to lie to an unexpecting person especially when it comes to something as lifechanging as creating a child. I wonder, would you be telling the birthmother of a child put up for adoption that it was not her child? What is the difference? A country where you do not have the right to change your mind would not be a free country. No other mother in this nation is without the inherent right to raise her child if she chooses to do so.

It gets very tiring always seeing articles in your magazine regarding sensitive issues pertaining to women. The way the articles are presented are always negative and distorted. The way the articles are written is as if it is all fact and in reality it is very off base.


Newsweek writes these articles like women are doing something wrong or are a walking disease. It seems like the writers are a bunch of insensitive men who have nothing better to do than find some controversial issues pertaining to women and then to exaggerate it. The writers are very sexist and discriminating.

This is exactly why I did not renew my subscription to Newsweek and never will again.

Wombs to rent 50 cents, no phone, some food, no pets, she wont smoke no cigarettes and then 2 hours of pushing brings, a new 7 pound human being.

"I was told by multiple people???congressional staff, doctors and even ordinary taxpayers???that they overheard conversations of women bragging about how easy it was to use Tricare coverage to finance surrogacy and delivery costs and make money on the side," says Navy Capt. Patricia Buss, who recently left the Defense Department and now holds a senior position with Health Net Federal Services."
I find it surprising and disappointing that a supposed respectable publication like Newsweek would publish such blatant hearsay without checking their facts. I'm genuinely offended on behalf of military wives and legitimate journalists. Before you decide to report anymore information on the subject perhaps you should do some fact checking first. I'd like to see the proof backing up that statement. Or at the very least, hear that information from someone who has actually heard the women say that, not from some secondhand source like a game of telephone.

I lost my daughter at 38w5d of pregnancy in 2004 due to a blood clot in the umbilical cord. After multiple failed IUI's and IVF's, I researched an explored the idea of surrogocy. My doctors recommended I not try to carry my own child again due to the high risk factors it carried to both myself and baby. I do have a six-year-old son, and I cannot imagine my life without him. All I can say is that women who willingly sacrifice their bodies so that others can be parents should be commended. Fortunately, after several years of trying I was able to conceive with PGD/ICSI/IVF. After my journey, I WISH I had the ability to bring the joy of parenting to those who cannot achieve that goal on their own. I love all of my children, alive or not. I understand it is a business transaction and the surrogate SHOULD BE paid, but the satisfaction and joy of giving someone something they otherwise would not have should be the surrogate's primary motivation- and I believe that is how most surrogates feel. (But as I said, they deserve to & SHOULD BE paid- and well!) As far as the government insurance (Tricare) is concerned- HECK YES utilize those benefits. Our military makes little enough money already and if the wives of those men RISKING THIER LIVES to fight for our right to complain about this want to help out another couple, feel good about what they are doing, and make some extra money by doing so- I say GO FOR IT. I'll gladly continue to pay my taxes. These women do without the "normal" family life enough- most of them wake up every day wondering if they're going to become a widow. Just my two cents.