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  • Posted By: postable @ 07/17/2008 6:00:54 AM

    On the cover of "OK!" no less....
    At least they will both be able to play with Barbie....
    I don't deny the the beauty; however, one is allowed to question if she is mature enough to raise a child. Let alone raise herself....

  • Posted By: azazel81 @ 07/17/2008 5:46:17 AM

    to mommy7790:

    that's good for you, and I guess you're lucky then. but not all girls are as lucky as you are. think about it: there are girls who've been dumped after they told their bf's they were pregnant. and some girsl who were abandoned by their families also. this is not the case, ok.. but I can tell you that here in italy this happens a lot. girls getting pregnant and then getting dumped by their bfs and anandoned by their families. and most of them don't even have a job (mainly because they're still to young to get a job).

    they've got to give up many things in their lives: interests, schools, hobbies...

    have you ever thought about that? just because you are lucky, it doesn't mean everyone is.
    plus, providing for a baby is not a game, you can't risk anything, because it would only jeopardise the baby's future.

    you ask "how does it glamourize teen pregnancy?": well, did you have your pictures shown to all of the world? are you a VIP setting an example to a lot of people? I don't think so. do you know how many people follow examples set by VIP's or by movies and so on?

  • Posted By: ebever123 @ 07/17/2008 5:38:41 AM

    Now there ALL gonna want one!!!

  • Posted By: azazel81 @ 07/17/2008 5:35:37 AM

    sorry for the double post... it's this damn computer.

  • Posted By: mommy7790 @ 07/17/2008 5:25:04 AM

    and how does it glamourize teen pregnant? who cares how old she is? they are beautiful pictures of her and her daughter. its not glamorous, theyre just cute pictures. so are you saying they should have made a photoshoot where jamie lynn was tearing her hair out, was flat broke, and was hitting her childs head against a wall because teen pregnancy is SO horrible?
    yeah i think NOT

  • Posted By: mommy7790 @ 07/17/2008 5:23:13 AM

    what a bunch of ***. they act like its some horrible thing to get pregnant when youre a teenager and like its not a beautiful thing like if you were in your 30s. i had my baby when i was the same age as jamie lynn. i got pregnant when i was 16, had him at 17. and now i am 18 and my son is 9 months old and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. being a mom is beautiful, no matter what your age.

  • Posted By: Stingray7007 @ 07/17/2008 5:22:51 AM

    It really is sad but if people would get a life, magazines that profit off such topics would not be in business, technically the boyfriend should have been charged with statutory rape. She was underage at the time, there are laws. At 16 you are still not old enough to comprehend what pregnancy is going to do to your life. What we have rules for some and not others because, hey this magazines paying me a million dollars for my story so now I don't have ro worry about how financially I'm going to rIaise this child. And now that the child s born they get the exclusive pics and they pay more money. Very sad state the US is in.

  • Posted By: LovnLife @ 07/15/2008 2:12:06 PM

    As a young mother myself, I think everyone forgets we still live in a free society. Married at 13, I was a mother at 14 (easily passed for 20) and again at 17. My children grew up to be wonderful adults and I wouldn't change a thing about my life with them. My sister was a young mother as was my mother and grandmother. Who has the right to pass judgement on the Spears girls for living their life? Some kids get into gangs while others choose to be young parents. Get over it and leave them alone to raise their children.

    • Posted By: loriw @ 07/15/2008 2:52:54 PM

      Where were you able to be legally married at 13?
      Surely not in the USA!
      Where was your mother and father? How could they allow you to be married?
      As a parent of a daughter,I can't begin to respond to your post and it takes a lot to make me speechless...

      • Posted By: Pinklilly29 @ 07/17/2008 5:19:58 AM

        Seriously, why do you care if anyone gets married at 13 or 14?
        It is so easy to call out someone's "faults" if thats what you may classify it as....
        However, i dont think anyone on this comment board has the right to judge how old people get married and what age the decide to have kids. Whether getting married at 13 is now illegal, if the women says she got married at 14, leave her alone and that shouldn't concern anyone.

        My mother was married at 15. And had 4 children in between the ages 16 until 36.
        Does this make my mother a HORRIBLE PERSON?
        If it just so happens that a teen pregnancy may arise, it is NOBODY's place to judge, because you may not know the situation at all.

      • Posted By: ArielBLaw @ 07/15/2008 5:10:12 PM

        Amazing. Absolutely amazing that you compare teen marriage and pregnancy to gangs. You're right, some kids get into gangs, and let me guess, you think that will work out just fine too? As a society it is in NO ONE'S best interest to just let kids get into gangs and leave them alone to live their life, just like we would not look the other way when ignorant teens get into drugs -- we would not let them just go live their life like that, or at least not if we cared about them. To care about a teenager is to help them make smart decisions, and yes, to also support and help them when they don't. But no one thinks we should call the bad decisions good ones just to spare their feelings. I mean really, be honest with yourself and get over it.

        • Posted By: loriw @ 07/15/2008 7:10:16 PM

          I think you meant to to reply to LovnLife not me. I personally agree that kids need to stay out of gangs as well. I am all for women working but one of the two parents or a grandparent needs to be keeping an eye on the kids so they aren't out looking for sex and drugs or joining gangs.

  • Posted By: azazel81 @ 07/17/2008 5:19:25 AM

    well, she's probably going to turn out like her older sister. Britney said the same things when she had her baby. I guess that's family heirloom.

    this article definitely galmourizes teen pregnancy, just for the fact that it's showing her with her baby.

    the mere fact of showing something on a magazine, kind of glamourizes it. it's what happens in our society nowadays, sadly.

    I'm Italian and sadly I have to say that here (I don't know about other countries honestly), there are areas where people tend to have kids when they're pretty young (eg.: when they are around 15). people tend to start having their first time (in having sex) when they are even younger (12/13) and then face the consequences.

    seeing someone famous getting pregnant when they're under the age of 18, sets somehow and example for girls everywhere, putting into their minds that being teen and being pregnant is ok and it's not difficult. the thing is that they don't realize the consequences they'd have to face, such as for example actually providing for a baby, or having to give everything up because obviously you have to take care of your kid.

    having a magazine show teen pregancy and having a famous person say "it's the best thing of my life" does show just one aspect of the whole matter: the part where you have something you created, which is your blood, your flesh, and so on... but do they say how difficult it is to provide for a kid? do they say that being pregnant when your a teenager and you don't earn millions of dollars per year, it's not such an easy situation to face? the answer is obviously no.

    and what shocks me the most is that they don't care. they don't care wether or not they know they're setting an example and that a lot of people take VIPs as their life-models.

    Plus, if a young girl is pregnant and not famous, she could get dumped by her boyfriend (let's face it, it's real). what happens next? how will she provide for herself and her baby?
    I'm pretty sure that britney and her sister know nothing about this.

  • Posted By: azazel81 @ 07/17/2008 5:18:53 AM

    well, she's probably going to turn out like her older sister. Britney said the same things when she had her baby. I guess that's family heirloom.

    this article definitely galmourizes teen pregnancy, just for the fact that it's showing her with her baby.

    the mere fact of showing something on a magazine, kind of glamourizes it. it's what happens in our society nowadays, sadly.

    I'm Italian and sadly I have to say that here (I don't know about other countries honestly), there are areas where people tend to have kids when they're pretty young (eg.: when they are around 15). people tend to start having their first time (in having sex) when they are even younger (12/13) and then face the consequences.

    seeing someone famous getting pregnant when they're under the age of 18, sets somehow and example for girls everywhere, putting into their minds that being teen and being pregnant is ok and it's not difficult. the thing is that they don't realize the consequences they'd have to face, such as for example actually providing for a baby, or having to give everything up because obviously you have to take care of your kid.

    having a magazine show teen pregancy and having a famous person say "it's the best thing of my life" does show just one aspect of the whole matter: the part where you have something you created, which is your blood, your flesh, and so on... but do they say how difficult it is to provide for a kid? do they say that being pregnant when your a teenager and you don't earn millions of dollars per year, it's not such an easy situation to face? the answer is obviously no.

    and what shocks me the most is that they don't care. they don't care wether or not they know they're setting an example and that a lot of people take VIPs as their life-models.

    Plus, if a young girl is pregnant and not famous, she could get dumped by her boyfriend (let's face it, it's real). what happens next? how will she provide for herself and her baby?
    I'm pretty sure that britney and her sister know nothing about this.

  • Posted By: Pinklilly29 @ 07/17/2008 5:06:41 AM

    I think the reason most people around the world look down upon "teen pregnancy" is that we tend to think that a young adult will not be able to take full responsibility in these adult situations.
    I do, however believe that being a teen mom also has a lot to do with the amount of money she has to support her new young child. Most teen pregnancies are unplanned, much like jamie lynn's, however, we hear about fathers leaving, and teen moms not being able to handle the pressure.
    I don't think it's wise for us to look at Jamie Lynn in a bad light, because although she is a teen mom, she has enough support and MONEY to raise her child in a healthy enviornment.

    To the comment below: Not everyone believes that marriage has to be the very first thing before a child. Some people rather never get married at all.......this doesn't mean these people are never going to have children.

  • Posted By: McNavy's Wify @ 07/17/2008 4:31:29 AM

    I have to say that yes, this article is glamorizing teen pregnancy, which is one thing our society doesn't need any more of. As a mother of a toddler, and pregnant with my second, I can say first hand that yes, being a mother is wonderful, and is one of the best feelings in the world. But so was the day I got married, six months BEFORE I ever got pregnant.

    This article is a terrible choice for a cover, or to even write. It gives the impression that it is totally okay to get pregnant at 16, and it isn't. If you are going to have sex at that age, be smart about it. You can avoid getting pregnant without birth control or condoms, if neither is available to you. And I have a hard time believing that Ms. Spears didn't have access to anything.

    I got married young myself, and got pregnant a bit sooner then planned. I am not quite 22, and can account for the hardships being a young mother bring. I know I am missing out on things, and sometimes I wish my husband and I had waited. But we didn't. And we know that being parents is what our life is now, not regretting anything. Can a teenager, unwed, without even a full education make that same claim? Not likely. Can Ms Spears? Sure, cause she has money, her family has money, and that ladies and gentlemen is the only reason she and her child are on the cover of a magazine.

    Teen pregnancy is something that is sweeping across this country, because girls don't fully realize what it means to give everything up for your child. And if they can't do that, then they have no right getting pregnant in the first place.

    Thanks OK! magazine, then teen pregnancy rate just shot up about 25%... way to go.

  • Posted By: amagal @ 07/17/2008 3:55:38 AM

    The glamorixing teen pregnancy is not the real issue. The issue is sex education. I'm a teen, and the only thing I know about sex is that you should say no. Granted, I am waiting for my wedding night for religious reasons, but I have never once encountered something that says 'If you can't say no, here's what to do.' Our school doesn't tell us to get contraceptives because they're too concerned with us refusing it altogether. Morons have been caught in the act, and all our school does is tell them to say no next time. The bottom line is that telling kids to say no and only no DOES NOT WORK FOR ALL TEENAGERS. I have no problem with it, but there are other teens that are going to have sex! The world has changed, sex is no longer something that you don't bring up in daily conversation. In countries like Italy and Germany, the adults and teachers are very open about sex. They give out condoms, they give you birth control. And they have lower teen pregnancy rates.

    Making sex a forbidden fruit just makes it more appealing (no pun intended) and teens will go after it. Yes, the cover showed teen pregnancy, but it was just for one girl. Juno seemed to 'glamorize' it as well. The only way to counteract this is for our teachers to tell us what to do if we want to have sex. They don't. Americans are prude- they think that telling us, as teenagers, to just say no will work for everyone. IT DOESN'T. They need to break out of their shells and say 'Okay, if you're going to have sex, you need to protect yourself' not 'You shouldn't be having sex, just say no.'

    If the media is going to glamorize teen pregnancy, then you all should be teaching me and my classmates what to do if we decide to have sex so it doesn't come to that.

  • Posted By: FayRay @ 07/17/2008 3:28:33 AM

    This is beyond stupid - of course, it promotes teen pregnancy!! Why is this child being idealized in a positive manner?! Yet again, babies having babies but ths time its being put in the limelight of respectibility for other teens to aspire to become. Amazing.

  • Posted By: enuffznuff98 @ 07/15/2008 2:11:21 PM

    this type of behavior will be "part of our social fabric" as long as there are parents who still keep having kids when they're WAY TOO YOUNG and then allowing their kids to make the same mistake. it's a cycle that shouldn't be allowed to keep repeating. it's all about be responsible and not allowing CHILDREN to have CHILDREN.

    MOMMY and DADDY SPEARS dropped the ball on this one...

    again.

    • Posted By: yh132 @ 07/16/2008 11:56:00 PM

      You mean as opposed to the fab job they must have done with Britney?

    • Posted By: Jimt72 @ 07/15/2008 4:41:24 PM

      I dont think there is a Ma and Pa Spears.

  • Posted By: seabee1976 @ 07/15/2008 7:25:26 PM

    Bad example for teenager, Disney should have removed her show and reruns off the air, won't let my two daughters watch it. This is a very disfunctional family, who sets poor examples for teenage girls and if it didn't sell so many mags, you would not be hearing about it, like the several thousand other teens who get pregant every year. Jamie Lynn issituation is not Unique, only difference is she has money to have someone else raise her child. STOP glamorizing her for being STUPID and getting pregant at sixteen

    • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/16/2008 9:13:46 PM

      people shes not on disney shes on nick

  • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/15/2008 6:44:06 AM

    I have my one year old son living with me and we hardly see the father but thats ok. people told me i could never do nething such as work and go to college full time. but you know what i proved those people wrong. im doing that all. so people should stop putting others down. who cares if u believe in god others do to and they make mistakes. so stop bullying on kids that are under age. if they chose do something that will affect them later on in life then they need to deal with it on their own without people telling them that they will never amoun to nething in their lives.

    • Posted By: judgejudy @ 07/15/2008 11:34:37 AM

      Devred: Who cares for your son when you are at work and at school? Under who's roof do you live? Who pays for his doctor visits? His clothes and food? How did you handle the hospital bills when he was born? How many books do you read to him each day? How much quality time do you personally spend with him (no TV, no homework, no distractions) every day? I think if you're offering opinions after one year of being a parent, we have a right to know where you're coming from. I look forward to your answers.

      • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/16/2008 8:39:29 PM

        to be honest with you its really none of ur damn business. i put him to sleep i wake up with him. i read to him play with him. i bring him to work. i do what i need to do. i buy his food and buy his clothes. he gets what he needs before i get me clothes or nething. he gets taken care of. so if u want to ask more questions go ahead. and his daddy watches him when he can and if not i watch if that helps you at all.

    • Posted By: nowandforalways @ 07/15/2008 6:54:32 AM

      I am with you DevRed247 nobody said hey Jamie Lynn go get pregnant she chose too the same way I did and some kids are raised different and are ready earlier then others so I am with you and the way you think all the way and I just want to say congratulations to you for being able to do what you do working and college good for you girl!!!!!!

      • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/16/2008 8:33:14 PM

        thank you atleast some people are nice about others and not judgemental of others

    • Posted By: judgejudy @ 07/15/2008 10:25:28 AM

      Who babysits for your son while you are at work and in school? Who pays for his doctor visits? His food and clothes? Who gets him up and dresses him in the morning? How many books do you have time to read him each day? How much quality time dd you spend with him - no TV on? Just interested. If you're doing a parenting job to be proud of, you should give some details.....

    • Posted By: greeneyesinspring @ 07/15/2008 7:11:03 AM

      The problem may not come now but it will. If you think that you can do it all at your age think again. Open yourself up to what the reality is......it is not glamerous or wonderful to be a teenage mother and in this day and age you can not afford to what it takes to raise a child. Really, think about it. Glorifying a 16 year old who has made a million or 2 does not help the young girls who have to work at a gas station and pay daycare of their kids plus feed them.........OMG.......that is horrible. Mistakes are made but they do not have to be.

  • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/15/2008 6:37:46 AM

    People these days just dont have any sympathy for anyone but themselves. maybe people should just their mouths and let people be themselves. Stop juding others when maybe you should be judging ur selves instead.

    • Posted By: kymw @ 07/15/2008 7:24:58 AM

      It isn't about sympathy, but personal responsibility. Who do you think is paying for all of these babies? We, the people, are paying. These teens who get pregnant have ruined their lives generally. Yes, we do have the occasional success story. I'm a high school teacher and each year it gets worse. These girls end up broken and left by the fathers of these babies. They drop out of school, or stay in with inferior grades. The point is that we need to call it out the way it is in real life. We need to grow up, find a life partner, get financially stable, find out if our relationship is solid, then have a child. Critical-raise your children in a home with a mom and dad. YES!!! DADS ARE NECESSARY!!!!!! Ask any child without his

      • Posted By: DevRed247 @ 07/16/2008 8:31:26 PM

        then just leave people alone if u werent a teenage parent then you wouldnt know a damn thing

  • Posted By: karlalongisland @ 07/15/2008 3:35:26 PM

    she did the right thing and had this baby, she could have aborted it. i think she is bit more mature than ther average american teen. she described her pregnancy and labor and delivery to be perfect, she may be just a bit less selfish than most of you who had teen pregnancies, and i think she nows she will be successful with or without the baby's father, she knows she made a mistake and owes this baby the best possible future. she really wants to shelter and protect this baby , It is our job to teach our kids and explain that this is her unique circumstance, but she will need to make sacrifices non the lessand it's never right to for a young mind to be sexually active.OK mag. is portraying jamie's oulook for the future she wants to make for this baby. a future filled with optimism is a better aproach than abandonment and neglect like her sister, she is determined to do the opposite

    • Posted By: judgejudy @ 07/15/2008 4:52:38 PM

      If only she had aborted it, then we wouldn't have to have this discussion, and my 9-year-old grandchild wouldn't have to have sex explained to her quite so early. I see again and again that the anti-abortion set is the only one expressing opinions, and that's just wrong. It would be lovely if no child ever needed an abortion, but the sad fact is they do and I, for one, would rather see the fetus aborted than a child suffering abuse and neglect. Abortion is legal. And, many times, the most humane choice. And for those of you seething while reading this, if you choose to respond, then please list the number of adopted children you have, and how many unwed mothers you personally assist on a regular basis. Thanks

      • Posted By: loriw @ 07/15/2008 7:04:43 PM

        HUMANE FOR WHO? no abortion is humane for the fetus! Every one needs to be explaining sex to 9 yr olds because guess what....they are having at least oral sex in middle school if they aren't having intercourse. And I'm not talking intercity schools here folks! And no, I don't think it is right for adults to force girls to have abortions. Just as they are really too young to be having sex and getting pregnant I don't think teens are mature enough to be making a life altering decision such as abortion either. Too many times these girls are pressured by parents who are overly concerned about their own reputatuations and force their daughter into an abortion so she doesn't ruin everyone's life. Do the thougher thing- ADOPTION!

        • Posted By: judgejudy @ 07/15/2008 8:53:26 PM

          What a coincidence -- I don't think it's right to force a child to have a child she can't handle. Plus, you neglected to mention your number of adopted children and personally-sponsored unwed mothers. You want these fetuses to develop, so I assume you are helping many, many of them out with financial and emotional support. Please tell us the stories of your unwed mother successes...

          • Posted By: loriw @ 07/16/2008 3:02:33 PM

            I support adoption not unwed mothers keeping the children unless there is a strong support system in the family that will help her raise the child. I have directly assisted in many adoptions through both of my jobs.
            Do you assist in abortions? Do you know that fetuses can feel pain? As a nurse with years of NICU experience I can tell you that without a doubt fetuses feel pain. I will never assist in abortion. It kills a living child.

  • Posted By: Livingonhope @ 07/16/2008 8:38:30 AM

    Just stating my opinion, are there any other teens or young adults that have posted comments? I am 19 and live in a town it seems every girl is bare-foot and pregnant and has yet to graduate high school. I see it all the time, people and couples happy with their children but with teens it???s disturbing knowing they do not have the mental maturity to care for a child. Just a fact from my town, in sex education we were taught only abstinence. Well sex is so public and almost glorified in a way that teens are going to have sex. Why not teach ways to prevent becoming pregnant? I won???t bring religion in that???s not my place, but it is sad when smart girls and boys end up with a family and are not able to experience the rest of being a child themselves. Please do comment I know there are other opinions and views I am open to hearing them.
    Thanks ???

    • Posted By: loriw @ 07/16/2008 2:54:52 PM

      Thank you for your opinion. I agree teaching abstinence alone does not work but it should be included so that we keep the bar high. I feel that motivated teens will aspire to our expectations. If we expect that they will be unable to attain abstinence then we are sending the message that we expect they will have sex. Adults usually get exactly what they communicate that they expect from teens. Teens are in such a hurry to "be adults" and when the media glorifies early sexuality is it any wonder we are going to have more teen pregnancies.

    • Posted By: judgejudy @ 07/16/2008 8:57:44 AM

      Livingonhope: I believe (hope) that what you have so astutely observed is what the majority of Americans believe. This should not be a religious discussion, teaching abstinence does not work, and choice is the law of the land. I may be making an incorrect assumption, but it sounds like you live in the South. As much as they hate to hear it, Southerners are alway s a bit behind the times, and, in this issue, so-called evangelical Christians hold too much sway. In other parts of the country, you would usually find that people are more rational. Please, keep thinking for yourself and don't let the nonsense get you down!

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