SEXUALITY

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The author of a new book on the biology of human sexuality on what makes for good couple chemistry and why we should pay attention to our instincts (and our noses) when searching for a mate or a date.

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  • Posted By: MegaDeath @ 10/20/2008 9:31:20 PM

    I am voting for Obama because of his medical plan. He knows how to cut medical cost and not cover people of poverty. Obama sees himself as being perfect and above others. He could go pro-life but then go after the new borns or all of the people who are not perfect or pure as he. Obama would order those not perfect to be impaled, tortured, slow amputations to show everyone that this is the begining of the new order of the nation, and that it will be done by his laws. Yes, Obama has my vote for his veiws on how to cut medical costs.

  • Posted By: Pepi @ 10/13/2008 7:01:13 AM

    I think that the smell "theory" has some basis. I had a girlfriend for about a year. We were having a ball 365 all year round( almost). Until her mum (Who did not like the idea of Me as her son-in-law) She knew I was balling her daughter. So one day when I called at her home, there was her mum waiting for me with a cup of tea(my favourite drink) She insisted that I drink it all up. I did in good faith. My girlfriend would find me smelly. I lost her.










    ffffffoundwouldwewwwww..aawould
    would tell me about the way I smell

  • Posted By: lavenderheaven @ 10/12/2008 3:15:23 PM

    the hair comments.... you are born with thick hair(or any other hair type for that matter) depending on your DNA or your genes.and that's pretty much it.
    it does not take years to grow thick healthy hair! a myth.
    unless illness occurs to change your hair
    or you are a male with have the male pattern balding gene , (your male family members share this DNA) a common inheritence.

  • Posted By: houston politico @ 10/02/2008 4:57:52 PM

    Article supports claims about the Jacobson's Organ and the imporance of pheromones in human attraction. Surprised it is not referenced in this article.

  • Posted By: mmpoyo @ 10/02/2008 3:19:18 PM

    This is rediculous. beuty lies in the eyes of the beholder. God created each person uniue and I think it's stereotypical to claim a person from a certain region likes women who appear a cerain way. If God is our creator, this I believe, who instructs us to remain faithful to our wives then why would he create us in such a way that will cause us to cheat on our wives ? This is just justifying and all the more reason why men might even want to cheat. Needless to say women do cheat as well.

  • Posted By: HAL--- @ 10/02/2008 1:37:02 AM

    Has anyone stated the obvious yet? The men that cheat do so because they are "horny" and have flexible moral boundaries. Same goes for the women that cheat. sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, folks.
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  • Posted By: texmer @ 09/30/2008 11:18:38 AM

    As a woman I am curious to know how many of us have this gene or one similar and what the implications are?

    • Posted By: thomasdj @ 09/30/2008 8:33:03 PM

      I honestly don't believe it's about genetics at all. It's about sociology. Women are in the workforce, in positions of power, earning comparable salaries. The dynamics are different. There is increasingly equal opportunity, and where there is opportunity, there are people -- male and female -- who will succumb and rationalize this most disgraceful and disloyal of all behaviors. Women are no longer economically dependent on men, which is a good thing, but it's playing out in many arenas, from cheating to heart disease. I think the one factor that might keep women from completely catching up with men is young children.

  • Posted By: Roameo @ 09/30/2008 5:54:57 PM

    I can't believe this superficial, biological reductionism is passing as science. Good grief.

  • Posted By: texmer @ 09/30/2008 11:17:22 AM

    As a woman I wonder how many of us have this gene as well and what are the implications?

  • Posted By: thomasdj @ 09/30/2008 7:02:00 AM

    Why the bias against males with respect to cheating? It is increasingly understood that women are catching up with, and are now relatively close to, men in the rate at which they cheat. Please. Start dealing in fact and stop contributing, however unwittingly, to male bashing.

  • Posted By: bripley@cox.net @ 09/29/2008 3:58:07 PM

    All other tthings being equal (like THAT could ever happen!), I tend to prefer blondes. But I'm no gentleman.

  • Posted By: helipilot @ 09/29/2008 3:49:30 PM

    Guys preferring blondes is a stereotype that modern western culture and society force-feeds the masses through the media and such by flaunting some 'ideal' blueprint for beauty which is very unfortunate. It's true that many guys do go after blondes, but I'm curious how many are actually putting up a front of preferring blondes merely because that's the 'cool' or popular thing to do. Also, while hair definitely is a part of the physical features, it is very close-minded and immature to use hair as the main criteria for choosing a date or mate. Beauty is in the entire 'package' - there are many people who do not fit the Hollywood cookie-cutter notion of a beautiful person, but are delightfully beautiful in their own right due to a powerful unique personality and the way they carry themselves and highlight their assets. An average looking women with an amazing personality will always be infinitely more beautiful in my mind than a Hollywood blueprint copy of a 'hot' woman who has an awful self-centered or vain personality. There's so much more than hair color at play when it comes to what makes up a person, although it is true that a lot of guys have an initial preference for certain attributes such as hair color when seeking a date or female companionship. Just don't think it's always blonde. Personally, I find raven brunettes and dark eyes absolutely irresistible - several times over that of their blonde counterparts. Also, one of my biggest pet peeves is Brunettes who die their hair blonde, trying to fit into that stupid Hollywood blueprint. If only they could realize just how gorgeous their natural dark hair really is to some of us guys. Regardless of your hair color though, stop all this madness with dying hair and plastic surgery and trying to be someone else. Be proud of what you are and flaunt your natural beauty. Eventually, someone will genuinely appreciate you for who you really are. If you have to change who you are physically or emotionally to have a guy like you, then he's not worth a second of your time anyways. Find someone who likes you for you, be it brunette, blonde, red, short tall etc.

  • Posted By: helipilot @ 09/29/2008 3:48:57 PM

    Guys preferring blondes is a stereotype that modern western culture and society force-feeds the masses through the media and such by flaunting some 'ideal' blueprint for beauty which is very unfortunate. It's true that many guys do go after blondes, but I'm curious how many are actually putting up a front of preferring blondes merely because that's the 'cool' or popular thing to do. Also, while hair definitely is a part of the physical features, it is very close-minded and immature to use hair as the main criteria for choosing a date or mate. Beauty is in the entire 'package' - there are many people who do not fit the Hollywood cookie-cutter notion of a beautiful person, but are delightfully beautiful in their own right due to a powerful unique personality and the way they carry themselves and highlight their assets. An average looking women with an amazing personality will always be infinitely more beautiful in my mind than a Hollywood blueprint copy of a 'hot' woman who has an awful self-centered or vain personality. There's so much more than hair color at play when it comes to what makes up a person, although it is true that a lot of guys have an initial preference for certain attributes such as hair color when seeking a date or female companionship. Just don't think it's always blonde. Personally, I find raven brunettes and dark eyes absolutely irresistible - several times over that of their blonde counterparts. Also, one of my biggest pet peeves is Brunettes who die their hair blonde, trying to fit into that stupid Hollywood blueprint. If only they could realize just how gorgeous their natural dark hair really is to some of us guys. Regardless of your hair color though, stop all this madness with dying hair and plastic surgery and trying to be someone else. Be proud of what you are and flaunt your natural beauty. Eventually, someone will genuinely appreciate you for who you really are. If you have to change who you are physically or emotionally to have a guy like you, then he's not worth a second of your time anyways. Find someone who likes you for you, be it brunette, blonde, red, short tall etc.

  • Posted By: Leafgreen1 @ 09/29/2008 2:32:44 PM

    From the article:
    "So does that mean we'll some day have a test to see which man is predisposed to cheating?
    Actually, I have an informal poll on my blog for women only, that asks would you want him tested? And about two thirds said yes, they'd test them.
    Then maybe cheaters would have a hard time getting girlfriends.
    [laughs] It could change our whole society. Women would only breed with the monogamous guys."

    Uh, no idiot, women would sleep with this sexually exciting playboy-typeand marry the safe, provider type, and then possibly cheat on him for the playboy type.

  • Posted By: HAL--- @ 09/29/2008 2:09:29 PM

    The only smell that turns me off is the smell of poor personal hygiene...especially in women.
    BTW, why is there a lesbian pic for this article when the article talkas about heterosexuals?

  • Posted By: tonytrotter @ 09/29/2008 1:59:13 PM

    Personally, speaking as a man, I like the extremes. Very dark hair, very blonde hair, and very red hair. So I guess I am looking at those that "stand out". I must also agree that smell is VERY important and I have noted that some women do indeed just smell better to me - some absolutely unresistable.

  • Posted By: white trash @ 09/29/2008 1:21:24 PM

    Of course, men prefer blondes. This represents this nation's facist view on beauty, blondes, blue eyes and fair skin. Though my maiden last name is Anglo, and my entire family tree is synonymous with the Royal family's, I had the misfortune of having an olive complexion, brown eyes and dark hair, and my mom gave me a Mexican Christian first name because she thought it beautiful.

    I was teased unmercilfully as a Mexican though there were more blue-eyed blondes on both sides of my family. Our worldview on beauty reflects a facist racism. Of course, most American blondes' beauty is bought from a bottle of hair dye, so, for a few bucks, anybody can be a blonde, and precisely, why, most models and celebs hit the bottle. Blondes must have more fun cause it's not much fun being laughed at and called a Mexican when you are six years old.

    • Posted By: angelosdaughter @ 09/29/2008 1:57:24 PM

      I am of Italian-Portuguese-Spanish ancestry with olive skin and dark eyes and hair. Our father, the Italian, was fair (ruddy) complexioned with light brown eyes and chesnut hair. My sister has his fair skin as well as eye and hair color. I got called Indian in grade school. A particular kid got a real kick out of dancing around me making war whoops. Our great-grandmother on our mother's side was blonde haired and blue eyed. Her heritage was Spanish. Our olive-skinned dark haired and eyed mother had to bear the same teasing I did in school. She came home crying and told her Grandma about it. Our great-grandmother replied that she should tell her tormentors "The paper is white and I wipe my a__ with it."
      I went to parochial school, so I would never had said that, but there were sure times I thought it. My grandmother was also sensitive about her dark skin and told me to use bleach cream to lighten mine. By that time, I had begun to be proud of my complexion which never sunburned. I had also noticed that other young ladies lay in the sun for hours to acquire a tan. I asked Grandma why I should feel ashamed of my coloring when so many people have to work so hard to get it and refused to try to lighten my skin color. Today I have grandchildren with all different colors of skin. They are all beautiful.

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