How To Keep Him From Cheating

I don't think half of you even read this article. And it seems like some of you need to swallow your pride and realize that showing appreciation is not about kissing your man's a** or stroking his ego. Though I do agree that feeling underappreciated is not a valid excuse to cheat, it is what it is. And it doesn't just go for men either. If something is missing in a marriage either spouse can just as easily find it somewhere else. If there is a void it's going to be filled by something or someone. I think the biggest difference is that women tend to fill it with something more acceptable, friends, kids, hobbies, etc.

So basically, you???re putting part of the blame on the woman because she isn't stroking his ego enough? Please. That's not an excuse to be unfaithful. Women shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around a guy just because they're afraid he'll cheat. Men (and women) are 100% responsible for their actions. It also isn't as simple as getting things "back on track," either. Trust is important in any relationship. I'm watching a marriage struggling because the woman discovered the husband was cheating on her with several other tramps. He isn???t stopping, either, despite promising that he would. Some people never change, and I???m watching this woman continually put herself through hell because she is afraid to be alone. I???m sorry but I can???t give men any slack for being a**holes. Women shouldn???t have to get down and lick his feet to avoid getting treated like dirt.

So basically, you???re putting part of the blame on the woman because she isn't stroking his ego enough? Please. That's not an excuse to be unfaithful. Women shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around a guy just because they're afraid he'll cheat. Men (and women) are 100% responsible for their actions. It also isn't as simple as getting things "back on track," either. Trust is important in any relationship. I'm watching a marriage struggling because the woman discovered the husband was cheating on her with several other tramps. He isn???t stopping, either, despite promising that he would. Some people never change, and I???m watching this woman continually put herself through hell because she is afraid to be alone. I???m sorry but I can???t give men any slack for being a**holes. Women shouldn???t have to get down and lick his feet to avoid getting treated like dirt.

but, i want to cheat. I need more sex than my husband. I think about having alot of sex all of the time. where does that put women like me with elevated libidoes; other than to seek out many younger and better looking and in better shape than their spouse?! my husband know this of me; and would love to see me have great sex with another man. but, not really...nor would I want to watch him, though it is a fantasy scenario that each of us play out in our heads when we're trying to reach that ecstasy; isn't it?

I'm a 39 year old male and this article makes it sound like men are babies. This may be true but if his ego needs to be stroked that much and that often, tell him he has a hand and should use it. If a man needs to be told what he did right when he tried to make toast, it's time to call his mommy and tell her to pick up her little boy. The next thing the woman should do is find herself a man who's ego isn't as fragil as the egg that her whining little "man boy" probably broke while he was screwing up the toast.
Women do as much if not more on a daily basis and more is expected of them. If a woman asks her man for more appreciation it gets met with, 'why are you nagging me'. or 'don't start that again'. So now you are suggesting that the women has to put one more thing on her list just to stroke the guy?
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have been practicing for 4 years.

trust is the truth...you sould know your mate by looking in their eye.Period....If you dont connect its time to move on.

This article to me is somewhat true..but for the record,bith men and women cheat it's not only the man....My Fiance' and my self started having some troubles about 6 months ago..and I love her very much and a lot of my family and friends ask how can I put with so much of her verbal and physical abuse from her....After that comment from a friend I took it into consideration to break off our engagement for awhile to see if she Loved me like she said she did....we seperated after another bad argument..I went out with another girl...and she was with another guy,so she said....After about 3 months apart we started talking with one another and I told her that I miss her and She said the same thing...the only thing was that she was not only with one other guy,she was with three different other ones...She told me about a second guy after about a week we were back
together..but the other guy she kept her dirty lil secret,because it is a guy that she works with....I found e-mails from her to him about a month after we got back together and got into another big argument about this...I Cut off total contact with the girl I was seeing..but she was still wanting to be with this Bum..also the guy she was running with is a married man...so he's a Bum.....Now to me Women seem to be alot sneakier than most men...We are still trying to get our lives back together...but it's not that easy...since I found out that she was lying to me about the other guy...I have been with about 3 other women and havn't felt that I have been cheating at all..because I still think that there is contact between her and that Bum....I'm not running around anymore because I feel that I should'nt have to lower myself to her and that Bum's standards...I hope it works for us and we can just get along and have a good life together...

MY GOSH..THE REASON PEOPLE CHEAT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONNECTED...PLAN AND SIMPLE YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO LOOK AT YOUR MATE IN HIS OR HER EYES AND KNOW WHAT IS WRONG, IF YOU CANT YOU ARE OUT OF TUNE. AND IT IS OVER PLAIN AND SIMPLE. LIES ARE THE MAIN REASON...LYING ABOUT A SIMPLE THING . we look to be loved, trusted and believed not betrayed ..I know

An individual (male or female) who is willing to cheat has a character flaw that has little or NOTHING at all to do with their spouse. This type of person lacks the quality substance of a decent and moral human being. The best way that I have found to avoid this occuring in my own personal life is to look at my prospective boyfriend's past. One's past is the best indicator one's future. This can usually be determined in the early conversations of the "getting to know each other" process. If he (or she) is willing to admit that they have cheated in a previous relationship, this provides some insight as to what you may expect from them in the future. Some people do regret and some mature enough to see the error of their ways but if this person relays this information as if it were recent and repetitive and shows little regret, YOU would be a fool not to run. In reference to the premise of this book, I really do not understand why the target is set on men only. I am a female with more male than female friends and I have found my female friends and colleagues to be worse in regards to their fidelity. I may need new female friends but I can only base my conclusions on personal experience. I do feel the opportunity is FAR more available to women but it is my guess that men will seize an opportunity more readily as the opportunities come less often. Nevertheless, it is wrong for either gender and there are absolutely no excuses. If you are unhappy enough with any aspect of your relationship, it is your responsibility to work to resolve it, or end it.

This article hits it on the head. It really does. My husband loves to make me happy and I appreciate and express my appreiciation every day he walks through that door from work. He is heading back to Iraq soon and every day is a blessing. I notice that when I do something for him, something simple like write " I love you" in toothpaste on his mirror (he loves that by the way) he always does something even sweeter back...like bring home flowers, cook dinner. I NEVER take my husband for granite. He is the best thing in my life. It works...appreciate him and you will so be amazed at the love and kindness that comes back!!!!!! WE have been together for six years and I fall in love with him more and more everyday.

This article talks about all the signs of a man that is cheating. It Also talks about things to keep HIM from cheating. But men aren't the only ones who cheat. Men who have a wife that works full time and takes care of the house cheat too. Women aren't totally innocent. And another thing, women take their husbands for granted, whether he is cheating or not. How many times have you, a woman, automatically assumed that "He'll do the yard, thats his job." "He'll fix it, thats his job". Or when your husbands have taken the time to show you he cares and makes dinner for you. How many times have you said thank you and/or I love you. Women are not perfect and make mistakes as well. Ladies don't always try to blame the man.

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This article makes a valid point. My significant other and I have a wonderful realationship. I do what I can to make him feel loved and appreciated EVERYDAY. Even the smallest things count like making sure he has clean clothes to put on in the morning. When I've felt underappreciated I told him about it. I simply TALKED to him and he has made an effort to change this. We have never had a fight and our relationship is going strong. There is no fingers pointed at either men or women that they cheat more than the other. Unfortunatly technology has opened avenues that make it easier to cheat and get away with it . And just about everywhere there is infidelity being made to look cool and socially acceptable. If u sleep with a person who is otherwise taken ur just as bad and guilty as they are. Where are the morals anymore?

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Hummm. Men lie to their wives, what makes this author think they were telling him the truth about the reason for cheating? Insecurity and Ego play a bigger role. Men use any excuse to justify their cheating. If saying they aren't appreciated makes them feel better, then it's the basis for the a book! Most cheaters hook up with a woman who isn't taking care of a house, children and working a full time job too. Maybe appreciation is the reason, but he forgot to appreciate his wife!!!