As a 30 year old member of the Modern Orthodox community, I can attest to this behavior firsthand. During my days in college, I saw as many irresponsible drinking incidents as my non-Jewish classmates. However, in my experience, most of these incidents actually did occur under the guise of a religious acitvity - binge drinking on Purim, for example. Or even on a normal Friday night, when no one is operating a car. In high school, I saw kids get drunk when their parents werent home so then they wouldnt feel guilty turning on the TV (prohibited on the Sabbath). And as far as I could tell, much of this stemmed from mixed messages in the community. From a young age, kids are given alcohol at religious events. We were all instructed strictly never to drink and drive, but not to drink on a day when we aren't driving? What's the harm in that? It is easy to see how the distinction between times where alcohol is appropriate and times where it is not can be blurred. Parents will tell you they never encouraged their kids to drink, but it is all too common to see a parent offer their teenage son or daughter a shot of whiskey at a holiday meal, or a family celebration - as a way of bringing them into the adult world. The messages in the community with regard to alcohol are definitely murky, and its not surprising at all that these problems develop. The Orthodox community has a long history of being in denial about its social afflictions (drinking, substance abuse, spousal abuse, neglect, etc) and Rabbi Weinreb has done a lot of work in his career thus far to see to it that these problems do not get swept under the rug, as they have been in the past.









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