How To Keep Him From Cheating

Is Dave that ugly? 15 yrs.!!!!!!!!!

To anyone who thinks looks have something to do with it..... look at some of the famous people who have been cheated on ... Halle Berry etc.... come on! Don't blame how you look. Don't lower yourself in that way.

Why is it always "THE MAN THATS CHEATING" What I mean is,,who is he cheating with? a women?right? and if so then she's not any better than he is? When I first became divorced a few years ago i wanted to try and get to the bottom of our problems and the true dynamics of marriage,I saw three seperate marriage counclors and after long sessions and months of therapy they all three came up with the same answers that for every cheating man there is a cheating women? The only difference is,,,,are you ready for this,,,,the only difference is that women tell the world about it and the masculinity in me does'nt allow him to run all over town screaming and yelling "I WAS CHEATED ON" sometimes and only sometimes the male will elaborate to a close friend but not always. Another factor is that there are more women than men thus makeing men look like they are the only ones that cheat

I'm a man. Not a male. Male dogs are male. I am a man. HUMAN. Far from perfect. I was married to a woman who didn't appreciate me and treated me with a clear lack of respect and dignity. I did not however cheat. I actively CHOSE not to cheat. I divorced her. Being unappreciated is no excuse. In fact in my opinion, there is no excuse for staying in a relationship or marriage if you're not happy. No matter what the situation is, if you can't get together to work it out, end it rather than cheat. That is just my opinion on the author's claim on why he thinks men cheat.

As for what she should do if she "thinks" he is cheating, you're assuming that she isn't lacking in confidence, paranoid, or controlling and you're assuming that she has some tangible evidence to "think he's cheating". Him "spending more time away from home", "not having as much sex", and being uncommunicative are not grounds assume that he's cheating. If he says no, that doesn't mean he's lying and give her grounds to "check his phone", "check his e-mail", "GPS his car" or have him "take a lie detector test". If my girlfriend (wife or whatever) accused me of cheating and I really wasn't and stated so, I would not submit to any "police state" privacy invasion tactics and sure as heck wouldn't be taking any lie detector tests! I'd dump her and find a sane, confident, well adjusted woman who doesn't need therapy and/or medication in order to function normally.

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I am a 25yr old woman and I have been married for 5 years. I found this article to be very true and reassuringly helpful. I have noticed throughout my life that women have a bad habit of picking on their man for the littlest of problems. Instead of praising their man for their attempt at a good job, they just tell them how they could have done it better. I say attempt only because there are a lot of women who can???t view it as any better than an attempt. Yet if a man were to play back this scenario and be the one trying to give the advice for the attempted good job, many women would throw their hands in the air and proclaim they ???won???t ever try again since they???re so terrible???. Most women will not take the criticism they expect their man to. I will admit I was guilty of this as well. When I was newly married I did this and wondered why my man would stop sharing his thoughts. I actually sat back and noticed this behavior and within months after getting married I was able to change the serenity of our marriage with one simple outlook: Treat others how you want to be treated. If you are about ready to criticize your husband for leaving the bread in the toaster too long when he was trying to make you breakfast, just stop and think about how this criticism would make you feel at this moment. Tell him thank you, give him a hug and tomorrow morning show him how to use the toaster without throwing the ball back to yesterday and mentioning what he did wrong. This little motto we???ve been told since we were in diapers even pertains to marriages. It applies to criticism, insults, chores, child care, property, belongings, and even sex. You both have to look at each other???s perspectives. Stop being selfish and thinking everything must revolve around you. He/she must understand where you???re coming from but at the same time you must understand him/her. With this simple outlook, our marriage has been very successful.

I am a 25yr old woman and I have been married for 5 years. I found this article to be very true and reassuringly helpful. I have noticed throughout my life that women have a bad habit of picking on their man for the littlest of problems. Instead of praising their man for their attempt at a good job, they just tell them how they could have done it better. I say attempt only because there are a lot of women who can???t view it as any better than an attempt. Yet if a man were to play back this scenario and be the one trying to give the advice for the attempted good job, many women would throw their hands in the air and proclaim they ???won???t ever try again since they???re so terrible???. Most women will not take the criticism they expect their man to. I will admit I was guilty of this as well. When I was newly married I did this and wondered why my man would stop sharing his thoughts. I actually sat back and noticed this behavior and within months after getting married I was able to change the serenity of our marriage with one simple outlook: Treat others how you want to be treated. If you are about ready to criticize your husband for leaving the bread in the toaster too long when he was trying to make you breakfast, just stop and think about how this criticism would make you feel at this moment. Tell him thank you, give him a hug and tomorrow morning show him how to use the toaster without throwing the ball back to yesterday and mentioning what he did wrong. This little motto we???ve been told since we were in diapers even pertains to marriages. It applies to criticism, insults, chores, child care, property, belongings, and even sex. You both have to look at each other???s perspectives. Stop being selfish and thinking everything must revolve around you. He/she must understand where you???re coming from but at the same time you must understand him/her. With this simple outlook, our marriage has been very successful.

Having recently found out my husband was cheating for a year and a half, I think this article is part true. It usually is an ego stroking thing ... the mistress is always going to be better at flattering your husband (she doesn't have to live with him). Problem with this article is it doesn't mention anything about how men should be treating their wives, so that they desire to be more openly appreciative. And I say this as a wife who has never cheated, and has been extremely appreciative and loving to my husband all our years together. Most husbands don't take the time to show extra love to their wives, except a few times a year like Valentines, a birthday, or Christmas. Just shows that we ALL; men & women, need to keep their eyes open to the wonderful people they are married to and don't allow yourselves to be flattered by anyone of the opposite sex besides your spouse.

It's my belief that if you don't trust your man enough that you're on the brink of checking his email/ phone/ having him followed, something's wrong anyway. I think BEFORE things get to that point, you need to lay things on the line and if you still don't trust him, move on before things get REALLY ugly.

I am a married 38 year old female who firmly believes that not all men cheat., but a majority of men do cheat. Just almost 3 years ago, my ex-boyfriend for the last 3 years of our relationship was cheating on me, how i know this is simple, 1, he wasn't at work when he was supposed to be, 2 he wasn't sticking to his part of the relationship ( no sex for 7 months) now sit there and tell me he's not cheating. Bullsh**! I know better. When i left him, I asked him if you're not cheating on me then you will take a lie detector test and won't have a problem with taking one. Of course, he refused to take a lie detector test and he flipped out everytime i tried to talk to him about it. I firmnly believe that women stray just as much as men. I don't care what anyone says about that. I also believe that the number one key to a healthy and happy marriage or relationship is communication. Having good looks really don't mean anything, having money, or even having a slim and trim body. If a man or woman can't love you for the way you are then they are not worth ***.

I honestly don't think this is a sexist article at all. It's not too much to find out what men emotionally need from us to be happy, as we expect them to constantly fill our emotional needs. And I say this as a wife who cheated before. Sometimes there are just things that both spouses should be doing better & as a woman with a very small idea of what is going on in most men's heads, it's nice to get a little insight now and then.

I honestly don't think this is a sexist article at all. It's not too much to find out what men emotionally need from us to be happy, as we expect them to constantly fill our emotional needs. And I say this as a wife who cheated before. Sometimes there are just things that both spouses should be doing better & as a woman with a very small idea of what is going on in most men's heads, it's nice to get a little insight now and then.

Hey ladies: The idea, i'd have to say, is winng you over, NOT winning over you, or at your expense(emotionally or otherwise)shall we say. NO man appreciates a "head game." When either in a marriage stops positively reinforcing the other-regardless of the reason-there'll be problems. No sense running to find a lawyer to solve it.

Of course another article giving the whiny, sexist, ignorant, egotistical male a pat on the back. First off women are not generally self-centered or self-absorbed, in fact when married with children they rarely have time to focus on themselves with their children, their job, and the fact that their POS husband goes around cheating because he'd "under-appreciated". This areticle is ridiculous. Men cheat because they want something new and then they turn it around and blame it on their wife for doing something wrong. Thank God I am in a happy relationship where he treats me right and I don't have to deal with any of this.

Excuse me techresmgt, you are obviously a whiny, sexist, ignorant, egotistical male. First off women are not generally self-centered or self-absorbed, in fact when married with children they rarely have time to focus on themselves with their children, their job, and the fact that their POS husband goes around cheating because he'd "under-appreciated". Bull *** to this article. Men cheat because they want something new and then they turn it around and blame it on their wife for doing something wrong. thank God I am in a happy relationship where he treats me right and I don't have to deal with any f this sexist bullshit.

Excuse me, you are obviously a whiny, sexist, ignorant, egotistical male. First off women are not generally self-centered or self-absorbed, in fact when married with children they rarely have time to focus on themselves with their children, their job, and the fact that their POS husband goes around cheating because he'd "under-appreciated". Bull *** to this article. Men cheat because they want something new and then they turn it around and blame it on their wife for doing something wrong. Thank God I am in a relationship with a guy who treats me as an equal.

Im a 24yr old male and ive never been married, but I wanted to read this and the study about men not cheating is a bunch of crap. A man will cheat, its like why did kings have concubines? There was still that strong minded queen right by his side, and it does have a lot to do with affection and appreciation. To much or not enough can cause a man to venture, and to make it even worse none of those doesn't even play a role SOME of the time. If a man cheats he should just be honest and say so, but if your a crazy wife that might want to chop it off or kill him then look at yourself and realize that you and your crazy ways(thoughts) might just be that reason why he did it, if a man comes out and tells you, then you should at least have respect for him because he really didnt have to say a thing. And for those of you in perfect marriages and relationships, just realize what you dont know wont hurt you. Some think that those few mins of fun with others actually makes their relationship with the initial partner better. But thats some. I believe that if you are in love, True Love, then there would be no reason, and if its still going on then ask yourself is it Love, are they IN love or do they just love you. As a matter of fact IF you ques. the love between you and your partner then it isnt love at all, love is a feeling, you would just know with no if's, and's, or but's. And for you women that ties a man down just because the sex is good......shame on you. It aint gonna last forever, so dont get attached to that body part and leave the "really getting to know him" part out because after awhile its really going to be nothing, between you two, no matter how many years youve been together. Sure you might grow accustomed to each other but realize that, that isnt love, thats an intimate FRIENDSHIP, that turned into marriage. Just commenting people.