Remembering the Perfect Boy

That is the saddest story. I'm so sorry, for you and Aaron. I wish the best and hope you learn to love again with all your heart. As I'm sure Nick would have wanted.

Young lady, I know just how you are feeling. I lost the love of my life (husband) to heart surgery approximately 3 1/2 years ago. My life has been upside down ever since. I guess you are more luckier than I am because you are still young and start a new life with someone else. I wish you and Aaron luck in your relationship.

Tigris49 Young lady I know just how you feel. I lost the love of my life (husband) almost 4 years ago to heart surgery. My whole life has been upside down ever since. We were forever honeymooner's and life was so simple. I met a guy that I am dating now and he just can't seem to understand that the relationship my husband and I had was very good, I also thinks he's jealous of what we had. You have the rest of your life to live and live it to the fullest with Aaron.

oh my gosh....i read that and it made me cry....i also read the comments from the other ladies. i am in love with this wonderful booy who dotes on my evry word and action....u'v made me realise that if he had to die or leave, i would be heart broken, and sometimes, i dont treausre him enough and u've really driven it home to me how my heat would break if he were gone. im still crying right now lol, i know its silly but i understand that love u mean and i hope u get thorugh it. i really do...the other comments have touched e as well, im young [17], but we've been together for two years [itll be two this wednsday] and he's never done anything but love the best way he can. it would kill me if he were gone. he always tells me " Gabby, you have to die before me" because he would miss me so much, it would kill him....i love this boy so so so much, and ur story has made me so much more aware and thankful for that precious love we have.... thank you so much Sara...and to all others who commented....thank you....thank you so much.....God bless you all.

Honey I know how you feel!! The love of my life was hit by a train (walking, not in a car) and was killed...I compare every man I meet to him. I dated him when I was young. A single mother with a tiny little boy and he accepted every part of me!! We hardly ever fought either. I miss him SO MUCH and think of him ALL THE TIME....I can totally understand where you are coming from!! But at the same time, you will make it. My tragedy happened seven years ago and even though I think about him all the time and still miss his face, scent, touch and all...I am still standing, be strong, just hold onto him in your heart!

oh my gosh....i read that and it made me cry....i also read the comments from the other ladies. i am in love with this wonderful booy who dotes on my evry word and action....u'v made me realise that if he had to die or leave, i would be heart broken, and sometimes, i dont treausre him enough and u've really driven it home to me how my heat would break if he were gone. im still crying right now lol, i know its silly but i understand that love u mean and i hope u get thorugh it. i really do...the other comments have touched e as well, im young [17], but we've been together for two years [itll be two this wednsday] and he's never done anything but love the best way he can. it would kill me if he were gone. he always tells me " Gabby, you have to die before me" because he would miss me so much, it would kill him....i love this boy so so so much, and ur story has made me so much more aware and thankful for that precious love we have.... thank you so much Sara...and to all others who commented....thank you....thank you so much.....God bless you all.

Honey I know how you feel!! The love of my life was hit by a train (walking, not in a car) and was killed...I compare every man I meet to him. I dated him when I was young. A single mother with a tiny little boy and he accepted every part of me!! We hardly ever fought either. I miss him SO MUCH and think of him ALL THE TIME....I can totally understand where you are coming from!! But at the same time, you will make it. My tragedy happened seven years ago and even though I think about him all the time and still miss his face, scent, touch and all...I am still standing, be strong, just hold onto him in your heart!

Honey I know how you feel!! The love of my life was hit by a train (walking, not in a car) and was killed...I compare every man I meet to him. I dated him when I was young. A single mother with a tiny little boy and he accepted every part of me!! We hardly ever fought either. I miss him SO MUCH and think of him ALL THE TIME....I can totally understand where you are coming from!! But at the same time, you will make it. My tragedy happened seven years ago and even though I think about him all the time and still miss his face, scent, touch and all...I am still standing, be strong, just hold onto him in your heart!

You're still so young, give yourself time to grieve. A year is not a very long time, considering the circumstances.

i know exactly what you all feel as i too lost my first love but in a different way. we were both 15yrs. old in high school and nothing in the world meant more to each other than ourselves. we had such a beautiful relationship and made lifetime memories in so many ways. He was from Kansas and i'm from Florida, we met each other in Va. Beach when were both in the 10th grade in high school.we had "secret "words that meant we had to hug right there and then even if we were upset with each other, he taught me that if i made a wish every night at 11:11pm it would come true and taught me that honeysuckles really do have honey in the middle of the stem... Long story short we used to kiss every morning in the laundry room that was on the first flr. of the apt. complex i lived in while waiting for the school bus and sure enough one day we missed the bus and decided to skip school altogether. this event happened more than once until one day my mother found a love note that i had written to him expressing how wonderful it was to do so many things with him. Well, my mother (being a concerned mom) one day after school watched us get off the school bus and asked my bfriend to come inside. we sat on the couch to hear what she had to say and my oldest brother walked out of my bedroom reading my love letter out loud and quickly began physically beating my honey as my mother beat on me at the same time. my brother eventually pushed him out of the house and yelled at him to never come back. the next day i saw him walking out to his sister's car with the luggage in one hand , waiving goodbye to me as i watched from my window in tears. His family sent him back to Kansas and i didn't hear from him again till 5yrs.later when i managed to find his ph.#.we talked but he said he'd moved on with his life and wasn't able to talk to me again.another 15 yrs. went by and i found him on myspace and we talked on the phone. i told him i still love him and always will and even though i'm married, i have never been in love ever again since he and i . to my surprise he said he feels the same way but he too is married with children and leaving his family would be wrong. i agreed. we emailed each other for 2mths. in a row and once again we've lost touch! he hasn't emailed me in the past 4wks. since before we started talking i had begun a divorce process with my current husband and still working on it, seperated from my husband and now living with my 2 kids only. he's married and has a 15yr. old from his first marriage and 5yr. old twins with his current wife but has expressed that he and his wife are not happily married. to this day i still wish at 11:11pm religiously that we see each other again and this time never let go ,never!....i will love him till the day i die. never gave up my last name when i married b/c in my heart and soul i'll always be his....period!

Who gives a rat's ass !!!!! Posted By: Heywudya ,,,,,,,U r jealous because u dont have that kind of love in ur life ,,,,, &with that kind of attitude i cn see why ...

Posted By: Heywudya Who gives a rat's ass !!!!! .................. U r jealous because u dont have that kind of relationship .. sorry 4 u

Who gives a rat's ass !!!!!

Sara Harari may have endured a tragedy, but she has learned two lessons that every young woman should learn. First, good men who will love you and treat you well do in fact exist, and you shouldn't settle for anything less. Second, no matter how wonderful your relationship is with someone, you must cultivate your own interests, friends, education and skills because you need to be able to stand on your own two feet.

Almost the same thing happened to me. Evan and I were together for 4 years. Senior year of high school to junior year of college. We were bestest friends while boyfriend/girlfriends. We were each other's first loves. He died in 2006. It's been almost 3 years since his death and I am now married. However, I am still struggling with the fact that he no longer exists in this world. There are days when I still think about our inside jokes, the songs he used to sing to me. I have stashed in an envelope, some birthday cards he had sent me. I miss him everyday. The funny thing is...when he was alive, he promised me that he would never die or get hurt. He will always hold a place in my heart....always.

25 years ago I too was a young girl who lost the love of her life. He was accidentally shot and killed by idiots playing with a gun. With Mike it was love at first site and we too were that sickley sweet couple and he was someone even my father liked. Life does go on however and although I got through the trama it did change me forever but in a good way though. I think without that experience I would have been like so many of my other girlfriends and falling in and out of love at the drop of a hat. Although I knew no one could ever replace Mike his love taught me what real love was and not to settle for less. I have been in love only twice since Mike's death and never like I was with Mike. I am now in a very loving relationship with a man who has come the closest to giving me the love I felt with Mike. Life does go on. I will never forget Mike and would never want to. He will forever hold a place in my heart as my first love and I am so thankful that he was in my life for the short time he was.

I was well into my forties, divorced with two kids when I met the love of my life. She taught me about loving and that giving is receiving. I felt fufilled and set in my live. About two years into our relationship she deveoped cancer. We did everything,but nothing helped. I was in denial and felt she would get better. But she knew. I tried to take care of her as best I could while working two jobs. I had plenty of help from friends and family,but at night we were alone. I felt so inadequate. Because of her type of cancer,communication was hard. On her last day in the hospital we were considering a drastic procedure that would really only delay the inevitable. She wanted to know if "I" would be alright. That crushed me and I hd to admit to her that I would not. The last words she said to me were " I love you" and I replied casually because I believed that I would see her again after the procedure. She never waked again and I felt that I had failed her because I didn't say the right thing. I hang on tho all this guilt. So , I am with someone else now who is wonderful and knows of my past. But everyday I strive to make sure not to slip and let my new partner know that I cannot forget my missing piece,

Thanks for the story. This can happen to men, too, as I am sure you can imagine. I was well into my forties when I met the love of my life. She was the one who taught me about love and saved me. She was everything and I felt set in my life and fufilled. She showed me that giving is receiving. We were only together a couple of years when she developed cancer. It was dfficult for me because she was the strong one in the relationship. I tried to take care of her and work two jobs at the same time. I had plenty of help from her family and friends ,but come night time we were alone. I felt so inadequate. She was groggy all the time from pain meds and because of her type of cancer communication was hard. I was in denial and told myself she would recover. She knew her fate. In the hospitol on her last day we were considering a drastic proceduer that would only delay the inevitable. She wanted to know if 'I' would be alright. That crushed me. I had to say truthfully that I would not be alright. The last thing she said was that she loved me. I said I loved her too,but it was not goodbye to me, I would see her after the procedure. But she knew different. So my point is that I ahng on to all this giult. I am with someone else now who is wonderful,but not the same, if you know what I mean. Everyday I strive to not slip and let my new partner know that I just can't forget the love I lost. That I have a piece missing.

I too lost my first love. We had broken up over a year prior to his death, but had kept in touch and remained friends. I was devestated when I got that call. Going to his funeral was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. I had just begun a new relationship when we lost him. I love my boyfriend very much. We have been talking about marriage. Even so, I find myself thinking of my first love, wondering if my life would be different if he were still here. I think that the hole that losing him forever left in my heart is one that will never fully heal. Everyone says that it gets easier with time. That is not true. The more time that passes, the more I miss him. I'm still trying to learn to live with the pain. The one thing that I try to remember every time I think of him is that he loved me and would want me to be happy. He hated it when I cried. So I do my best to live a happy life because I think that is the best way to honor his memory.