How To Keep Him From Cheating

Well, it is true,, although I didn't cheat I did feel ToTaLLy unappreciated and thatFor Sure,, I couoldnever Ever ever ever EVA win.....there was No Way back,,,,
and that If I had TEN Lifetimes I could never outrun or overcome the resentment and anti appreciation in the relationship ...
So, I departed, I left, I split.
I have no regrets........

oh yes,, it is TRUE,, American Woman have a gender problem,,,,,,,,,,,,they hate men and are forever stalking for the moment they can Cheer,,, your a dog,, your like all the rest,,,,,and at that moment,,,,,,it is irretrievable!

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I am a man and I caught my wife cheating on me. I knew she was up t o something. She wasn't acting normal. She was distant, pick random fights, go out when she wanted and not tell me where she was going or what time she would be home. I caught her 8 months ago and she has never sincerly appologized. If I were to have done what she did I would lay the red carpet out for her to tell her I was sorry. She does not do that. She stays distant. I am getting to the point where I don't want to be married to her anymore.

this coment is for musika, im not saying its ok to cheat at ALL! not one bit, but what i am saying if you already done it why not try these methods? you dug your self a hole, whats wrong with using different ways to get out? this being one that involes a womens help. alittle more then a women might be willing to do or more then she might want to give being that we did cheat but if the relationship was really great at first and is worth fixing then why not. but im not sitting her lieing to my self saying that its ok to cheat because its not and im not making excuses say that its ok to be dishonest because i feel you are correct that your couldnt get any satisfaction being dishonest to your self but i am disagreeing that all men cheat just for sex, and yes i say men have needs and women do as well and both should be considered and delt with.

Chipsnsoda73 I totally agree with your comment but unfortunately we live in a world that seems alot of people have the mentality that "Its all about me". I think that as long as you have a man that is not only insecure, self absorbed and has no real foundation that he stands on (God), he will always fall short or at least not think twice before he acts. I think it shouldnt be a woman's job to ensure he follows the right path...it should be the man's but I also know as a woman of God that God has made us an extension of the man meaning without us...they are not really that much. So...what I'm trying to say is that in a relationship we both have to make one another better. Isnt that what relationships are for? not to find someone to supplement us but compliment us. Someone that makes us want to try to be better....and the only way that normally happens (Just like with our children) is through encouragement, love, understanding etc. Dont get me wrong, forgiveness is easy but trust is definately earned and if you dont have that...you have nothing at all. I also agree that technology has made it so much harder for both men and women to stay faithful but I'm not about to stress myself out and baby sit his gadgets to ensure he is being faithful. I believe that eventually without effort the truth will reveal itself. So...find happiness within yourself and let him be for in the end weather you make it or not...that is what will count. If your happy with yourself, you will be able to walk away from a negative situation. If not, you will endure it and settle for whatever comes.

THIS COMMENT IS FOR MR917,
HOW DO YOU KNOW WOMEN ARE THE ONLY ONES SAYING THIS. MAYBE SOME MEN ARE JUST HONEST AND WANT TO BE IN AN HONEST RELATIONSHIP. WOMEN SHOULD'NT CHEAT EITHER., BUT WHAT I AM READING FROM THIS ARTICLE IS A BUNCH OF EXCUSES. HUMANS HAVE NEEDS. IF YOU WANT TO LIE TO YOURSELF AND PRETEND LIKE IT IS OK TO CHEAT THEN THAT IS FINE BY ME. I AM JUST SICK AND TIRED OF EVERYWHERE I LOOK PEOPLES LIVES ARE BEING DESTROYED BECAUSE OF THIS DECEPTION. SO MAKE ALL THE EXCUSES YOU WANT ABOUT YOUR SPECIFIC NEEDS. BUT THE TRUTH IS THIS. YOU WILL NEVER FIND SATISFACTION IN BEING DISHONEST WITH YOUR SPOUSE, YOURSELF OR ANYTHING FOR THAT MATTER.

Is not about keeping your man or woman for the matter from cheating is the fact that PEOPLE shouldn't cheat PERIOD! Is a matter of respecting the person you are in a relationship with, a matter of self respect. It is really not that hard, if you are not happy in your relationship than do what is right and leave that person and move on. That way you can have sex or whatever with whomever and the other person can move on as well. This titles make me sick I don't have to do anything, anyone that wants to be with me will do so without me have to allways make sure they don't stray, it is crazy.

you seem not to understand what the book is explain. yes why can't us men just not cheat, but that isn't the case. why don't you try to see if his method is true or if it works. some men do not cheat just to cheat and some do. but when some men cheat they cheat because as he said emotionaly and socialy disconnected. some cheat to look for what they had emotionaly and socialy again, and some to cheat for different, better, and/or more sex because lack of sex or just their ***. never the less all men aren't like that. but i do understand your point of view of why some of us just don't cheat, but if that was the case this book wouldn't be about now.

I do kind of wonder....now we know what to do when our husband's needs aren't being met, but what about when OUR needs aren't being met?? Sometimes I feel like ONLY mommy/maid/housekeeper/sex slave/taxi/secretary instead of a woman. When do I get to feel appreciated? Hell, I'm so busy, I probably don't have time to feel appreciated, lol. So, to the husbands out there, when you start feeling underappreciated and think it might be a good idea to go dip your wick somewhere else, take a look at your wife, who hasn't had five minutes of quiet time since the kids were born, and take a look at your beautiful children, and your nice home, and your cooked dinners, and your paid bills, and your washed laundry, and take a second look at who needs appreciation.

I think these studies are stupid to always imply that men are the ones that do most of the cheating. My guess is it's 50/50

i dont think any of you understand what the book is explain. your just shooting to what everyone else does when a man cheats. why dont you just try what he is explaning. yes us men can be messed up at some point and should just not cheat but as he explained it is many things and not cheat just to cheat. some of us men look to cheat to find the emoitional connect in which we had with you somewhere else or some of us want different, more, and/or better sex.

i think for both genders, the 2 things each need are respect (and appreciation), and emotional support. sex is important, but that plays a factor after these 2 factors are met .women can be just as horny as men are, and because this is a male-dominated society, people only focus more on why men do some of the bad things they do. it really is all about communicating with your partner about how you feel, no matter how difficult it is to open up. if you notice, people don't want to have to guess why you're rejecting them, and who wants to keep asking without getting any answers? that's why it's easier to act out on fulfilling that unmet need rather than discussing it with that significant other. society doesn't help either with how they teach young people to behave in relationships

oh please, what a bunch of sexist B.S. if the guy is a cheater then it is already in his heart to cheat. why should the women have to do all the work so that he will stay faithful. nice try guys. maybe instead of having to "win" he should just be satisfied that someone is willing to stick by him, have his children and clean up after his sloppy cheating ass. gross

oh please, what a bunch of sexist B.S. if the guy is a cheater then it is already in his heart to cheat. why should the women have to do all the work so that he will stay faithful. nice try guys. maybe instead of having to "win" he should just be satisfied that someone is willing to stick by him, have his children and clean up after his sloppy cheating ass. gross

While I don't have a marriage practice, I will tell this author that if my non-cheating episode of seemingly distant behavior results in my wife sneaking to view my cell-phone records and/or placing a GPS on my car, then we WILL have major, major problems. You read between the lines. Also, a lack of intimacy or closeness in a marriage is NOT technology. The author has selected the most convenient and obvious manisfestation of the root of the problem. Technology is the modality. The root is the pursuit of more money and an elevated lifestyle. It's the desire to have an Escalade instead of a larger familiy. Technology merely keeps one connected and available to the eceonomic work powers that can affect one's ability to attain wealth through promotion. One becomes available through technology at all hours so that he is seen as a team player. It is NOT technology for technology's sake. That is far too simple.

Relationships are two way, and the sooner BOTH parties understand that aspect, the better and longer the partnership will last. It is not only sex, but doing things for each other, and not expecting to be thanked or patted on the shoulder. What the rabbi says is so right on target. Both sexes should be reading and comprehending this.

Why is this study only focussing on men? While woman usually cheat more! Up to 60% of all women cheat, against 50% of all men in the western world. There should be a parallel study about this topic, and then it will be possible to have an overall view about why people cheat.