Talking the Talk

im a tween and i think not by my parents telling me or anyone else but i think it is the safest thing to do is to wait till your married...its in my religion, but im not saying that cause of my religion im saying, its my morals that i have, Its the best thing to do for any young tween or teen.

Hmm... so you're supposed to relate good values as pertains to sexual activity to your twelve year-old daughter.

Personally, I think that little tidbit of info - sex being only appropriate in the context of a committed monogamous relationship between two adults -- is something that should have been included in your answer to her question of where babies come from, a good 6+ years before.

Assuming you've actually done your job as a parent, your tween children will have absolutely NO doubt as to your values. Now, if you relied on the television set, the internet, and whatever strangers as you chose to pay to raise your children for you... well, you get what you get, now don't ya? :P

excellent suggestions, I wish more parents would read these and use the information. I am an Emergency Dept. RN, and it is heart breaking to see 11- 12-13 year old girls come in, who is pregnant and in labor and the look of terror on her face because she does not understand what is happening to her body, and you always know she has little or no support from an intellegent adult. It is very sad for them and the little one on the way! PARENTS, YOU NEED TO OPEN YOUR EYES AND REALIZE, THAT YES, YOUR, SO CALLED LITTLE ANGELS ARE DOING THIS WHEN YOUR BACK IS TURNED!!!!! Like it or not mom, dad, granny, LISTEN sometime, instead of talking so much. #3 young lives are at risk here, not just your angel.......

While what your saying has good intentions; this article does have one thing right. It is the parents job and responsibility to teach there children good moral practices. Not the church, not a school class, not a "celibacy group". You, as a parent, are responsible for your child and the moral practices that they learn first and last. Don't abdicate that responsibility to your church or to your child's school.

This society lacks the fire and brimstone morality needed to counter teen sex and seems to chalk advice up to a vague sense of "feelings" and "love". It's amusing how the advice of "waiting for the right person" seems to translate into everyone they date. Even the word "dating" is pretty much synonomous with intercourse these days. TV is nothing more than soft porn mostly seen when kids are still awake. With the ever increasing sexualized society, teens and young adults are instructed to postpone marriage to focus on careers. In other words, in the meantime, just fornicate and have fun. Now, the individual comes first, not the family. And if a girl does get married, the norm is to never have more than 2 kids.

In case anyone hasn't noticed, teens will end up facing these choices no matter what.
And the least parents can do is tell them the consequences, and how to take these actions safely. Now, for those who say that parents telling their kids sex is "OK" is an automatic failure in parenting, consider that there is no one hundred percent right way to parent. Others may view what they should teach their kids differently. In my opinion, I would rather talk to my kids about it then tell them just plain no. If they tell their kid that, it's basically putting a wedge in their relationship, because the teen may feel he/she can't communicate with their parents without them understanding.

Sex is almost inevitable at these ages. Even with religion stating do not have sex until you're married, it is natural and will happen.
.Quote from MichelleChemE: "The idea of "waiting until marriage" was created thousands of years ago when most people were married between the ages of 11-16, pretty much as soon as their hormones kicked in."

Besides Good parenting, means : do as is Right.
Not do as I do, did, or want you to try.

It means, do as God instructs us to, you cannot fail then.

Obviously, a well-adjusted chid with real church activities in her life/his life, would be getting answers to feelings physical, about waiting.
There are even school clubs to be celibate, for the reasons of self esteem.

It was not OK for me, and I was from NEGLECT and it is not OK for other kids either.
People, recall the golden calf time period?
Orgies, etc, go with the false idols, false gods.

One God, and He says not until marriage.
I don't question authourity, when it is His.
I only question people claiming to be authourities, and not knowing this stuff by rote. Ask book store for any one of the Biblew companion books, which written for talking to your / with your children, they are REAL good advice, bnot this journalistic, good intention, but phew, lacking in Biblical knowledge herself.
She needs to read.

This society lacks the fire and brimstone aspect of teaching morality and likes to chalk everything up to vague senses of "feelings" and "love". It's funny how "waiting for the right person" seems to be everyone they meet. Instead of raising kids to be goal oriented in finding a mate they teach them more and more to focus on careers and postpone marriage, almost like retirement planning. With an increasingly sexualized society, its no wonder why kids have the values they have.

hmm.

the writer of this article must be one the same ones who write about other meaningless subjects like "Going Green" 11-14 years old have no business spending anytime with anyone life a girlfriend or boyfriend. Just tell them NO! Parents need to get the guts to be parnets and stand up to their children. Having sex at a young age isn't healthy. If you can't be a strong parent, go buy condems or better yet get your girl on birth control pills. Maybe her child bearing years will be storten by doing that, or maybe give her heart trouble at 40.