How To Keep Him From Cheating

I have to apologize for my attitude. I always knew what she wanted. Death takes a heavy toll.

If you have to check his cell phone records and emails to find out if he is cheating on you, then that is JUST pathetic, no offense. If you ever care to keep up a decent communication with him, it will not get to that point! The last thing you want to do when he's already not that interested in you is to invade his last little bit of privacy in the relationship.

If you have to check his cell phone records and emails to find out if he is cheating on you, then that is JUST pathetic, no offense. If you ever care to keep up a decent communication with him, it will not get to that point! The last thing you want to do when he's already not that interested in you is to invade his last little bit of privacy in the relationship.

i agree with that 100%

Get back to me when you want to know what women want.

"carinah @ 10/06/2008 7:15:49 PM" and this guy is just a pig who ruins it for the rest of us.

At least a dead wife.

I have learned enough that I can explain women

this is pure crap women cheat as well. i have put my all into mine and yet after 2 years of being together she cheats with the first guy she is alone with. that she knew for about an hour. not only that but in a city i have seen an advertisement on a billboard posted by women to women saying "lifes to short have an affair". and so far in every relationship i have seen i have helped several of my guy friends because their girl cheated on them. and only 1 of my girl friends because their guy cheated on them.

I meant that men don't get women... moron.

I'd say that last comment says it all...why should we as women stroke the ego of someone like that....what do we get out of it? To keep a cheater who isn't worth our time? To put the blame on cheating on women for not appreciatiing her husband is a crock of crap (insert the correct word)! Are men children? Unfortunately, I agree with him that most men seek outside the marriage and it is so much easier to do so now with the computer. I feel very sorry for DREAMWEAVERS wife.......hope she stumbles on this and finds out what a jerk she is married to. I personally divorced my cheater and now my ego is stroked by men who want to date me....but marry again....NEVER!!!

yea moron but men are not the only ones cheating. Women are as well. after more than 2 years my wife cheated on me. and not only that i have seen an advertisement billboard in a city saying to women. "lifes to short have an affair" and it was put up by women.

Men cheat because they don't get women or their life.

This is really stupid. Men cheat and so do women because they don't care.

I am going to write in here to give my 2 cents worth in this very interesting topic. I am married for 14 years and have cheated on my wife many times. I do it for the sex and fun in it. I find that the marrieage model is unrealistic for my tolerance or need for sex. Meaning that I do not agree that a monogomous relationship is either healthy or realistic for me. If you eat the same dish every day for a period of time one day you will decideto never eat that dish again. The same thing goes with sex with the same person for a lifetime, come on folks, no matter how much you like each other after the honeymoon is over there has to be something more. I agree there are mre things to life an marriage than sex but as long as I need it and as long as I can get it I will continue to venture out of my marriage for the variety that I crave and need.

Very good article. A lot of truth in it.

Very good article. Very true for me. Maybe not everybody. But gratitude and appreciation is what I live for. To bust your butt and not get any in return... is like hell. In a way, it's kind of childish I suppose.

Psychologically, my mother was a psychotic bitch who was never happy and I suspect in some ways I am still trying to please her. When you bust your butt for years, and never receive that approval, I look for another reason to bust my butt. For me, sex is important because it is immensely pleasurable. For me, it is the ultimate signal of appreciation. When the sex went away, and there was no other appreciation substitute, the relationship died. For me, its really that simple.

Good for you mjtag!! Making a decision to be a doormat for 16 years isn't much healthier than being dishonest though. That's what it takes to make a relationship work sometimes but your situation sounds incredibly one sided. Check your nuts.

I was married for 16 years and faithful for all 16. There are so many reasons WHY a person will cheat but there is truly only one decision point and that is the person who is going to cheat saying either "yes" or "no." Yes, being unappreciated is ONE of the many reasons one could blame for cheating but again, It boils down to the man (or woman) saying, "I'm going to cheat." There is no gun being held to their head and they fully understand the consequences of their action. They are not being forced!! A man can remain faithful if HE decides he will remain faithful, just as one would decide to decide to finish college, a project, remain a good and active parent, even after a divorce or making the decision to stay in shape, eat right and exercise on a regular basis. I didn't feel appreciated in my marriage, I like to cuddle, but she doesn't, we only had sex a few times a year (if that), wife didn't work (her decision), I cooked, cleaned, did EVERYTHING with my 2 sons and in the midst of all that, wrote a book, got a masters degree, but still found time to massage my wife, provide thoughtful gifts and stayed motivated, so I had MANY, MANY reasons to cheat but "I" decided I wouldn't cheat and guess what? I didn't!

On another note, a woman can show all the appreciation in the world to a man, but if he has decided to sleep with another woman then, that is what he will do. I've watched my relatives and dear friends do exactly that even with a very appreciative spouse. One friend's wife complained to me that her husband didn't like to have sex with her. My friend complained to me that his wife wanted to have sex too much!!! Guess what? He cheated on her. Why, because he had made a decision that he was going to cheat; it's that simple.

I will say this though. My faithfulness didn't get me more respect during my marriage or a discount on my divorce. In my opinion a man's faithfulness (in most cases) looks different than a woman's faithfulness. We don't cheat; that's a man's faithfulness. If, as a man, I begin to have faith that my wife never wants to have sex with me or doesn't want my love then, I can honestly say I will not be faithful again. Faithfulness is a two way street...PERIOD! (this again is my opinion from my experience).

Bottom line: Each and every man decides, in his own mind, whether he will be faithful to his spouse regardless of his circumstance. Once the decision is made, one way or another, that is what will come true.