The Curious Lives of Surrogates

The entire previous comment is RIDICULOUS!!! You obviously did not do your research, take time to find the "right" Intended Parents, etc. Surrogacy does not prey on single mothers with no money. When YOU MAKE the decision to become a surrogate mother, you have to understand that the baby you will be carrying, IS NOT YOURS! I have carried for a couple myself, not everything is going to be all peaches and cream everytime. The only things I truly prayed for was to carry a healthy baby, make sure I kept healthy for my own family, and make a couple into a family. Everything else like contact after birth, money, etc. seems VERY SMALL compared those things I prayed for. Surrogacy is not for everybody. If you go into this thinking you are going to have a life long relationship with your Intended Parents and the baby that you carry, you could be dissapointed. If you would consider yourself disgruntled for not having contact after birth, SURROGACY IS NOT FOR YOU. It is the Intended Parents right to say whether they want contact after birth. Some just want to move on with their lives. Also, if you phrase it like this..."There are thousands of us disgruntled women who were lied to and cannot talk about it because gag orders are placed on us. We don't sign over our rights to our children because see all the lies we've been told and then we fight for our rights. But, most people think we ought to have no rights at all, making us second class citizens", YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS PURSUING SUROGACY!!! THAT IS THE BOTTOM LINE.

What about the other side of your story? You failed to consider those women out there that act out of pure generosity, kindness and love to give others in need the gift of a lifetime. Not all surrogates are strange, crazy women out to make a buck as implied by your story. My best friend acted as a surrogate for my husband and me and gave birth to our amazing twin daughters. Not only that, but my sister tried twice for me as well. Neither received or wanted any financial compensation. It was never about money or some strange desire to be pregnant. Instead, both are truly amazing women that acted out of kindness and generosity. My best friend gave me a priceless gift wanting only in return the knowledge that she helped someone she loved. I have a bond with her like I have with no other that will endure forever. We are not simply friends, we are family and what better gift to give our respective children but the love and support of even more wonderful people to share their lives with. I can???t tell you the number of people, complete strangers, I have brought to tears by telling them my story that there are incredible people out there that help others for nothing in return. I never knew from my tragedy I could spread so much joy to so many people. It was and will always be one of the best experiences of my life. Next time please do more research rather than just trying to sell more magazines.

I have been reading numerous blogs regarding this article and was bothered by those that feel our tax dollars should not go towards the medical expenses of military wives who choose this route. At first I was excited to find another surrogate market to look into, I am unable to have children, but then thought that those critics had a point, and then I saw a teenage mom walking the mall at 9:30 PM with her toddler who was sucking on a Pepsi....at that point I decided that I disagree because if anyone thinks that our tax dollars are not somehow going to, or will go to that toddler and her mother than we are mistaken. The difference between the tax dollars being spent is that for the surrogate it will be medical expenses for 9 months for the unplanned child to a teen age or drug dependent mother it will be a life time of social services to both the child and the parent. I would rather spend my tax dollars on the short term medical expenses knowing that the child's recipients are responsible, stable and mature enough to be parents.

I have been reading numerous blogs regarding this article and was bothered by those that feel our tax dollars should not go towards the medical expenses of military wives who choose this route. At first I was excited to find another surrogate market to look into, I am unable to have children, but then thought that those critics had a point, and then I saw a teenage mom walking the mall at 9:30 PM with her toddler who was sucking on a Pepsi....at that point I decided that I disagree because if anyone thinks that our tax dollars are not somehow going to, or will go to that toddler and her mother than we are mistaken. The difference between the tax dollars being spent is that for the surrogate it will be medical expenses for 9 months for the unplanned child to a teen age or drug dependent mother it will be a life time of social services to both the child and the parent. I would rather spend my tax dollars on the short term medical expenses knowing that the child's recipients are responsible, stable and mature enough to be parents.

If one is truly willing to endure the long term physical affects of a pregnancy for another, purely as a desire to create happiness for a couple, who cannot bear children, that is great. A rich person avoiding stretch marks, sagging breasts, and disfiguring of their vagina, by renting out some poor woman's womb, is sick and wrong. This is someone who is not suited for waking up several times a night, looking like hell in the morning, smelling like baby vomit, or dealing with an adolescent's awkwardness and anger. It is quite simple, neither she nor her husband has what it takes, and allowing them to have a child via surrogacy is a crime.

Wombs to rent 50 cents, no phone, some food, no pets, she wont smoke no cigarettes and then 2 hours of pushing brings, a new 7 pound human being.

I am doing an independant study class to complete my masters and decided to make the topic on surrogacy. Recently, however, mys husband and I decided to begin the process of gestational surrogacy. However, for my class I need to interview someone via e-mail with questions who has been a surrogate. If anyone knows of blogs, websites, information please e-mail me at rebecca_franklin@adelphia.net

I am doing an Independant study class to complete my Masters and chose Surrogacy as my topic. My husband and I as well have recently decided to utilize gestational surrogacy. I wanted to know if anyone knows of websites, blogs or surrogate mothers I can send interview questions to vis e-mail. Please let me know at my e-mail address rebecca_franklin@adelphia.net

"Womb for Rent" was a good article on surrogating. However, what I find missing in every article on surrogating is the rights of the baby born to surrogates. Ironically, children seem to be left out of the equation that is all about their being born. Children are the vital key, yet left out of the contract. As an adoptee, I had to face the fact that the government was entitled to know my heritage, but I wasn't. I feel we all have the inborn right to know where we come from, who are our parents, and the circumstances of our birth. That is something most people take for granted because they are biological children of the parents raising them. With laws in place that now forbid the surrogate's eggs to be used, that is a positive step because it means that the child will most likely know one or two biological parents. While some parents may stay in touch with the surrogate who gave birth to their child, there is nothing in place that says the child has the LEGAL RIGHT to know. It's about time the rights of the child are protected.

Wombs to rent 50 cents, no phone, some food, no pets, she wont smoke no cigarettes and then 2 hours of pushing brings, a new 7 pound human being.

Wombs to rent 50 cents, no phone, some food, no pets, she wont smoke no cigarettes and then 2 hours of pushing brings, a new 7 pound human being.

Wombs to rent 50 cents, no phone, some food, no pets, she wont smoke no cigarettes and then 2 hours of pushing brings, a new 7 pound human being.

To jd2010, who said the following in a post way down below:
???This is totally wrong. I don't believe God intended for this type of thing to be done. No born again christian would do such a thing. I believe the Lord opens and shuts the womb. For different reasons.???

First of all, you are practicing what my pastor would call ???legalism??? meaning you cling to and are blinded by a personal understanding of something of doctrine without opening your eyes to a real human being right in front of you who needs to be treated with Christian lovingkindness. Remember that word: legalism, while you watch this video which has been posted several times here. I dare you to watch this, and then continue to insist on what you have said above. Watch this woman lose baby after baby and tell her that God is ???opening her womb??? for ???different reasons.??? What a grotesque and callous perversion of scripture.

Video: /www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/15256404#15256404

So basically, your message dictates to a woman like this that she should continue to endure her babies??? deaths, and not seek help. Did you watch? Do you still dare to say such things to a person going through this awful awful nightmare? Your comment reminds me of that couple last week who refused to bring their daughter for diabetes treatment and wound up killing her???their own child???due to dogma. Legalism.