The Curious Lives of Surrogates

I think it is a miracle for a woman who had hysterectomy to have a baby. I think it is very sweet thing that another woman will carry him for her... I think it is more cruel that some women give their own babies for adoption, yet society accpet that... also I think the process of pregnancy worth much more than 25000$...
and who will do it for free unless it is for your own sister.... I accept the idea.. though I'm christian..I don't see a sin in that... there is no adultry.. and if some women need money, it is better than prostitution.. not that I am comparing the tow.. finally, congratulations to those couple. I can't imagin life without kids.

I think it is a miracle for a woman who had hysterectomy to have a baby. I think it is very sweet thing that another woman will carry him for her... I think it is more cruel that some women give their own babies for adoption, yet society accpet that... also I think the process of pregnancy worth much more than 25000$...
and who will do it for free unless it is for your own sister.... I accept the idea.. though I'm christian..I don't see a sin in that... there is no adultry.. and if some women need money, it is better than prostitution.. not that I am comparing the tow.. finally, congratulations to those couple. I can't imagin life without kids.

THE MILITARY DOES NOT PAY FOR SURROGATES. WHY DO YOU THINK THIS?? ITS TRUE WE HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE, BUT WE PAY OUR PREMIUMS SAME AS ANYBODY ELSE. THERE IS NO CLAUSE THAT PAYS FOR SURROGACY. We are paying for our own.

THE MILITARY DOES NOT PAY FOR SURROGATES. WHY DO YOU THINK THIS?? ITS TRUE WE HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE, BUT WE PAY OUR PREMIUMS SAME AS ANYBODY ELSE. THERE IS NO CLAUSE THAT PAYS FOR SURROGACY. We are paying for our own.

It's kinda sad, in a way, how many of those protesting in this response column are mentioning 'adoption' as the better option. Has it not crossed ANYONE'S mind that these people have been down the long, painful road of adoption, as well as natural childbirth? Or are we simply being reactionary here? I know this is gonna sound odd, but frankly I'd never even heard about surrogacy until "Friends". That season, while meant to put a funny angle on the whole process, was a real eye opener, and only prompted me to look more deeply into the whole issue. While it's easy to be reactionary and say something to the effect of "oh that's bad" or "why didn't you do such and such", for the most part, the people that have taken this less traveled path have tried the overly trodden ones already.

wow.. it is still your child even though someone else gave birth. think about it.. it was the original 2 parents that MADE the child... i have always wanted a lot of children and i know personally i would die if a doctor told me that my body was not made to have children yet this could be a working option. of course i would look into adoption and i do not know all of the facts about either. but i would consider this option

There are many women who would never get to have a child if it weren't for surrogate mothers. Not to mention that surrogate mothers to it willingly and happily! Many couples pay the same amount to adopt children as they do for surrogates. These couples are looking at the bottom line and asking themselves, "Do I pay for this woman's medical expenses and pay to adopt this child, or pay this other womans' medical expenses and pay to have a child that is mine not just through love, but biology as well?" Tell me, which would you choose?

(QUOTE: you kno wat i think that its just plain wrong to pay another person to have a baby for you..do u kno wat that person goes through..and for wat....moments after birth you take that baby..and u kno wat if that bay finds out the ral story o boy ur in big trouble....n y not adopt..maybe its just not meant to be for u...to have ur own genetic kids but theres always another way END QUOTE) In EVERY case, all parties involved know that the baby will be going home with the Intended Parents after the baby is born, not the Surrogate. Men are paid for their sperm and women are paid for their eggs, it this also wrong? These questions are most certainly 'hot topics', right up there with abortion and capital punishment, in some circles. Frankly, if all the parties in question are willing and able to go through the process, I don't see how it is, or should be, anybody's business other than the parties involved. Please try to educate yourself on this topic before you make an uninformed response. Not doing so only shows a dangerous, willful ignorance in the end.

(QUOTE: you kno wat i think that its just plain wrong to pay another person to have a baby for you..do u kno wat that person goes through..and for wat....moments after birth you take that baby..and u kno wat if that bay finds out the ral story o boy ur in big trouble....n y not adopt..maybe its just not meant to be for u...to have ur own genetic kids but theres always another way END QUOTE) In EVERY case, all parties involved know that the baby will be going home with the Intended Parents after the baby is born, not the Surrogate. Men are paid for their sperm and women are paid for their eggs, it this also wrong? These questions are most certainly 'hot topics', right up there with abortion and capital punishment, in some circles. Frankly, if all the parties in question are willing and able to go through the process, I don't see how it is, or should be, anybody's business other than the parties involved. Please try to educate yourself on this topic before you make an uninformed response. Not doing so only shows a dangerous, willful ignorance in the end.

Morally wrong to put someone else through labor pain, etc.? Well I hired a surrogate for my beautful baby girl and have another that is currently pregnant with twins. As for celebrity trends, it is embarassing and very typical of the judgemental American view that I "follow a trend" that is more appropriate with the latest color or handbag. I challenge you to put yourself in my shoes where I am single, ready for children and able to provide a home where there is love and support. Before you ride your moral high-horse, open your eyes to the possibilities that some people want to carry on their genes. May I suggest you go to Cambodia and adopt something of a trend.

I have actually thought of doing this myself. There are many women out there who can't have babies. I work from home and have two very smart, beasutiful girls of my own. My "clock" starting ticking about four years after I was married and I had always wanted children. I would have been totally devestated if I couldn't have any children. I was very lucky with both pregnancies and had no complications, besides a couple weeks of the typical "morning sickness". I haven't talked it over with my husband, but have thought of doing so in the near future, so I can help another couple have children of their own. It doesn't matter who has gone through the pregnancy and labor, what matters is who that the people who raise the child love them and do all they can for them, that is a "parent". There are many people out there that are able to have kids and do, that shouldn't.

It is not wrong to pay someone to birth your child, if they are willing to do so. So many people cannot have children of their own, and in my opinion, surrogacy is a great option. Im glad to see that there are so many women willing to go through the painful and emotional process of having a child that is not theirs in the end. It takes a strong woman to do something like this. Adoption is also a great option. There are so many abandoned children in the world who need families. I am aldo glad to see that the mothers of these children have not decided on abortion and have given other people the oportunity to raise a child who needs it (and vice versa). Both situations can be dangerous, though. In some ways surrogacy is the better option and in others, adoption. I see them as equal. After reading this article, and many others on the issue, I have seriously considered being a surrogate mother in the future. The only issue I would have is the bond between myself and the child. Im not sure I could deal with the seperation.

Great article. I will be needing a surrogate one day since I had a hysterectomy three years ago due to cancer. I have twelve frozen embryos waiting for that day. I know it will be very expensive and difficult process but it will be worth it. sjwnurse@hotmail.com