How To Keep Him From Cheating

As hard as it is for most men to admit, yes we are vulnerable to emotional issues also. For us though, when we are supposed to be the "man" and be almost invulnerable, impervious to the world, have a hard time admitting to our "weaknesses". Let alone discussing them with our loved ones, who we never want to appear weak in front of.
Now some men will cheat, just like I've found that some women will cheat. However, just because SOME don't care what pain they cause, does not mean that ALL are so callous.
I do admit to "revenge" cheating in the past, but I have never been inclined to do so just for the heck of it. It was never what I wanted, and not how I viewed that things should be. I will also admit, that doing as I did, was still no excuse, because two wrongs do not make a right. What I will say, without a doubt, is that men can be almost as emotional as women, and we need to know we are there because you WANT us there, and care about US. We do not expect to be the "center" of your world, and if you have children, we all know who SHOULD be the center of BOTH your worlds. Yet most men do feel that their mates are incredibly special, and we sometimes need assurance that you feel we are special too, and that we are not just "lucky" to have you around. For if it is just by "luck", than what if our luck runs out?
So yes, for some it can become an insecurity, and feeling "connected" to the one we love, is VERY much important to us.

By the way, I know far more women (FAR MORE) that have cheated on their spouses than men!

Most men who would cheat , will cheat no mater how much their wives appreciate them.

For them the wife is yesterdays newspaper.

They need something new , they need the excitement of chase, they need different touch, different sound......

For women; pick better men if they're like grown children. As for me? I quit dating American women in 2001 and I couldn't be happier. I've dated Bosnian, French, and Chaldean women and the positive attitude that they have is incredible. They're respectful, kind, love sex, and cook and do things for me with appreciation. This in turn strengthens my friendship. These women know and to treat men with respect. I will never date American women ever again.

And as we men are much more visually stimulated than are women, this is why the lingerie industry has been around and will continue to be for years and years. When a woman puts something sexy on for her man, the message we receive is "you are worth me adorning myself in clothing that i know you like to see me in" Again, the message is "you are worthy" This is what men fight for in our marriages/relationships and why males of virtually every species in the animal kingdom fight during mating season.

I certanly hope some women can learn something from what I wrote here. It really does disappoint me that there is so much resistance to what I believe is helpful information. I mean seriously, If someone wrote a book called "how to make your wife horny for you 24 hours a day", if that book was written by a woman and had testimony from yet more women, I wouldn't care if they all said the key is to dress up in a gorilla suit sporting a muu-muu while holding a cactus up in the air like the statue of liberty and clucking the "Star Spangled Banner", If all the women surveyed in that book say the same thing, well, i don't care how ridiculous it sounds, I'm doing it, no questions asked.

And this points out a fundamental difference between men and women. When we men find out that something works, we don't ask why, we don't need to know why, we don't even need it to make sense, if it works, we're going with it. Women on the other hand have to write themselves a mental term paper to try and rationalize nearly everything. And I honestly think this gets in the way sometimes.

Hope this helps

I don't care how many articles you read on how to keep your significant other from cheating on you, you just can't. Unless you can read his or her mind you will never know what is going on there. Do I believe it is because of an emotional disconnect primarily - No. Do I believe that stalking your significant other by searching their cell phone or putting a tracking device on their car will help you - are you serious? If anything, these sorts of insecure behavior will drive a person further away from you, literally.

Let???s be realistic for a moment, it is virtually impossible to believe that one person no matter how wonderful they are can be all that any one given person will need for life. It just does not work like that. As sure as you have more than one friend, each who you go to for different things, your relationship with your significant other is twice as complicated as any of those relationships and there is just no way you???re ever going to be everything someone needs all the time. Do you realize just how exhausting that would be? Does that mean they don???t love you? No, it means they???re human.

I swear I can't believe how difficult this seems to be from some women to understand this. Ok, I'll try again.

#1 - Let's make this clear - By stating that a woman can by her own actions reduce the odds that her husband will cheat, it DOES NOT MEAN that if it does that it is her fault it happened. However, let's try to use another scenario for the women who just still refuse to get it.

Say you find a restaurant that serves your favorite food and just happens to make it better than you've ever had it. Let's also say that the food there overall is so good that you enter into a contract with the restaurant owner that you will only eat at his restaurant for the rest of your life. Shortly thereafter, the owner and chef starts to give you all kinds of reasons why they can't feed you today such as:

Chef is tired
Chef isn't in the mood to cook
Restaurant is closed - come back tomorrow
We don't have time to feed you right now.

Now, after days and days of this you're going to get pretty hungry. One day a new restaurant opens up across the street, but the food is average at best. BUT, they say to you, "Hey, you look hungry and malnourished, come on over, we'll feed you" Tell me ladies, WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO? And before you answer me, remember that "contract" you have with the first restaurant.

I think that the reason so many women are in denial about the accuracy of this is because they can't make sense of it because they don't understand it. And they don't understand it because they are not men. The sexes are wired differently and thus we respond in different ways to different stimuli, whether verbal, physical, and emotional.

So, a man decides to cook 1 meal during the course of a seven day week and he happens to burn it and the wife is supposed to say "Oh that's ok honey, it's the effort that counts." While she is most likely responsible for cooking the remaining six dinners during the course of the week?! It's like if a man does anything domestic a woman is supposed to bring home a trophy and congratulate him. The point is this is 2008 and chores should be shared equally, cooking should be shared etc. All the women in my family do the cooking, planning, time managing, finances etc. Many women are too tired to think about how they phrase things to their husbands. It is not a woman's responsibility to filter everything she says or does to please the male psyche. There is no mention of what a man can do to help his wife or prevent her from straying in their marriage as well. I'm not completely satisfied with the content of this article, although I can appreciate some of the suggestions.

And yes, ladies, you can spend the rest of your lives trying to deny the truth, but it won't change, for us it's all about sex. But not in the way many of you think. Allow me to explain. First of all, it's not all about wanting to "relieve" ourselves. If it was that simple then the human race would be extinct due to masturbation. The issue here is that women and men are mentally prompted into feeling "connected" to their mates in different ways. For women, having deep conversations and emotional interations with her mate creates that connected feeling, for men, physical acceptance and interaction creates the same feeling. So we have the same result but differing ways of achieving it based on our differing makeup. And remember ladies it comes down to an expression of desirability toward us that goes with it. So there may be some women reading this who are saying, but I give him sex whenever he wants it but he's still seeming to look elsewhere. The reason for this is that you are probably just "tolerating" him and allowing him to "relieve" himself with your assistance. What many women don't understand is that this is sometimes even worse than flat out rejecting us. And it is heavily damagine to our emotional stability. Receiving "pity sex" from your wife makes a man feel about 3 inches tall. So even in some cases when a man is receiving sex he may still look for a woman so genuinely seems to "want" him physically instead of looking at sex with him as another chore akin to laundry. The message here is that when my wife takes the time to come after ME for sex, that is ALL the appreciation I need and more, because that sends my brain a very important message, "Hey, i still think you're sexy, desirable, and top dog" And at that point this "top dog" is more than willing to learn all the tricks she wants me to learn. (Wink)