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Rev. Chris Buice
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After a senseless act of violence in our church, we did not give in to anger. We sought a better way.

 

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"Shall we meet hate with hate?" that has been a recurring question throughout history and, recently, a personal one for me. On a Sunday morning last July, a man walked into the sanctuary of my church, took a shotgun out of a guitar case and opened fire on a room of unarmed men, women and children. Two precious people, Greg McKendry and Linda Kraeger, lost their lives. Six others were injured. Our entire community was traumatized.

According to a manifesto in his handwriting, the alleged assailant reportedly wrote of his hatred for liberals, whom he believed were soft on terror. He was in for a surprise. Members of our congregation rushed forward and tackled the shooter. Others acted instantly to guide children to safety, call police and emergency assistance, care for the wounded and counsel those in grief and shock.

This misguided man may have picked our congregation because we call ourselves a liberal church. In our church, the word "liberal" is meant to describe whom we include, not whom we exclude. The children in our congregation say these words in chapel services: "Ours is the church of the loving heart, open mind and helping hands." Our understanding of liberalism speaks to a generosity of spirit that transcends partisan politics. Sadly, though, the word "liberal" has become demonized. The man accused of the shootings owned books by popular media personalities who vilify liberals as evil, unpatriotic, godless and treasonous. I think our country needs to reclaim the word from those who defame it. Far from being evil, we liberals aspire to overcome evil with good. If you walk into a liberal church and open fire on its members, we will still defend your right to due process, access to an attorney and a fair trial.

The trial for the man accused of attacking our church is set for March 16. A reporter asked me what results I would like to see from our day in court. "Justice," I said. The follow-up question was predictable: "What does justice look like?" "A community," I replied, "where our children are safe." After the incident, everyone in our town felt as if the children of our church were their children. For weeks, people would stop me to ask, "How are the children doing?" Fortunately, none of them was injured in body. We continue to work on healing the spirit, and healing has its own timetable. A miracle story in the Bible is that of Jesus walking on the water. A miracle in my time has been witnessing the young and the old, the wounded and the whole, walking into our sanctuary without bitterness or resentment.

Of course, the question keeps coming back: "Shall we return hatred for hatred?" Anyone who has endured a brutal act of violence will know the temptation. Our congregation's experience, however, offers a cautionary tale. The man who brought violence to our church hated liberals. But in his desire to defeat terrorism he became a terrorist himself.

I have tried to use the power of the pulpit to advocate for a better way. I have told my congregation, "The man who attacked our church is in prison, but we do not have to remain prisoners of our own anger. Without denying the reality of our feelings in the present, we can be open to the possibility that one day we will be able to lay down our burden and say, in the words of the old African-American spiritual, 'We are free at last'."

Since that terrible day, people have flooded our church with immeasurable amounts of love. Postcards, letters, banners and artwork have come to us from across the nation and from many other countries. Our little town on the banks of the Tennessee River was once the site for the 1982 World's Fair, and it remains surprisingly diverse today. On the night after the violence there was a gathering in the Presbyterian church next door, where we were hugged and held by our neighbors of all faiths and convictions—Protestants, Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, rationalists and more. For years, there has been a sign at the entrance of our church that reads EVERYONE WELCOME, and we do mean everyone. All God's children. The sign is still there.

Members of my congregation have been hurt. But we have also been healed by the feeling that there is a love greater than our theological differences, a compassion that is not limited by the boundaries of any creed. I firmly believe, now more than ever, that love is stronger than death. Love is more powerful than hate.

Buice is minister of the Tennessee Valley Unitarian Universalist church in Knoxville.

© 2009

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  • Posted By: RobinEdgar @ 04/10/2009 3:39:10 PM

    Here are the final two sentences that were cut off -

    Sorry Old Boh but your insinuation here is quite typical of the kind of snide character assassination that U*Us engage in quite regularly. Thank you for showing your true colors whether you are a U*U or not. . .

    Anyone desiring more information about the Unitarian*Universalist injustices, abuses and hypocrisy that I have been protesting against for over a decade now thanks to the obstinate refusal of U*Us to redress my legitimate grievances and clean up their hypocritical act need only Google - "Robin Edgar" and Unitarians - or visit the appropriate blogs.

    http://emersonavenger.blogspot.com

    http://the-emerson-avenger-for-uua-president.blogspot.com

  • Posted By: RobinEdgar @ 04/10/2009 3:27:06 PM

    Part 2 of my response to Old Boh -

    :BTW we don't regard disagreeing with someone, or criticizing Bush-Cheney (for unconstitutional acts, illegal and dishonest war, Katrina, and Economic Crash) -- as intolerant -- we regard that as democracy.

    So do I. That is why it is *democracy* and not "intolerant" when I disagree with Unitarian*Universalist injustices, abuses and hypocrisy such as anti-religious intolerance and bigotry, anti-conservative intolerance and bigotry, clergy misconduct of various kinds including some egregious clergy sexual misconduct, anti-democratic acts that infringe on constitutional rights and freedoms aka civil liberties, illegal (indeed criminal) behavior and dishonesty in this "war of words", Peacebang, and UUA financial shenanigans that apparently include fraudulent manipulation of charitable trusts. . .

    :Criticizing Republicans -- some of us do that (though Republicans are some of our most treasured members) ; hating Republicans - no --

    You are dead wrong Old Boh, possibly even in deep psychological denial. Some U*U criticism of Republicans, as well as some U*U criticism of Christians and/or other God believing people such as myself. . . can be very properly described as capital 'H' Hate, certainly it can be properly described as bigotry. Here is just one example -

    http://istenaldjon.blogspot.com/2008/09/omg-mean-people-do-suck.html

    :Remember Adkisson was about as pure a hater as we'll encounter in this life, so I would be wary of believing his depictions.

    I know some U*Us who could probably give Jim David Adkisson a run for his money in the hating department, even if they won't go quite so far as to express their hatred with shotgun blasts. Just because Jim David Adkisson was clearly a hater himself in no way means that he did not experience hatred from intolerant and abusive U*Us.

    :Finally, if you see no difference between name-calling and shotgun blasts in a church, then we will have to worry about you -- and pray for you.

    I do not appreciate the underlying insinuation of that comment Old Boh, especially since there is nothing in what I have said which justifies pretending that I see no difference between name-calling and shotgun blasts in a church. I have a proven track record of peaceful public protest aka non-violent direct action in my response to U*U "name-calling" aka verbally abusive insulting and defamatory language, and other even worse U*U injustices and abuses. In fact I have been subjected to what one 911 dispatcher characterized as "death threats" by a U*U, even though I did not see his threats of physical violence as "death threats" myself, and I have had a couple of Montreal Unitarian U*Us successfully prosecuted for uttering threats against me, stealing my picket signs, and physically assaulting me in the commission of that theft. Sorry Old Boh but your snide insinuation here is quite typical of the kind of character assassination aka verbal

  • Posted By: RobinEdgar @ 04/10/2009 3:21:51 PM

    Dear Old Boh,

    It's very sad -- your leap from my talking about diverse Unitarian*Universalist injustices and abuses that certainly have harmed me and plenty of other people, to pretending that I am "condemning all UUs as intolerant". I am doing no such thing. Au contraire, I am usually very good at naming the names of the individual U*Us who are the main perpetrators of the injustices and abuses that I am indeed condemning, and naming and shaming those U*Us, especially U*U clergy and UUA administrators, who are most responsible for perpetuating those injustices and abuses with their negligent and effectively complicit, to say nothing of unjustly punitive. . . responses to my own and other people's legitimate complaints about them.

    :"By their fruits ye shall know them," said a wise man long ago -

    I couldn't agree more. I seem to recall Jeopardy host Alex Trebek saying something very similar to that -

    "Don't tell me what U*Us believe in.

    I'll observe how U*Us behave and I will make my own determination."

    Be assured that I am talking about some pretty strange fruits aka rather bad behaviour that U*Us, including U*U clergy and top-level UUA administrators, are directly or indirectly responsible for. Have a small sampling of U*U fruit -

    http://emersonavenger.blogspot.com/2008/10/billie-holiday-sings-strange-fruit-for.html

    http://emersonavenger.blogspot.com/2009/02/are-rev-beth-miller-and-rev-dr-tracey.html

    http://emersonavenger.blogspot.com/2008/09/rev-victoria-weinstein-aka-peacebang.html

    :If you look at the overall outcomes of UU beliefs and actions, your charges of intolerance would not hold up.

    You are badly mistaken if you really believe that. My charges of intolerance on the part of Unitarian*Universalist U*Us will certainly hold up in the court of public opinion to say nothing of a court of law. . . One of the overall outcomes of U*U intolerance is that very few people want to attend U*U "churches" these days. The anti-religious intolerance and bigotry of fundamentalist atheist "Humanist" U*Us that is still found in many U*U "churches" throughout North America, to say nothing of the anti-conservative intolerance of a great many U*Us, is one of the main reasons that Unitarian*Universalism is a "tiny, declining, fringe religion" these days. . . There are reasons for why well under 200,000 Americans have adopted Unitarian*Universalism as their chosen faith and those two forms of intolerance are major contributing factors to that fact. Indeed at least one U*U minister has publicly validated my "theory" by saying -

    "Robin's got his finger on one of our major problems."

    http://iminister.blogspot.com/2009/03/multi-cultural-uu-removing.html

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