Why I Am Leaving Guyland

Funny how women still complain about wages, when this article shows that their complaints have no merit anymore.

There is definitely a culture of irresponsibility among young adult men in our country. It used to be that a 25 year-old was assumed to be an adult for all practical purposes. Now, a 25 year-old male can barely be expected to act like he's out of high school let alone prepared to head a family. The lack of career achievement or financial independence is but a symptom of a larger problem, that is, the lack of personal accountability that is internalized by young adults. Young people do what they feel like more than ever--and complain vociferously when someone calls them on their transgressions. This is the real 'me' generation, a cohort of young people who exist as singular entities devoid of the responsibility to look out for one another. Their sense of entitlement is Ruthian in its voraciousness, and it makes them miserable coworkers, neighbors and citizens.

So right--many young men aren't getting on their feet as soon as they did in the past.

Why get married so young? If I were young I would wait until at least 35. What's the hurry? You've got your whole life ahead of you to be tied down.

Too bad as a gay man, I'm not able to get married and take full advantage of the responsibilities of being in a committed relationship.

For me it's very simple. Like it has been stated before there isn't "The ONE" out there. There is no pre destined soul mate. There are people and the ability to get along with one another. If a man is married while young and has children and the marriage doesn't work he is financially crushed for years. Why get married to someone when you're young, and just hope for the best? Divorce is so common people find out they're not happy with one another and get divorced HALF the time. Might as while live life find what you love and enjoy and make mistakes that won't haunt you for the next 18 yrs. It's hard enough to get by in these times without having to pay alimony and child support.

This article fails completely in getting to the point. Many twenty and thirty-something males would be more than happy to find a wonderful woman to settle down with, but are completely incapable of doing so either because they can't afford it, the women they are meeting want nothing to do with marriage (quite common -- I met plenty of women in college who said they didn't want to get married -- they wanted to pursue a career and to many of them, men are nothing but animated dildos), the women they meet are neurotic and terribly disturbed, the women they meet are obese and unhealthy, or they are looking for the "perfect" guy or the next exciting fling that will make them feel better about themselves. I know plenty of guys in their 20's and 30's who are having a nearly impossible time finding a woman to settle down with -- or they are in no position to do so. One friend is single at age 30, owns his own business, drives a cadillac, has his own apartment -- yet he has resorted to internet dating and can't find a woman that's right for him. He was engaged to be married some time ago and his fiance cheated on him. I, myself, am in my mid-thirties and living at home with my parents. I have always wanted to meet a nice woman and get married, but have hardly been able to even hope for this, realistically. After graduating from college with honors, my first job paid $10/hr. I was told the average turn-around on the job was 3 months. I lasted 6. My second job paid $10 and ran me into the ground. My third job, $10.50/hr. Now I am starting over in a temp job that pays $14/hr. I have thousands in student loan debt and a car loan, not to mention other debts, including thousands owed to my parents. You think I can get married? Hell, women of my caliber (intellectually, educationally, etc.) don't want anything to do with me. As it is, I am working full-time, have a second job, yet can hardly afford my own apartment, let alone a house. Don't blame the young men -- blame feminism and the "liberated" females who don't want marriage because they can use a "toy" -- either a plastic one or a live one to satisfy them, and our crappy economy in which it is very difficult if not impossible for men to afford marriage and a home. So to the author -- that's great that you're getting married, consider yourself fortunate that you can actually afford to do so and that you have been lucky enough to find a woman who wants to marry you. Many guys are not so privileged.

Of course men are stuck in guyland. American society, like all of the West, is a Matriarchy and as such there is no incentive for them to act as responsible hard working adults.

http://www.thephatphree.com/features.asp?StoryID=3403&SectionID=11

Wow... Tony Dokoupil really made me realize how awesome it would have been if I had settled on marrying my high maintenance miserable girlfriend from college. Just think of what I could have been...And to the older crowd bashing this generation thanks for leaving us with a a crumbling economy, sky-rocketing healthcare because of all the aging people in our country that can't stay away from the Country Buffet, out of control government debt, cost of living inflation... The list goes on and on. So before anyone starts hating on the new generation they should probably consider that one day they'll have to thank us for fixing all the **** they left for us. Maybe the older and apparently better generation because they married young should have learned what and adjustable rate mortgage was.

Who is the hot girl in the picture for the article in the magazine? The description indicates the picture was taken in Las Vegas. She has black hair, an incredible body and a great smile. She's the girl in the bottom left corner of the picture. Does anybody know?

The guys are acting silly because the women want too much attention. In the old realm of courtship, family ties, waiting versus jumping when the chance comes, has led men to feel insecure about the dance of courtship, which indeed can start most easily by dancing. Dancing is a suggestive way to share goals ranging from desire to intimacy on a more sensual level as in "you smell good" or "you fit well near me".
When guys are amped up from long hours at work, lack of sleep added to booze to lack of real workouts, you get horny men with unleashed primal desire and nowhere to gently put them; thus, the agro man looking for the conquest. Often the agro woman fresh out from behind her cubicle with a low cut dress and booze in her tummy is often readily available. Women need to slow down, then the men will too. Grace brings gracefulness. Sooooo, guys do what you want and women who don't care will be all around you or, slow down and think a little about your conquests. Forgive yourself and then you will be open to receive a ....nice girl who will be true and love you but remember to hang up your long glances at the bar. You had your fun.

You wish you had my life, jerkoff.

Sincerely,
Octagon
Male, 27, single and awesome.