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  • Posted By: cadbury @ 05/20/2009 3:06:19 PM

    This map is so out of date. Please update or remove it.

  • Posted By: didar @ 07/25/2008 4:05:37 AM

    think about it because many years ago your parents married you was born and you are enjoying life now but if your dady instead your mam married another man what would happened? if it was like that you couldn't live now and even nobody knew anything about you cuz you wasn???t born
    one thing else I have a friend who is my best friend and I love her so much even more than my parents and we are old friends and if 1 day ill get marry I cant love my husband more than her but it doesn???t mean just because I love her so much I have to marry her and neither me nor her never think about such thing and there's a lot of chance that we can be together and see each other it???s a friendship which we have to respect .
    I would like to say if you really care about human being or humanity and want to decrease aids and other diseases you should marry a woman in a legal marriage
    my dear friends plz before any decision think about it carefully try to show your self what the result will be
    you know this world and what's inside it {human,animal.bird..}are controlled by god and there's a lot of freedom which god gives to us our merciful god could control our mind&brain at first when we were a baby if he wanted but god wants us to be free and by brain &logic find the truth so plz lets respect all that freedom which god rewarded us and don???t use it in a bad ways.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 07/25/2008 10:09:44 AM

      didar,

      You are making no sense.

      First off, since I am heterosexual I am attracted to women. But I have no desire to have children.

      There is nothing wrong with homosexuality aor seame-sex marraige. Marriage is NOt primarily about procreationit is about love and commitment.

      Your arguement about what wuld have happened if my father had been gay and married another ma is an invalid argument. No-one is saying that EVERY man would marry another man, or EVERY woman would marry another woman. We are talking about maybe 8-10% of the world's population at best. It would hae little or no effect on birth-rates. And gay men can still be father (through sperm donation and surrogate mothers, just as lesbians can bear children through artificial insemination or even simple intercourse which has nothing to do with love and is only a minor part of marriage (and not all heterosexual married couples have children, either by biology or by choice.)

      Your comment about caring about humanity and decreasing AIDS is equally flawed. Caring about humanity would in fact men that one should be in favor of population control. And AIDS is not a part of the same-sex marriage equation. AIDS is NOT just a gay disease (it is in fact no longer a predominantly gay disease). Also committed monogamous marriages (and gays are just as monogamous as heterosexuals are) would lessen the chances of AIDS inthe couple. IT would not eliminate it since, like heterosexual couples, they couple engage in other risky behvaiour like intravenous drug use, or be exposed to it in other ways such as contanimated blood, or being in jobs where the exposure risk is higher such as the general medical or emergancy medicine fields.

      Your god arguement is only your religious beliefs and not fact. Therefore it is also irrelvant to the general discussion. It is only relevant to you and others who believe in god. Since I, and many others, have no need for man-made deities or religions, that argument is of not value or importance.

      • Posted By: NAKED SOUL'S SILENCE REVOLTS @ 12/05/2008 11:27:34 PM

        SO TRUE. WE DEBATE ON WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG. LITTLE WE KNOW, ALL HAVE EQUAL CONTRIBUTIONS IN TERMS OF SOCIETAL NORMS. LOVE IS ABSTRACT. WHAT IS RIGHT TO YOU MAY NOT BE RIGHT TO ANYBODY ELSE. SO WE CONTINUE TO DEBATE. THAT MAKES LIFE REALLY EXCITING. A CONTINUOUS ATTEMPT TO SATISFY ONE'S GRATIFICATION, BE IT MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. SO WE DEBATE. WE ARGUE. WE CONTEST. HUMAN AS WE ARE, WE MUST LIVE LIFE SIMPLY. BE HAPPY. WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY ANYWAY? BE IT. GOD IS LOVE. SOMETIMES WE CONTEST BIBLE AS SOMEWHAT REALLY INCREDIBLE FOR IT ALSO WRITTEN LIKE A STRONG MASTERPIECE MADE BY MEN. WHERE DO WE RELY OUR FAITH THEN? NO WAY OUT?! AGAIN, LIVE LIFE SIMPLY. BE HAPPY. THERE IS NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP IN THE REGROUPING STUFFS WE CLAMOR AND PROTECT. THERE IS NONE. HELL WITH THE CATEGORIES. WE ARE ALL HUMANS. ENJOY LIFE. LEARN T O APPRECIATE THE COLORS OF A RAINBOW. IT HAS BRILLIANT COLORS. SO DOES LIFE. owennavia@yahoo.com MANILA, PHILIPPINES

      • Posted By: didar @ 07/26/2008 7:07:20 AM

        you have no right to say that I have making no sense cuz im a person who is %100 emotional and my only dream is how to help humanity ? I,m 17 years old I think every one in my age just think about how to enjoy life but im not
        you tell me that I have no sense while I cant even eat any kind of meat{im vegetarian} and also you have no right to say that my relegius belifs are no fact you get me? thank ypu for your heartbroken comments.

  • Posted By: juballl @ 06/28/2008 9:44:49 PM

    Keeping marriage between a man and a woman, is bringing church and state very close. It is mostly a religious issue, not a civil one. The people that oppose marriage of same sex couples, talk about the sanctity of marriage when more than half of marriages end in divorce, and who knows how many end in murder. Where's the sanctity? It is a civil action, not a religious one, and people should leave their religious beliefs at the door of a court house.

    • Posted By: NAKED SOUL'S SILENCE REVOLTS @ 12/05/2008 11:11:46 PM

      SO TRUE. WE DEBATE ON WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG. LITTLE WE KNOW, ALL HAVE EQUAL CONTRIBUTIONS IN TERMS OF SOCIETAL NORMS. LOVE IS ABSTRACT. WHAT IS RIGHT TO YOU MAY NOT BE RIGHT TO ANYBODY ELSE. SO WE CONTINUE TO DEBATE. THAT MAKES LIFE REALLY EXCITING. A CONTINUOUS ATTEMPT TO SATISFY ONE'S GRATIFICATION, BE IT MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. SO WE DEBATE. WE ARGUE. WE CONTEST. HUMAN AS WE ARE, WE MUST LIVE LIFE SIMPLY. BE HAPPY. WHAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY ANYWAY? BE IT. GOD IS LOVE. SOMETIMES WE CONTEST BIBLE AS SOMEWHAT REALLY INCREDIBLE FOR IT ALSO WRITTEN LIKE A STRONG MASTERPIECE MADE BY MEN. WHERE DO WE RELY OUR FAITH THEN? NO WAY OUT?! AGAIN, LIVE LIFE SIMPLY. BE HAPPY. THERE IS NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP IN THE REGROUPING STUFFS WE CLAMOR AND PROTECT. THERE IS NONE. HELL WITH THE CATEGORIES. WE ARE ALL HUMANS. ENJOY LIFE. LEARN T O APPRECIATE THE COLORS OF A RAINBOW. IT HAS BRILLIANT COLORS. SO DOES LIFE. owennavia@yahoo.com MANILA, PHILIPPINES

  • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 11/17/2008 7:13:27 PM

    As usual the Democrat party has it wrong. They were against civil rights for blacks in the 60's but today they are pushing for acceptance and civil rights for a depraved sexual perversion called homosexuality.

    VOTING FOR A DEMOCRAT IS GAY

    DON'T BE G A Y.

  • Posted By: Plutonius @ 11/09/2008 7:52:18 AM

    I think gays should be given certain rights that married couples receive. But Marriage is simply between a man and women. That is the definition of it and just because some may feel it is wrong doesn't mean you can simply change the definition of a word. Rights with civil unions and domestic partnerships should be expanded not the extension of marriage to gay couples.

  • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 11/09/2008 12:24:43 AM

    This is not a civil rights issue. It's a acceptance of a sexual depravity issue.

  • Posted By: jasmina @ 11/07/2008 2:54:51 PM

    It's really interesting to watch America and to see that in the same country there are two different forces pulling this country apart. With the election from Barack Obama you take a step forward into a positive future but on the other side you go back and act conservative. I am really sorry for the gay people in America. I am happy that our gays in Europe can marry each other and have at least the same rights like married peope.



  • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 10/12/2008 12:48:37 PM

    Homosexuality is a depraved sexual behavior and as such deserves no special rights.

    • Posted By: lejuantyler @ 11/07/2008 9:48:30 AM

      wHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON HETEROSEXUALS ENGAGING IN IMMORRAL ACTS? aLL OF THIS MESS ON TV THESE DAYS, ISN'T HELPING OUR CHILDREN TO BECOME MORAL CITIZIENS OF THE U.S.. i AM A DEMOCRAT AND I AM NOT GAY. i DON'T BELIEVE THAT GOD CONDONES SAME SEX RELATIONSHIPS BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT GOD DOESN'T CONDONE ALL OF THIS SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE. wHERE ARE THE UPROARS ABOUT SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE. wHEN YOOU LOOK AT IT, THAT'S THE UNDERLINE REASON WHY SOME PEOPLE FEEL THAT SAME SEX MARRIAGES ARE WRONG BECAUSE THEY ARE ENGAGING IN SEXUAL ACTS OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY CAN'T LEGALLY MARRY. IF WE ARE GOING TO ALLOW THE BIBLE TO GOVERN SOME OF OUR LIVES THEN WE MUST ALLOW IT TO GOVERN ALL OF OUR LIVES. WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE ANYONE? WHO GAVE US THAT RIGHT. WE HAVE A RIGHT TO OUR THOUGHTS, AND SHOULD BE RESPECTFUL OF OTHERS.

  • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 11/06/2008 5:32:53 PM

    Don't worry perverts, the Democrats are in power now and they are gay for gay marriage.

    You'll soon be able to force your depravity down our throats.

    VOTING FOR A DEMOCRAT IS GAY


    DON'T BE GAY


  • Posted By: mikejames @ 11/06/2008 3:47:52 PM

    Answer to the question ....England, like me and my usa partner. USA its your loss

  • Posted By: mikejames @ 11/06/2008 3:42:53 PM

    as the joke goes gay people should have the right to live in bored shallow unfaithful misery just like str8 people

  • Posted By: misplaced yankee @ 11/05/2008 8:52:23 AM

    When we deny equal rights to one group we may it easier to deny them to another and another. It wasn't that long ago that interracial marriages were condemned as being against God and nature. Who are we to judge. Maybe I read a different bible, mine judgement "Judgement is mine saith the Lord" and "judge not lest ye be judged". We are born who we are. I did not choose to be a straight, white woman- my neighbor did not choose to be a gay man, my friend did not choose to be black, my co-worker did not choose to be hispanic. I do CHOOSE to support the rights of ALL people to live their lives with dignity and peace and love.

  • Posted By: SavedGirl @ 09/24/2008 9:19:42 PM

    The homosexual is an abomination. We can not have tax payers giving special benefits to those who live a sinful life.

    • Posted By: kruedawg @ 09/25/2008 12:42:11 PM

      There's nothing 'special' about the rights gays are seeking... it's just equal. I support the same rights for ALL Americans to marry the partner of their choice... either everyone gets it or take it away from everyone.

      • Posted By: Eltaco @ 11/02/2008 12:25:27 PM

        Amen Dawg....SavedGirl, do you think Jesus would "hate" and not want to "give equal rights" to other humans as you are wanting NOT to do? That's what I find so appauling about the Christian right...they think they are being so RIGHTEOUS when they hate this group and that group when Jesus and God are all about LOVE with NO exceptions! Yes, the Bible tells us to avoid certain behaviors but it NEVER tells us to hate people who sin or to not give them human rights but to LOVE them as you would yourself. It is not for us to judge what is the worst sin. Also, it's equal rights, you pay no extra taxes for that and I bet I pay more taxes than you do anyway.

      • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 09/28/2008 4:17:28 PM

        It's special in that gays are involved in a depraved sexual practice. And they want to force people to accept this depraved behavior.

  • Posted By: joe 6pack @ 10/05/2008 6:21:00 PM

    THE DEMOCRAT PARTY IS GAY FOR GAY MARRIAGE.


    VOTING FOR A DEMOCRAT IS GAY


    DON'T BE GAY





    • Posted By: Eltaco @ 11/02/2008 10:46:02 AM

      Welcome to my world Joe!! You can get a rainbow sticker for your car at PFLAG :)

  • Posted By: conservative latina @ 10/08/2008 5:03:57 PM

    Gays and Lesbians have the freedom to live out their lifestyle as they wish. That does not mean that we , as heterosexual couples are going to "roll over" and stand by why the homosexual community wants to define a homosexual couple as "married". Marriage is between ONE man and ONE woman. Homosexual couples can not have children -- they are not defined as "families" but as "couples".
    The fact remains that the majority of Americans do not accept homosexual couples as "married couples". It is wrong for the homosexual community to force their values on the rest of the nation.
    Facts show that gay men are not monogomous..... an average gay man has many many partners in one year... much more than the heterosexual male. I believe their lifestyle demeans what marriage stands for.... and that is committment.

    • Posted By: Eltaco @ 11/02/2008 10:43:22 AM

      Hey Latina, I want to tell you this, since you obviously do NOT know. Heterosexual men have many sexual partners as do men in general gay OR straight. I was married to a man before I came out and starting living my real life as a gay woman and he cheated on me all the time until he finally got my best friend pregnant in my OWN house, so dont tell me about "marriage" and "families" and "commitment" being stronger in hetero relationships...you know nothing of what you speak. I have now been in a very strong, commited relationship with a wonderful NORMAL woman for five years...we are a great couple known by all who would make wonderful parents if we didnt live in this great but suffocating state of Oklahoma. Here in Okla. we could adopt because they made that legal but sadly people like you and the Christian right would tear our children apart and we dont want that for our kids....it would be different if they would have at the same time made gay marriage legal too. In order for our children (not so much us) to live a normal life, we will have to move to a different state leaving behind elderly parents etc. and that is a sad situation people like you enforce on other kind people like us. What if we did that to you because you were latino?
      I dont know where you live or where you get that gay people can't have families or can't be families...I know a lot of gay people that have several children (that dont live here) and are very happy and stable and all of this has nothing to do with heteros "rolling over" or "standing by" and letting anything happen. If you knew me you would see that my values are probably a lot higher than your own.

    • Posted By: cjones74 @ 10/11/2008 12:35:53 PM

      Please tell us your source of your information, as we can all state sound bites to support opinions. Why are people so intimidated with the idea of "gay marriage"? All couples who live as family members, have children, set up a home together, etc deserve to be treated as well as I have been, as a married woman. Shame on people for judging what goes on in homes and in families. Is this really coming from people who believe that America is the greatest country in the world? You can't believe that America is the greatest if the rules and regulations don't apply to EVERYONE!!

  • Posted By: heelsfan @ 10/26/2008 12:30:13 AM

    one more thing- if a religion wants to define marriage differently than the law, that's fine with me. I got married legally, not in a church, and that is the right that I am defending for everyone here. I leave the religious battles to others...anyone who voluntarily joins a church should expect to abide by its tenets. But we all belong to civil society, and we should remember that- emphasis on CIVIL.

  • Posted By: heelsfan @ 10/26/2008 12:25:02 AM

    It seems to me that the only threat to my marriage would be me or my husband. No one else's marriage affects mine. It was my honor to volunteer as a deputy marriage commissioner in SF this summer, and after experiencing firsthand the joy and depth of emotion, as well as the gratitude of couples who were finally able to marry (one of my couples had been together for 28 years!) I don't think anyone would begrudge this fundamental right to our fellow humans.

  • Posted By: aracinelopez @ 10/18/2008 8:39:53 PM

    This subject is outrageous! How dare anybody tell me how to live my life!!! People who are anti-same sex marriage are ignorant... I mean come on, do we tell them who to marry, who to like, what religion to carry on? Of course not! So they should start minding their own damn business and start laying off on this emotional carriage. I cannot imagine how far we have come from the african americans to the women to become free in this country, that now we have to characterize gay and lesbian couples as defaulting the American race... Just plain outrageous!!! I certainly support same sax marriage even though I am straight.... And its sad to see how many Americans dont join this cause.

  • Posted By: chriswininger @ 10/17/2008 4:59:04 PM

    Man, that's rough! I always thought we were more progressive than that. Not being gay I guess I never noticed how intolerant our nation still is. With all the sensationalism in the media I thought half the country had legalized gay marriage by now. Well, not all heterosexuals are homophobic. You have my support. Hopefully that map will turn green over the next decade.

  • Posted By: headmissy @ 10/13/2008 2:58:26 PM

    Man Joe you sure are homophobic. What are you scared of if you know that you are 100% heterosexual homosexuality shouldn't scare you so bad. I

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