Pass the Manischewitz, Please

'They were drinking not only kiddush wine, but fine single-malt whiskey with a sumptuous smorgasbord.'

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  • Posted By: ATUD @ 08/08/2008 12:58:21 PM

    As a 30 year old member of the Modern Orthodox community, I can attest to this behavior firsthand. During my days in college, I saw as many irresponsible drinking incidents as my non-Jewish classmates. However, in my experience, most of these incidents actually did occur under the guise of a religious acitvity - binge drinking on Purim, for example. Or even on a normal Friday night, when no one is operating a car. In high school, I saw kids get drunk when their parents werent home so then they wouldnt feel guilty turning on the TV (prohibited on the Sabbath). And as far as I could tell, much of this stemmed from mixed messages in the community. From a young age, kids are given alcohol at religious events. We were all instructed strictly never to drink and drive, but not to drink on a day when we aren't driving? What's the harm in that? It is easy to see how the distinction between times where alcohol is appropriate and times where it is not can be blurred. Parents will tell you they never encouraged their kids to drink, but it is all too common to see a parent offer their teenage son or daughter a shot of whiskey at a holiday meal, or a family celebration - as a way of bringing them into the adult world. The messages in the community with regard to alcohol are definitely murky, and its not surprising at all that these problems develop. The Orthodox community has a long history of being in denial about its social afflictions (drinking, substance abuse, spousal abuse, neglect, etc) and Rabbi Weinreb has done a lot of work in his career thus far to see to it that these problems do not get swept under the rug, as they have been in the past.

  • Posted By: C. MacLean @ 08/07/2008 11:19:53 AM

    It's about time the myth of "there are no Jewish alcoholics" was put to rest. There are, and always have been, American Jews with alcohol problems, prescription pill problems, and in later generations, pot and drug problems, in Reformed, Conservative and Orthodox families. It just always been hidden, under the table, and in the closet.

    The Jewish community has been in denial for a long, long time, and for Jews I know who have tried to get sober, this extra denial has been a barrier for families to give the support needed to maintain sobriety. One thing that is a little different in the Jewish community is that Jews tend to be binge drinkers - weddings, holidays, funerals - so they don't always look like "typical" alcoholics - that is, daily drinkers, until they are in late stage addiction and sneaking drinks so their family members won't know..

    Remember the scene in "Fiddler on the Roof" when the father announces his daughter's engagement - at the local bar? He spends the whole night drinking and dancing, and his wife isn't particularly surprised when he staggers home at dawn in the throes of a whopping hangover. Why isn't she surprised? Because he's done it before.

    Most folks don't see that as a problem - he was just celebrating, after all. But it absolutely fits the definition of alcohol abuse, if not acohol dependence.

    The fact that most Jews don't see that scene as a problem, is the problem.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 3:54:30 PM

      C. Maclean,

      Actually there have been many discussions in synagogues about the fact that it is a problem. Of course in the days that the play was written the general population did nto view alcoholism as a major problme and the "funny drunk" was a standard character in theatre, film and eventually TV (Otis the town drunk in The Andy Griffin Show). Remember that one of the first films to truly address the issue was Days of Wine and Roses in 1962. Society as a whole still does not always see it as the problem it is.

      • Posted By: C. MacLean @ 08/08/2008 10:53:39 AM

        If they are discussing it in synagogues that is wonderful, but I'm sure, it is also very recent. And yes, society as a whole is still in denial about many aspects of addiction. But your reference to Otis is part of my point - non-Jewish society in America has always acknowedged that there were drunks in their midst - until very recently Jewish Americans have not; drunks were Gentiles, but not Jews.

        In the professional recovery community - those that work in the recovery business as counselors and therapists - we have always been aware that American Jews have believed there are no Jewish alcoholics. We have always recognized this as a myth - its good to hear that the Jewish community is finally starting to recognize it, too.

        That myth can makeit harder for many Jews to accept their addiction, and the Christian slant of Alcoholics Anonymous doesn't always help, either. Yes, AA touts itself as a spiritual program, and it is, but many AA meetings still close with the Lord's Prayer, and there are other New Testament prayers in the AA literature. There are certainly no prayers from the Torah in the Big Book.

        Faced with a largely Christian-oriented recovery lay community, and given the myths about alcoholism and addiction they may hear at home, Jews have some extra hurdles to overcome in early recovery.

        This article, JACS, and talking openly about the subject in synagogues are welcome and wonderful changes.

  • Posted By: lmilstein @ 08/07/2008 10:03:59 AM

    Ms. Wyler, In your article ???Pass the Manishewitz, Please??? from the 8/12 issue of Newsweek you insinuate that there is a growing alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox Jewish community. While there may or may not be an alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox community (from what I have seen, the abuse of alcohol in the orthodox jewish community pales in comparison to the problems faced by other communities), your characterization of orthodox jews drinking on the Sabbath at ???kiddush clubs??? and then getting behind the wheel of a car to drive is absolutely untrue. By definition orthodox jews do not drive on the Sabbath and if this gentleman was driving on the Sabbath he is not an orthodox jew. So while some orthodox jews may drink single malt scotch at these ???kiddush clubs??? and stumble home, they do not put others at risk by driving while intoxicated. Best to check facts before publishing not only misleading information but stories that slander an entire community.

    • Posted By: ewas @ 08/08/2008 9:14:46 AM

      The Orthodox Jewish community, as a whole, sees itself as an example of morality. I am sure that among the orthodox there exists the same struggles with substance abuse. as the rest of the world. Like every other insular community they are not immune from normative developmental challenges. They simply have an elitist attitude and believe that if they follow the tenets of the Torah, everything will be ok. The movie "Trembling Before G-d" is a good example of the way in which the orthodox community deals with its own members' honest acknowledgement of sexual identity that does not conform with what they believe to be acceptable. Denial is not a river!!
      .

  • Posted By: Hans Vildakupf @ 08/07/2008 11:12:41 AM

    Hey Ghostmasseur - Can tell me what the point of the article is? Is the point to find an excuse to direct derogatory comments about orthodox Jews? Here in Germany we have a drinking problem everyday, not just on Saturday.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 3:48:11 PM

      The point of the articel is to show that there is an increase in problems with alcoholism in the Jewish community. Sine many Jews that I know (including most of my family) reads Newsweek, they specifically can benefit from being aware that this problme hits ALL communities and that there should be more awareness and insight into it. Hiding one's head in the sand is destructive.

      Also, the articel did not say that the problem is only on Shabbat (whcih is Friday night and Saturday day), but that since the community gathers on a regular basis at those times, the Scotch club/Kiddush club problems are more prevalent then. But there is plenty of at home problem drinking the rest of the week.

      One other main issue is that unlike some denominations of other religion that associate negative images with alcohol consumption as a whole., Judiasm has always understood that responsible alcohol consumption by the general population is not bad or against some sort of divine rule (now those with the disease of alcoholism must NEVER drink) .

  • Posted By: lmilstein @ 08/07/2008 10:33:53 AM

    ghostmasseur - your post is the one that is flawed my friend. The gentelman who was drunk and driving on the Sabbath was not an orthodox jew. As an orthodox jew he would not have driven to the synagogue so he would not have his keys and if even if he walked home there would be no thought as to driving his car on the Sabbath. On the Sabbath you can not even carry a wallet or car keys on you so you dont have the ability to get in your car when impaired. As for the statistics, I did not do the study and can not address the accuracy. I can, however, say that having lived in both othodox jewish communities and non jewish communities and i saw much greater drug and alcohol abuse in the non jewish communities. While that is anecdotal eviddence, i have lived in many very representative communities in both California and NY.

    Lets not white wash the issue, however, there is drug and alcohol abuse in all communities and the orthodox jewish community should be aware of it and should not try to brush anything under the rug. But be assured the problem is NOT LEADING to drunken driving on the Sabbath.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 3:40:55 PM

      lmilstein,

      Wher in the articel doe sit say that he was driving back from shul? It does not. I simply says that on a Saturday he was driving. He could have staggered home and then gotten his keys and driven.

      And the article is not saying that it is leading to drunk driving on Shabbat. Just that this one incidient occurred and is representative of the problem that the Jewish community as a whole and the Orthodox Jewish community in particluar has a problem that they have not been addressing. Alcoholism and increased alcohol problems in the Jewish community.

  • Posted By: lmilstein @ 08/07/2008 10:05:05 AM

    Ms. Wyler, In your article ???Pass the Manishewitz, Please??? from the 8/12 issue of Newsweek you insinuate that there is a growing alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox Jewish community. While there may or may not be an alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox community (from what I have seen, the abuse of alcohol in the orthodox jewish community pales in comparison to the problems faced by other communities), your characterization of orthodox jews drinking on the Sabbath at ???kiddush clubs??? and then getting behind the wheel of a car to drive is absolutely untrue. By definition orthodox jews do not drive on the Sabbath and if this gentleman was driving on the Sabbath he is not an orthodox jew. So while some orthodox jews may drink single malt scotch at these ???kiddush clubs??? and stumble home, they do not put others at risk by driving while intoxicated. Best to check facts before publishing not only misleading information but stories that slander an entire community.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 10:10:55 AM

      lmilstein,

      OK, Let's see if you can understnad this. Nowhere did the author say that Orthodox Jews getting behind the wheel in Shabbat is a common thing. The whole point was that this ONE PERSON was so drunk (to quote the article "he drove into the oncoming lane, rolled his car, crashed into a cottage and then tried to flee the scene on foot") that he forgot it Shbaat. THAT is a perfect example of how excessive drinking completley voids one's sense of judgement. The guy was so drunk that he did not realize it was Shabbat.
      Having been among Orthodox Jews on and off for over 30 years I can tell you the there has been excessive drinking on Shabbat and Purim ( to the point of people falling down and passing out).

      No slander here. Simple facts. You owe the author an apology.

  • Posted By: lmilstein @ 08/07/2008 10:06:41 AM

    Ms. Wyler, In your article ???Pass the Manishewitz, Please??? from the 8/12 issue of Newsweek you insinuate that there is a growing alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox Jewish community. While there may or may not be an alcohol abuse problem in the orthodox community (from what I have seen, the abuse of alcohol in the orthodox jewish community pales in comparison to the problems faced by other communities), your characterization of orthodox jews drinking on the Sabbath at ???kiddush clubs??? and then getting behind the wheel of a car to drive is absolutely untrue. By definition orthodox jews do not drive on the Sabbath and if this gentleman was driving on the Sabbath he is not an orthodox jew. So while some orthodox jews may drink single malt scotch at these ???kiddush clubs??? and stumble home, they do not put others at risk by driving while intoxicated. Best to check facts before publishing not only misleading information but stories that slander an entire community.

  • Posted By: onepatriot @ 08/07/2008 7:30:40 AM

    For Pets sake what's wrong with having a strong drink,

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 10:03:48 AM

      Nothing wrong with having A (sinlge, not large) strong drink, but I have observed these Single Malt clubs even among Conservativne and Reform synagogues. It is one thing to have one drink, it is another ot have several and get drunk. And since most Reform and Conservative Jews DO drive on Shabbat, that is an added danger.

      As for the Orthodox getting drunk at shul, since they are walking home, (and many of their communities are not insuslar so they walk along normally used roads) they are both a danger to themselves and others.

  • Posted By: TheNewsDuder @ 08/07/2008 7:53:20 AM

    A few issues with the "facts" in this article...I find it hard to believe the man who crashed his car was an Orthodox Jew, as driving is forbidden on the Sabbath. Also, the statistics and studies cited in the last paragraph hardly even refer to Jews, as Israelis are not specifically Jews, they are also Christians and Muslims and many other religions. Israel is a country not a religion. While I'm sure there is a growing problem among certain circles of Orthodox Jews, it is only appropriate to cite RELATED facts, rather than only the opinions of only two men.

    • Posted By: ghostmasseur @ 08/07/2008 9:58:08 AM

      The NewsDuder, your posts has some very serious flaws.

      !. So what if it was Shabbat. In fact, it being Shabbat is completley believable. Read the Story The guy "drove into the oncoming lane, rolled his car, crashed into a cottage and then tried to flee the scene on foot". His judgement was completely impaired. Of course he would drive in Shabbat. He should not have been driving at all so why would it being Shabbat mean anything to him.

      And the stats in the last paragraph do relate to Jews. It is a pretty good probabliity that most of those studied were Jews.

      Actually the problem is not just among the Orthodox, since they make up a small percentage of Jews. Everyting they quoted was related and relevant.

  • Posted By: catlover9999 @ 08/07/2008 7:57:54 AM

    I'm glad the Jewish community is finally talking about substance abuse. But it needs to go further. Growing up, my Jewish peers didn't drink but they were the biggest pot heads around. The Jewish community needs to talk about substance abuse in all forms instead of just saying "Oh, Jewish people don't do that". Yes they do!

  • Posted By: snufu @ 08/07/2008 5:24:55 AM

    A breath of fresh air from the standard blacks are low IQ crackheads, whores, sluts, pimps, never do wells, alcholics, unpatriotic, fill in the blank....etc. Why are there never any negative caucasian articles...oh that's right, they are the messiahs of the homo sapiens.

  • Posted By: orange pumpkin @ 08/06/2008 11:13:51 PM

    It has been my observation that when Jews drink recreationally they generally confine their drinking to their homes and homes of friends and are not found making drunken fools of themselves in public places.

  • Posted By: rab4428 @ 08/06/2008 4:46:24 PM

    you don't get it-- OF COURSE a young Orthodox man wouldn't be driving on Shabbat -- unless something was terribly wrong. And in this case what was wrong was that he was very, very drunk, which led him to break the Sabbath. Alcoholism makes ya do bad stuff! We Jews are not immune to the problem and it's hardly racist to say so.

  • Posted By: Jonathan Katz @ 08/04/2008 2:01:20 PM

    Thank you, Ms. Miller, for helping to raise awareness about the dangerous myth that Jews don't have problems with alcohol and other drugs. Clearly, with limited space, you couldn't get into great detail, but you called attention to a serious risk that many deny or minimize. JACS, a program of the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services (New York City), is available to help individuals, families and organizations address this problem, and can be reached at jacs@jacsweb.org or (212) 397-4197.

    • Posted By: MikeF42 @ 08/06/2008 4:27:50 PM

      Thanks Jonathan. And don't forget about us out-of-towners, JACS in other cities. For information about the Phoenix JACS group, contact (602) 971-1234.

      Michael Fox

  • Posted By: roos1212 @ 08/06/2008 12:18:41 PM

    Lets get the facts correct. THis article states that a young man was driving drunk - and that he was an orthodoz jew. The fact is - that an orthodox Jew would not be driving on the Sabbath - Saturday afternoon.
    I would love to know what the reason for this article is? What is Ms. Miller looking to accomplish here?
    Why are the Jews not allowed to drink - It is almost as if the Orthodox Union paid for this article to be written and posted in the magazine - it is baised, and for most Orthodox Jewish drinkers, this is not the case at all, as they are neither alchoholics or dependent on alchohol.

  • Posted By: awain69 @ 08/06/2008 11:51:34 AM

    ANYONE can have an alcohol problem. It is faulty to be surprised that an Orthodox Jew is somehow supposed to be immune from the problems of humanity. We really need to stop labeling people and groups, because to me, this article was just a step away from being racist, looking at the Orthodox Jew as if they are an experimental animal whose behaviour we are surprised by.

  • Posted By: awain69 @ 08/06/2008 11:49:51 AM

    ANYONE can have an alcohol problem. It is faulty to be surprised that an Orthodox Jew is somehow supposed to be immune from the problems of humanity. We really need to stop labeling people and groups, because to me, this article was just a step away from being racist, looking at the Orthodox Jew as if they are an experimental animal whose behaviour we are surprised by.

  • Posted By: awain69 @ 08/06/2008 11:48:43 AM

    ANYONE can have an alcohol problem. It is faulty to be surprised that an Orthodox Jew is somehow supposed to be immune from the problems of humanity. We really need to stop labeling people and groups, because to me, this article was just a step away from being racist, looking at the Orthodox Jew as if they are an experimental animal whose behaviour we are surprised be.

  • Posted By: Toke-Dawg @ 08/06/2008 11:00:50 AM

    Your article makes several faulty assumtions:

    Even if what you are saying is right and the younger generation does drink more, you cannot prove it by doing a study on a college campus. Trust me, the older generation also drank in college in their day. Besides, if we're talking about Orthodox Jews, very few universities would give large enough sample sizes and already only looks at the segment of the population that is both Orthodox and enrolls in secular college. Take a look at Yeshiva University, for example, where their alcohol abuse rate is minuscule (http://media.www.yucommentator.com/medi ... 5258.shtml).

    What bothered me more, however, was the assumption that the Israeli or Russian Jewish populations has anything to do with Orthodox Jews in America. I doubt the case in the first paragraph has anything to do with the "study" in the last one with Jewish college students, and Israeli Jews under 33. Across the board just terrible journalism.

  • Posted By: Toke-Dawg @ 08/06/2008 10:59:10 AM

    Your article makes several faulty assumptions.

    Even if what you are saying is right and the younger generation does drink more, you cannot prove it by doing a study on a college campus. Trust me, in college the older generation drank too in their day. Besides, if we're talking about Orthodox Jews, very few universities would give large enough sample sizes and already only looks at the segment of the population that is both Orthodox and enrolls in secular college. Take a look at Yeshiva University, for example, where their alcohol abuse rate is minuscule (http://media.www.yucommentator.com/medi ... 5258.shtml).

    What bothered me more, however, was the assumption that the Israeli or Russian Jewish populations has anything to do with Orthodox Jews in America. I doubt the case in the first paragraph has anything to do with the "study" in the last one with Jewish college students, and Israeli Jews under 33. Across the board just terrible journalism.

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