Another Kind of Addict

My ex is a sex addict. Masturbates all the time...all through the day and began pursuing riskier and riskier liasions. It's really distructive to a relationship and a family. It really does exist.

What absolute clap-trap BS. "Sexual Addiction"? Oh my God, what next? What sort of sterile drone-society will exist here on Earth once every single natural normal instinct has been beaten and treated out of humanity? "Sex Addiction" is a creation of the lunatic fringe of American psychology, under the principle of "If you can't cure a disease, create a new one". Charlatans, con men, snake oil merchants. I can hardly wait for the Infomercial. Maybe you can hire Vince from the ShamWow spots, he's good.

My partner and my former therapist (who had no suggestions other than "Don't Cheat") think I'm obsessed with sex. Let me hold your face under water and then you tell me you're not "obsessed" with air? I haven't had sex with any one besides myself in over 5 years. My partner says "Sorry, I just don't have any desire...".

Direct all of your sexual attention to your partner".
Then she says no, and you're too "moral" to cheat, and then you start to tear yourself up over the self-esteem/loss of self-worth issues. But you don't cheat.
I must be a "Dry Drunk" sex addict, if there is such a thing.

There is a wonderful, free site for both sexual addiction recovery and for the partners of those with sexual addiction that goes much deeper into addiction than the twleve step model. It's called Recovery Nation (www.RecoveryNation.com) and it turns the old 'twelve step' dogma on its ear. Replaces the entire 'disease/powerless-based recovery' concept with a health based recovery process that focuses on personal values, boundaries, purpose and more. Awesome site...and it's all free.

Various people choose different mechanisms of coping with their pain and confrontation that they're avoiding For some, it's coke, alcahol, work, food, etc. and for others it's "sex" in all it's forms of voyerism, porn, abuse, strippers, prostitutes, one night stands, cheating, etc.

At the root of it all is some pain that you can't/won't deal with or surrender and you then engage in destructive rather than constructive behavior, sexually when that's your drug of choice (DOC), or with drugs, alcahol, stealing, lying, cheating, etc. if one of those is your DOC.

It is just as real as alcaholism but a key difference is while it's realistic to say you can live without another drink of booze, you really can't imagine a life of total abstinence. Just ask a Catholic priest. ;-)

what do you call a man has chased a woman on the phone for 4 years who did not entertain him , slept with whores lusted over women masturbated for years carried on his life like this for 10 years and always
flirts with women for sex

I believe that Sexual addiction does exist! Addict means to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively. One can be an addict of virtually anything, so believe that a perosn cannot be addicted to something as powerful as sex is just plain rediculous.
There is a tons of information out there regarding the subject. There could have been much better questions asked regarding this issue. I do not think that ego fits in at all with sexual addiction as most would try to keep it private and quiet. Better research next time please!

I just want everyone to know that Jimbo48187 and I are NOT one and the same.

Btw, I don't believe for one moment that sex addiction really exists; it's just a fancy name for guys (and womean) who can't keep their pants on.

This is almost totally inaccurate from both peopl. The interviewer is so completely unfamilar with the issue whe was not capable of asking valuable questions. The interviewee seem equally uninformed.
For people with a sexual addiction problem the basic issue is not pleasure, thus all te ego commentary is incorrect. People..... not men. this is a problem that effects males and female, gays and straights.
Do you home work!!!!