The Same People

Wow, there are lots of very closed-minded, fearful people posting here today. Look, for many people, marriage is an institution of love that is granted certain rights by the government. Not everyone is married in a church by a priest. I was married on the beach by a family friend who is a judge. If marriage was required to take place in a church before a priest, maybe we could argue that gay marriage is wrong. BUT IT'S NOT. It is a civil union that can be recorded down at city hall.

Besides, how can you people decide that others can't marry because YOU DON'T LIKE IT. It doesn't effect you, it doesn't hurt anyone...GET OVER IT AND STOP BEING HATEFUL.

Using the poem from Rome is a really bad example. As most with a knowledge of history will recall, the Roman Empire fell, primarily due to rot from within that caused it to be unable to withstand pressure from without.

This debate is not over and will likely continue at the state level. The courts are over turning that which the people have already rejected. Gay couples can live together and enjoy a significant number of benefits, but marriage is not one of them. I am not a bigot or homophobic, I am an American that realizes that no nation in the history of the world has ever thrived under wide spread homosexuality. It is a deviant lifestyle and should not be promoted in any way shape or form. I love all of God's children and feel marriage is sacred and solely between a man and a woman. It must be kept that way.

Homosexuality is wrong simply because it's not the way God has designed the human body.
For those who don't believe in God, it's still wrong because our body is not designed to interact sexually with a person of the same sex. I might understand some attraction for the opposite sex, but I might also be attracted to my neighbor's wife. It's wrong to give in to either one. This has to do with decency.

Well Andrewinsanpedro, I'm in love with Kate, she is not my sister and I hope to marry her, we will submit to blood tests, just like you and your wife did to prove you are not related. I wasn't aware that in asking for the basic human right of marriage that we (gays) were also asking to be able to marry our relatives, pets and multiple partners? I guess I missed that section of the request. Get over yourself... and yes, What Does Marriage Really Mean?? That is a very interesting question, maybe you should think about it some more.

Wow, it is just that simple. Love found a way.

When and if gay and lesbians can have sex and produce a child then I'll be all for it. Until then it is unnatural period.

Sorry...but it is not over. All gay people can move to California and do their thing legally. If it becomes too crowded with gays, the normal people can move to another state that still has some sanity behind laws. It's OK to be gay. But you should lose some of your rights as a result. Marriage is between a man and a women. Period. The ultra liberal, left-wing whacko California courts can say what they want. But it doesn't make it so. It makes it so only in California. Other states will not fall in line. Anna Quindlen....your article and assumptions are so far off normal American life, it's not funny. Get in the real world. Gay is not OK in 90%+ of America....no matter what Hollywood or the California Supreme court says.

To the person who wrote that marriage can only take place between a man and a woman and its for purposes of procreation - shame on you. If that's your argument -- let me pose this question should a wife leave her husband if they are unable to conceive a child "the old fashion way?" Comments that raise marriage and child bearing in the same sentence also are discounting to parents who choose to adopt and give a home to a child already born, i.e. couples who adopt. Is marriage really only a means for procreation? I don't think so. Is not marriage or any loving partnership between two adults, the joining of individuals who are committed to a life together with shared values, hopes, and dreams? Its the day in and day out experiences that define a marriage. The heartfelt knowledge that someone will be there no matter what, in good and bad times, to love, respect and honor you, to bond a life over the deepest of spiritual connections. I didn't know that only hetrosexual couples had the monopoly on that level, that feeling, that depth of love. I happen to believe that God made each of us, whatever your preferences in the bedroom. And, I also feel that in today's world the most important thing we need to demonstrate toward our fellow human being is tolerance. Intolerance for whatever reason will be the decline of our civiliation not allowing same sex marriages.

The only thing I ask is that if you were in that situation, and you found that you were in love with another man/woman, you would feel that you should have rights just like anyone else. I personally am not attracted to the same sex, but I can understand those that are. I may not like it, but I understand it. Animals mate with the same sex- and we don't shoot them and they certainly don't go to hell (at least not according to the bible... explain that one will you!). As long as they don't force their way of life on me (as in trying to get me to be gay when I'm not), I have no problem with them. They ask the same of us. Whether you like it or not, its here to stay. So wasting your time getting upset about it certainly isn't going to do any good. It might do us all a favor and shorten your life a bit. So chill out and live your own life in peace & harmony just like the bible says to. In fact, the bible says to turn the other cheek. How about THAT for sinning? It's between them and God, not us. We don't have the right to judge them.

The freaks have won the battle but not the war.

Isn't the law of the land "The CONSTITUTION of the United States" not the bible of the United States? It took the 1967 Supreme Court to tell the American people that it was unconstitutional to limit the rights of marriage - even if the people of a state voted otherwise; in particular the 13 states that still made it illegal for a black person to marry a white person. If you really want to "preserve the sanctity of marriage" then make it illegal to get a divorce.

When gay and lesbian people can have sex and produce a child, then I'll be all for it. Otherwise it is against nature, and is against the ethical and moral judeo-christian values for which this country was founded, period. And I am not talking about all of the scientific advances that are available for assistance to help women conceive if someone wants to try and make that arguement. It still takes and male and female component to produce an off-spring.