Don’t Ask Too Fast

Dusty:
Being gay is rather complicated....all sexuality is a choice in the short term. It is never in the long term, you have to follow your nature in the long term. I could 'choose' to sleep with a woman tonight, but not for the rest of my life. Not taking a breath right now is a choice....not taking one again is not a choice. People make this mistake all the time, they think if you can make a choice this moment, you can forever and it just doesn't work that way. A person over the course of their life has to be true to themselves, they can't keep up the false front forever......that's why so many men leave their wifes after a rew years, they can't keep up the charade forever.
When you say it's a choice you are right in the short term, but never in the long term.

A few years ago, they did find the same abnormalities in the brains of 100% of all males tested and the exact opposite of the abnormalities in about 80% of the females tested who purported to be homosexuals. Since that time, It's been proven not to be a choice. At first, the gay/lesbian communites were happy and enthused about this proof. Then, when it was pointed out to them that these tests really defined them as mentally retarded, they backed away from their glee and researchers stopped looking for a way to remedy the situation.

live by God - not by man....for man have destroyed themselves......

Disappointed:
They have isolated candidate genes. Just because they haven't confirmed it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Besides, let's pretend for the sake of argument it is a choice. So what? If I want to live my life with a man I harm no one. However, if you can say 'my wife' in the military and that's OK, but if I say 'my partner' and am discharged, that is unequal, unfair, and should be illegal. If you care about the fabric of society so much, do something about Divorce. Pass some laws against the family destruction that causes...I suspect you are too busy being a hypocrite to do that though.

Yes! If homosexuals are good enough for the state department then why not the militiary? Let's just say that there is a higher intelligence living on a nearby planet and look ing down on us from above and thinking.."what a bunch of backward people are these?" We are so tied up in greed and self-procliamed righteiousness we don't see how narrow-minded and ignorant a society we are. Let us know and let us realize that we are "all" children of a higher power" We are all "created equal!" . Really, will we ever grow up?

live by God - not by man....for man have destroyed themselves......

GHoldynchyld:

Sorry I missed your post earlier. Thank you for your comment. I understand your point of view on the higher command deciding that you are unfit because you are gay and targeting you. However, I must ask this: Would they have any reason other than the fact that you are gay? How do they find out under the current regulation? Maybe a solution to this would be to change the current regulation to provide more legal protection for those 'accused' of homosexual practices, stating that they must also be found guilty of other misconduct before being discharged. This would prevent the discharge of a quality Soldier for simply being gay, but would also continue to discourage those who the current regulation does from exhibiting 'flamboyant' behavior which would be detrimental to unit cohesion and military bearing. I feel that this would keep leaders from imposing their personal values on the service in general, dispite job performance. What are your thoughts there?

Godoloower:
Are atheists Americans? Does someone who doesn't believe in God have the right to live his life differently than you? I understand your argument about their eternal soul, or what will happen in the afterlife. Those are obviously heartfelt beliefs. Can someone else have their own heartfelt beliefs different from you? Should your belief be the law of the land for the many Muslims, atheists, agnostics, et al that live in the United States?

Kenang/Gay is a choice you just can't admit it. I know several people, one of whom was my best friends father, who was happily married for over 35 years but got in with the wrong crowd (your crowd) and they convinced him that sleeping with another man was "okay" and "fun". He divorced his wife and "discovered" he was gay. Needless to say it crushed their family and my friend hasn't spoken to his father since. The Gay lifestyle isn't about the color of someone's eyes or their skin, it is a behavior, a choice, a fad, a way of life and a lifestyle that in my opinion is completely destructive and counterintuitive to science and religion. There is no proof that a gene made you gay but there is monumental proof when it comes to the genes that control your eye color or the color of your skin. Stop grasping at straws and get over the fact that society doesn't have to and shouldn't accept a lifestyle it doesn't agree with.

disappointed- To your suggestion about seeking professional help, I say let he who is without sin cast the first stone...in other words, maybe you should take a moment to evaluate yourself instead of passing such sweeping judgements on your fellow men and women. (I think Jesus may have mentioned something to that effect once or twice) If evolution and science don't have ANY explanations in regards to homosexuality, then I wonder why two male penguins will partner up and be exclusive with each other....i guess we'll never know. Seek help would ya?

Disappointed/
You hit it right on the head. Thank you!!!

Disappointed: Sexualtiy/Gay is a choice? That means that becoming straight is a choice. When did you decide to become straight? Was is October 10th, 1976 at 10:00pm? How about 10:15? You don't know the first thing about what you're talking about. Blue eyes, black skin, gay, brown hair, muscular dystrophy......all aren't choices.

It's not OK to marginalize people, and pass laws against them because they are different than you. We've done that with blacks and with women. The establishment screams at the top of their lungs that all civilization will come crumbling down if it is changed. Eventually, the old hateful ways are overturned, and we are all better off as a result.

My shower/ accomodations comment was a fundamental logistics comment related to trying to accomodate the variiety of preferences and sensitivities- You know a "nuts and bolts" comment, not a nuts and butts comment Stay focused on the origional issue. The entire issue of gay bedroom practices and preferences spilling over into my life as some sort of special problem of mine perplexes me. I don't care what you do with eachother, gay or not - keep it to yourself. The next thing you know the folks with special relationships with animals, the dead, etc will want their preferences on top. Sometimes salty issues need direct comment. I intend no offence here but if you are going to run with the big dogs, you gota stop peeing like a puppy.