How To Keep Him From Cheating

I have cheated before in a pas relationship and ill give you my reasoning. Many many women take everythign a man does for them for granted. If i make you breakfast, thank me. If i fix something in the house thats broken say "thanks for doing that honey, what would i do without you." Too often women act like all this is just expected of a man and that there is no need to show thanks or let them know that they care. We are men, and we are in general less emotional than women, but that doesnt mean we dont need any support. Relationships are two way streets. Seems all to often i give and give and give and give, and then get nothing in return because "im a guy, thats my job." I'm sick of all these double standards. But i guess thats what you get when you have generations of little girls raised to think of themselves and princesses.

I am a man who has been married for almost 15 years I haven't even come close to cheating. I believe it is a choice. I earn well over $140K per year, pay the bills and get the kids to and from school on most days (I work from home) except when I travel. I also coach their sports teams. My experience? Being called a cheater all the time. My wife asked me one day if I was having an affair with an Elder of the church because she saw me laughing with her. Her dad, accused my mother-in-law and I of hooking up. My wife's initial statement to me? "Of all the people you could have picked, you picked my mom to have an affair." She didn't even believe her own mom that we did not have sex. The neighbor across the street had cancer - she was sure that we were hooking up. A single mom lives up the street has the biggest boobs for her little frame (ex-wife of a football player) and runs around the neighborhood in tight fitting t-shirts. I waved to her one day as we were leaving the house. My wife asked, "who is that?" I said the woman's name. She then asks, "is she home during the day?" I answered I don't know. I can go on and on and on - back to when we first got married.

I like this article because of the percentages it speaks of. The low percentage of meeting for the first time and having sex is solid. The other is close proximity. It is rare that I work closely with another woman for an extended period of time. I gave a lady a ride one day because we were going to the same location and the weather was going to be bad for the next several days. I had met the lady just that day. My wife thought I was doing something with her. One day, the counselor asked her what she thought was going to happen. My wife said she feared that we would get caught in the snow storm, have to huddle together and end up screwing!

She read this article, told me to read it and then got up at 5 AM in the morning to grill me, asking if I was cheating. I agree with something else I read on this blog. Over the past several years, all the questioning about cheating, the name calling in front of my kids, insinuations, and ungratefulness has worn me out. Although I am lonely, and long for someone to talk to about my dreams, wins, highs and lows, I am committed to not cheating on my wife. Why? It is a choice. No matter what she does to me, I still need to choose to faithfulness. I told my wife one day that I choose not to cheat because the Bible says so and she said it wasn???t a good reason. I told her some days, I choose not to cheat for love, others because it is wrong, some days because I just don't to want to give her the satisfaction. My dad hasn't helped my situation either. He cheated on my mom. My wife has told me that I am just like him. I told her, no matter what my dad has done, right or wrong, I still have a choice to what I do. She questions, calls, etc. I am worn out, but committed to my marriage.

Keep your head up those who have been faithf

I'm glad some women don't know how to take care of their men because that means that I get to take care of them no-strings-attatched. They take out their frustration during sex with me, and I love it. Please, get your man pissed off. Tell him he doesn't appreciate you. Tell him he can't do anything right. He'll just come show me what he can do.

When I found out my husband had cheated on me it was a total shock. Everyone always says there are signs, like the 3 mentioned above, my husband never showed any of those signs, in fact his behavior towards me never changed. Since we first started dating, he was always very attentive, called me at least twice a day or text just to tell me that he loved me, our sex life was great, he was away from home a lot but it was due to his job and his check prove that. When he was not at work he was always with me, hell all of my female friends always commented on how they wish their husbands/boyfriends could be like mine. I never saw it coming; to this day there are times when I think this didn't happen it was just a bad dream or something. The day I found out I asked him and of course he said that was not true, the simple fact that he didn't look me in the eyes let me know he had cheated. The day after I decided I would give him a second chance to confess, so I asked again, he denied it at first, but then broke down crying and admitted to cheating. My reaction was to ask questions like when did it happen? How did it happen? Why would you do something like this? Who is she?
I couldn't even let him talk when I got in the car and left home to pack, of course he followed gave me a shower of tears, his only response was that He was stupid and he didn't know why he did it, that when he walked out of the room the day it happened, he knew he didn't want to lose me. He begged and cried that he was sorry and he wouldn't ever do this again, that if I left he wouldn???t know what to do; I am the world to him?????? Deep inside I believe him, that he won't do this again, and that he loves me as much as he claims; but I don't think there's anyway that I could stay with him. I have spoken to a couple of women I know that have had their husbands cheat, and most of them stayed for their children, we don't have any, 2 of the others say they stayed because they truly believed their husband when he said he would not do it again and the positive things in the marriage out weighed the one bad moment. For the moment I have left him, taking him back has crossed my mind but I am not sure if all the great moments that we have had and possibly will keep having are worth it, after making me feel like a total idiot with what he did.

The real answer (if you don't want your man to cheat):
1. Stop nagging.
2. Put your fork down and get into the gym.
3. Dress hot.
4. Give him as much sex as he wants.

Follow these rules. You'll never have a problem.

Oh, please. Let's not make this more complicated than it is.

It's about the sex.

People usually get married and have kids because they want something beyond the "madly in love" stage of a relationship, such as kids, a nice home--both of which require a lot of attention. To incorporate these additions to a relationship, something has to give. It's unrealistic to expect your spouse to be there for you just as much and just as intensely as s/he was before marriage. No, spouses should not take each other for granted or ignore each other, but each has to be willing to accept that things understandably change to some degree after marriage. I think they key is to order our lives to support our marriages. Choose careers that don't take you away from home and family for 12-14 hours a day or for days at a time. Live more simply, so that your life isn't controlled by things and money. Kids need their parents to have a strong marriage; they don't need umpteen extracurricular activities to be happy. Make a commitment to spend time together as a couple on a regular basis and with your kids--not just carting them to activities and pushing them to do homework.

P.S. I seriously doubt that these overworked cheating men are giving their wives what they need either. Sorry, but I think a lot of this about the male ego that still wants to be mommied their entire lives. And why do men get a free pass in the looks/figure department? They let themselves slide as much or worse than women. And I'm sick of men seeing their wives and children as extensions of themselves. That's not only annoying but dysfunctional and dangerous.

Boy, this is a lively discussion. I'm the guy that was married 16 years and stayed faithful. Well, someone referred to me as "Even the man who has not cheated has a desire for other women that he may or may not admit to." I wanted to let everyone know that YES that is absolutely true!!! I'm not dead!! Of course I desired to have other women, but it doesn't mean I should have acted on it. I have a MBA, make around $120k/year, still run 2 miles in 13 minutes and I don't have love handles. But I stay that way for ME, my 2 sons (who I must lead by example) and the person I love, not every woman that I desire. C'mon guys, the decision to cheat is yours and yours alone. You can blame your wife, your mother, your dog, your boss, the beautiful woman who wears the "right" shoes that makes you horny as a 6 point buck, but it is you and you alone who makes the decision to cross the line. Get some discipline and balls and either divorce your spouse or just say no! I'm sure your spouse doesn't like it either. If you are going to cheat then, tell your spouse and allow her to cheat too. If you can do that then more power to the both of you.

None of that is true or right. We cheat because of the feeling of being restricted. We're not meant to be faithful. It's not in our nature. It's that simple

Having previously worked as an escort for 8 years & been through a miserable, unloved 10 year marriage prior to that where cheated out of desperation for love & attention, I can fully understand both sides.

I cheated, not for the sex but crying out for closeness, care and attention. I tried every way I could imagine for my marriage to work but he just wouldn't talk, listen or respond in any way. Clearly the marriage was a mistake & finally after 10 years & 2 children (from the rare sex) I ended it as a hopeless cause.

I had a high-powered job but couldn't hold it down with childcare problems, so to keep a roof over I became an escort, where I learned what really goes on in mens heads. Some men are complete dogs; it's totally about getting one over on the partner - `You won't please me in this way so I'll find someone who will' or the ones who really sickened me, `My wife is pregnant/just had a baby & we've stopped having sex'.
For these men it was simply about a physical release. Many men just craved love & attention as much as I had done in my disasterous marriage.

The key to all however is communication. I counselled each in ways to change and improve their lives with their partner. For me & all of the women I have ever known, it's the little, thoughful things a man does which mean so much, from doing chores without fuss; giving a back rub after a long day then you want to reciprocate, you feel loving towards your man, closer, emotionally attached. It's so simple but so overlooked. From there it can lead on to talking about deeper emotional & physical needs; done calmly & rationally & acted upon improves both your lives.

Men need to learn how to stimulate a womans' mind too, sex starts there. It's so far removed from neandathol mans perception of smash & grab. What turns her on, gently and slowly, work the imagination & then she'll respond & everyone gets what they want & need.

The barriers built up within relationships over time through all the things said & done have to be chipped away at before you can trust & respect each other again. I again speak from experience. I am in a 5 yr + relationship where of course we have had our ups, downs & misunderstandings but I make sure things never build up to boiling point, issues are always discussed & dealt with & we are still so in love & excited to be in each others company like new lovers. We are both totally faithful and commited to each other like there is no one else in the room. This has only been achieved through good, honest communication & respecting each others needs.

All relationships have to be worked at on a daily basis, however small a gesture from asking how their day went to putting away the dishes, Small & regular gestures of love help to soften anger & break down the barriers. It requires some effort & both sexes need to do these things then if you are also with the right perso

i have been in a relationship for 6years. We were engaged for less than a year and he cheated on me for the second time, and also had a child with this woman. He is a very outspoken, driven ,personnal trainer that let work get in the way. Just last weekend I found a hotel confirmation and confronted him. He admitted to his cheating, appologized the whole bit. I am now to the point where I always expect him to cheat. Before he went on his little weekend romance i didn't think he was really doing anything, but finding that confirmation was it. He states he doesn't have a problem when first confronted, but later appoligizes and admitts it is a problem and he doesn't know how to stop or even if he wants to. Im feed up and discussed. Oh and we have two girls also.