How To Keep Him From Cheating

The real answer (how to keep your man from cheating):
1. Stop nagging.
2. Put your fork down. Get into the gym.
3. Dress hot.
4. Give him as much sex as he wants.

Follow these rules. You'll never have a problem.

This article really makes men sound like they are little puppy dogs who havent a clue and need constant reassurance that they brought the right stick back.

Clearly, there is a disconnect between expectations and realities. If women feel they aren't getting necessary "attention", we go have a beer or glass of wine with the girls. Come on men.....you want respect, earn it, like we all have to.

I am a 21 year old Female, married and have 2 beautiful girls! Ever since my Husband got this new job at another Tree Service Company. He's been coming home late alot. He will come home like around 8:30-9:00.
I never heard of a tree company working late like he does. That is very dangerous working in a tree at night. He's mom even questions herself about this! Before we got married and was just girlfriend and boyfriend, we use to have SEX almost everynight and sometimes in the morning before he left work. Now since we got married things have changed alot. We hardly have sex. I think it's because of the our new baby that we had in January if this year. Because ever since we had her, its been rough for us to even have sex. He always quetions me (How was it? Was it good enough for you?) Then he will down himself saying, I'm not that good! And I will tell him how great he was....because he is really great in bed! But How do I keep him from downing himself? I do everything for him? I'm just suspicious about him coming home late??? Do you think he is doing something behind my back??? He says he will never ever cheat on me, His mom even says that to me ( That he has always been faithful and never cheated on no one before so why would he start now?) I want to believe but why do I have this gut feeling??? I am just concerned!!! Thanks so much for listening to me....Annie Jo

I am going to write in here to give my 2 cents worth in this very interesting topic. I am married for 14 years and have cheated on my wife many times. I do it for the sex and fun in it. I find that the marrieage model is unrealistic for my tolerance or need for sex. Meaning that I do not agree that a monogomous relationship is either healthy or realistic for me. If you eat the same dish every day for a period of time one day you will decideto never eat that dish again. The same thing goes with sex with the same person for a lifetime, come on folks, no matter how much you like each other after the honeymoon is over there has to be something more. I agree there are mre things to life an marriage than sex but as long as I need it and as long as I can get it I will continue to venture out of my marriage for the variety that I crave and need.

Men are not victims.

Your MAN is not a MAN if he has to cheat. It really is that simple. Your MAN is a piece of $*@#&, just the kind of real quality person you want around if you became disabled or worse. I'm a husband and father of two, both now well into their major areas of study in college. I'll tell you the same thing I would tell my daughter. Men of character and conviction matter, men who can't find that wihin themselves are weak cowards and forever forfiet their right to be called a "Gentlemen".

While I agree with much of what has been said in the article, I also think that there's some missing and important considerations. If 48 percent say underappreciation is a cause, what does the MAJORITY say? Personally, I think that some men crave sexual variety in a way that monogamous relationships just can't satisfy over many years. I think it's our inability to separate love from sex and commitment from lack of commitment that may be problematic in this sense. There are many men that are committed and loving, but desire diversification of physical contact. This doesn't mean that the man is seeking a new soul mate. Most women would just call that attitude "pigishness", but it can be just a craving for variety. So while all the ultra-conservatives reading this can dismiss this as just another pig wanting sex, I think a more thoughtful exercise might be to consider whether it could ever be acceptable between two openly consenting and committed partners to allow for the idea of an extramarital encounter with another individual, as long as the intent is right and the pre-agreed bounds are maintained. They used to call this "taking a lover", and it was often open and consentual for both parties. The dirty secret now is that since we can't talk about how we really feel, cheating is done (and by definition, cheating is done in secret). If folks were just a bit more open and honest about how they feel about sex and their partners, we might wind up with a less arcane version of marriage. This could lead to a deeper appreciation and understanding of just how loving most men and women are towards their partners, even if they do have a physical encounter with another individual. The tragedy here is our collective inability to openly share thoughts that are common, but so taboo that they interfere with our honesty. Sex can often be just about sex, and doesn't necessarily need to be connected with emotional bonding. If we ever learned to be honest and open with each other, we'll make progress on this issue.

I am so sick of this headline I could vomit - get rid of it please . If a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat. Why make someone else feel they are in control - they are not.

i cheated on my wife while she was out of town with my assistant. she was very aggresive and it turned me on. i took the bait only to find myself in the act freaking out on how did i get here! you think you want it until you see this stranger and SNAP out of it! i told my wife when she came home. we spent about a week apart and i thought it was the end. but i could not live a lie. i could not hurt my friend. we i did hurt my bestfriend. and i made me fell so bad about myself. she forgives me but she will never forget. i could have said nothing but in the end i feel better for have being honest. a friend i told was a great help in me being forthright with my wife. so the point is share in cheating with someone you can trust enough to give you the real tough love and be honest with you about such actions. a few hours of sex for the loss of a lifetime is not worth it. my wife is out of town again this week and i have no plans but to hang with my kids and keep a clean house for her return. seg.