How To Keep Him From Cheating

I feel that some men create a distance/problem between his wife and family in order to justify his selfish, destructive behavior. I have seen it time and again where the wife repeatly makes attempts to draw their husband's closer in yet they pull ever further apart. I feel they intentionally refuse to see the full picture...life doesn't just revolve around "HIM!" And...there is something called...well...dah..his wife and children!!!

I think the article on "How to Keep Men From Cheating" was very well written - what I think at the end of the day is if you (he or she) have a hard time keeping commitments or if the single life is what you crave don't get married and definitely don???t bring kids into the mix. Cheating stems from selfishness and lack of desire to repair a relationship. Desires to cheat and putting yourself in situations you should not be in will lead to hurt and pain and regret.

This article speaks directly to the situation that I find myself in!! Ladies deep down, we know when something just isnt right. Once we acknowledge it, we need to do some investigation, as this article suggests I did. I recently checked phone numbers and text messages.on his cell .Guess what,! I found some suggestive conversations between my husband and a female. Long story short, he said it was nothing....he would end it...1 week later I found new texts between them, and just like the article states, "I don't see how a woman could entrust her vulnerability to that man again" Isn't that the truth!! I've decided to stop the madness, and just leave. By the way guys, if you are gonna send texts, learn to use the ERASE.

Just read Dr. Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: women have the power to change everything; we just need to stop using sex as a weapon against men (you don't clean, I don't have sex with you) but rather enjoy it as it is meant to be... and I agree with yippee1999, women don't need to have it all or do it all; this pressure to do everything and do it well, it's too much stress and that's what also kills relationships. We need to make time for each other and communicate. It's very interesting that in Neuman's study, he found that very few men cheat for sex but that the overwhelming reason is emotion disconnect. Men are not the beasts feminists have made them to be and we (women) need to be aware of that. We always complain that men don't share their emotions with us, that they don't talk enough but manyve we just don't listen well enough; they just have another way to communicate.

i do agree with men not cheating simply for sex but i guess alot of men tend to get comfortable with their surroundings (in the home or bedroom) and want to explore more so they tend to go out side and have affaires with dirty sluts with god alone knows the type of STD they may have.My suggestion to woman out there make him wait a little, tease him do alot of forplay and keep it interesting,converse with him always keep that door of communication open,so if he feels the need to cheat then show him the damn door your worth more and that way you don't have to wonder ,was it me.

When I found out my husband had cheated on me it was a total shock. Everyone always says there are signs, like the 3 mentioned above, my husband never showed any of those signs, in fact his behavior towards me never changed. Since we first started dating, he was always very attentive, called me at least twice a day or text just to tell me that he loved me, our sex life was great, he was away from home a lot but it was due to his job and his check prove that. When he was not at work he was always with me, hell all of my female friends always commented on how they wish their husbands/boyfriends could be like mine. I never saw it coming; to this day there are times when I think this didn't happen it was just a bad dream or something. The day I found out I asked him and of course he said that was not true, the simple fact that he didn't look me in the eyes let me know he had cheated. The day after I decided I would give him a second chance to confess, so I asked again, he denied it at first, but then broke down crying and admitted to cheating. My reaction was to ask questions like when did it happen? How did it happen? Why would you do something like this? Who is she?
I couldn't even let him talk when I got in the car and left home to pack, of course he followed gave me a shower of tears, his only response was that He was stupid and he didn't know why he did it, that when he walked out of the room the day it happened, he knew he didn't want to lose me. He begged and cried that he was sorry and he wouldn't ever do this again, that if I left he wouldn???t know what to do; I am the world to him?????? Deep inside I believe him, that he won't do this again, and that he loves me as much as he claims; but I don't think there's anyway that I could stay with him. I have spoken to a couple of women I know that have had their husbands cheat, and most of them stayed for their children, we don't have any, 2 of the others say they stayed because they truly believed their husband when he said he would not do it again and the positive things in the marriage out weighed the one bad moment. For the moment I have left him, taking him back has crossed my mind but I am not sure if all the great moments that we have had and possibly will keep having are worth it, after making me feel like a total idiot with what he did.

In your haste, some of you have failed to really see what Dr. Nueman was getting at. Most of you who respond with the "its ridiculous, how is it a woman's responsibility to keep a man from cheating", don't seem to realize a couple of key points. Im not sure what you were reading, but this is what I took from the article.
For those of you women who may want to get educated on the inner workings of a man, please read on as to what actions you yourself can take to prevent such an event from happening. Yes, it is true, both men and women cheat. As Dr. Nueman said, mostly due to technology, however I take it a step further. I believe that relationships all together are unrealistic. With everything that we are exposed to whether it be on the net, television, magazines, or whatever, its no wonder men and women cheat or crave sex with more than the person they chose to be involved with. Its no wonder our children are having sex at an earlier age year after year. Percentage of young single parents rising faster than our sea levels around the world. Lets face it, SEX sells!!...and its not just sex with one person. How many of us watch our drama shows and gasp and/or suggestively giggle as we secretly love the multiple sex partners our favorite characters get involved with?! As a matter of fact, let me ask some of you a question.....with the text messaging craze being what it is today, how many of you would feel comfortable/happy in a relationship with someone who buried their head in their cell phone texting, people other than you by the way, non-stop until their thumbs had bigger biceps than you? Lets get real... people get bored and in my opinion I feel that now days, the only place to find a successful, long lasting, caring, and selfless relationship, are in fairytales. I???ve come to this sad regretful truth based not on experience, but the numbers do not lie. Over half of marriages end, and not by death, but by boredom, unfaithfulness and the list could go on. Then out of the remaining marriages, who can count the ones who aren???t really happy. We are in the days of vows being on par with pinky promises and good faith. Its just something that comes along with the processing of a contract. A contract that states, if one is not satisfied then, no matter what, the poorer person is the reaper of the financial benefits. Its just not fair for some one person to have that kind of power/control because they aren???t loyal , committed and knowledgeable about what it takes to actually love someone for better or worse.
All this being said, it takes two special and self-less people to make something work. Keep in the mind the article did not say women are to blame, nor that it is solely on women to prevent. Just helpful information for the women that don't mind fighting for the "dummy" they chose to love.

What I took from this article and from watching Dr neuman on Oprah is that men are selfish. On the show there was a guest that said he cheated because where his wife was telling him "they didn't pay him enogh to be away from his family" his lover was telling him what a great person he was for working so hard and still being a good father and a husband. Who tells the wife what a wonderful person she is for having a fulltime job, cooking for the family, getting the kids ready for school, cleaning the house, paying the bills etc...Anyone can find someone to stroke their ego but when you are a real manyou will seek counseling, or walk not run to the arms of someone who has their own motives for telling you what you want to hear....

Cheated on my husband only after he cheated on me, with two different men within the same period. I enjoyed the hell out of it during that time. And to make this article crazier, one of the men were married. He actually gave me some insight to both sides (Being the other woman & Being the victim). He made special out of state trips to come and be with me. I believe his wife wasn't catering to him the way she obviously had to have done at some point in time. Communication BEFORE cheating takes place is a must, because who in their right mind could imagine themselves communicating calmly and collectively to a person to find out their needs and desires after they've just been F--k'd by someone else? The married men that I have had sex with didn't use condoms, performed oral sex on me, one even had anal sex with me, and we had plenty of sex. One of the married men knew that I was having unprotected sex with another man and still didn't use protection. I have had crabs, trichmonyasis, chlamydia, and herpes throughout my entire life. Thank God I haven't contracted something deadly. I am 29 years old and have been having sex since I was14 or 15. I thought the more sex a guy had with me the more he cared for me. Lesson learned the hard way. Now I know what a person means when they state that before you can love anyone else, "You have to LOVE yourself first."

This is ridiculous. How are you going to tell me that it's a woman's responsibility to keep a man from cheating? I don't understand why men cheat. They can be with the greatest woman in the world, but yet they are not satisfied. They want something else, so they cheat and then they come back to the ex after they have done the deed several times. How do they expect to be forgiven? Why do they come back? So from what I understood from reading this article is that a. men are idiots and they need to be treated like pets so that they can feel happy (give them a dog treat when they behave and they won't cheat on you), b. women know that men are idiots, but they have to pretend that they are the smarter sex so that they won't get intimidated, c. men don't have to do anything right to be appreciated (when a woman burns breakfast, she has to cook something else) d. men are the dumber sex and they hate to admit it. Face it you men are imbeciles if you expect to be forgiven after you have cheated. I'm not saying that women don't cheat, but give me a break, this article is like the instructions you get when you buy a doll. The title should be, "How to work your dummy". Batteries not included.

This is ridiculous. How are you going to tell me that it's a woman's responsibility to keep a man from cheating? I don't understand why men cheat. They can be with the greatest woman in the world, but yet they are not satisfied. They want something else, so they cheat and then they come back to the ex after they have done the deed several times. How do they expect to be forgiven? Why do they come back? So from what I understood from reading this article is that a. men are idiots and they need to be treated like pets so that they can feel happy (give them a dog treat when they behave and they won't cheat on you), b. women know that men are idiots, but they have to pretend that they are the smarter sex so that they won't get intimidated, c. men don't have to do anything right to be appreciated (when a woman burns breakfast, she has to cook something else) d. men are the dumber sex and they hate to admit it. Face it you men are imbeciles if you expect to be forgiven after you have cheated. I'm not saying that women don't cheat, but give me a break, this article is like the instructions you get when you buy a doll. The title should be, "How to work your dummy". Batteries not included.