How To Keep Him From Cheating

Well I tell you what, my thighs never slammed shut, im always ready, and the reason why its not reported more of women cheating is because you can find a good woman before you EVER find a good man.

I never cheated on my wife, yet she always investigated my every movement because her previous spouse cheated on her. I spent many hours, days, and years trying to help her understand that I would never betray her in such a way. After 5 years of marriage and constant investigations and interrogations, to include gps tracking of my whereabouts, we divorced. I guess my word to pass on to anyone would be to be careful if you start interrogating and tracking an innocent person, Eventually the person will get fed up with the false accusations and move on as I did.

I'm lost about why the sub is in here, i'm lost: I thought this was a discussion about men cheating. Here is what I have to say: I think it's a little sad that here is an article that seems to be encouraging women to take responsibility for their spouse's cheating. Why? Aren't all adults responsbile for their own actions? Why can't we just leave it at that? If a man cheats then he cheats. If his wife was pushing him away somehow shouldn't he be an adult and see if he can work that out with her before he cheats? Why is the woman even involved in this? Isn't a husband's (or wife's) decision to cheat a choice that they make all by themselves? I think so. I'd say it points to the character of that person, very very much so. And people who betray the trust of other people are simply inferior intellectually and on many other ways. They are like dirt. or scum. There is no rationale or reasoning for betrayal of a loved one, so save it. It's disgusting and something that is and when is uncovered, even the suspicion of it should be taken very seriously and checked out thoroughly. I speak from experience. Make no mistake. Your health is not worth any of this. If your spouse or partner is cheating find out for sure and deal with it. Avoid sexual contact with someone who is screwing someone else, especially without a condom but even with. Too many risks, too great a risk toi health. Poor guys doesn't feel appreciated? So he treats you like this? SHOW HIM THE DOOR.

You can see a lot of the guys commenting haven't been on the other end of the stick at least not fully. When they feel the mind numbing hurt and soul crushing betrayal, then we'll talk.

How about a book titled "How to keep yourself from cheating" A new book on why men stray, and what men can do about it (?) For example Ch 1 "Grab the reins" (take some responsibility for your actions and the relationship) etc.

This article does not take in to consideration that women may have things in their lives that they are dealing with and need a mature partner and not an immature, selfish childman. For example, Elizabeth Edwards has been in a fight for her life with cancer and probably can't pay much attention to her husband or family. And what does John do to help her through this terrible ordeal? He cheats on her! Give me a break. Cheaters, whether male or female, are just selfish, deceitful and dishonest people.

you know, you have to laugh...men need more touching and to feel appreciated? What about the women that feel this way for 30 years and never stray. Get a grip Doc and quit making excuses for men to cheat, there is never ANY reason for infidelity in a marriage, not one. I am amazed at how much women are blamed for men cheating....hmmmmm lets see...a day in the life of a woman, get up, get kids ready for school, breakfast, get husband ready , make lunches, go to work then come home make dinner, homework, run kids to practices etc....you think this isnt happening still? Guess again it is happening all over and the cheating husband feels under appreciated????? What a baby, a momma's boy who wants some woman to feed his needs and ego. Call a whambulance because your article...and No, I have not been cheated on, by man is completely devoted to me. This society needs to realize that hurting others has no justification for your own gratification.
Wake Up!

It was worked out a while ago that men and women access logic and feelings differently... The only way to truly keep a relationship on an even keel is with profound understanding that comes from communication... Its just that men in general don't care for talking and women in general talk too much... lol

I would say that by the comment by MNov made... It could be said that she is not in a relationship.

Here is my story about sexual promiscuity: some of u will get this and some will not: When I was in college I had a friend who worked with the mentally handicapped as part of his nursing program, in another town. He was a "supervisor" who lived in their residence on weekends and took them back and forth to work. He lived with them so he knew first hand and he told me that they (the people with greatly diminished mental capacity) are very indiscriminate about sex, about who, about what, about where or the circumstances, they can hardly be stopped from having sex with each other, neighbors, etc. It struck me as disgusting but logical, they lack possession of discrimination. Anything goes. AND they are naturally sterile, so they cannot reproduce, which is cool, I think. I was in college and learned a very valuable lesson in that: I can choose and I can say no and that's all right. So the people who say they can't help it or whatever are just, to me, well, idiots. Morons. Or just like them in that regard. My apologies for using terminology that might be considered offensive or discriminatory in making my point.

As a guy I have found women cheat pretty much just as much as guys and that they have a better poker face than guys do when it comes to lying about cheating. I would be curious to see what the "true" results would be if women were hooked up to a lie detector test when answering "no" I haven't cheated. Plan and simple there are selfish idiot cheaters and honest loving people. The type of people that are cheaters look for those that they can get over on whether its subconciously or on purpose. At the very begining there are signs that can let you know what they are capable of......1) do they have a bully like attitude? (shows lack of remorse, shows selfishness, shows they are more concerned about personal satisfaction). 2) Do both of their parents cheat. May be a little harder to find out because someone still maybe hiding the information. But if you pick up on signs that both parents cheat, then you can bet the daughter or son is going to cheat also. Its all about the parents passing on values that have justified them cheating. Sorry to hear about the cheater in your life thorman61. If you think about you are better off knowing and seperated than not knowing and with them. Who knows what she would have eventually passed on to you. Take care of yourself.

How sad that our society has gravitated to this point. Just as we seem to accept a general lack of concience we also are enabling our children to feel that they are not responsible for their own destructive choices. Where in this article is there anything specific about a man showing respect and appreciation for the woman? It is too often the man's disrespect and thoughtless actions that initiate the woman's disappointment and more often than not passive agressive behavior. It is time that BOTH parties take responsibiity for this problem.