I was FLOORED by how much my best friend changed personality-wise on her wedding day. Had I known she was going to turn into such a monster I would have never agreed to be the maid of honor or even a bridesmaid for that matter. I showed up at the wedding wearing exactly what was requested of me and looking mighty nice I might add. Instead of complimenting my apprearence, she instead proceeded to point out everything that was wrong with my attire. She asked me to remove all my none-ear piercings, which sounds reasonable, but you have to understand that this is coming from a woman who has about 15 tattoos and her nipples pierced. Her husband was in a metal band and all his groomsmen had visible tattoos and facial piercings and they were not asked to take them out. I was pissed to say the least, especially since she knows me and has always been accepting my body jewelery before. She also requested that I cut off my hemp ankle bracelet (which could only be cut off). The bracelet was a gift from HER and I had worn it around my ankle for the past 3 years, the fact that she asked me to destroy a gift from her that I treasured on the day of her wedding just because it didn't exactly match my dress almost made me cry. Also at her reception she yelled at me for wearing a hoodie over my dress because it was FREEZING in the reception hall. I was so excited for her wedding, but to show up and be attacked for not being "perfect" just ruined the day for me. I couldn't believe after about 10 years of friendship that she would be so nasty towards me. Just goes to show that some people view the wedding as a way of "showing off" rather than a special union of love. Needless to say that experience did not help with my cynicism towards marriage.
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"People can have a contract for just about anything that's not illegal," says Randy Kessler, who teaches family law at John Marshall Law School in Atlanta. "This sort of document simply states that if the woman keeps the requests of the contract, she will be a bridesmaid. If not, she won't. It's not the craziest contract idea I've seen or heard of."
If worded correctly and signed by both members, the contract, which can cost anywhere from $5,000 to $10,000 to draw up, could be used in court. For example, Kessler says, if a woman flew all the way to Hawaii for a wedding and didn't end up being a bridesmaid because of a breach in her contract, and then she tried to sue the bride for the expenses of her flying to Hawaii, the contract could be used in court as proof that the bride had the right to take away the privilege of being a bridesmaid.
But Kessler cautions overzealous Bridezillas: "A wedding should be a happy time. And to be honest, getting lawyers involved always puts a damper on things."
3. A Justin and Mallory Martini? It would seem that a drink is a drink, but in the wedding wars, nothing is simple. Couples can hire a "mixologist" to create a cocktail that reflects their spirit and the theme of the wedding. "When we come in we can create an atmosphere that completes the puzzle," says Will Shine, co-director of Contemporary Cocktails in Manhattan. " We provide beautiful, garnished cocktails with a class style that match the couple and the style of the wedding."
4. Bar None. When an ice sculpture of a cherub or a flower basket doesn't seem cool enough, couples can order up an entire bar made of ice. Without drinks, the cost is usually between $700-$1,000, says Anja Winikka, editor of TheKnot.com.
5. Let Them Each Eat Cake. The latest rage is to give each wedding guest their own cake. For a tiny, but intricately decorated three-tier cake, the cost can be about $100 a person. The math is easy to do, but hard to swallow: 200 guests equals $20,000. A simpler version will cost you as little as $15 per cake, says Cheryl Kleinman of Cheryl Kleinman Cakes in Brooklyn, NY.
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