Another Kind of Addict

when someone had have put so much trash up in the brain, that individual won't ever find a satissfaction in any kind of sexual relationship

YOU GUYS ARE SICK AND PERVERTED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!MASTURBATERS LOL

By the way, I believe sex addiction is the real deal.
My comments were directed at cw619 @ 09/04/2008 6:09:21 PM.
He's an idiot!

I am a 24 year old single man. I was addicted to pornography from June 1997 to June 2007. As hard as it gets, if it was on the internet I've seen it. It dominated my life and I was online looking at it 5 times a week to 5 times a day, for 10 years, and was unable to stop, despite my best efforts. But on a Saturday in June 2007, Jesus Christ delivered me completely, and I have not been back once. Have not had sex once. Have not masturbated once. My whole mind is guarded and renewed now from lustful thoughts and magnetic eyes. I am living purely for God, for my wife (whom I have not yet had the pleasure of meeting) as a testament to our covenant, and for my children yet unborn. This is bigger than us. The decisions we make and the lives we lead, impact not only us, but future generations. Jesus Christ can do in a moment what no man or therapist can do in a lifetime.

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I'm glad to see the secular side of this issue since it's so common in the Christian world. I myself was caught up in sexual addiction in the form of pornography and video chatting. I never crossed the line as to physically cheat on my wife but what I was doing online was just as bad if not worse. The sleepless nights to chat with that person and the constant lies. It totally wrecks your life, BUT I found the best treament ever and it's only one step. I finally realized that I could not help myself, nor could anyone else. I tried everything in my power to quit but I couldn't. I finally surrendered my life to Christ Jesus and Asked Him to help me and since then I have been free ever since. I do have someone that I am accountable to and I allow them to talk to me freely to make sure I'm straight because like any other addiction the thing you are escaping from will always be there, tempting you. But by the grace of God I know that it is not by my power but the power and mercy of God that moves me purity of thought. I hope this helps someone.

I must say, the symptoms brought in the article fit me as well. It could probably fit most men. I truely believe that the behaviors we engage ourselves in, are affected by what we see in around our country. From movies, to songs, to ads etc. We, I, (and I can only speak regarding men) come home with sexual urges excited to be with my wife, only to find my wife is not receptive to the idea. In my circumstance, my wife is perfectly happy to have sex once a month (and we have even gone as long as 4 months), whereas I find that sex once a week or once every 2 weeks to be acceptable (ok, Im a man, I would like to have sex a couple times a week). After coming home to this cold environment day after day even when I try to romance her, it would seem one could only turn to porn or other illicit avenues for sex. Now, as a law enforment official, (and when I was single) I used to call the wives of the "johns" that I caught involved in prostitution. Today, I can sympatize with some of the "johns" when they tell me their tales (even though I still call the spouses). Im sure there are some that fall into the true "sex addict" catagory. I know I dont fall into it, but I would guess with circumstances like I have explained, one could progress further into being labled a sex addict. I guess having the right spouse or lover would certainly help and curb such actions for most. Its when the spouse keeps up their end of the relationship yet the "offender" continues searching for that adrenaline rush with other, that she/he could be labled an addict.

s an active sex addict who relapsed after 19 years of monogamy,I can attest to the never ending battle with my compulsion.
I am not proud to say I have had over 500 sexual partners and I am currently managing 10 different relationships. I have 3 cell phones in an effort to manage. I sleep less than 4 hours a night and spend more time on the phone keeping eveeryone happy than I do sleeping.
This article is just what I needed to read.By,the way, I was beaten regularly as a child and verbally abused and sexually abused from age 10. Sex addiction is very real and painful.

FaSINating take on how we operate, Waynepiddy. I agree with the thought that our primal urges are being triggered much easier with the internet's ease of retrieval. As bucks are wired to mate with the healthiest doe in the herd in order to propagate the species, the only thing that keeps men on the porch is a strong leash (also known as 'brakes on a car' and......... 'wife') or self control which is oftentimes very difficult to maintain........but not impossible. Males continue to being 'only as faithful as their options' .......a struggle that only mature reasoning can keep in checkmate status. The more one feeds this addiction the stronger it gets..........Waynepiddy has the right idea........starve the monster so it doesn't use you as it's host, otherwise it will control your waking hours.

Lived a 43 year old man that is addicted i would say to the internet porn, he when confronted says it was no big deal. He was paying to be on singles porn sights & chatting to people within MI, At first would lie and sorry to tell you, internet files DO NOT LIE. We are no longer together due to this, he became very angry and verbally abusive to me. BEWARE, if you think someone you love has too much time on his/her computer. Check it out, might surprise you as it did me. CONCERNED for OTHERS, Clare Michigan

I lived with a man that was addicted to internet porn and also was chatting with women while i was with him, it becomes a problem when he lies to you & the internet files DO NOT LIE, still to this day he says its no big deal. SORRY we are no longer together due to me stopping the online cheating, he became very verbally abusive to me. Concerned for others, Clare Michigan

I have first hand knowledge of what was discussed in this article and agree with it completely. My adult son exhibits compulsive sexual behavior. He was emotionally abused as a child by his other parent, and he now has the narcassistic and arrogant behavioral traits described in the article, along with compulsive sexual behavior. Sadly, he does not admit that he needs help.

This is to the ones who care and may think they have a problem with sex and porno. I am going through this at this moment and it has ruined my family and my like. Call it waht you want, justify this problem if you may but the bottom line it is bad news. It a a discrace to women and to oneself. Statistics show that most level 3 abusers started with something that small (ie. Playboy) and moved to greated extents to get their fulfillment. These are the same people that are now rapists and pedifiles. The same people that lerk for sexual fulfillment in children, maybe yours. So if you have kids take note of this problem because it is something that should be evaluated. For those struggling...get into a good bible based church, read a copy of Everymans Battle, utilize an internet filter (Covenant Eyes), get yourself a accountablilty partner, and try not to bounce your eyes. For those who think this isnot a problem, yet, print a copy of this and pull it out when you wife and family finally leaves.

How refreshing that a man would make such a wonderful and self sacrificing public announcement for the sake of his wife and family. More men need to have the courage that David is showing. Teona, hang in there, the love he obviously has for you is truly a once in a life time gift. I know, I had someone that used every excuse in the book (including blaming me for being paranoid - while his friends enabled it and his family wouldn't help me - help him. I was just the "crazy" one, that was the easiest excuse). David, know your help will save your life and give you a life time of happiness. From my own experience; the alternative is like my "ex", a lonely 45 year old man, who has been beaten by pimps, lives a double secretive life, that I'm sure will be his demise. He unfortunately wasn't the man you are, he preferred to loose our marriage, our home and disrupt the lives of his children and his reputation. The price is enormous. I'm sadden that he still can't see his mistakes, our lives as a happy - "have it all" blessings family, was secondary to his sex addiction. And trust me, we had it all, the envy of many! Now, blame, pity, confused and hurt children & broken hearts, is all that is left in the aftermath. Every person who has ever loved a sex addict could only wish, that person loved them and their children enough to do what you are doing. You've chosen the right thing to do! We're proud of you!