How To Keep Him From Cheating

It's not that monogamy isn't healthy for you, it's that *honesty* isn't healthy for you. Believe it or not there are plenty of women who feel the same way and would happily be married to you. But you prefer to stay with your housekeeper who believes she's your wife and continue to manipulate her as you wish.

If you think you're fooling anyone into thinking you're a decent guy, think again.

Save your 2 cents and go buy a hooker you manwhore

MY HUSBAND WENT AND HAD HIS "NEEDS" MET AND WHEN OUR TEENAGE DAUGHTER FOUND OUT SHE SLIT HER WRISTS. WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS TO YOUR WIFE. WHEN YOU ARE A FATHER YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO DESTROY YOUR CHILDREN'S SECURITY TO SATISFY YOUR OWN "NEEDS".

nope cheating won't solve anything, it will however create a whole new bag of problems. You should probably talk to your spouse about how you're feeling. He probably thinks everything is fine. But if you're just so extremely unhappy then get a divorce and you're free to sleep with whomever you wish

you should never cheat if you feel unappreciated in a relationship. And if you are THAT unhappy and you just can't stand your partner, then get divorced and then have sex with whomever you want. But cheateing never solves anything.

you should never cheat if you feel unappreciated in a relationship. And if you are THAT unhappy and you just can't stand your partner, then get divorced and then have sex with whomever you want. But cheateing never solves anything.

have your brought it up with your husband that you feel unappreciated

Have you brought it up with your husband that you don't feel appreciated?

You should have stayed a single man. I feel awful for the woman you married. I am not even saying that to insult you, I can't imagine having to be married to someone like you and if you have any daughters I pity them as well. Because you will probably be the type of person they will look for when they are in a relationship. The fact that you post it on the web proudly

Your pathetic. Divorce your poor wife and stay a bachleor. Go get what you crave you idiot. You dont deserve to have a wife or have the title of husband.

check out my reply on oct.4 at 8:06am nej810

Ur a pig

voodoo, don't let these fat, ugly heffers get you down they are just jealous because they can't find a man of their own.

Why don't you just leave then?

I totally agree with you. seems finally some one came out with the real solution. The shallow and vague suggestions by the author of the book won't change anything. There are so many similar books with nonsense suggestions already available out there. God bless..

I like what you said and I agree; a lot of people tend to think that just because you say "God" is the support of your marriage that that makes you exempt from temptation. And what many of us are trying to say is if you are first "Sincere" and "Devoted" in your relationship with God, it makes being sincere and devoted to another easier, because not only are you putting forth your effert but you have the hand of God aiding you as well. and the Bible is our direction on how to love, not just our spouses but ourselves and everyone else. So God Bless you! I hope someone get's the message.

I so do not agree with your comment. I am 7 years younger then my husband. So if he wants "younger" then he just has to roll over and look at his wife. The woman he had an affair with was by no means the "hot young blonde" that everyone assumes is out to get your man. She was short, brunette, thinner, but not "thin", two kids. I mean seriously? You are taking a bold move in speaking on behalf of "ALL MEN" in stating this. It might be what YOU are looking for in a "fling" but not all men are. And also it wasn't just sex, or else he would have gone out of town and just done some random chick. And he would have left after the first time he got his jollies if that was all he was after. Either way in the end he saw the light of day and....cause no one can please him like I can *snicker*

You this the nail on the head.....

The only things that ALL men do is eat, sleep and die. I'll thank you not to speak for me buddy...

I stated in my comment that your comment is incorrect and slightly perverted all old men aren't nasty. And that's the way you exploit them it kind of concerns me two how you talk about young woman. Instead of trying to suduce them you should Be setting positive example for them with your wife. (If your married or to whomever the gentlemen are that you polled) Out side of people not making "God" the foundation of their marriage This is part of the problem. Young and Newly wed couples don't have positive examples anymore of True, Faithful and Loving Marriages anymore therefor they go in with the attitude that being married is the same as dating or shacking up with some one (just on paper now) And that's part of why young marriage don't last and you have so many divorce children carring on the trend. "Who sets the bar???" "Who sets the example???" It's "NOT" okay to cheat thats not what God Constituted marriage for, and those who think there getting away don't realize you can't hide from "God" he see's and knows all. And they will answer for their actions some day; whether it be hear or on the day of judgement. Hope I didn't offend but if you don't believe me Read the bible Matthew, ch. 5; and 1Peter, ch.3, vrs.1-12

I really don't see what your point is. I will tell you something, though. I learned my lesson. Being with a "dummy" made me a "dummy". He cheated on me probably more than one time, but I didn't realize it before I dumped him. I told him I hated him and he said he loved me. I felt like crap when I found out he had slept with another person. It made me feel dirty and disgusting even though I knew it wasn't my fault.
After I dumped him though, I felt very proud of myself because that meant that I value myself more than I thought. I will not be with a pig because that only makes me a pig. If a guy wants to sleep around while being in a serious relationship, he is obviously very insecure. He cannot possibly value himself. The guys who cheat and act like nothing happened are only fooling themselves if they think they deserve to be loved.

My point is, if you are with one of these men, you do not love yourself. Therefore, don't tell me that I need to love the "dummy" for who he is, because I am no "dummy". Do you get the picture? You are a fool if you love someone like that, but like I just said maybe you are the same way or you think you don't deserve better. I on the other hand will not settle for a piece of trash.

I really don't see what your point is. I will tell you something, though. I learned my lesson. Being with a "dummy" made me a "dummy". He cheated on me probably more than one time, but I didn't realize it before I dumped him. I told him I hated him and he said he loved me. I felt like crap when I found out he had slept with another person. It made me feel dirty and disgusting even though I knew it wasn't my fault.
After I dumped him though, I felt very proud of myself because that meant that I value myself more than I thought. I will not be with a pig because that only makes me a pig. If a guy wants to sleep around while being in a serious relationship, he is obviously very insecure. He cannot possibly value himself. The guys who cheat and act like nothing happened are only fooling themselves if they think they deserve to be loved.

My point is, if you are with one of these men, you do not love yourself. Therefore don't tell me, that I need to love the "dummy" for who he is, because I am no "dummy". Do you get the picture? You are a fool if you love someone like that, but like I just said maybe you are the same way or you think you don't deserve better. I on the other hand will not settle for a piece of trash.

I agree with almost everything you said. I get a lot from the few people in my life who know that my husband cheated on me. My best friend of 25 years told me I was making a stupid decision and just telling him he could walk all over me and I would be okay with it.
I believe if TWO PEOPLE want to make a marriage work through infidelity, it can be done. One thing that I always respected my husband for was the fact that he came out and told me what he had done. He didn't get caught, he could have easily just kept it inside of him and made it his own little secret. But he didn't and that gave us more of a chance in my eyes. Also, when he told me, he did not turn it into an ultimatum or anything. He said, "what I have to tell you, will probably make you want to leave, and I understand completely if you choose to". It was my choice to stay. Heck I was the one with the job, so there was no fear of loosing my children. Only fear of loosing my marriage. The man I loved. And what we had together, and what I knew we could have back again if we BOTH tried. Even a year later, I am still allowed my "moments". And I do have them. But usually when I do, he tries to remind me that he is here, he is with me, and he wants me, wants our family, and wants what we had back. Everything that I wanted the night he told me.
It's only been a year, but I honestly(and I know some will think I am completely stupid for saying this)believe that in some strange way, his affair saved our marriage. It reminded both of us what we weren't giving eachother, and made us both analyze what we had been doing, how we had been treating one another and what we needed to do to make it different.
Do I wish we could have figured it out another way? Heck yeah. But we didn't. But in the end, we did.

*high five* I agree 100% with you man. Women must accept men for men.

Are you for real? Grew up in the caveman erea. Must of had some great modeling with your parents - and bet you are so proud of yourself and are a hero in your own mind. I just get this feeling you are probably a porn addict and pedifile - no decent woman would even entertain a conversation with such an old man. I hope your wife leaves your sorry ass - and I bet you domestic violence is big in your house. Sick person.

You are incredibly insecure and just haven't realized it yet. A real man knows how to commit and honor that commitment to a good woman. Being married doesn't mean you're dead - for men or women. We will all still notice an attractive person of the opposite (or the same) sex - we may even find ourselves flirting with that individual. But integrity, respect, and love for our spouses should be enough to keep us honest. There are HUGE benefits to a committed, happy marriage. My husband and I are living, breathing examples of that. I feel sorry for you for not having the courage or capacity to experience that.

Everything you said is true. Men just get tired of the same ol same ol. So, why even get married then?

Very well said my friend !!! It's how we are wired and maybe some men are not as extreme as others but if you have the need somehow you will find a way. It is selfish and uncaring and wrong in many ways but let me tell you, the women I see as extra partners are all married and or divorcees that only want sex and friendship on the side just like we do.

Have you ever considered the risk of an incurable disease? My man felt the same way you do and is now terminally ill and not having ANY fun at all -- poor guy. Maybe you could spice up the same old "snatch" with any number of items...unless, of course, you're not man enough to try anything new and exciting. Just remember, there are diseases out there that don't rear thier ugly heads until it's too late...It's my guess that you have no regard for your lady and she could do much better without you. She may even be healthier for it. I just hope you have no children.

MAYBE YOUR GAY, DID YOU EVER THINK ABOUT THAT... WHY DO YOU NEED TO REASURE YOURSELF ALLTHE TIME WITH WOMAN!!

YOUR NOT A CHEATER... YOUR A LOSER, HAVE FUN WITH STD

Your poor wife! one example of a woman who did not choose wisely; I hope you did not procreate because what an example you are setting for your children, whether son or daughter...