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  • Posted By: TomOfMaine @ 11/22/2008 9:32:03 AM

    Jim, you are absolutely wrong about the Brazil rainforest being destroyed by vegan soy demands. Every bit of the soy grown in Brazil and 90% of all soy grown in the US goes directly toward supplying the meat and dairy industry with animal feed. If you truly care about the environmental damage done by soy production you definitely want to encourage folks to move away from consuming animal products and more toward plant foods. Far, far less acreage is required to feed humans when a plant based diet is chosen.

  • Posted By: LT45 @ 11/21/2008 11:07:56 PM

    Let's see - Love for a family member -OR- tradition. If I wasn't a vegetarian, and had a veg*n family member that I loved, I would look up some veg*n recipes on the internet and make those. My family has done it for me. If your family loves tradition more than you, you should spend the holiday elsewhere, like with the local veg society. I think they'll get the hint.

  • Posted By: Jan in AZ @ 11/21/2008 7:43:48 PM

    Many people, when they find out I am a vegetarian, ask me "What DO you DO for Thanksgiving?!?" My answer? "Be grateful."
    I spent last Thanksgiving in the hospital after nearly dying the month before. I will be so pleased to be able to look into the faces of those I love, as we sit around together, enjoying each other, I would be happy with a glass of water.

  • Posted By: Sarah-H @ 11/20/2008 11:54:06 PM

    Ah! that ignorance and myth about about B12 and so on. B12 stays in your body for years. And animals gets it from bacterai too. The source of B12 is bacteria. Educate yourself a little bit.
    besides, Billions of animals have to die and suffer becuase is hard for you to take a simple freakin supplement? What an utterally selfish and self-centred specisim world view! I
    Besides all athat, how many vegetarains died by B12 deficiency?? All majoy causes of death are related to unhealthy diet full of Saturated fat/trans fatty acids=only found in animals products.

    • Posted By: mauigirl76 @ 11/21/2008 12:03:36 AM

      Please educate yourself on B12 before you make a fool of yourself.

      • Posted By: bobby101 @ 11/21/2008 12:23:09 AM

        actually those fats also come from processed corn. so are you counting corn as an "animal product?"

        • Posted By: Sarah-H @ 11/21/2008 12:34:53 AM

          Enter Your CommentProve it! oh let me guess?
          You can't. right?

          • Posted By: bobby101 @ 11/21/2008 5:41:16 PM

            http://www.vanderbilt.edu/AnS/psychology/health_psychology/Transfat.htm#How did the process of trans fat come about? found that in about .3 seconds with a simple google search but there is alot more out there. and its pretty common knowledge that trans fats come from vegetable products

      • Posted By: Sarah-H @ 11/21/2008 12:34:05 AM

        and why is it that you can't refute anything I have said? Huh?

  • Posted By: mariet @ 11/21/2008 3:48:00 PM

    I've been a vegetarian for 40 years and Thanksgiving has never been a problem for me even though I am the only one in the family. It's pretty much live and let live at the dinner table. What can be a problem is food allergies. Everyone in my immediate family is allergic to or intolerant of some major food group like dairy, citrus, nuts, etc. Plus my children have GI and endocrine disorders and require special diets. Now that's a fun bunch to cook for! Count your blessings this Thanksgiving if you have good health and money in your pocket to buy food. Save the squabbling about the vegetarian issue for another day.

  • Posted By: toadaria @ 11/21/2008 12:41:18 AM

    Horses are animals that sometimes can have canine teeth yet are herbivores (Stallions and geldings have four additional teeth just behind the incisors). Humans have the residual canines from our evolution, but they do not function in the same way as our ancestors- try to rip an uncooked piece of meat. Humans dislike uncooked unseasoned meat because we are no longer naturally predisposed to eat it.

    • Posted By: nicarino071941 @ 11/21/2008 1:47:17 AM

      Comment: I don't see anyone defending plant life. After all, they are alive too - same DNA, different codes. Is anyone aware that experiments have been done on plants that show emanations that arise from plants that have been wired to detect them, show emotions such as fear, fainting, screaming, etc.? In this case is there any difference in hacking off a leg of lamb or an ear of corn from its stalk? As for health concerns, I've been eating a diet of meat and related products all my life and am now almost 70 and in good health. I eat about a pound of butter a week, enjoy spare ribs, veal cutlet, snack on pig's feet (nothing as succulent as a juicy piece of pig skin with its deep layer of fat after its been boiled for a few hours. I think the argument here is more about who is squeamish and who is not. Remember EVERYTHING on the Thanksgiving table are living things that are now dead.

      • Posted By: vegandude @ 11/21/2008 3:39:48 PM

        All living things need to consume life in order to live. It's just a matter of living lightly. The animals you eat also consumed plants (and other living things like bugs#, so by not eating the animal you are saving its life and all of the plants/bugs that it ate #which, due to natural inefficiences, would be a lot more than if you just ate those plants (and hopefully not the bugs!) directly.

      • Posted By: chandresakhar14 @ 11/21/2008 2:05:27 AM

        I would love to see where you got this information about screaming plants, as I am positive that such claims are false and/or highly inconclusive. Plants may be aware of their surroundings, but that doesn't mean they have the ability to feel emotions.

        • Posted By: nicarino071941 @ 11/21/2008 2:40:49 AM

          The studies on plant awareness were done in the early 1970's . By wiring the plants the scientists were able to record readings such as on an encephalogram which then were observed for changes after various stimuli were applied. For example, live shrimp were plunged into boiling water in an adjacent room of the lab and their suffering were picked up by the plants which responded with intense and chaotic
          signals interpreted as screams or intense fear followed by an almost flatline appearance of the signals (fainting?) I'm well studied in Biology and I was Impressed, though of course there is no way of telling
          exactly what the plant "feels". My point was simply why say only killing of animals is cruel - who knows
          what the trees "feel" as we chop our forests down.

          • Posted By: chandresakhar14 @ 11/21/2008 12:19:51 PM

            Well I did some research, and the results that Backster proclaimed were very interesting. However you failed to mention that not only this research was done at an unaccredited graduate school, but also in 1975 Horowitz, Lewis, and Gasteiger repeated the investigation more assiduously, and found that while this experiment did show a few positive correlations, they did not occur at a rate great enough to be considered statistically viable. However, I did find Backsters results to be somewhat convincing, so I will keep an open mind to the subject.

            I am not trying to look like an arrogant ass here, but understand that I am just defending animals rights, and vegetarianism, something that I could potentially devote my entire life to.

  • Posted By: laubot @ 11/21/2008 2:55:10 PM

    All spelling aside, this article reminds me so much of not only Thanksgiving, but virtually every meal I've had outside of my immediate family for the last eight years. Who'd have thought that omitting meat from your diet would cause so much distress? Interesting point about the traditions and smells, though.. but still. The best part is being offered plate after plate of all kinds of fun meaty things and being told to just "pick it out" or "eat around it."

  • Posted By: laubot @ 11/21/2008 2:50:30 PM

    Ahhhh, how difficult can it be to choose the correct "they're" "their" "there" ?

  • Posted By: unclelar @ 11/20/2008 8:34:10 PM

    vegetarians, eat your celery, I'll always have turkey and extra rare beef.

    larry

    • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 1:10:10 PM

      have you ever seen someone die? the slow devolution of a family member from cancer maybe? been the victim of or witnessed violent crime? been very, very sick, in the emergency room? i know you're challenged, but try to exert your memory and imagination to raise up within yourself empathy for the suffering of feeling creatures who do not know why they are being tortured by what, to their perception, must be monsters, like we call members of our own species monsters when they are sociopathic and violent, when they defy our comprehension, disrupt our inner life, and cause us grave pain in the worst possible ways.

  • Posted By: american voice @ 11/21/2008 1:05:14 PM

    This Thanksgiving, it will be 41 years since I became a vegetarian. Now mind you, I came from the typical mid-western family. As was the family tradition, I even hunted and fished prior to my decision. But I came to the conclusion, due to my affection for animals, that if I was not the one who had killed what was on my dinner plate then I would not eat meat. This led of course to serious protest from my parents. I have never regretted this decision. The vast majority of people do not slaughter their own turkey, cow or pig. If they did, they might reconsider becoming a vegetarian.

  • Posted By: TomOfMaine @ 11/21/2008 12:57:33 PM

    My wife and i, as well as our 7 month old son are all vegan now. We've been vegetarian for about 15 years and transitioned to being "as vegan as possible" about 6 years ago. It can sometimes be difficult to do anything with total purity, but we just try to live the motto "as little intentional harm as possible". 4 of my close friends are vegan and 14 of their children are veg/vegan, 3 of my coworkers are vegan and 4 others are either veg or borderline veg. Many of us get together on Thannksgiving and enjoy wonderful, non-violent feasts. This year is going to be better than ever, with a huge diversity of compassionate foods being brought by all.

  • Posted By: chandresakhar14 @ 11/21/2008 12:26:47 AM

    You meat eaters can try as hard as you want to justify your diet, act like you don't care, or try to make fun of us vegetarians. But it is obvious that you are just trying to defend yourself, because deep down you know it is wrong, and you just don't want to admit to being unethical.

    Honestly, how can any of you even start to argue with the beliefs of Albert Einstein or any of the others that I listed earlier. By no means am I saying that I am even close to such brilliant and revolutioinary minds, but the evidence is IRREFUTABLE. I do not think that any reasonable, atleast somewhat intelligent person could look at all of the facts, and admit that eating meat is a sound practice, morally, environmentally or health wise.

    I did not want to make this an argument, but please stop trying to justify something that CANNOT be justified. Do the research yourself, and try to have an open, rational mind.

    • Posted By: time2getOffHighHorse @ 11/21/2008 1:02:14 AM

      I actually know that eating meat is not very sound. But I like to taste. I gave up making rational decisions about what WHAT I eat simply because I didn't want to be associated with those that are snooty, arrogant, and condescending, which vegetarians LIKE YOU are. Obviously, not all vegetarians aren't snooty or arrogant, just like not all "meat eaters" rag on vegetarians.

      Part of having an open, rational mind is not only learning about other's beliefs or preferences, but also accepting them, tolerating them, and LIVING with them. The people in the article didn't have a family that was tolerant or even accommodating to their vegetarian needs, and not because they were vegetarian, it's because of the social stigma that people receive for breaking family tradition. If your family or friends were making fun of you for being vegetarian, then they are intolerant of your eating habits because it is different. You defend yourself from those who are intolerant, but stooping down to their level makes you no better than them.

      Also, Adolf Hitler was a vegetarian. Attribution error is something you don't want to use in your argument. But to be fair, Adolf Hitler was a genius himself, although not the type we would traditionally honor him for.

      • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 12:22:03 PM

        I am reading a memoir by a liberal German of that period, not an anti-Semite, who believed Hitler was indeed exemplary- he fascinated for being so reckless with the expression of his blunt, lowly, sadistic nature. His arch despicability held people's attention. Any extreme rivets attention and plays upon elemental human emotions.

      • Posted By: chandresakhar14 @ 11/21/2008 1:58:30 AM

        Okay, so your only argument is that you don't want to be associated with "snooty" people and that you like the taste. That is definitely worth over 9 billion animals dying every year...

        And although, in your opinion, I may seem to be intolerant and arrogant, If you knew me, I guarantee you would not hold that same opinion.

        I did not know that about Adolf Hitler, but you just proved my point in stating that he was a genius himself.

        Finally, I would just like to add, for someone with the title of "time2getoffhighhorse" you seem to be on that horse yourself. You claim to be rational and having an open mind, yet you will not admit the undeniable evidence which proves vegetarianism to be superior in every aspect. A rational person in your shoes would admit that you just don't care enough to change, instead of trying to justify the slaughter of living, feeling creatures, merely for your taste. So maybe you should re-evaluate your own outlook on things.

        • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 12:12:57 PM

          you are right chandresakhar14. i know and the emotionally intelligent know that you are not snooty, but abundantly decent and fair-minded, and that you feel the need to put such a one in his or her place because they are not engaging with you or the issues properly and they are blind to something self-evident to you. yes, it is baffling.

      • Posted By: chandresakhar14 @ 11/21/2008 1:57:50 AM

        Okay, so your only argument is that you don't want to be associated with "snooty" people and that you like the taste. That is definitely worth over 9 billion animals dying every year...

        And although, in your opinion, I may seem to be intolerant and arrogant, If you knew me, I guarantee you would not hold that same opinion.

        I did not know that about Adolf Hitler, but you just proved my point in stating that he was a genius himself.

        Finally, I would just like to add, for someone with the title of "time2getoffhighhorse" you seem to be on that horse yourself. You claim to be rational and having an open mind, yet you will not admit the undeniable evidence which proves vegetarianism to be superior in every aspect. A rational person in your shoes would admit that you just don't care enough to change, instead of trying to justify the slaughter of living, feeling creatures, merely for your taste. So maybe you should re-evaluate your own outlook on things.

    • Posted By: Sarah-H @ 11/21/2008 12:29:42 AM

      you rock!

      • Posted By: mauigirl76 @ 11/21/2008 1:13:10 AM

        Google vitamin B12 and read about the human bodys use. We all need it and veggies just dont get it ! that is why you must have suppliments. If you choose to be that way, then thats great, however if there is a meat eater in your family at Thanksgiving then be considerate and have something for them to eat.. I have been in a family out veggies for 22 years and when we go over there it is all I can do to keep from gagging on the foods that they eat. They serve a soy loaf and tofurkey and so on. Out of respect I keep my mouth shut there. Then after the discusting meal is over and its is so healthy, then the whip out the ice dream and pies and cookies and candies and so on. If you were so concerned about your health you wouldnt be pumping all that sugar in your system. After you google B12 then google sugar and the effects on the body.

        PORTERHOUSE

  • Posted By: cleoj @ 11/21/2008 12:18:24 PM

    I didn't know being a vegetarian was still such a big deal. I couldn't care less if someone wanted to bring a tofu dish to my Thanksgiving dinner because they were vegetarian. That's just one less dish I have to make. if I went to a vegetarian household for a meal, I would just eat whatever I can and not make a big deal of it. In fact, the other day I had dinner with my husband's family. I don't particularly care for a lot of seafood, which is what their dinner mainly consisted of. I just ate what I did like and considered my light meal good for my diet!

  • Posted By: Thanksfornothing @ 11/21/2008 12:32:36 AM

    So if you are a meat eater and you are pissed off about vegitarians "pushing" their views on you....why would bother to not only read this article but also leave rude comments and then get mad that vegitarians comment back to defend themselves? I liked this article, it made feel like I wasn't alone going into my first Thanksgiving as a vegitarian. Then I read some mean comments and it really just f**ked it all up for me....SWEEEEEET!!!

    • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 12:03:29 PM

      they have an abundance of negative affect (not motivated by a harangued commitment to truth and ethics). they demean activists, maybe they shove broomsticks into animals too.

  • Posted By: RedBee @ 11/21/2008 12:45:11 AM

    you're not alone thanks for nothing, and I'm not trying to rip on all vegetarians - or vegans - I hope you've seen that in my posts. I do like to rip in a breed of people I call "thin skinned idiots" and I also like to rip on people who proclaim to be open minded and then proceed to show just how intolerant they really are.

    As for the lady with the chickens... I've never butchered a chicken, but getting close to those stinky little monsters at my friend's home is enough to turn me off to chicken for a couple of days at a time.

    I've found as I get older, I'm getting less and less interested in meat. Chicken and pork are losing favor with me... I don't know, however, if I could ever turn away from beef and lamb.... sigh... who knows.

    • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 11:48:13 AM

      a calf or lamb/cow or sheep knows when it is in kind or callous hands. so you have picked your side on this earth...
      no tolerance for those who overlook the torture of sentient beings lacking malice... no no
      and i think the thin-skinned are always responsible for the progress of justice. they are outside of the "herd." if nobody ever cared about being called the "n" word (cannot be said although female derogations are rampant and similarly used in contexts of violence), if they were thick-skinned about it, we would not be better off now.
      for me, for little me, your last line is like a rapist saying, i'm tired of asian chicks now, so therefore i'll stop having my way with them... misses the point.

  • Posted By: gingerlks1 @ 11/21/2008 11:21:32 AM

    In the future, people will look back in horror & disgust at these dark days where humans actually ate the cut up insides of dead animals & drank their body fluids.
    There are just some things civilized people don't put in their mouths.

  • Posted By: randjtry @ 11/20/2008 5:59:39 PM

    As you are stuffing your faces this Thanksgiving do you realize the torture these animals receive their short traumatic lives? I don't see how anyone with a half a heart can do so. These animals are tortured by their owner/handlers daily by them, including raping the females! The men enjoy the sexual gratification from this act. They are also prodded in their vaginal and anal areas. The animals are also tossed on the floors, stomped, and left to die. I've been a vegetarian for 18 years, since I was 13. The issue with some of us is the treatment received prior to killing them. If the standards were held high and offenders held accountable for their actions would be another thing. But as you are well aware this does not happen. We can't even assist all of the pets who continue to be abused and killed by your next door neighbor and I don't think for a minute those of you if able would allow that. It's not all black and white people. EVERYTHING on this planet should be treated with care and compassion for it's entire life. Even if the animal is considered a food source.

    • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 10:37:48 AM

      of course you're right, how sad and absurd it has to be said a billion times before a little something is done. what a purgatory.

    • Posted By: Aingelica @ 11/20/2008 6:03:13 PM

      I agree 100%.

  • Posted By: time2getOffHighHorse @ 11/20/2008 11:54:41 PM

    Seriously, every vegetarian who is on their high horse, including time2evolve, Sarah-H, and chandresakher14, needs to step down RIGHT NOW.

    Unless you guys are PETA members, and in that case it's pretty much a lost cause to argue since most members are hell-bent in pushing their own agendas while using misrepresented statistics.

    Realize that this is a holiday for families to come together to give thanks. Having turkey is a tradition, yes, but it doesn't mean it HAS to be YOUR tradition. Suck up your gut, try being TOLERANT of others that are DIFFERENT than you (and even who you once WERE), and move on. It's surprising, but life will be much easier for everyone if we just fought for the things that do need change (cleaner fuels) and stop bickering about the things that will not matter in the end (like pushing your culinary preference on others).

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone, vegetarian, meat eater, omnivore, whoever, even PETA members.

    • Posted By: mauigirl76 @ 11/21/2008 12:11:56 AM

      Hey I am with you brother. P E T A Isn't that PEOPLE EATING TASTY ANIMALS. Just what I am doing on thankgiving day!!!

      • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 10:16:22 AM

        eh, cretin.

      • Posted By: nln548 @ 11/21/2008 12:17:55 AM

        People Eating Tasty Animals ... Wow, how original.

      • Posted By: time2getOffHighHorse @ 11/21/2008 12:17:20 AM

        Your comment makes absolutely no sense, and the only thing I can discern about it is that you read the words PETA and thought "hey, I have something to say about it" without even reading my comment.

        Thanks.

  • Posted By: osity @ 11/20/2008 7:59:57 PM

    Voracious meat eaters will always defend eating meat. Sure, It's no skin of their backs. Showing dominance and disregard for the well being of others is common place in this world This is obvious by just looking around at us as a society and what we do in times of war. Perhaps some of you should invest 2 hours of your busy lives to watch EARTHLINGS the documentary from beginning to end. It can be rented or watched free on youtube. Then if you still want to eat meat then perhaps that is who you are. Eating meat is not what i am. Pretending to be thankful while sitting at a table with a murdered centerpiece is very ironic. If you really set aside mindless tradition and look at it for what it is it becomes much clearer. If eating meat if not for you I ecourage you to join the forum at rethinkhumanity . com. Love and happiness. Cheers.

    • Posted By: mauigirl76 @ 11/20/2008 8:03:34 PM

      I believe you would not be here if your distant ancestors abstained from meat. MEAT- FOOD -SURVIVAL. Thank goodness the Ice agers were't veggies.

      • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/20/2008 9:27:03 PM

        have some respect for the suffering of other feeling creatures; we can be moral because we have options; if you're in a plane that goes down and someone sinks their teeth into you, we know you won't be bitter based on your comment, but if they cut into you when they can opt for pasta you'd be mad, huh? be relevant. you want to be grateful? be grateful you're not stuck in a cage on a factory farm without enough room to scratch yourself or turn around for the entirety of your life.

        • Posted By: mauigirl76 @ 11/20/2008 11:45:24 PM

          WHY WHY WHY are all, I mean all vegetarians low and have inadequate level of vitamin B12. Its been proven over and over that you need animal protein to provide B12 levels. If a diet is so wonderfull why would you have to supplement it with man made nutrients. Sorry to inform you dude we are more important than the Animals. There is a food chain and you and I are at the top of it.

          • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 10:12:19 AM

            an animal can be more self-aware, relational, more aware of its environment, more intelligent than some people- like retarded infants or the senile. so sometimes a human is not superior to an animal; but you would not knife the person with a damaged brain for no good reason, right? their suffering counts. and for the sanctity of the unfortunate human vegetable over the clever four-legged creature? hmmm.

          • Posted By: lupe1111 @ 11/21/2008 9:54:24 AM

            v-i-t-a-m-i-n-s.

  • Posted By: worldpeaceincludesanimals @ 11/21/2008 2:24:22 AM

    My daughter and I are vegetarians, my husband is a flexitarian, that is to say that he enjoys family vegetarian meals in our home and meat with his meals when eating out. I have a couple of issues to comment on. First, I would ask vegans/vegetarians to be patient when fielding ?'s from meat-eaters. I think most of us know the difference when someone is truly trying to offend or someone is asking ignorant ?'s because of lack of knowledge and/or curiousity. I say this because for 2 years, I was the ignorant/curious asker of my nephew's girlfriend, constantly asking her how, what, where and why she was a vegetarian, I now endure those same interrogrations. I take most of those ?'s as compliments because they care enough to know about me and my choices. Second, there is SOOO many reason for vegetarianism. Moral convictions, environment concerns, don't like the taste, meat makes you sick, etc... please don't assume to know why and please don't assume that we (vegetarians) are all radical. I would never consider bombing Lindsey Lohan with flour sacks for wearing fur and do not condone that type of behavior. I don't codone wearing fur or leather either. The way I see it we moral/ethical vegetarians are suppose to be a non-violent group, right? Thirdly, there are several reasons why there are meat imposters. Some like the taste of meat but cannot eat it for health reason, or won't for moral reasons. For me, oddly, I don't like the taste of meat, never have, but relied heavily on meat substitutes because I needed to get out of the 'all meals need meat, potato,dessert, etc'.., pattern that I was stuck in from my up-bringing.
    ? to those that would reply, how can I get my daughter's teacher to respect and give the grade she deserves for science class after her refusal to participate in the frog/cow eye/animal liver dissections?

    • Posted By: shigahdeebah @ 11/21/2008 2:41:02 AM

      I am not sure if the meat eaters comment was against me or not but I am completely serious in my question towards skin, seed and fiber free vegetarian food that could be added safely to my diet my knowledge of protien hi vegetables that dont lose there health benefits after serious cooking is limited. and my diet is very strict.

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