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Hitler Killed My Father

He wouldn't talk about the years he spent in Nazi concentration camps. But they never left him.

 

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I am approaching another anniversary of my father's death. It will be more than a dozen years since he passed away. I still don't agree with the cause of death on the certificate. The cause of death, according to the doctor, was cancer. That was not what killed my father. The cause of death was Adolf Hitler. My father was a Holocaust survivor. He lived and breathed being a Holocaust survivor. It defined him. It is on his tombstone. His whole life in America revolved around World War II. It was evident in his everyday life. I remember when we were in a hotel in the Catskill Mountains one summer, and there was a fly zapper in front of the lobby. My father heard the noise, saw the flies and mosquitoes get zapped and very quietly said, "That's how Hitler did it, too." There was no escaping his past.

I grew up in the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn, a small community filled with European Jews. The synagogue where my father prayed was filled with men and women who were survivors as well. It wasn't until I was in the third grade that I made friends for the first time whose parents were American-born. I did not believe you could be Jewish and not suffer as much as my parents. They came to America, the "golden medina" (golden country), to enjoy the freedom of religion and the freedom of speech, and just to be free. They were not free, however, from their past and their nightmares.

I marveled at my parents' ability to live normal lives. To go through hell for four years (they were living in Poland, and the Polish Jews were the first to be shipped off to concentration camps) and still be able to go to work and make a decent living was beyond my ken. They celebrated bar mitzvahs and weddings with their friends and families, and went on vacations as if they were true Americans. I was miserable. I wanted to shout at them, "Why are you acting normal when I'm not?" I was afraid the Nazis were going to knock on our door and it would be my turn to go. Isn't that how they went off to the camps?

When I was growing up, my father never talked about his time in concentration camps (he was moved around to several). My mother, also a Holocaust survivor, did all the talking. I never knew who Dr. Seuss was, or even heard of Goldilocks or Rapunzel. My bedtime stories were about how my mother stole a potato and made it last for three days. My father's brother told us about how he cheated the Nazis by hiding under the bodies of prisoners they had shot and pushed into ditches. My father never said a word.

When the movie "Schindler's List" opened, my parents went to see it. I couldn't believe them. I yelled at my father, "Why did you have to see what you've already lived through? Why subject yourself to more pain?" My father answered that he had an obligation to go. He said the world had to see what it was like, and he had to go to be a part of it. He was so proud when members of the Shoah Foundation asked him to be recorded for the Holocaust Memorial Museum. He lived in Arizona at the time, and they went to his house for the interview. In front of the camera he told his story. He now lives on in the archives with other survivors.

When my father felt the end was near, he started to obsess about his past. He decided that if he didn't start talking about the Holocaust, who would remember? He made a series of audiotapes beginning with his life in Europe, leading up to the Holocaust and ending with his wedding to my mother in Germany in 1946. When he finished the tapes—there were seven in all—he mailed them to me. He would ask me at least once a week if I'd listened to them. I told him no; I just couldn't, because there was pain in his voice and I couldn't bear to hear it. A year after he died I tried to listen to the tapes. I could not. I knew he was no longer suffering, but I would not be able to tell him that I knew he was finally at peace.

I don't know if he felt the Nazis would rise again, but I know for sure Hitler never left him. A friend of mine who recently lost her mother told me that two weeks before her death, her mother started acting in a way that made my friend think she was hallucinating about being back in a concentration camp. She was once again being tormented by the Nazis. We agreed Hitler got her in the end. Just as he got my father. Hitler didn't end at 6 million. He is still killing the Jews. It is 6 million and counting.

Paryzer Levy lives in Queens, N.Y.

© 2008

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  • Posted By: Sealteam0 @ 05/11/2008 2:54:31 PM

    Why don't Jews around the world ever talk about the fact that George Bushes father help finance the rise of Hitler's regime? Prescott Bush and that link is never talk about. Maybe the information being circulated is true or false, but why is it not covered or investigated on the public airwaves?

  • Posted By: mailknave @ 05/02/2008 4:30:15 PM

    I think the author of this essay misses the oiint. Although it is a powerful metaphor to say that "Hitler killed her father," the truth is he did not. her father survived and prospered; he overcame the atrocities that happened to him. His successful life, and that of his daughter, are testimony to Hitler's failure to complete his horrible mission to erradicate the jewish people. To give Hitler the blame for his death many years later is to disrespect this man's life, which was so much more than his experience in the concentration camps. even worse, the author's father wanted his life experience to live on: that is why he recorded thsoe tapes he called his daughter about every week. The fact that she never listened to the stody of his life despite all his requests shows me that she cannot see that ehr father lived far beyond Hitler's influence, and had a life that was not defined by one event. I hope someday she passes his tapes on to someone who will respect his memory by beingmindful of his words and his feeling. The author sees her father only as a victim; he was so much more.

  • Posted By: lychnikova @ 05/02/2008 4:01:31 PM

    Two of my grandparents went through Nazi camps, and like the author's father refused to talk about what they experiences there. None of my grandparents would tall about the war, they cannot watch war movies. We are Byelorussia, and a lot of my grandparents' relatives were killed (my grandfather lost 13 siblings). There were over 600 "fiery villages" in Byelorussia - a term for a village where all the inhabitants were burnt.
    The war scarred not only that generation (and the horror of what they experience stayed with them for all their lives) but the following generations as well. The lack of sensitivity of some comments can probably be explained by the fact that the US did not get involved in the WW2 as deeply as the countries of Europe and Asia. Possibly some people do not realize the scope of the mass murder (it is not only 6 million Jewish victims, it is 27 million people of the Soviet Union, millions of Chinese, Koreans, Serbians, Gypsies...., )and destruction of that war. It can be simple ignorance.

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