It is amazing to me that as people discuss the case they become so defensive about sexuality issues.
someone opens up about some of her own personal history and because she is honest or even has an opinion that is disagreed with she gets accused. How about discussing the merits of her argument instead of playing the old game of "i'm losing the argument, so I will bait and switch and accuse her of not caring about people getting murdered....give me a break--she gets attacked.
Suddenly sexual history has nothing to do with it, it is a murder, so don't bring any facts about past sexual history into it. and is the persons logic talks down the person that says sexual history shouldn't be a part (ie where a person commented the vast difference between what the parents thought was going on in the life of their daughter and what actually seemed to be going on--the descrepency in terms of image and sexual involvement; of course it should be included) then the person does what so many do when they don't want to deal with reality--make accusations. so suddenly the woman that questions the integrety of women who sleep around (perhaps based on her own past sexual experiences) suddenly the accusation is made--and this is so disconnected to the logic of the argument--that she doesn't care about the murder only the fact that young people are involved in immorality, or that sexual history shouldn't matter. What the woman who made the initial comment about sexual history being relevant--also raised some other implications about the culture of America, the sexually permissive toxic atmosphere young people have to grow up in, the fantasy lives of young men and women posted on my.Space, etc. Find me young women that want sex for sex sake and do not want to be love cherished and valued for who they are apart from their sexuality. When they are very honest, not still clinging to "SEx in the city" philosophy that in the end leaves so many disillusioned, they will admit they are designed, yes I said the "d" word implying there is a creator (Ok attack force come and attack me now, change the subject, make accusations--or deal with what I just said, or what I am saying) young women will admit that they are designed and long for, safety, security, permanance and commitment; they will also admit that they are primarily relational and secondarily sexual; not non sexual, but just oriented in such a way that they are primarily relational. They will trade sex for love, will use the power of their sexuality to attempt to create a permanent relationship. Any thoughts, or do we ever begin to take responsibility as older ones (oh yeah), the abdication of the baby boomer generation damaged by their own haight ashbury experiences and philosophy, to even step up to the plate and want better for the young generation than what has been revealed by this sad sad occurance. Ready aim fire. Jim A









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