I have a son 36 years old, heading for prison because of his uncontrolled behavior and impulses that led him to negative peers. He was introduced to drugs/alcohol and thus his problems escalated. He was diagnosred as hyperactive in the middle l970's, but was not given very much information other than that. I did research and did not find very much information at that time. Through out his life, he was predicted to be a high school drop out, he had no friends and my family and his father's family thought he was just bad. I knew that something was wrong with him, but my efforts to find help just ended with family, friends and social services agencies announcing that I was just over-protective.
The challenges that I faced in trying to be supported made him angry, accusing me of being too controlling, thus he rebelled against me. Nevertheless, I stood my grounds and continued to seek for answers for his behavior he was and is a very sensitive, highly intelligent and impressionable person.
He was diagnosed as bipolar this year as well as OCD, ADHD, social phobia, anxiety and the list goes on and on. The Mental Health Center prescribed him with several psychotrophic drugs, but being an adult, I couldn't make him take them. Because of the symptomology of bipolar, he ended up in jail and because he did not appear in court, not report to his probation officer, the judge decreed that he acted as if he did not care. I am, and have been his only ally all of his life and it has been a very long and painful journey. I am glad to have stumbled upon this website and the posted comments because now I do not feel alone.
I have long given up trying to educate family and friends because of my stigma of being the over doting parent. I have taken it as my personal mission to educate the criminal justice system, social service agencies who are funded to render services to this population. Their advice to me was simply, "put him out, wash your hands of him."
I understand the frustration of those suffering with the challenge as well those having loved ones who are afflicted. Only through education can we help them and support them. I support the comment offered, "do not ever give up."
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