Another Kind of Addict

I am a love addict and it is about ego, attention & control. It does affect your focus and takes your attention away from work or family issues. It is an escape and natural high as you play the game and receive gratification from a posted love song and respond with a written love poem....The feelings are intense and very real...my muse is a love interest who has just remained a distant friend; who travels in the same artistic circle as me. I have a natural sex drive and do wish to have sex with him and even a relationship, but he also has issues and has never married. I do not regret pursuing him and realize it is just a fantasy that will never come to fruition.

I read rhis article with great deal of intrest. Main thing I was looking for from article is am I addicted to it or not? Some of the clue or traits have been explain in article which I can relate to my life. I have fairley 'open' relationship in my marraige. After 20+ years of marraige, we still have sex 4-5 times a week. However, i also have been involved with others as loving/carring relationship and not so much of sexual intercourse only. Last two partner whom I have involved - both started as being in love with them while I continuosly loved my wife. Slowly but surely, my affaire lead to having sex. Currently, I do engaged twice a week with my other love and atleast 4 times with my wife. I also have strongly believed in that 'one should never buy sexual pleasure' With this thought, I do not go to any redzone area nor strip club nor watch any porn that cost me penny or more. Occationally, I will watch free stuff on net in presents of my wife. She has no objection whatsoever. Sometime if scene look ot of norm, I will share with her - no problem I have always been facinated with human body and always read up or checkout anything that deal with sexuall matter.

Am I addicted to sex as this article explain?

Regarding bobhughes2022 comment - ???Futhermore, the "attacks journalism" our national press expresses (not reports), from a hypocriticle moral posture, makes even more difficult for most men to come forth with this addiction. I believe this disorder is more wide spread than most think.???
Guess what bob?!! This disorder IS the most widespread disease on this planet, why do ya think AIDS is spreading at the rate it is??? And if you think this addiction is being misrepresented based on ???hypocritical moral posture??? we could go ahead and let people kill each other as well. That???s what this kind of disease leads to anyway, only the killer is AIDS. We have these morals to lead civilized lives instead of living like animals.

"I think my wife hates sex, if I don't innitiate it, it does not happen, and I want to be loved and wanted just like anybody else. She even tells me that she could probably go a whole year w/o doing anything. This behavior pushes me in the direction of porn, my way of taking care of me w/o cheating and the amazing thing about that is when she has caught me looking at it, she gets mad and says that it is like i'm cheating on her."
Hah!!! This is the commonest excuse men/women use to view porn or cheat on their spouse, instead of acknowledging that they are sex maniacs. Somewhere in their conscious/subconscious mind they know that their sex obsession is abnormal. By blaming their spouse, they are putting the onus of their so-called ???illness??? on the disinterestedness of their spouse. This obsession/addiction needs to be treated, because many of them are serial rapists/molesters/pedophiles/killers, as this is a psychopathic personality. One treatment would be to bobbit these maniacs. Anything addiction that harms another creature should be treated as a crime and they should be put to sleep. If this is treated as insanity, they should be put away for the rest of their life, without access to sex. They can do whatever they want to themselves, at least others will be safe. Just like we put animals exhibiting undesirable traits to sleep, why are we not doing this with the aberrant humans? Who gave us the right to kill ???aggressive??? animals, fool around with selective breeding in animals, and eliminate unwanted breeds?? How come the same does not apply to sick, utterly sick, humans???

When it come to regular physiological needs no one can define what is normal and what is not, so to say that having 40 multiple sexual relationships is unhealthy or not normal is not scientifically sound and cannot be supported by any methodology. That is the main reason sexual "addiction" does not exist in any serious psychiatric book, unlike what the author suggests. If a person is single and healthy, who is to define how many relationships or how many sexual encounters a day is normal, and how is this to be defined? Any number would have to be completely random, and the only thing we can look at is statistics, which has no meaning in this matter. To a single person who has one partner every two years, and have sex with them 2 times a week, having 12 partners a year and having sex with them 5 times a week may seem excessive and unhealthy, however to a person who has 20 partners a year and have sex with them 2 times a day, it may seem very modest. The point is, when it comes to human sexuality every human is different, and normal cannot be defined as a measure over the entire population. As Ufillinme points out, when you do not have your needs satisfied by your partner, some people turn to porn, and in my personal opinion there is nothing wrong with that as a temporary measure. Evolutionary our sexual drive is one of the most potent forces embedded in us, next only to the survival instinct, and trying to repress it artificially brings nothing good. If a given relationship is sexually dissatisfying, a person should not seek sexual "addiction" treatments, but rather marriage (or couples) counseling, and if all efforts are made and the problem is still not resolved, than people should consider parting their ways. It is better than cheating, which will probably lead to the same result, although more painfully, and it is better than living in an sexually unsatisfactory relationship. We only live once, and we should make the most of it.

SUPIDITY!! This dumb has a sex addiction??? Ha, ha, ha,
To the author (who sounds like an east European immigrant) this must be a amazing topic!!
This has the markings of like a cheap gimmick to promote something!! Ha, ha, ha!!!!

My relationship with my husband and his relationship with our children have been destroyed by his sexual betrayals. For years he has lived a dual life establishing sexual contacts with other married women all the while representing himself as a devoted and respectable husband, father, son and leader in our religious community. I don't see his sexual contacts as an addiction. I see his behavior as a part of his narcasistic personality. He seeks sex out as a way to validate himself as a man. He needs the attention above all else.

I kinda have to disagree w/ Johnsmith1972. A single guy having 40 multiple sexual relationships is not normal or healthy. I'd also like to point out that when a person says sexual addition, this is anything pertaining to sex. As embarrassing as it is, I have a problem w/ wanting sex all the time, even when I don't want it. I almost feel like anytime my wife and I are laying in the bed and the kids are at school or asleep, it's time to get busy, but I am always met with a lot of opposition. I think my wife hates sex, if I don't innitiate it, it does not happen, and I want to be loved and wanted just like anybody else. She even tells me that she could probably go a whole year w/o doing anything. This behavior pushes me in the direction of porn, my way of taking care of me w/o cheating and the amazing thing about that is when she has caught me looking at it, she gets mad and says that it is like i'm cheating on her. Porn is very addictive and becomes extremely unhealthy when you can't control yourself. When I look at porn, I normally feel the need to (Ejak) to almost every scene and different positions, during a 2 hour session, I may - - - about 7 to 10 times sometimes even 20 times. It even gets to the point where I am empty and nothing comes out. I have even told my wife that I feel like this is a problem, and I don't like doing it anymore. This info goes in one ear and out the other. Some negative symptoms are going from an extreme high, to an extreme low, fatigue, headaches,weakness and soreness. I am dealing with this through the help of God, I know that he can fix anything. I also hope that this might have helped someone else.

I kinda have to disagree w/ Johnsmith1972. A single guy having 40 multiple sexual relationships is not normal or healthy. I'd also like to point out that when a person says sexual addition, this is anything pertaining to sex. As embarrassing as it is, I have a problem w/ wanting sex all the time, even when I don't want it. I almost feel like anytime my wife and I are laying in the bed and the kids are at school or asleep, it's time to get busy, but I am always met with a lot of opposition. I think my wife hates sex, if I don't innitiate it, it does not happen, and I want to be loved and wanted just like anybody else. She even tells me that she could probably go a whole year w/o doing anything. This behavior pushes me in the direction of porn, my way of taking care of me w/o cheating and the amazing thing about that is when she has caught me looking at it, she gets mad and says that it is like i'm cheating on her. Porn is very addictive and becomes extremely unhealthy when you can't control yourself. When I look at porn, I normally feel the need to (Ejak) to almost every scene and different positions, during a 2 hour session, I may - - - about 7 to 10 times, sometimes even 20 times. I have even told my wife that I feel like this is a problem, and I don't like doing it anymore. This info goes in one ear and out the other. Some negative symptoms are going from an extreme high, to an extreme low, fatigue, headaches, weakness and soreness. I have even read that this type of behavior can lead to severe health problems and even death. I am dealing with this through the help of God, I know that he can fix anything. I also hope that this might have helped someone else

David Duchovny's character Fox Mulder on the X-Files was very much into pornography. I wonder if David suggested that be a part of his character or if the writers of the X-Files just created that out of thin air?

Addiction
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Heroin bottleThe term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence, such as: drug addiction, alcoholism, compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer addiction, etc.

In medical terminology, addiction is a state in which the body relies on a substance for normal functioning and develops physical dependence, as in drug addiction. When the drug or substance on which someone is dependent is suddenly removed, it will cause withdrawal, a characteristic set of signs and symptoms. Addiction is generally associated with increased drug tolerance. In physiological terms, addiction is not necessarily associated with substance abuse since this form of addiction can result from using medication as prescribed by a doctor.

However, common usage of the term addiction has spread to include psychological dependence. In this context, the term is used in drug addiction and substance abuse problems, but also refers to behaviours that are not generally recognised by the medical community as problems of addiction, such as compulsive overeating.

The term addiction is also sometimes applied to compulsions that are not substance-related, such as problem gambling and computer addiction. In these kinds of common usuages, the term addiction is used to describe a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.

Addiction
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Heroin bottleThe term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence, such as: drug addiction, alcoholism, compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer addiction, etc.

In medical terminology, addiction is a state in which the body relies on a substance for normal functioning and develops physical dependence, as in drug addiction. When the drug or substance on which someone is dependent is suddenly removed, it will cause withdrawal, a characteristic set of signs and symptoms. Addiction is generally associated with increased drug tolerance. In physiological terms, addiction is not necessarily associated with substance abuse since this form of addiction can result from using medication as prescribed by a doctor.

However, common usage of the term addiction has spread to include psychological dependence. In this context, the term is used in drug addiction and substance abuse problems, but also refers to behaviours that are not generally recognised by the medical community as problems of addiction, such as compulsive overeating.

The term addiction is also sometimes applied to compulsions that are not substance-related, such as problem gambling and computer addiction. In these kinds of common usuages, the term addiction is used to describe a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.

I guess there's no end to the evolution of human needs.

There cannot be an addiction to something that is a normal part of human behavior, because we cannot define what is normal "quantity" of sex that an individual needs. Some athletes for example are on a diet of 9000 calories per day, which would be extremely excessive for non-athletes, but perfect for Olympians. Similarly, having sex with 40 different partners at a time may be normal for some, and excessive for others, however it cannot be labeled "addiction." If we accept the notion of sex "addiction", than any normal human function can be labeled as "addiction", such as communication with other people (although such people can certainly be boring, nagging and generally a nuisance) for example. Can we discuss "addiction" to talking then? Generally, the notion of sex "addiction" is an invention of the religious activists, who are trying to ostracize behavior they find sinful as being not normal, and furthermore creating the notion of such "addiction" fuels their fight with perfectly legal, but sinful from their perspective, activities, such as pornography and promiscuity for example. Obviously from their point of view, if they can make "sex addiction" similar to drug addiction, than they can try to make illegal the causes for such "addiction" illegal, the same way drugs are illegal. However, drug addiction and alcoholism can physically destroy your body, while sex "addiction" cannot harm human's body in any way. One can argue the emotional repercussions, however they are relative and cannot be categorized: for example having multiple sexual relationships is perfectly normal for a single person while devastating for a married person, but that's a whole separate subject.

Why would Christy Brinkley's husband need to look at porn. I mean, c'mon.

Why would Christy Brinkley's husband need to look at porn. I mean, c'mon.

who gives a rats ass?