They’re Baaack

Ok firstly, being someone who HAS had to move back in with my folks, I'm pretty insulted by some of the comments. I'm not keen on the way this article portrays adults who actually have to make the move (not that we fully enjoy it either). With the economy in the state it's been, and the fact that the dollar is at it's lowest value EVER, the same rules do not apply now as they did then. I have had multiple people of every generation tell me this. Additionally, tuition costs are unbelievable. And don't think I have anybody paying my way, because I certainly do not. I've worked all through middle, high school and college, and still find it difficult to pay rent and living expenses that are (and many would agree), damn near impssible to afford.

On a positive note, the moments that I was back home, my parents both enjoyed. They really expressed nothing but elation when I moved back in, and were pretty afflicted when I finally found a place I could afford. It's not as though when you move back in to your parent's home, or at least this was the case for me, you fall into the same routine as when you were 14. In fact at 22 I had a pretty hard time adjusting, as I came to realize that my cleaning habits, and schedule were alot more consistent than that of my parents.

It's not as though I EVER expected either of my parents to clean up after, or assist in a childish gluttony; just accomidate a warm roof over my head. And if the fact remained that they didn't want to, then I would have understood. It seems that if Andrea didn't want her seemingly disrespectful and disruptive kids to move back in, then she should have just said so.

Moving back home should not be an option. When your 18 you are an adult. I moved out when i was 18 and yes times got hard. I have lost jobs in the past. I did not move back in with my mother. This article says that these two kids moved back in to cut back on paying rent. Well maybe they should move in together and find a cheaper apartment. Use one car.You can't depend on mommy and daddy always. It's like my mother told me growing up. Take care of your needs before your wants.

Once a Parent, ALWAYS a Parent !!!! That go's for Grandkids Too !!!

Once a Parent, ALWAYs a Parent !!!!!! That go's for the Grandkids too !!!!!

Mis-spoke, I agree with rosa. Not ghost

I am sure glad I am not one of your kids ghost and rosa. What a shame when someone can't count on their families in their time of need. And your responsibility is over at 18? Why bother having a child if you write them off after 18 years. What a shame. Maybe your children have inherited your values and when you are older and unable to take care of yourself, you end up on the street because you are not your childrens' responsiblity. My parents will never have to worry about that. They have taught me that you can count on your family, and they can count on me. How selfish you sound. SELFISH. and heartless. I am so thankful that I have the family I do...and not the one that you portray.

that article is a bunch of bull. As a mother of a stillborn, I wish that my duaghter would be able to move back in with me and my fiance when she was older. Dont take your children for granted.... One day they might be gone.

Every situation is different so y'all have to stop generalizing and blaming. My 25 & 27 year old sons have moved back in and we are glad to help them but they sometimes don't do enough to help themselves and I have a problem with that. They need to put forth more effort and if they still need help I am there. At this age (25-27) you are certainly an adult and not a child and must strive to make an independent lifestyle that still includes the rest of the family.

Reading the comments about the article I can see how a relationship can be effected having adiult children living at home after the college years. What I find intresting is that some comments are all for helping their child or children because that is what family do when there is hard times. My personal opinion on having your children back home to me is not me as a parent failing to teach my children to be independent to be self suffcient. I believe that what beauty that as a child one can count on their family to make it through hard times. I strongly belive that if they are taking advantage to not contribute to the household then the problem is the parents. I am succefull and due to the fact that my husband family are strong believers in helping we were able to save enough to by our home and make it. My husband and I found ourselfs moving several times back home with his parents to make our American Dreams real. We married young and the first years were tough, but thank God for his family unity that lend us there help. I am know a mother of a 20 year old who has moved back with her husband and yes it is hard to re adjust but what I do notice that they are going to get their first home because we were able to help them. I believe that families should remain close and who said just because they are over age one stops being a parent? until we die then I believe our obligation will stiop.

lets just say what every person thinks when your out and you meet someone and you tell them that you live at home with your parents or grandparents (what a loser) go out and give them a rest or stop waiting for them to die so that you can pretend that the house is your now sad to say thats how it is a bunch of lazy no life no education cant make enough to live on your own god forbid you have kids and a spouse living with them also again (LOSER)

lets just say what every person thinks when your out and you meet someone and you tell them that you live at home with your parents or grandparents (what a loser) go out and give them a rest or stop waiting for them to die so that you can pretend that the house is your now sad to say thats how it is a bunch of lazy no life no education cant make enough to live on your own god forbid you have kids and a spouse living with them also again (LOSER)

I hate to say it, but Americans (and I am an Illinois American!) keep their children young too long. In general kids today are not made to take responsibility for anything. They EXPECT everything from their parents giving very little back - they are taught at school that it's their right. In England kids graduate at 16, are legally allowed to leave home at that age, go to college and hold down jobs to keep themselves AND if they're living at home pay an average of $100 a week to do so. This teaches them to grow up, be responsible and how to become well adjusted adults. In Greece, grandparents, parents and children of sons all live together - the grandparents build above their own homes to accommodate everyone - it's called "Family living" - sharing, caring, loving and learning to be tolerant. No one is tolerant in my own country. Everyone is out for themselves. Sure, you spend alot and give alot when you have children but once they've left and then want to come home again PARENTS HAVE TO SET DOWN THE HOUSE RULES. If they haven't already done that in their childs earlier life then it probably isn't possible and the kids will run all over you just like they always have. The hardest thing to do as a parent is shove the kids off your lap and tell them to stand on their own two feet - but as a parent that's what you have to do, or else you'll have grown up "kids" who will suck you dry.

I am a college student, and it surprises me that expecting your adult children to support themselves is "judgmental". Once your children have graduated from university, or are around 23, it is time for them to move out. If your kid wants to save on rent: get roommates!

This is a sad little article. They are shocked when a 19 year old cannot support himself?

And a lot of the comments reflect a harsh self righteousness. Republicans, I suppose.

Ok... Many of you are being waaay too judgemental. Maybe I am speaking from my own personal situation, but I suppose so are you all, sadly. My mother and father live with *shock!* my grandparents, and it works quite well. This is mainly because my grandfather is sick, and they wanted to take some of the burden from my grandmother, but my grandmother asked them to stay with her. My parents both work, and contribute to the household, monetarily and physically, but the house is my grandparents' so there is no rent. Of course people clash, but they wouldn't have it any other way. And my brother and sister both live there as well.

When I graduated from college, I wanted to forge out on my own, but my parents and grandparents BEGGED me to come live with them. YES! It's true! 3 generations all in one house. It's difficult at times, but they treat me like an adult, and I act like one. I have a job, contribute with food and cleaning, and babysitting, and we're all ok with it. I will be leaving the house in the inside of a year, but that is because my grandfather's health is no longer an issue.

Also, although I am working now, it took longer than I would have liked in this economy to find a job, and had it not been for my family, who knows what would have happened? Did I expect to come home? No. But I was welcomed (and almost forced) in with open arms. Some of you need to get off of your high horses.

Also, if your kids are 19 and 23 and you can't leave your home for a few days because they can't get by without you, then maybe something else is wrong. I am 22 years old, and if my parents wanted time away, they would leave me at home with my 16 yr old sister and 5 year old brother at the drop of a dime, because I have proved that I am responsible enough to deal with it, even if my grandparents weren't around.

Maybe if parents raised their children to be responsible, these concerns would not exist. Am I irresponsible just for living at home, although I contribute and am taking nothing away? You might think so, but then you probably kick puppies and paint your walls black for fun.

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Hey, our kids will always be our kids. I'm 52 and I have a 21 and 18 year old. If they want to move back home... cool... As long as I can introduce them to the mower and vacuum cleaner, I'm happy.

Hey, these are tough economic times. When I'm 180 years old, and my son and daughter are 150, then they will still be my kids and I will still feel obligated to raise and provide for them. Let them move home. I'm all for it. O by the way, cheap slave labor is hard to find.