Another Kind of Addict

I told my ex husband , if he really wanted to heal himself from his sex addiction all what he needs to do is to keep his pantes zipped up . I do not think anypartner should site in the sex addicition support group meetings to help their partners . I went to one and I met people whoes been going to these meetings for years and still feel and have the same level of anger and frustration towordes there husbands as I did and I was new to the situation . I was sitting in my last meeting and I asked myself do I want to be that woman for the rest of my life one day out of every week for the rest of mylife sitting here talking about my husband sex addiction and I also saw that this woman whoes been going to these meeting for years is a very sad person . I did not want to be that I have my 3 year old son who I want to live happy life with , I want to show him what happiness is , so I called my divorce laywer . Every person who puts their families through a life full of sex addiction , cheating , and laying should be punished by divorce and it is the only way they would learn what they have done is wrong

What happens in ones bedroom should remain their own private thing.

Jiff
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my husband comitted suicide and lost our business, h ome, and his family due to his sex addiction....there are no words that describe the pain we all feel each day. He progressed from masturbation, affairs, swinger parties, prostitutes, voyerism....until he admitted that he hated himself but couldn't stop....then drove his rousch mustang over 90mph over a cliff...he was an intelligent man with a top secret security clearance, a pilot, a man of great accomplishments...he could not stop the compulsive cycle...it is a real illness....

Sex Addiction' is not an addiction at all. It is self arousal phenomena which is inside all the human beings. Lets not exgageratte the word meaning. Every people are affetced by the thinking power related to sex. Mind, body, language, attitute all related to sex. So, nothing to worry. Its just a piece of cake.

The pain of betrayal is unfathomable. Not only do you lose trust, you run the risk of STD's to yourself and your unsuspecting partner. Please think of the consequences before you cheat......why become commited to someone if you want to be free? iT'S NOT FAIR.

No i know this is a serious condition cause it affects my life all the time i cant go twelve hours without having sexual relations.It runs my life I cant or dont know how to stop it but its like either your giving it up everytime i want it or you can hit the road.This isnt the way i want to be i just lost the person i loved the most because of this and then jealousy. I have no Idea how to cope with this problem but I want to because I didnt want to lose her and i want her back but i cant get any help on this so if anyone has any way i can get help please let me know and email me at Lester_jordan2002@yahoo.com

Alright, Danbookman, it is probably not that she had something to do with their addiction. If you have never been with someone addicted you don't know. It's about her in the choices she makes in the men she dates? Sure it is. There's probably some unresolved issues that cause her to choose such men, but remember that they are VERY charming men. She has nothing to do with their actual addiction. It's not her fault they were/are addicted, just as it's not a woman's fault if her husband is addicted to drugs, alcohol, or gambling. And trust me, she has probably definately taken a look at herself. Having a husband with a sex addiction makes you feel like ***. You wonder all the time, every minute of every day after you find out about it, what you did wrong, what you could have done better in bed, if you should have dressed sexier, how you could have picked such a philandering pig. It's not her fault.

Have you ever considered the fact that both your ex husbands have been sex addict may not be a coincidence?
Do you think you might have something to do with ther addiction or are you in denial or your ego simply won't let you take a look at yourself and your decision making?

Chloe;
Have you ever considered the fact that both your ex husbands have been sex addict may not be a coincidence?
Do you think you might have something to do with ther addiction or are you in denial or your ego simply won't let you take a look at yourself and your decision making?

There is no such thing as sex addiction. Sex is as normal as eating, and should be satisfied whenever possible. Those who created this fictitious ailment are either frigid, or afraid of a good hard one where the sun don't shine!

I do believe in sexual addiction and understand why women suffer less than men.I feel anyone can get addicted to anything. I believe a brain scan of those addicted are scanned to find what areas are stimulated during the compulsunary act more people would understand. It is a uncontrolled need for something. How can you understand alcohol addiction, but not sex addiction. You can't see someone wanting sex over anything else, but alcohol addiction is a known fact. People are addicted and get treated for chocolate. Yeah that sounds cute till you are 500 lbs, and having to have chocolate or you feel like you will die. addicts feel that not matter what the item a drug, food item, beverage, alcohol, sex, etc. They can not live without it. It is a mental state no matter what it is and needs to be treated. Psychology is a science,Evolve Dammit! Life goes on new things are found out and discoverd. I has to happen for 100 years til you recongnize it.-Ericcia

Being a heroin addict myself i feel like i fully understand addiction and what it is.. and sexual addiction is no different than any other addiction. i have nrespect fer david too. most addicts wont send themselves to rehab.. most have to be sent there by the courts or somthing of that nature. This is because as bad as most addicts want help, they also dont want help. See, they do but before they even get anywhere, or by the time there in the waiting room at the rehab their addiction comes back and bites them -- they get this feeling this sense of NEED like if they dont get it theyll die. Thats how i used to be. "i need it.. its okay if i steal this, whatever she doesnt need it anyway i do, and thats what she gets fer being a shitty parent" than after i fullfilled my need i felt so bad. with everytime i got high i felt like i took another nblow from addiction and my family was one step farther gone from me. "why did i do that? oh god why??? *** shes gunna kill me what am i doing with myself?" So for those of you saying addictions a cruch, or excuse. WHATEVER. I know addicts give alot of excuses.. hah. and always put the blame sumwhere else but honestly. think how of you would feel if you and your own life were really THAT out of control. Thats a SAD state of afffairs. Imagine having to go through that. I mean i know its hard on the family.. and im not undermining that pain at all. but give us a break. do you know what its like for the addict?

Being a heroin addict i understand addiction quite well i believe.. It isnt just an ego thing the ego just sort of comes with it after awhile.. especially once you really push everyone out of yer life with the addiction. you have to have an ego as sort of a shell or extierior. and as fer that other comment bashing on addicts. i know how addiction messes with families. they start to hate you and your excuses. but addiction isnt just a cruch. its very real. and very hard for the addict to go through as well. I mean imagine feeling like you need somthing at all costs.. even if it ruins yer life, you'll die with out it. thats the state of mind addicts get in. " i need it i need it.. ill do whatever" than after going "omg omg omg.. my moms gunna kill me... why did i do that? whyy? it wasnt even worth it." Imagine that. imagine losing everyone you have cuz their all pissed. Jus Sit fer a sec. and focus on what life must be like to be so out of control.

So in essence, I have all the respect for David Duchovny for seeking treatment. It is absolute HELL to live with a person like this. One thing this article fails to mention is TRUST. If it means anything to you, to your loved one, to your spouse, to your children, to your friends, to your family, think twice. Trust is vital and once lost, maybe impossible to regain... for sure never the same. Second thing is for all you Dad's of daughters out there... every time you masturbate to a sick porno online, to a dirty magazine, to a twisted photograph of some young girl in your favorite position, just remember... She's someones daughter.... hmmmm

sexual addiction? Nope! Like I told our counselor (we meaning mine and my EX HUSBANDS) while in treatment for his disgusting creepy sex obsession.... I hat the word addiction because it's like a crutch for them. They are already pros at blaming their actions on everyone else and the word addiction is a loophole for them to say, "I'm Sick, I can't help it"! Nope! Sexual Deviance.. Sexual Obsession..SEXUAL POSSESSION!