YES AND IT'S TOTALLY WRONG! GIRLS WITHOUT ANY MONEY TO SUPPORT BABIES ARE GOING TO START HAVING THEM AND GUESS WHO IS GOING TO PAY FOR THEIR MEDICAL BILLS, EDUCATION, FOOD STAMPS AND HOUSING SUBSIDY - US!
YES AND IT'S TOTALLY WRONG! GIRLS WITHOUT ANY MONEY TO SUPPORT BABIES ARE GOING TO START HAVING THEM AND GUESS WHO IS GOING TO PAY FOR THEIR MEDICAL BILLS, EDUCATION, FOOD STAMPS AND HOUSING SUBSIDY - US!
I have worked as a youth leader and director of an after-school program and camp for children and youth ages 5-18. I have worked with youth who had babies and worked with children whose parents had them at very very young ages. I advocate abstinence first and protected sex second...consensual sex doesn't just happen at some point you have to make a choice and that choice will have consequences.
I think that Jamie Lynn has had to make some very "grown up decisions" because of other choices she has made. I think that OK! magazine did a nice piece of journalism. UNFORTUNATELY...I think the media attention of Miss Spears situation still has a subtle yet very real negative impact on young people. Sure she has already made a fortune...but it is still sending a message that "if she can do it so can I." But the reality is that many "young mothers and young fathers" will still end up with their parents having to raise them and their babies, young parents frustrated and resentful because of the responsibility, struggle to reconcile whether or not they made the right decison (to have the child, adoption, abortion). Abstinence and/or protected sex are the best choice until you really are an adult [emotionally not just physically]. Being rich only makes it financially easier...but it is still "Babies having babies" and that is very very sad. If you want to really really honest then profile the young parents who struggle with the decisions they had to make (keeping the child, adoption, abortion). Some situations turn out well and others do not. But lets stop glamorizing Babies having babies.
Well written response.
I think that there is something very troubling with the Spears family in general and if they would spend more time working on the family issues as a whole, and less time exploding the family and new baby for money, they could regain some of the respect they have lost in the public eye. No one can say, that they want there 12yr old daughter, niece, cousin, etc..., idolizing Britney or Jamie Lynn at this point, unless money is all you care about. If Jamie Lynn would use this situation to talk and teach young girls about other options they have like birth control and abstinence, she could complete change this situation around for her.
This is absolutley riddiculous...I blame her mom and only her mom. Look what she has allowed Hollywood to do to not one but both of her daughters...THIS IS WHERE IT ALL STARTS in the home with how the parents are raising there kids. Good grief all you have to do is the simple math here..SHAME ON BOTH OF THE SPEARS PARENTS!!! I hope you love the mess you've created with your daughters.
I so totally agree! If this is how parents will raise their kids, OK! should totally be ashamed of what they've started with this whole article! I mean, sure whatever, people might want to hear about babies and all this crap, but have they ever thought of the more important things people want to hear? real life is one thing, but GOSSIP is totally different. You can start rumors, and eventually the people included in the rumor will get hysteric and report to the magezine and tell the whole REAL truth! Thats how a magezine works. So you magezine people, why don't you think about other people from they're perspective before you write and publish what you THINK people want to hear.
The media has definitely sent a message to young teen girls romanticizing pregnancy and having a child. The reprecussions are that "starry eyed" young girls, especially the ones who are Jamie Lynn Spears fans, will believe if it's ok for her to get pregnant and have a baby, it's ok for them. The fact that Miss Spears has lots of money to financially support her child is important of course, but this won't weigh in with average young teens who are only looking at the "pretty pictures" of Jaime and her adorable baby. Even adult women can have an unrealistic view of what pregnancy and child rearing will be like. I know I did at 24 when my husband and I decided to have our first. I'm saddened by the major hype Jaime Lynn's situation has received, not because I'm not happy for her to have a healthy baby, but because she is sending a message to teen girls everywhere that it is a good choice. I hope that most young girls out there understand that having a child is a forever committment. You can't forget to feed, change or love them. They require 24/7 care and there will be huge responsibilities involved. And this is something I don't just leave to the young teen girls out there,....we have 5 boys and I've told them the exact same thing! Good luck to Jaime Spears. She is fortunate to have Nannies and Money available to her unlike most teens.
TEENAGERS WHY WOULD U WANT TO HAVE KIDS AND A TEEN AGE. DOESNT MAKE ANY SENSE. PARENTS GIVE THEM AN A$$ WHOOPING...HAHA...Just kidding ....but still WHY WOULD U WANT TO HAve KIDS AT THE AGE OF 17! MOTHERS AND FATHERS WAKE UP ...YOUR KIDS ARE HAVING SEX WHILE YOUR SLEEPING. GET THE BIRTHCONTROL PILLS OUT FAST!...If this is the way we have to go then do it. Its for their best.
My mother had her first child at 18. She and my father were married at the time and still are. 55 years and 4 children later they are still happy and together. Yes they did struggle, but my siblings and I are all well adjusted, successful adults. The only reason I would feel sorry for Jamie's new baby is that by growing up in the shadow of the Spear's girls, the poor child will never know a normal life.
That is not a credible comparison, Sue. Those were "different times" back then, on a number of fronts, ONE of which is that most women didn't have to work back then, not like they do today. Typically the mom was able to stay at home with the kids, and there was "family" or a trusty neighborhood gal available for infrequent, occasional babysitting....and believe it or not, many of the problematic kids in society today come from homes where the parents were/are MIA. Myself, I can pick out what I call a "daycare child" a mile away, trust me on that one, I've seen it firsthand, it's sad. Now, IF we see JL put her child FIRST in every way, including ahead of the career, that will be a point in her favor, and a blessing for her child. But the fact remains, she IS a child rearing a child, especially in today's society where the age of true maturity seems to be much later than it used to be. Britney wasn't ready for children, not mentally, and likely largely due to the fact that she was never able to live a normal childhood; it remains to be seen what sis will be able to do, at yet a much younger age.
Comment: SweetDreamsCherry .... please tell me the characteristics of a "day care child"? And you know the characteristics because you are a pschologist and you've been all over the county observing all kids around in different demographics and therefore you are an expert? You sounded very smart until you made that comment. I know some bratty and not so smart daycare kids and stay at home with their mom kids. Kids are kid and life is life. Don't judge JL or people you don't know. You know, back in the day, per your comments, you should be familair with that era, women secretly got abortions and pretended that their daughters were their sisters not to shame the family. JL stood up for herself and is handling this situation very responsibly. That's a win for her.
I am a 36 year old mother, and I can tell you a 16 year old has no idea of what it's like to be a real mother. At 16 you should be babysitting still, hanging out with friends, going to dances. Whatever happened to morals? If you're not going to teach your child abstinence then at least put them on birth control. Why do you think there is so many lower income families? Because it's a vicious circle of babies having babies and so forth. I think everything that is immoral is glamorized these days. It's a shame there are very few moral left in the world any more.
People... it comes down to it , I honestly dont think that regardless of the age, whether birth control has failed or protection was never used that the 2 involved in the relationship are thinking about OK Magazine or Jamie Lynn Speers. In the heat of the moment I can guarantee it does not cross their minds.Things happen and there is nothing we can do about it. Being a mother is hard whether you are young or not ! Jamie Lynn my friends, is not the only 16 year old to have a child nor will she be the last whether in the spot light or not, the difference between her and everyday people is her success. So long as she lives her life for her and not everyone else she has a chance that most others do not.It does not mean that she wont go through what other moms go through, teething,crying,colic and bad days. Dance classes,school trips and "boys". Congratulations Jamie & Casey , and welcome to the world little Maddie.
It can be a disgrace to know that young teenage girls as Zoey are having babies, and other out there may wanna have babies bby choice, but hey, my mum had her first baby when she was 16 going on 17. so, if a teenage girl wanna have her baby too, then fine! it her decision. just for her to know if that's what she really wants....
Hey, what do you think would happen if Jamie Lynn read this article? About all those things that you wanted just to get a photo shoot of her and the baby? Don't you think Jamie would start seeing sense and tell OK! to go AWAY?!
Kudos to those young adults who graduate from college, attain a career, marry and then have children and a responsible life! Let's herald those young people; not some irresponsible teenager who happens to have no clue as to what attaining a goal or working for a living is like! Money and fame - so what ?? Jamie Lynn Spears defnitely won't be running our country in a decade - but my son will!! There's thousands of responsible young people out there that know what they are doing with their lives and they are mentoring hundreds of younger people to achieve goals. The Spears sisters don't glamorize anything but a lack of judgment, irresponsibility, no self esteem, and just plain stupidity. And where did they get their wonderful direction from - their greedy, irresponsible, self-serving parents. Each generation learns from the generation before. In a few years, the Spears' will be a "flash in the pan". My efforts are focused on those young people who have a clue - and a legitimate life plan. Not just an "entertainment".
It happens. You shouldn't stick your head in the sand but to understand that Jamie is not an ordinary girl she has money her family has money. They are in the public life. I am certian that she has grown up differently then most of us. Having to make adult decisons before most of us even considered anything as an adult. Its a magazine article not a pro teen pregnancy banner. If you talk to your childeren and be a good parent your child will grow up well rounded & responsible if not... well you'll be visisting them at one of 3 places, jail, nutty ward or cemetary. Think about it.
It is terrible. She is making money for her picture on the front cover and all teens will think this will happen to them. This was a major error on the magazines end. What were they thinking.................
18,19,<~~~~~~~Why would you want to have kids at those age either... MAN the money in the world and you want to have KIDS i am telling you enjoy your youth now....not with kids right now.... Welcome to America!!
Jamie Lynn Spears is not the only one in this world to have a baby at a young age. I'm not saying I agree wtih teenage pregnancy at all here and I would be devastated if my daughter came home at 16 and pregnant. But are we all naive to believe teenagers aren't having sex in this day and age? I mean come on now, the girl had an unplanned pregnancy. Accidents do happen! That don't mean she wasn't using birth control and trying not to protect herself at all. Okay so what if she decided to have an abortion? What would the public and media be saying then? Why should she even consider giving up the baby for adoption if she felt she could give this life a good life with a whole lot of love? Just because she is young does not mean she cannot be a good mother at all. To put her on the cover of a magazine and now criticize the story by saying "teenage pregnancy is glamorized" is wrong. She will have her sleepless nights and everything else to go with it the same as the rest of us mothers. The fact of the matter here is that she is now a mom to a beautiful baby and she is feeling very proud the same as the rest of us when we had ours. She has the right to share that cover the same as the others. All we ever hear about is the downside to teenage pregnancies so what is wrong with hearing about one positive out of all of them. I know I would rather for my daughter to come home pregnant than have cancer. Her life is not ending, its just beginning with a beautiful new life. Teenagers will continue to have sex knowing what the risks are and that don't mean they are bad people.
No she is not the first one to have a baby as a teenager and she wont be the last, but she is the first one that the media has portrayed like that. They are glorifying the whole situation and THAT is wrong. This is what the discussion is about. Not that she had it at a young age. But that it's all over the media as acceptable and that is what everyone is mad about.
It is terrible. She is making money for her picture on the front cover and all teens will think this will happen to them. This was a major error on the magazines end. What were they thinking.................
As a former high school teacher, this isn't going to affect any teens decision to have or not have sex. Ms. Spears will however, be brought up as a response to every parent inquiring of a daughter why she has decided to engage in sex (Yes, it is a stupid question since teen hormones--and curiosity about anything forbidden--are at a peak): Jamie Lynn obviously "does it." What most teen-aged girls obviously overlook is that Jamie Lynn and her equally impulsive and addle-brained sister have plenty of money to support themselves and their off-spring if the father takes a powder after deciding that children cut into the time you have to "party." Obviously these two sisters have decided that Cletus and his wife (from The Simpsons) are appropriate role models for parenting--and I suppose we all should be grateful that neither of them decided to marry a first cousin. Jamie-Lynn can appear smiling and happy because right after that photo shoot--when she pocketed even more moolah for not being able to count to 28 accurately--she handed that baby to a nanny (we can only hope) and went to the Olive Garden or Wal-Mart (I prefer Costco). I once had a student who gave birth the day before the prom--and was upset with her parents that they would care for the baby so she could attend. The nerve of those parents!!! Sex education works--abstinence only does not or there wouldn't be nearly as many of us. If you aren't talking to your child realistically, make sure someone is. I once talk a class of teen-aged boys and I heard, "You can't get a girl pregnant if it's the first time." "You can't get a girl pregnant if you 'do it' standing up." Then there is my favorite: "You have to use 'Pepsi or Coke' immediately afterward." In an age when protecting yourself against unwanted STDs is as important as not getting pregnant before you are ready or able to provide adequately for a child, education about all the best methods for preventing either situation is a necessity. Ms. Spears is not Juliet . . . and her life span is not her late twenties. Those teen-agers who get pregnant and do not have the financial or emotional resources to be a really good parent--a 24/7 job, by the way--should seriously consider what is best for the child. As Keanu Reeves put it in PARENTHOOD: "You need a license to drive a car . . . but you don't need any kind of requirement to become a parent (or words to that effect--it's been a long time since I saw the movie). How right he was . . . UNFORTUNATELY.
Yes, it glomorizes teen pregnancy and out of wedlock pregnancy. We are teaching society that there is no such thing as moral value. If you say anything negative about all this you are considered a biggot.
it is not about morals or about being married or not... the question is "WHY WOULD U WANT TO HAVE KIDS AT THE AGE OF 17! DOESNT MAKE ANY SENSE!"
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