How To Keep Him From Cheating

This is cr*p and most of these comments are cr*p. The cheaters have no morals or empathy. A lot of this is tied to the fact that few people go to churh anymore, the main stream media is their G*d. The msm is all about promoting things like cheating, drinking all the time, etc. Think about it.

Unlimited communication availability like cell phone time, e-mail, etc has ruined a lot of significant other relationships. Also the MSM main stream media keeps trying to portray adultery as "just one of those things". They forget to include STDs and emotional degradation. How convenient for them. :-p

This article is right on. I only wish I couold get my wife to read it and "UNDERSTAND" it. Even if I ask her to read it, I don't think she would fully grasp it and embrace the concept. I "almost" cheated on my wife. I did have an emotional affair but ended short of taking it all the way - and not because the other party was unwilling. It was quite the opposite. It almost destroyed my marriage. Many of the problems that were present before, are still there. I have simply learned to overlook them. It is a constant internal strugle for me because of the disconnect but somehow I stick it out. She is a very good person. She just doesn't know how to show me that I am appreciated. I have written letters, had talks, been to counseling but nothingh sinks in. I have consigned myself that it will never change. So I can live with it, or move on. That is the way that I have learned to deal with it.. I only wish that there was more. I am not fatalistic, but I have come to face reality.

What is it with men believing women don't like sex??? I've only met a few women in my life who actually don't like it. For those of you who feel your expereinces were less then favorable, maybe you sould try something different, or ask her what she wants... You all are pretty vocal about what you want. That's just another way a woman can help in keeping you interested in her and the relationship, it might be more fun for you also.

I am a single man. From my perspective, I think it is a combination of both the need to feel needed AND sex. Women may not like it but me are just as insecure as them (perhaps even more so) and need to be made to feel like they are king in the eyes of their lady. We also want to be nourished and loved and spoiled. But in addition to that, we need lots and lots of sex. That is just the way God put men together. Men continue to get horny well into their elderly years. But a woman doesn't have to look like a model to please her man. She just needs to be the agressive one more often. It should be 50/50. And she needs to flirt with him and she needs to make him feel special outside the bedroom as well. We want to feel like we are tops in your book and that you don't want any other man. And we want to hear it with words. Now, I am sure woman want all the very things I just describe, with perhaps the exepction of the parts about the sex. But this article (and book) was about what men want and what women can do to keep them from cheating. So, that is what I am commenting on.

I think it is time for our society to start looking beyond the obvious. Perhaps it is time to look at the soul level and the relationships one soul has to another. If the energy is present to keep the relationship together, then I believe the "emotional disconnect" does not occur. However, if the relationship has been completed at the soul level, then perhaps, it is finished--for the energy isn't there to maintain the relationship. If we are able to take it to this level, then we are less likely to keep the blame-game going.

I'm going through a divorce right now and this article hits the head on the nail for why we grew apart. She does not appreciate what I do to ensure she can stay at home with the kids like she wants. I work two jobs spend a lot of time on the road. My efforts are never enough for her. She just doesn't appreciate what I do for my family.

Oh, and I have never cheated on her. My messed up sense of loyalty to the sancitty of marriage (acording to the guys at work) won't allow me to be invovled with another woman until the divorce is final. She will not be able to label me an adulteror to my sons.

Don't kid yourself, appreciate or lose.

--Unappreciated in Colorado

I think it's true that technology has added to cheating and also that men won't admit to cheating until they are caught red-handed in some cases. We had been married 20 years....the intimate part of our marriage wonderful, the friendship and love flowing...little notes left to each other every day, phone calls, etc. But my hubby worked out of our home after his early retirement at 52...I worked outside the home four days a week. He worked for a computer business (he retired from the computer business & was so savy with it) I had no idea he was having internet affairs for six years...he knew how to hide and rename the files and my computer knowledge was limited. I was devastated, shocked and put in trauma when an IM came through one night as I didn't even know we had IM....and it was a love IM. We went through hell in healing....I loved my husband with all my heart and this turned my whole world upside down.....to read the e-mails, the messages (yes, I became computer savy quickly afterwards). This was a man that was appreciated and loved to the fullest and also made me feel that way. He was the last man I ever thought would cheat as he always said, "there will always be honesty in our marriage." How easy to lie....it was the deceit that hurt the most. We have moved forward....but no one will ever know the pain I went through or the emotional roller coaster. He had it all....and I will never understand ...nor he....why he risked losing it all for the "fun and excitement" of the internet.

Strength to all that have been through this.

I think that the author of the book may in fact be a female! Every man knows that sex to a man is just that, sex. Sex to a woman is more spiritual and meaningful. Men need sex. I say again, MEN NEED SEX! If they don't get sex (the reason they don't get sex is not important), they will find a way to get it. First, it starts with porn, then it goes from there. Men love to have sex, and men love to look at women's bodies. You should believe me because I am in fact an expert in the field of men's feelings. I AM A MAN, so I know what men want. Plain and simple, it is sex that we want. Sex,sex,sex!!!

This book is right on the mark. I loved my wife more deeply than I ever thought possible, and used to do everything I could to make her happy. I'd feed her horses when the temperatures were below zero, spend days repair pasture fences, or buy her nice cars that I could barely afford. But all I would get was rather cursory thanks. She was (and is) never demanding or selfish, she just never shows any real appreciation beyond a polite thanks. The "other woman" always made me feel special. She would praise my intelligence and abilities, not only to me, but to her friends, which made me feel like a king.
I'm still with my wife, and I will never cheat again. I couldn't handle the guilt, and we also have a child now. But oh how I still long for those feelings of being someone special to a woman.

I disagree with some of the information in this book. And I think the percentage should be higher for men who will cheat because a woman is sexier or has a PHD in prostitution. Test the theory out, post a fake ad on craigslist as an escort, describe yourself as a sexy, young, beautiful woman....and you will see how many rsponses you get from men who are indeed married and will admit it. Most men are simply dogs, they are not emotional creatures like this article is trying to potray. Their penises get hard, they want to screw. If wife can't fulfill the sexual drive, it will begin with porn and looking at naked pictures of other women....and then he will want to do more. I knew someone who managed escorts and it was set-up for men to go screw them right before work & right when they get-off. Most of them were married middle-aged white-collar men. The bottom line is, if you don't screw your husband somebody else will. Men need sex. Why do you think viagra was such a big hit? Let's not over complicate this.....as a matter of fact.... go to www.escortvault.com... it's an example of an underground escort system full of married men. Same for sugardaddie.com and many others. They want sexy, they want prostitution, rarely emotional.

This article is such BS. Emotional disconnection my a@@. Men cheat because sex is sex to us. We do not preceive sex as some sort of connection. It's just sex. It doesn't mean we want to leave the person we are with. We just want to get our rocks off. The finest and most beautiful women in the world have been cheated on. Men are selfish and lack foresight when we get an erection. Nothing else matters at that point but sex. Save yourself some money and don't buy this book.

I disagree with some of the information in this book. And I think the percentage should be higher for men who will cheat because a woman is sexier or has a PHD in prostitution. Test the theory out, post a fake ad on craigslist as an escort, describe yourself as a sexy, young, beautiful woman....and you will see how many rsponses you get from men who are indeed married and will admit it. Most men are simply dogs, they are not emotional creatures like this article is trying to potray. Their penises get hard, they want to screw. If wife can't fulfill the sexual drive, it will begin with porn and looking at naked pictures of other women....and then he will want to do more. I knew someone who managed escorts and it was set-up for men to go screw them right before work & right when they get-off. Most of them were married middle-aged white-collar men. The bottom line is, if you don't screw your husband somebody else will. Men need sex. Why do you think viagra was such a big hit? Let's not over complicate this.....as a matter of fact.... go to www.escortvault.com... it's an example of an underground escort system full of married men. Same for sugardaddie.com and many others. They want sexy, they want prostitution, rarely emotional.

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