Having Kids Makes You Happy

Happiness is not a constant state, it is but a moment. like when you get a raise, graduate, telli your husband "Im pregnant" when you both were searching for it, your new home, a night in the town with your old friends, finishing a great book, etc. No one is happy all the times..that will be crazy then how will you know the joy of happiness if you never experience sorrow. Everyone experience hapiness and sorrow (people with children & childness people) it's part of being alive and been human. The questions is are you content with your choices and your lifestlye and that's a very personal reflection. Are people with children selfish? are people that dont wan tchildren selfish? WHO CARES you dont need to justify your choices to anyone but yourself. Are you content with the choices you made then considered yourself blessed. As many people I've experience both been childless (doing what I please when I pleased which not always led to feeling happy)and with child and experiecing the statisfaction of receiving a "I wove you mommy" , teaching by son how to ride a bike, and seen a little bit of myself in him, it has been wondurful to see him grow!. Im I always glad that I have a kid? no, not always like when I want to finish reading a book and I'm iterrupted, like when my son has tantrums, when he wakes me up at 5:30 AM! Do I wish I was childless? No, I just wish for a few childless moments... but nevertheless I'm content with my life as a mother. If you dont want to have kids? I wish you the same fullfilness as does with children , If you have kids and regret it? I pitty you Really that's a tragedy...

Happiness is a state of mind. When it is said that people with children are less happy than those without it is because only the superficial has been taken into account. People with children have added responsibilities. With more responsibilities comes the necessity for maturity and the development of better skills for dealing with the added responsibilities. So yes, no children means less responsibilities and more time to dedicate
to what one wishes. This does not in any way mean that those with children are less happy. It's about what meaning you infuse into your existence. If people do not have sufficient skills to rear children and are less happy as a result does not mean that having children makes one unhappy or less happy. It only means they are not mature enough to deal with all the good and bad that comes with loving and caring for our little and wonderful humans beings : )

Everything in this article is quite true, yet sadly and disturbingly only reflects a perspective seen through the eyes of oiur american culture. We are the ones who are enslaved by consumerism, and our lifestyles and social patterns are what REALLY affect our apreciation (or depreciation) of parenthood. Children in other parts of the world are still seen as blessings and bring great happiness to families and to an entire society. Yet, here in america, with our hectic lifestyles, our neverending schedules, our materialistic needs and our competetive desires, we reflect all of that to the newborns and little by little we turn them into us. We believe that satisfaction can be bought with a dollar, a candy, or a new toy... and sooner or later we are surounded by seflfish, demanding, agresive little brats (everything we ALREADY ARE!). I am yet to become a parent, and I've seen the struggles and frustrations of others, but blaming a child for unhappiness without analizing the entire BIG picture is very wrong. I've seen better cases, from well prepared, educated and concience mannered parents who, of course make changes in their lifes for the betterness of their children, but are also more aware of how to bring them up while growing themselves as a couple. People deciding not to have children should be well respected, but doing so not with the excuse that raising a child is hell, but because their choice or plans may be different. The same way couples need to work hard now-a-days to make a marriage work, the same work is needed is raising a child consciently. With or without kids, we still need to put in the effort in our lifes!

Albert Einstien- Christian
Isaac Newton- Christian
are these some of the great minds you were talking about?

Everything in this article is quite true, yet sadly and disturbingly only reflects a perspective seen through the eyes of oiur american culture. We are the ones who are enslaved by consumerism, and our lifestyles and social patterns are what REALLY affect our apreciation (or depreciation) of parenthood. Children in other parts of the world are still seen as blessings and bring great happiness to families and to an entire society. Yet, here in america, with our hectic lifestyles, our neverending schedules, our materialistic needs and our competetive desires, we reflect all of that to the newborns and little by little we turn them into us. We believe that satisfaction can be bought with a dollar, a candy, or a new toy... and sooner or later we are surounded by seflfish, demanding, agresive little brats (everything we ALREADY ARE!). I am yet to become a parent, and I've seen the struggles and frustrations of others, but blaming a child for unhappiness without analizing the entire BIG picture is very wrong. I've seen better cases, from well prepared, educated and concience mannered parents who, of course make changes in their lifes for the betterness of their children, but are also more aware of how to bring them up while growing themselves as a couple. People deciding not to have children should be well respected, but doing so not with the excuse that raising a child is hell, but because their choice or plans may be different. The same way couples need to work hard now-a-days to make a marriage work, the same work is needed is raising a child consciently. With or without kids, we still need to put in the effort in our lifes!

I choose not to have kids, and for the last 16+ years of marriage my husband has supported me on my decision. It's not that I don't like kids - I came from a family of 7 girls (I'm the middle child) and 5 of my 6 sisters have kids. But that was their choice, even if 99% of the kids were 'accidents' (oops! I forgot to take my pill for the past month! - right.) With 2 of my sisters divorced (1 remarried) I can honestly say that they admitted to me that they wished that they didn't have kids. Especially when money is really tight and the kids need sports jerseys/shoes/camp money, or they see me & my husband doing things we love to do, whether its together or alone. We have pets (which we love - but not 'love like children' like some people) and we have to arrange 'doggie & kitty' sitters for them when we are out of the house for a while, but nobody objects to watching them like they would a kid. If you think I'm selfish for not wanting a kid, then so be it. We are happy with the way our lives turned out, and if I didn't come from such a big family I may think differently (my husband has 1 sister, with a set of twin boys - she's now divorced too). But I also see parents that seem unhappy, unhealthy, and under extreme stress financially, and the common denominator is that they all have kids. I can visit my nieces and nephews anytime, and that's fine with me. Then I go home to my queit house, cuddle with my husband, dog and cat, and do what I want to do. I still unselfishly make dinner every night, do laundry and keep the house clean, and it's not for myself, but for my husband. And I'm working full time to put him through school so he can make a better living for us. How selfish is that? Or is it just smart?

Sheesh. You want the REAL deal? This article is so skewed and messed up it's freaky. The poll they conducted themselves says people like having kids. I actually wrote something on this subject on my blog: http://watchmansword.blogspot.com/2008/07/are-your-kids-from-devil.html

oy. So much is skewed and messed up in this article. I actually wrote a post about the whole children=misery thing on my blog.
Read everything here, and get ready to actually use your brain: http://watchmansword.blogspot.com/2008/07/are-your-kids-from-devil.html

Also, consider that people pay LOTS of money to get pregnant when they cannot, in search of the "American Dream" which includes 2.5 kids. That and the fact that people are working so hard to have abortion laws abolished, America craves children no matter how much harder they may make life. (I am pro-choice btw in case anyone thinks I'm trying to spread pro-life gospel, I'm not...I'm just stating a point)

Ok, my main complaint with this article would be that I feel it is speaking for everyone that has kids. I believe that some people are meant to have children and are perfectly happy doing so. I honestly don't think I would be happier without my kids. I think some people choose to raise kids and some don't. That's fine. I think we have to have some people that love rasing kids so that the world keeps going. I mean we gain like 3 babies every 12 seconds in the US, or something like that, either way, at an alarming rate! If this were as true as everyone is just accepting why do we all (parents) keep giving in to the hype? I don't have to tell myself I am happier, I know I am. What the hell would I do without my kids? I am going to college to become a daycare director, I want to be surrounded by kids!
NOW on the other hand I do think that some people feel they don't have a choice to not have kids, and more people should realize it doesn't have to be a step in life for everyone. I think a lot of the people who aren't happy having kids, didn't realize they didn't have to, if you know what I mean.

Ok, my main complaint with this article would be that I feel it is speaking for everyone that has kids. I believe that some people are meant to have children and are perfectly happy doing so. I honestly don't think I would be happier without my kids. I think some people choose to raise kids and some don't. That's fine. I think we have to have some people that love rasing kids so that the world keeps going. I mean we gain like 3 babies every 12 seconds in the US, or something like that, either way, at an alarming rate! If this were as true as everyone is just accepting why do we all (parents) keep giving in to the hype? I don't have to tell myself I am happier, I know I am. What the hell would I do without my kids? I am going to college to become a daycare director, I want to be surrounded by kids!
NOW on the other hand I do think that some people feel they don't have a choice to not have kids, and more people should realize it doesn't have to be a step in life for everyone. I think a lot of the people who aren't happy having kids, didn't realize they didn't have to, if you know what I mean.

Happiness is not a constant state, it is but a moment. like when you get a raise, graduate, telli your husband "Im pregnant" when you both were searching for it, your new home, a night in the town with your old friends, finishing a great book, etc. No one is happy all the times..that will be crazy then how will you know the joy of happiness if you never experience sorrow. Everyone experience hapiness and sorrow (people with children & childness people) it's part of being alive and been human. The questions is are you content with your choices and your lifestlye and that's a very personal reflection. Are people with children selfish? are people that dont wan tchildren selfish? WHO CARES you dont need to justify your choices to anyone but yourself. Are you content with the choices you made then considered yourself blessed. As many people I've experience both been childless (doing what I please when I pleased which not always led to feeling happy)and with child and experiecing the statisfaction of receiving a "I wove you mommy" , teaching by son how to ride a bike, and seen a little bit of myself in him, it has been wondurful to see him grow!. Im I always glad that I have a kid? no, not always like when I want to finish reading a book and I'm iterrupted, like when my son has tantrums, when he wakes me up at 5:30 AM! Do I wish I was childless? No, I just wish for a few childless moments... but nevertheless I'm content with my life as a mother. If you dont want to have kids? I wish you the same fullfilness as does with children , If you have kids and regret it? I pitty you Really that's a tragedy...

I guess it all depends on how people define happiness. Some people define it based on partying, vacations, and things like that. I view that lifestyle as completely meaningless, immature, and just plain selfish. I believe that being a parent makes me a better person because it teaches me to be selfless and to care about other people and their desires more than my own. There are many parents who regret having kids because it limits there freedom and takes away from their "me-time". Again, I believe that is selfish and this world would be a better place if people would think of others more than themselves. I've never been happier than since I've been married and since we've started having kids (number 2 on his way). My wife and I still have plenty of time to spend alone and to do what we want. We do have fun together, with or without the kids, and are as much in love as anyone we know. Why? Because I think we are mature enough to realize what is important in life, and partying is not it.