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  • Posted By: AmusicDevil @ 02/04/2009 1:58:54 PM

    I was anorexic for 4 years ....and in reading some of the comments people have written, it hurts to know what people think of the people that are. In my case being anorexic was not a choice. It was something that just happened whether I liked it or not. I was depressed and I didnt even realize i was doing it until I couldnt get out of it. Just because I was doesnt mean im a different person though. It doesnt mean that im messed up in the head like most of you put off on here. You guys think you are helping those that are or were and its like your dead wrong. Those people just need support and to talk about their problems. Whether its about their weight or whatever. In my case, it wasnt that I thought I was fat. Most girls I know its because of something that happened to them that they cant get over and they get depressed. But all in all there is no reason why people on here should be so rude to trash others out and make them feel inferior. I read this article because I wanted to know what other people thought. But am now shocked to actually know that you guys are more willing to trash others out than to help. Thats all I have to say.

    • Posted By: kittycatkz @ 02/21/2009 9:53:09 AM

      EXACTLY!!! Ive had a similar experience. Thank goodness someone hit the nail on the head

  • Posted By: bryony1 @ 02/20/2009 1:22:52 AM

    ciniquini, do everyone a favor: don't go into psychology as a profession.

  • Posted By: bryony1 @ 02/20/2009 1:18:31 AM

    hungrymedicgurl , I don't have kids, but that didn't keep me from nearly starving on my disability income. It wasn't until I got Section 8, after waiting for it for six years, and was enrolled into a one-meal-daily food program that I was able, at 5'6" to get back from 97 pounds to 113. Your food bank-donation suggestion for those who just don't want to eat is excellent.

  • Posted By: bryony1 @ 02/20/2009 1:14:14 AM

    There are PRO-anorexia groups? Do these people have slow-suicide wishes and want to convince others to do the same?

  • Posted By: hungrymedicgurl @ 01/23/2009 2:24:23 PM

    I don't have anorexia...I am a 39 yo single mother who just cannot affored to eat. I feed my children first, then if there is enough, I eat. I work a full time job as a paramedic and still cannot affored to eat.
    I am 5'6" and weigh 125 pounds, hardly anorexic, but damn I just wanna be able to eat a full meal once and a damn while and not feel guilty I'm taking food from my twin boys. I WISH I had the option to feel I could eat OR NOT. Shame on you poepole that can affored to eat and choose not to. I say give the money youre using to starve yourself of meals and give it to helping food banks for folks that CANT eat.

    • Posted By: greeninpeaces @ 02/05/2009 9:07:17 PM

      You disgust me. I know the disease doesnt make sense to people who do not suffer from it but, trust me, if anorexia were in any way shape or form a voluntary activity there would be no anorexia. It robs you of your entire life, you fall so deeply into the blackhole of starvation it feels as if you will never, ever se light again. How DARE you pass judgement, just as many people have no idea what true financial hardship feels like but choose to blame the socioeconomically disadvantaged for their supposed "failings" you have no idea what anorexia feels like yet you choose to blame very, very, very sick people for their failure to thrive. I hope you are happy with yourself.

  • Posted By: AmusicDevil @ 02/04/2009 1:59:49 PM

    I was anorexic for 4 years ....and in reading some of the comments people have written, it hurts to know what people think of the people that are. In my case being anorexic was not a choice. It was something that just happened whether I liked it or not. I was depressed and I didnt even realize i was doing it until I couldnt get out of it. Just because I was doesnt mean im a different person though. It doesnt mean that im messed up in the head like most of you put off on here. You guys think you are helping those that are or were and its like your dead wrong. Those people just need support and to talk about their problems. Whether its about their weight or whatever. In my case, it wasnt that I thought I was fat. Most girls I know its because of something that happened to them that they cant get over and they get depressed. But all in all there is no reason why people on here should be so rude to trash others out and make them feel inferior. I read this article because I wanted to know what other people thought. But am now shocked to actually know that you guys are more willing to trash others out than to help. Thats all I have to say.

  • Posted By: robbiewilliams @ 01/07/2009 3:32:26 PM

    after suffering from this illness for years i can not believe this illness is still here...........i nearly died and i would never have had my beautiful daughter.....these girls are ill....these sites should not be allowed or talked about......its sick and it makes me so so so mad

  • Posted By: christopherkidwell1 @ 01/05/2009 10:41:52 PM

    Hey, people keep on telling others that "They should lose weight!" and they wonder why anorexia is becoming an epidemic? Stupidity, thy name is human.
    I've seen some people who were accused of being anorexic and 'not eating enough' (my cousin Nicole to name one!) but they were not anorexic at all. As to these sites being a source for anorexia? Nope, that comes from parents and others putting too much pressure to be 'thin' on their children. Personally, I did not EVER mention weight with my daughters, I didn't allow them to watch Oprah shows about weight, etc. and I told people who told them that they were 'chunky' (the doctors said they were the right weight for their height all through their lives) to shut the hell up and SOCKED one man who had told my daughters that numerous times, to the approval of his wife and daughters.

  • Posted By: iCarly @ 01/04/2009 1:08:40 AM

    On every pro ed site it states that they will not help anybody get an eating disorder, and nobody is aloud speak of any drug use or anything. Like seriously don't judge people that have ED's either, it's so much more then "oh, i think I look fat'' there are sososo many little details that go into an ED, and it's like when everything else in your life is spinning out of control, that is the ONLY thing you can control

  • Posted By: FATJOEY @ 11/24/2008 6:54:58 AM

    NUDITY is the answer! OUTLAW CLOTHING! if you had to walk around butt naked you would stay in top shape!

    • Posted By: bigskygrrl @ 12/30/2008 4:13:29 PM

      dude, take your ass hat comments to thesuperficial.com.
      this is newsweek.

  • Posted By: berber86 @ 12/23/2008 12:23:48 PM

    I have a pro-ed myspace and believe this is ridiculous

  • Posted By: standstrong @ 12/14/2008 3:35:09 AM

    Jennie651--Anorexia ISN'T a silly childish power struggle game...it's a very complex, serious, & deadly illness. It's not about growing up & getting a life. Do your homework about eating disorders & be educated. Choosing to be ignorant, critical, & judgemental doesn't help anyone (including yourself). I sincerely hope you learn empathy & compassion for people who suffer from eating disorders, let alone the deep-seed shame, guilt, & stigma that are reinforced by uneducated, ignorant people.

  • Posted By: standstrong @ 12/14/2008 3:35:06 AM

    Jennie651--Anorexia ISN'T a silly childish power struggle game...it's a very complex, serious, & deadly illness. It's not about growing up & getting a life. Do your homework about eating disorders & be educated. Choosing to be ignorant, critical, & judgemental doesn't help anyone (including yourself). I sincerely hope you learn empathy & compassion for people who suffer from eating disorders, let alone the deep-seed shame, guilt, & stigma that are reinforced by uneducated, ignorant people.

  • Posted By: skinnyminny2 @ 12/03/2008 4:45:11 PM

    Wow, earlz. Didn't realize enaciated was attractive.
    And Paris Hilton is not anroexic, candle_stick. She's thin but she eats. You people have no idea what anorexic looks like. Do you really want to date someone who looks like an Auschwitz survivor? Or someone who freaks out at the sight of food? Someone who can't get through the day without planning and executing workouts or vomits up their meals?
    Anorexics aren't easy company. We're paranoid you've put calories in our water and our toothpaste. We require someone with more than aesthetics in mind, especially when we're really sick.
    Jerks.

  • Posted By: mamavision @ 11/27/2008 12:29:41 AM

    This is nothing new, pro ana has been "out of the shadows" for years - for example Live Journal Pro Anorexia site boasts 16,000 members and the moderator can not process the applications face enough. You Tube hosts thousands of Pro Ana videos, new ones launch daily.

    I have followed the Pro Ana community for 2 1/2 years through my blog mamavision dot com, and the reality is as soon as you shut one down, another pops up. It takes these young people minutes to launch a new one.

    I am 100% free speech, and I believe these site should remain active in order to generate parental awareness. The tips girls gain on these sites would be gained through peers if the sites were not active. The internet has simply provided a platform for discussion, and I believe parents need to open their eyes to what is going on rather than try to shut down the sites to pretend this behavior does not exist.

    • Posted By: dragonwolf @ 12/03/2008 2:48:17 PM

      Other LiveJournal members have actually tried to get that community shut down on the grounds that it encourages anorexia. The members of the community say otherwise.

  • Posted By: candle_stick @ 12/03/2008 2:09:44 PM

    LOL.. earlz.. that was so terrible. But so TRUE. sorry doc, we like to keep it straight around here. But yeah at least now Paris Hilton has a reason to get a facebook!

  • Posted By: BettyPreston @ 12/03/2008 1:52:11 PM

    As a therapist who treats people with eating disorders, I am appalled at earlz_81's comment. You clearly are completely ignorant of the extreme suffering that these women go through. Shame on you.

  • Posted By: Headface @ 11/26/2008 12:32:22 PM

    You are all focused on the wrong problem...THIS is the single greatest psychological threat of our time:

    http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1861028,00.html

  • Posted By: FATJOEY @ 11/26/2008 6:28:12 AM

    LADIES? We want voluptuous!!!! Please!!! We beg you to bring it back?

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